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Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
How do you discover your spouse's - and your own - love language? Chapman's short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.
Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like -hoping the feelings of affection will follow later- a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. "Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." --Cindy Crosby. This text refers to the Amazon.com Exclusive Journal & Paperback Book Set.
Book Description
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical TouchDr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.Skillful communication is within your grasp!Click here for the Study Guide for Spouse and Group Discussion
Customer Reviews:
Good, Practical, but not Bible! .......2007-10-19
The Five Love Languages, by Dr. Gary Chapman is a good, practical, and helpful book in the arena of communication in marriage. It is very good at helping people to see the way their spouse is wired, and how make inroads to communicate in a way that the spouse understands affection. The five "love languages" that Chapman asserts are Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Recieving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation. Perhaps the greatest aspect of this book is Chapman's explanation of the "in love" and "out of love" stage that most in the world today seek after. He shows that this isn't true "love" at all, but rather a temporary lust. While I have experientially seen first-hand a great improvement in my own marriage from the application of certian principles in Chapman's theory, I do see major weaknesses as well.
The most disappointing issue I see with The Five Love Languages is that from a Christian standpoint, and as a conservative Christian author, Chapman misses the best think he could share in a published work-- God's Word. Biblical references are almost non-existant in this book. Furthermore, God gives clear commands and guidelines in His Word for the basis of marriage and the roles that the husband and the wife are supposed to play. In addition, while Chapman is good at helping people express affection to one another, this is not truly, "Love" in Biblical terms, because those without the Holy Spirit to produce the Spiritual fruit of "Love" (Galatians 5:22), cannot do this at all. The greatest downfall to Chapman's book is that he never takes the opporunity to share that the greatest problem with marriage is sin, and separation from God-- and that the greatest solution starts not with commuicating better or helping your spouse feel "loved," but by a saving relationship with Jesus Christ as Lord of your life, and Lord of your marriage. In the end Chapman covertly shares his personal faith walk, but missed the perfect opportunity to clearly share the best thing that could transform not only marriage, but a person's life forever.
A fun book to read and apply.......2007-10-19
It was fun to read this book and think about my own love language as well as figuring out my husband's.
Communicating heartfelt committment.......2007-10-18
The goal of the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman is to learn how to communicate heartfelt commitment to your mate. The book achieves its purpose by explaining five possible ways (or love languages) people express and/or receive love. Armed with the knowledge of how to recognize and speak your mates primary love language(s) your mates love tank should hopefully never run low; resulting in a successful and happy marriage.
The "Five Love Languages" makes for a great suppliment tool. The material in the book only deals with one aspect of marriage (expressing commitment),and would be best used with a Biblical study on marriage (or relationships). This is a great tool, but shouldn't be the only tool in ones marriage tool box.
I feel there is a caution worth mentioning in regards to this book. The "Five Love Languages" is not a Bible study, nor does it express the foundational teachings of marriage in the Bible. The book doesn't explain the marriage covenant, God's teaches about marriage, or what the Biblical roles are of the husband and wife.
Insightful Book.......2007-10-17
Gary Chapman's book is very insightful. Not only do you learn your partner's "love language," but you'll understand yourself and others better, too. If you wish to convey appreciation and love to your spouse, family and friends, this book definitely provides effective measures for doing so.
Must Read.......2007-10-17
This book truly opened my eyes to the needs of my husband, and played a large part in saving my marriage.
Book Description
Does your child speak a different language? Sometimes they wager for your attention, and other times they ignore you completely. Sometimes they are filled with gratitude and affection, and other times they seem totally indifferent. Attitude. Behavior. Development. Everything depends on the love relationship between you and your child. When children feel loved, they do their best. But how can you make sure your child feels loved? Since 1992, Dr. Gary Chapman's best-selling book The Five Love Languages has helped more than 300,000 couples develop stronger, more fulfilling relationships by teaching them to speak each others love language. Each child, too, expresses and receives love through one of five different communication styles. And your love language may be totally different from that of your child. While you are doing all you can to show your child love, he may be hearing it as something completely opposite.Discover your child's primary language and learn what you can do to effectively convey unconditional feelings of respect, affection, and commitment that will resonate in your child's emotions and behavior.
Customer Reviews:
The Five Love Languages.......2007-09-21
The Five Love Languages of children is a inspiration book that will ultimately unlock your understand of how to love your children that way they can understand.
This book will undoubtedly empower every reader. I, too, recommend "365 Prophetic Promises & Blessings for Your Children" for all parents who desire the best for their children.
Great book / Great Seller.......2007-09-12
This book, like the original, is awesome. A must-read for any parent. Great seller/price. Fast shipping and condition exactly as described.
Every Child Should Be Born w/ a Copy of This Attached!.......2007-09-11
This Audiobook ranks at the top with my favorites. It makes perfect sense! Gary doesn't just explain his topics, but also gives practical ways to apply them! AND THEY WORK!! This is a must have for anyone with kids in their life!
So good!.......2007-09-10
This is very helpful and informative. Apparently I'm not the only one who thinks so. I lent it to my neighbor and have yet to get it back!
Save your Child.......2007-07-30
Oh my goodness!! Every parent should have this book. I am seeing the principles in this book work with our son. And as I share the principles with other parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. They are seeing their relationships with the children in their life change. I only wish that my parents would have had this book, while I was growing up. It would have answered so many of my behavior issues as a child. Thank God for this book.
Book Description
Gary Chapman first penned the best-selling The Five Love Languages more than ten years ago. The core message has hit home with over 3 million people as it focuses on humanity's deepest emotional need: the need to 'feel' loved. This need is felt by married and singles alike. Dr. Chapman now tackles the unique circumstances that singles face, and integrates how the same five love languages apply in their relationships. For example, in a business environment, when and how is physical touch appropriate? Take the love language test included.
Customer Reviews:
Five Love Languags for Singles.......2007-10-19
This is a really great book! It is amazing how much insight it gave me into my relationships not only with the opposite sex but also with my two son's, my siblings and my parents. I would highly recommend this book as well as "The Five Love Languages for Couples" for ANYONE who would like to improve any reltionships in their life. Understanding exactl what it is that makes us feel loved and also identifying what makes others feel loved is a wonderful and fulfilling experience and has helped to enhance all my relationships, even those I did not believe needed improving to begin with.
For everybody.......2007-08-30
I think there are very few books out there that literally anyone could benefit from. Singles, couples, kids, anybody. I recommend this book a lot, if nothing else just for the sheer value of people becoming more aware of their relationships.
I know my parents marriage was in part saved by this book and some of the deeper understanding it brought them.
If it were up to me, there would be a copy on every book shelf.
Simple and sophiscated at same time.......2007-08-21
Over the years I have counseled many people purchased many, many excellent relationship books, despite the slight Religious References this book is among the top ten, no the top 3 under essential reading. Here advice seems simple untill you start practicing, it takes a bit of work, but the results are excellent! I intend to buy more copies of this and her book for couples on The Five love Languages, to give away. Her advice is excellent for anyone who wants to get along better with someone in their life, family, friends, business associates well as Significent Others.
Another relationship book skimming the surface.......2007-08-01
I liked this book a lot, but it's yet another one that gives the impression that you can fix relationships by simply applying rules that you learn. It doesn't really get into the driving forces of what gets people into the relationship situations that they find themselves in before they start reading it - and these are always subconscious drivers that need to be understood and learned patterns and responses changed. Otherwise, all you do is try to apply things that are foreign to you, and in the long run that cannot work and isn't realistic. Try Fit for Love: Find Your Self and Your Perfect Mate, and then read this. I found that the two in tandem work well, but you need both.
A must read for those in any kind of life situation.......2007-07-10
It really gives you a deeper understanding to things I would've never even thought about as far as relationships and communicating with others.
The concepts are relateable to real life experiences, in almost any situation whether family work friends or significant others are involved.
I'm only 24, but I am glad I read this book now as it has given me a lot of valuable insight into how to express love "languages" to others. A must-read for all you out there that want to communicate and understand your loved ones better.
Book Description
The Five Love Languages of Teenagers contains very practical guidance on how to express the teen's primary love language, how to teach them appropriate responsibility, and how to properly handle both parental and teen anger. It is a tangible resource for stemming the tide of violence, immorality, and despair engulfing many teens today.
Customer Reviews:
AWESOME.......2007-10-18
WOW! Puts a twist on parenting! I love his insights to raising a teen.
Adapting Your Love .......2007-05-09
Your relationship with your children changes as they grow, and this CD will help you figure out how to adapt your love to your growing child.
This book is very worthwhile reading.......2007-03-17
As your kids grow, how they want to receive love and affection changes and if you don't change along with them you risk the chance of damaging your relationship with them. This book will help you develop a more meaningful, adult relationship that will bring more joy to both of you. Buy it, read it and pass it around.
EXCELLENT--MUST READ BOOK FOR PARENTS OF TEENS!.......2007-01-10
My husband and I read/listened to this book together and we highly recommend it to all parents of teenagers. Practical advice that's easy to follow. No magic pill for the difficulties of adolescence, but very encouraging!
Review of the Five Love Languages of Teenagers.......2007-01-09
I felt really stupid after I bought this book because it isn't for teens; it is for adults who have teenagers and how to love them. My mother read some and enjoyed, but since I am not a parent I didn't read all of it.
Customer Reviews:
Relationship improvement.......2007-06-03
I really enjoyed the clear and simple ways outlined to improve your marriage and loving relationships. My husband loved the CD format, so that he could listen in his car while driving to work. The advice works!
Simply Informative.......2007-05-14
I enjoyed this book on many levels. It presented such an easy concept, yet very hard to identify if untrained. I have learned how to identify what actions to help those around me feel loved by me. It helps to learn the love languages so that you aren't putting out alot unrealized effort to show love that isn't recognized as so. I have noticed a difference in the response of my children, and my wife. I have also been able to identify my own love language and in turn have been able to express my desire to my wife. This book is a good, informative, and thought provoking read.
Amazon.com
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
How do you discover your spouse's - and your own - love language? Chapman's short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com bonus). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.
Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like -hoping the feelings of affection will follow later- a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. "Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." --Cindy Crosby
Book Description
For years The Five Love Languages has been enriching, strengthening, and saving marriages. A person gives and receives love in five basic ways. If you aren't speaking your partner's love language, he or she likely isn't feeling loved. Never fear! You CAN learn a new language! In addition, now the Five Love Languages Journal will assist you in journaling your heartfelt feelings and sticking to those best intentions. The leather-look cover is stately enough to take with you anywhere, anytime. Each section of the journal corresponds to a chapter in the best-selling book by Gary Chapman, followed by an inspiring quote, thought-provoking questions, and plenty of space to record your thoughts.
Customer Reviews:
What a new approach to love!.......2007-02-24
I recommend this book to anyone who is married! It changed the way I love my husband, and the way he loves me. Our marriage was on the brink of DIVORCE until we both decided to take this approach. We are a better couple because of this book. A must read!
Relationship changing!.......2006-12-04
My wife tried to get me to read this book soon after we got married. Being a guy, I didn't want to read some girly book about love though! O what a mistake! Nine years later, I had a change of heart and discovered that I had missed out on so much in the last nine years because I didn't understand the language my wife was speaking. If you want to be able to show your spouse that you love them and/or you are confused about why they don't seem to show you love, then read this book. It will open up a whole new world of understanding for you!
REAL LIFE CHANGING INFORMATION.......2006-03-25
My wife and I read the book together about 3 years ago. We saw vividly why we were unable to communicate with each other effectively. As hard as we tried, we just weren't speaking the same language. We discovered how to communicate love to each other in a way that we both could comprehend. It wasn't that difficult, it just took a little practice. We have read literally dozens of books, saw instructional videos, and received hours and hours of marriage counseling. Most of these resources made us aware that we had a problem (well, duh) but none made much of a lasting difference in our lives. This book, The Five Love Languages, did. The change in our marriage has made such an impact in our church that we have been asked to share these principles to other married couples. I can't describe the level of satisfaction we get when "the lights go on" for someone else who comes to the same understanding that we have. Our marriage isn't perfect and never will be (this little bit of information should take some of the pressure off anyone reading this). But, now we remember why we got married and how it feels to rekindle that "In Love" experience.
Five Love Languages.......2005-04-19
Absolutely earth shaking
So logical and so much heart in this book, I can see nnow the error of my divorces in the past. IT gives hope for the future
My #1 Pick of the year
RM
The Five Love Languages.......2005-03-06
I thought this book was excellent. It was very enlightening to me about my own relationship with my partner as well as with my parents and my children. I think this book would be helpful to anyone and everyone. Thank you Gary Chapman for putting the information in such easy to read and understand language.
Customer Reviews:
muy interesante.......2007-06-11
Gary Chapman en su libro Los cinco lenguajes del amor, observa que hay cinco maneras generales de expresar amor.
a) Palabras de afirmación (como el reconocer logros, elogiar y dar ánimo).
b) Tiempo de calidad (como el escuchar con atención, realizar paseos y viajes juntos).
c) Recibir regalos (como las flores, las joyas y los libros).
d) Actos de servicio (como lavar el automóvil, cortar el césped, hacer la comida, cuidarle en la enfermedad).
e) Toque físico (como tomar la mano, dar abrazos, besos).
Es de suma importancia que cada cónyuge descubra cuál de estos "lenguajes" aprecia más su cónyuge. Es grato y aun necesario "hablar" todos estos lenguajes emocionales para expresar amor a su cónyuge, pero conviene un énfasis especial en aquel que el o ella siente hondamente. Es posible que uno esté amando con un lenguaje que el otro apenas siente o entiende como amor. Si a cierta esposa lo que más le hace sentirse amada son las palabras de afirmación, no le será tan importante que todos los días su esposo le regale algo material, sin elogiarle o animarla verbalmente.
Como referencia, otro buen libro cristiano acerca de la comunicación y como mejorar las relaciones con los demás (conyuge, hijos, amigos, hermanos, compañeros de trabajo, etc) vea: Como Relacionarse Mejor: Manual de Tecnicas Para Desarrollar Relaciones Mas Satisfactorias, Dinamicas y Duraderas (Serie Recursos Ministeriales)
Casi "obligatorio" leerlo.......2007-01-13
Creo que toda pareja de casados deberia leer este libro. Particularmente puedo decir que aprendi muchisimo de este libro. Si se pone en practica lo que ensena, sin duda alguna la relacion alganzara un maravilloso nuevo nivel.
"SALVA VIDAS MATRIMONIAL".......2005-11-10
Si quiere un libro que le ayude a comunicarse en el matrimonio o como preparación para el matrimonio, este es el adecuado. Lo recomiendo ampliamente. Trabajo en la orientación matrimonial y es de los mejores libros que he leído sobre el tema, además, está basado en la experiencia directa del autor en su consulta con los matrimonios y en los cursos que da a lo largo y ancho de los EEUU. NO SE ARREPENTIRÁ Y LE ASEGURO QUE LO RECOMENDARÁ AMPLIAMENTE DESPUES DE LEERLO.
Muy excelente libro.......2005-10-24
Es un libro que es muy bueno ya que trata un buen topico (el amor) altamente lo recomiendo!!!!!!!!!!!!
muy bueno.......2004-11-04
Este es un libro muy recomendable pero tambien recomiendo especailemente el libro El sueno del amor.
Product Description
Dr. Gary Chapman has impacted thousands of marriages across the country through his Toward a Growing Marriage Conference. This life changing event is now available on DVD. This is a live presentation of Dr. Chapman's conference taped in November 2004. It contains 5 sessions on 3 dvds.
The sessions are:
Communication 101
Understanding and Expressing Love (The Five Love Languages)
Initiating Positive Change
Making Sex a Mutual Joy
How To Share the Things That Bug You.
Free Leader's Guide available online and accompanying notebooks available for purchase as well from www.garychapman.org
Customer Reviews:
Amazing DVD set!.......2007-09-08
This DVD set is the video version of the A Growing Marriage Conference. I truly enjoyed the opportunity to view this! It contains some truly life-changing principles for the single and for the married person. This is suitable for viewing in a small group setting or even for display at a church in lieu of attending an actual A Growing Marriage event. I highly recommend it!!
Joy-edp.......2007-05-30
Excellent, supper - Inspirational...
Everyone in the us should be expose to this...
It may change your life as it has changed mine.
Product Description
In a fun-filled presentation before a live audience, Gary Chapman helps you identify your personal love language. He also helps you understand the love language of your spouse. Then he provides practical suggestions for enriching your marriage by practicing the other love language. This video pack contains three items: 1) A VHS video with two sessions of approximately 40 minutes eachSession 1 -"Five Love Languages"; Session 2 - "Growing in Love" 2) Two copies of The Five Love Languages Viewer Guide, which includes viewing sheets for note-taking during Dr. Chapman's presentations; your personal love language inventory with self-interpretative guide; suggestions for how to use this video pack at church and in your home, 3) The Five Love Languages book by Gary Chapman (Northfield Publishing).
Books:
- The Giver
- The Gloom Looms: A Box of Unfortunate Events, Books 10-12 (The Slippery Slope; The Grim Grotto; The Penultimate Peril)
- The Gnostic Gospels
- The Going-To-Bed Book
- The Golem's Eye (The Bartimaeus Trilogy, Book 2)
- The Gospel of Mary Magdalene
- The Greatest Generation
- The Measure of a Man: A Spiritual Autobiography (Oprah's Book Club)
- The Message Remix 2.0: The Bible In contemporary Language
- The Message Remix 2.0: The Bible In contemporary Language
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The Five Love Languages of Children
The Five Love Languages for Singles (Chapman, Gary)
The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
The Five Love Languages: Mens Edition; How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships
