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n the bestselling tradition of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman comes the breakthrough book that teaches women how to stop sabotaging their careers-and start getting ahead. For every professional woman who wants to get ahead-but feels she is at an impasse-NICE GIRLSDON'T GETTHECORNER OFFICE comes to the rescue. When overlooked for that special assignment or promotion, many women point the finger outwardly, looking for someone else to blame. Now, Lois P. Frankel presents a different view in her empowering career primer that helps women identify ingrained habits they learned as girls that may be holding them back, such as couching statements in a question, smiling inappropriately, tilting the head while speaking, and others. Only by overcoming these self-defeating behaviors will the 'nice girl' learn to leverage her power in the workplace-and claim the corner office she so richly deserves.
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For every professional woman who wants to get ahead—but feels she is at an impasse—NICE GIRLS DON'T GET THE CORNER OFFICE comes to the rescue. Although it's less threatening and more politically correct for women to point the finger outwardly when assessing why they are overlooked for promotions and assignments for which they are superbly qualified, the real answers may lie inward. In this book, Dr. Lois Frankel, an internationally recognized corporate coach and author, reveals the 101 self-sabotaging behaviors women learn as girls-behaviors and habits that are now holding them back in the workplace, such as couching statements as questions, tilting your head when you speak, waiting to be noticed and pinching company pennies. From executive to entry level, every woman needs to know what she is doing to subconsciously sound, look, act, market herself, and/or be treated like a "girl". This book will help women to become aware of when and how they are damaging their career and it will give them the advice and tips they need to help replace these self-defeating behaviors with more effective ones—and finally claim the corner office they so richly deserve.
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Fantastic!.......2007-09-12
I sure wish I had read this book years ago. I finaly understand a lot of issues that had always confused me, and I didn't realize how much I didn't know until I read this book. I'm buying copies for all of my close women colleagues, and starting on it again from the beginning. In fact, I know a lot of men who could benefit from reading this book!
A good kick in the pants!.......2007-08-27
This book was a great eye opener to the "girl" mistakes I make on a daily basis. I have read the book several times and each time I find something new to improve on. I have found myself passing on advice from the book to other women in the office.
This Book is the Bible for Women Who Want To Get Ahead.......2007-08-26
Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office is by far the best book I've ever read aimed at helping women own their power not only in the workplace but in every aspect of life. It's essentially a complete strategic plan for growing and advancing in your career. As a female business owner, I didn't realize how often I diminished my power by falling into many of the mistakes that Dr. Lois talks about in her groundbreaking book. This is one book that you need to keep in your professional development library.
Cassandra Mack, host of The No More Drama Hour of Power and author of, "The Single Mom's Little Book of Wisdom: 42 Tidbits of Wisdom To Help You Survive, Succeed and Stay Strong."
Excellent book.......2007-07-22
This book examines how the messages schoolgirls in America absorbed about being "nice" are detrimental to them once they join the workforce where the rules of expected behavior have long since been set by men. I gave my copy to a young woman I was mentoring who was afraid to ask for time off, when her male peers tended to just inform the higher-ups. I immediately recognized this behavior from the book, and insisted that she read it.
perfect guide for women in the business world .......2007-06-08
I like the book very much. It helped me much in my career.I made many mistakes before I found this book. I didn't believe the normal behavior of the women sabotage their career, but it is absolutely true. It helped me to gain a lot of success. It is a perfect guide for women. I would recommend this book to every ambitious business women, who would like to progress in her career. Good luck to everyone!
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The Anger Trap: Free Yourself from the Frustrations that Sabotage Your Life
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It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health?
The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose— or help someone else to choose— a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.
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Very, very helpful and insightful book.......2007-03-03
I just finished reading this book and it's really opened my eyes up to a lot about myself and the traits of anger.
I've been dealing with my anger now for about six months. I waited too long to finally pick up a book and read it, and this was the first one I read. Dr. Carter uses many actual therapy sessions to demonstrate various traits of anger, and how they can affect a person. At the end, he gives you many options and ideas on how to better yourself as a person while releasing yourself from the bad side of anger.
If you are feeling a sense of anger that does not help in your everyday life, be it your relationship or profession, I highly recommend reading this book. It will open up your eyes and make you think, and make you want to change.
Well Done........2007-02-19
This is a great book book Dr. Carter. I found it very eye-opening and to the point.
Easy to Read and Very Practical.......2007-01-08
This reference is one of the best self-help books out there. The author has obviously spent a great deal of time in this field, and he has a knack for imparting his accumulated knowledge so that anyone can understand it. He uses stories about real people to illustrate various problems that can arise, and then shows how they can be resolved. Very easy to read. Also very easy to use, as the author gives concrete methods to handle many common situations. I very much appreciate the time and effort Dr. Carter has taken to put this together, and believe it will help many to deal not only with their own anger, but with the anger of people expressed around them. Excellent work!
the anger workbook.......2007-01-05
my husband and i went thur this 13wk anger workbook w/our ss teacher's it has been very freeing for both of us....so much so that we have purchased more of the books to pass on to friends we have who we know need to work out some anger issues in their lives :)if you have angry issues in your life and need some direction on how to dispose it, this is the book for you :) never give up,god is faithful, he has promised us abundant life, keep pressing.... thank you dr les carter and dr frank minirth :)
Great first effort.......2006-02-25
This is the first book I have read about anger. I grew up with an angry mother and a rageful father so this is an issue that needs attention in my life.
I basically chose this book after doing an Amazon search simply using the word anger. Then I read reviews of several of the options and chose this one.
The author seems to have an experienced and reasonable approach to the subject. As with most books, a definition, exposition is at the beginning, wherein the author firmly places responsibility for change on the reader, which in my mind is where it must be.
I liked that fact that the author does not make any promises of erasing a persons anger, but rather gives options of how to deal with it effectively.
I would like to recommend this book to anyone who deals with anger as the person experiencing it or living with someone who suffers from it. Perhaps this work is no magic bullet, but if taken seriously, can bring some relief and illumination to this often daunting emotion.
My two cents... ; >
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Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.
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Not a completely useless book...but close........2007-08-16
This book starts out well enough, it defines the word commitmentphobic (anyone scared of a commitment) and then discusses active and passive conflicts. It then talks about characteristics of each type -- things a person with active conflicts typically does in relationship, and the same for those with passive conflicts. You'll probably start to see some familiar behaviors here. Then it'll explain how everyone has commitment issues to some extent, both passive and active, and how it's only a problem if it interferes with your relationships.
You say to yourself, great. This is all very reassuring. So what do I do about it?
For the next 200 pages (it's about 300 pages total), the book offers NO practical advice. Instead it begins to use "commitmentphobic" as a dirty word, and starts to tell stories of relationships. You read story after story thinking "Hey, I see some of myself here, I wonder what they'll recommend to resolve this situation...". You get to the end of the story and there's no advice, just another story. You get to the end of the chapter and there's no advice, just another chapter full of stories. And regardless of what they say, not all the stories are of commitmentphobic people.
The book also practices a lot of tough love. In several cases it appears to be saying "Anyone who is willing to commit to you is the person you should commit to. There is no perfect person, no person of your dreams, no one you should be holding out for. Growing up means giving up on your dreams and settling down."
Finally, the last few chapters of the book attempt to give some practical advice, but it ends up being contradictory. Here's what one of the last chapters said, boiled down to a few sentences.
Acknowledge you have commitment issues, but don't talk to your partner about them. Ok, do talk to your partner about them, but don't cry. Actually, don't talk to your partner about them because that'll create more intimacy. Wait, do talk to them about it, but only when you're ready to break up with them.
What????
In the end the only real practical piece of advice they give is to get counseling. Not very useful after buying the book and reading 300 pages.
I'll save you trouble and give you the good stuff out of the book. Notice how short it is.
Active avoiders pursue hard at first and then draw away, putting up boundaries. Passive avoiders fall hard, but always for the wrong people (active avoiders). You're falling for those people because it's "safe" to love them, because you know it won't turn into a real relationship. No one necessarily falls into one camp or the other, you can switch between relationships or during a single relationship.
Everyone has commitment issues to some extent. If your issues hurt your relationships, take a cold hard look at your patterns and try to manage them. If you can't, seek counseling.
See? I did all the whole book in less than a page.
You may have a fear of commitment and not even realize it!.......2007-05-15
I bought this book b/c my boyfriend and I were dating several years and it seemed when one of us wanted to move forward and commit, the other was holding back, then we would flip-flop - reading this book enlightened us so much on why that is and why we behave certain ways in our relationships and choose the partners we choose! Very interesting info to say the least!! I'm only 1/3 through but it's a great read!
Shines a piercing light on the situation.......2007-04-16
"Am I afraid of commitment because of something about this particular relationship (in which case maybe I should find a new one?) or because I have a problem with commitment in general (in which case maybe I should hold onto this amazing person by my side--but who does have a few things I don't like)?"
If that question resonates with you some way, then you should get this book.
As someone who struggles with commitment in relationships and many other areas of my life, this book has, in a lot of ways, my number. I've always struggled with decisions, from what to do with my life to what to order on a restaurant menu. And deciding on the person you're going to spend your life with has to be the decision of all decisions. In a way, it was nice to read it and feel validated... "hey look at all these other people who are struggling with the same thing I am". The book really illustrates the different kind of dynamics that can happen in a "commitment-phobic" relationship. This book provides knowledge, and knowledge is power. That's a hackneyed expression, but truthfully, in order to beat this you have to first know what "this" is, and this book lays it out pretty clearly. So that is at least a first step.
I read the book with great anticipation hoping that the author, a self-proclaimed commitment phobe, would show me the light, show me how to "fix" me. Unfortunately, that's where the book falls short. After exposing commitment phobia in all it's confusing, painful, pathetic, paralyzing, and humblizing detail, the basic advice seems to be for anyone involved with such a person to stay away. It's like I was reading the majority of the book thinking this is wonderfully insightful and it's addressing both the commitment-phobe and the person with the commitment-phobe, and then, near the end, the book seems to abandon the person with the commitment-phobia and only addresses the person-with-the-commitment-phobic-person (the so called passive partner)-- I almost felt like I was being turned against. The one piece of advice that it seems to offer the active commitment phobe is to get therapy.
In a nutshell, ideally the book would:
1. Clearly identify the problem
2. Offer steps to fix it
It does #1 quite well but left me wanting a LOT more for #2. Still I recommend it. Another book which offers more in the way of #2 is "Getting to Commitment" by the same authors (although still not as much as I'd like). "Getting to Commitment" is a little more sympathetic to the actively commitment phobic person. What I'd love to see the author do is write a much more autobiographical book on how he overcame his own commitment phobia in his life (Steven Carter is married now).
I can either laugh or cry.......2007-03-11
As I am reading this book, I am laughing aloud at how utterly insane, yet true it all is! The authors really nail down the absolutely contradictory behavior of people with committment issues. I am seeing my dating life pass before my eyes and, in light of this book, it is not pretty! I have been working on myself long enough to have a healthy sense of humor, so this book is not only opening my eyes WIDE but tickling my funny bone as well.
If you are ready to be humbled and ready to change, read this book.
Great Book.......2007-03-06
This book was great for me. It helped me get through alot of things not only that but, understand the way I work sometimes in why.
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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.
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Parenting (and Re-Parenting) 101.......2007-10-04
In what may be one of the best books ever written on functional parenting, Mellody and the Millers have tackled the single most common psychiatric phenomenon of our time, deconstructed it into language most can grasp, and set forth a means of recovery that can produce results outside the 12 Step group structure.
Moreover for mental health professionals, this may well be one of the best books available for patient (with sufficient ego strength) and/or family education of Meissner or Preston Level One and Two Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as for family education with regard to pretty much the entire spectrum of borderline, narcissistic, passive-aggressive and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders.
I have read at least a dozen lay and professional books addressing the topic of "codependence." While Beattie's and Evan's work, and the Codependents Anonymous and new Adult Children of Alcoholics "big books" -are- terrific stuff, FC may be the single most accessible, research-grounded, and tool-delivering of the lot. (Anyone seriously set upon recovering from the problem is well-advised, however, to read them all.)
Owing possibly to the input of the Millers, FC is the more of product of modern "patient education" or "psychoeducation" theory (see Rankin and Stallings) than the other books currently available. It may be the work of three minds, but it's anything but the hodgepodge of useful data developed by committee in the two afforementioned 12 Step groups, and is more through-composed in the fashion of Vygotskyan "scaffolding" than Beattie's more famous or Evan's more narrowly targeted books.
Beyond that, however, the progressive, level-upon-level organization of the book -- not to mention the concrete examples of both functional and dysfunctional parenting -- make FC hands-down one of the finest guides to raising effective, pathology-free children ever published. If it were up to me, this would be required reading at the college freshman level.
If you know you're not crazy but at the same time you think you are ...........2007-07-30
When a few month ago a person who I felt and thought was most important to me came into my life and my husband disagreed, I was thrown into a huge personal crisis. Little did I know much less understand that the heart of the problem lay in my co-dependence. I was very lucky because through friends of mine I found a therapist who knew about and taught me about co-dependence. Suddenly all of the contradictions - which seemed to indicate to me that I must be crazy - started to make sense. To supplement and deepen my understanding my therapist suggested reading Pia Mellody's `Facing Co-dependence'.
Pia Mellody herself is a recovering co-dependent and that she knows from personal experience what she's talking about is very evident in her book. In part I she starts by describing co-dependence and explaining very concisely where it comes from. What she calls the 5 core symptoms are: expressing appropriate levels of self-esteem, setting functional boundaries, owning and expressing your own reality, taking care of your adult needs and wants and experiencing and expressing your reality moderately.
In part II she explains what she thinks are the five natural characteristics of children and how functional homes deal with them. While functional parents will help their children to develop these characteristics properly dysfunctional ones will not. I don't have children but still I found it very interesting and helpful to read Pia's description of how a child will be treated in a functional home. It's a very helpful part of the book no matter whether you use that information to compare your own childhood experiences to what it should have been or could have been or whether you use it as your guideline to treat your own children functionally or for both.
Dysfunctional parenting forces the child to defend itself against painful or threatening experiences by developing dysfunctional behavior patterns that are often continued into adulthood because (a) they worked so well when they were needed and (b) these children were never taught to behave functionally.
In Part III Pia describes many forms of abuse and explains how they relate to her understanding of co-dependence. It's amazing how many of our acceptable parenting techniques are detrimental to our children rather than pedagogically valuable.
When reading this part of the book I again felt very strongly that even if you are not a co-dependent it cannot hurt you or those around you for you to become aware of the information in Pia's book. You may save a life or two!!!
Part IV is about recovery. And the key to recovery is to acknowledge the parts in ourselves that never grew up and to assume the role of a functional parent and do what our parents were unable to do: show ourselves the fallacies in our thinking/feeling and offer alternatives. We have to be our own parents.
Pia says that even after working as a therapist for as long as she has, she still isn't 100% healthy 100% of the time but she measures success by how long it takes her to recognize dysfunctional behavior/thoughts in her life and the amount of time it takes her to deal with them in a functional way. I've found this honest assessment encouraging and also discouraging at the same time. It's encouraging because it let's you easily and quickly see progress but it's also discouraging because the fantasy of every being completely free of this disease is squished. *sighs* Oh, well... I matter! I am enough! I don't have to be perfect. Not even perfectly functional. (lol)
So, who should read this book? Everybody! That's my answer to that question.
General tips aimed at a specific problem........2007-07-15
The good thing about this book is that it identifies a problem that few popular selfhelpbooks target indepth. The only other book that comes to my mind is Robin Norwoods bestseller: "Women who love too much". It deals with a certain aspect of codependency, although Norwood doesn't use the word codependency as far as I know.
The thing I liked less is the authors personal approach. She wrote this book from her own perspective. It has fire because of that, but I feel it lacks objectivity, statistics, links to other empirical studies. What worked for her need not work for someone else.
The author's emphasis on the belief in a Higher Power as an important part of the recovery process is, to my Dutch atheistic eyes, something that makes the book very foreign.
Pia Mellody gives common sense advice on how to deal with the problem, but the advice is rather general. She often gets listy, offering rather abstract checklists.
All in all, a good book, but it wasn't the one that helped me most. I liked "an Adult Child's guide to What's Normal" slightly better.
a great start to unravelling.......2007-06-30
this is a great book for any who, like myself, want to know not only the "how to" of fixing unhealthy repeatitive themes in our lives, but the "why" and "where" of how it all came to be in the first place. she goes over the various types of abuse that encompass far more than the obvious physical beatings and sexual molestation but emotional, intellectual and spiritual as well, and describes how people who are neglected or abused in these ways develop into adults. for those who are steadfastly seeking healing, an accompanying workbook "breaking free" offers exercises for self-exploration and growth.
MUST READ.......2006-11-30
This is the first book on codependence that really relates to me. It's like reading my life story and it helps to understand why I am like I am. If your childhood was more about taking care of your parents than them taking care of you, this is a must read.
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The exciting, first-hand account of heroism and daring sabotage during the Nazi occupation of Norway. The outcome of World War II could very possibly have been much different if Knut Haukelid and his small, but courageous band of Norwegian soldiers had not been successful in sabotaging the Nazis supply of heavy water. The heavy water produced at a facility in occupied Norway was vital to Hitlers race with the United States to develop the atomic bomb. Knut Haukelids Skis Against The Atom gives the reader an intimate account of the valiant and self-sacrificing service that the not-to-be-subdued Norwegians performed for the whole free world.
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Amazing the selfless sacrfice made by Norwegian Heros.......2007-09-10
Haukelid's personal account of his actions around the destruction of the heavy Water stocks and subsequently the Hydro ferry read like a James Bond novel. Bravo to these Norwegian heros and bravo to Mr. Haukelid for giving us such a personal account for posterity.
A Personal Account of the Norwegian Resistance.......2006-07-17
"Skis Against The Atom" is the personal account of the experiences of Norwegian resistance fighter Knut Haukelid during the German occupation of Norway 1940-1945. Haukelid was a Norwegian soldier who escaped to Britain in 1940 and was trained and returned to Norway by the British Special Operations Executive.
The centerpiece of the account is the British-Norwegian effort to sabotage the production of Heavy Water at Vemork for use in the Nazi atom bomb program. This heroic effort was the basis of the 1965 movie "The Heroes of Telemark" starring Kirk Douglas and Richard Harris. The rest of the story is, if anything, even more heroic than the movie. Haukelind and his companions hid for months on the remote Hardanger plateau, dodging Nazi patrols and enduring harsh weather and skimpy rations while waiting for their opportunity to sabotage the Vemork facility. Their sabotage of the heavy water production also required the sinking of a ferry carrying surviving supplies of heavy water, a heart-breaking decision that caused the deaths of Norwegian civilians.
Haukelid's account also covers the efforts to organize the resistance in Norway after German occupation, and the preparation for Allied liberation in 1945. The Norwegian resistance, lightly armed and heavily outnumbered, undertook to bluff the Nazis into surrender to prevent massacres of Norwegian civilians or the destruction of the Norwegian economy by desperate German forces in the dying days of the Third Reich.
Haukelid writes candidly in the first person. His account is told very much from his point of view. This book is a translation from the original Norwegian to English; the syntax may seem stilted or formal in places to American readers. Those interested in a larger perspective can consult a decent of body of work on the Norwegian resistance by other participants and by a number of British and Norwegian scholars.
This book is highly recommended to those interested in the Norwegian resistance.
Assault In Norway Is Better.......2006-06-24
A great story by a true hero, but Thomas Gallagher is a better
writer & Assault In Norway is a better book. Having said that,
if you have not read either book, Do It Now!!!! If not for these
brave and hearty men, we all might be speaking German now...
More heroic than Telemark.......2001-01-30
This book proves that "Heroes of Telemark" is not an exagerration. First hand documentary account of Norvegian underground against Nazis prove during WW II. It is actually very modest account of the coreougeous soldiers to deny Hitler to build atomic bomb. It is somehow overlooked to the one of the reasons of Nazi failure to build the bomb. But thanks to these heroes whom some of them lost their lives for the cause. Even the writing sometimes gets into some details I feel it is necessary for the documentation. I don't hold it against.
Norwegian Resistance saves the world from a German A-bomb.......1999-11-15
True story of how the Norwegian Resistance, with the help of Britain, stops the Germans from acquiring enough heavy water to make their own A-bomb. Exciting first hand account of skiing and avoiding the Nazis. Begin to understand the sacrifice made by the Norwegian people in their resistance to the Nazis. Made into a movie starring Kirk Douglas in 1968. I recommend reading Blood and Water to get another take on this exciting story.
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For the past two decades, an academic cottage industry has developed to analyze--and some would say overemphasize--the social and educational problems of African Americans. Such writers as Dinesh D'Souza, Shelby Steele, Armstrong Williams, and Ken Hamblin have all contributed in this area; now add to that list John McWhorter, a Berkeley linguistics professor and the author of Word on the Street, an examination of Ebonics and Black English. The basic idea he presents in this occasionally insightful if flawed book is that African Americans are not advancing socially as a result of victimology, separatism, and anti-intellectualism.
According to the author, victimology "has become a keystone of cultural blackness to treat victimhood not as a problem to be solved but as an identity to be nurtured," while "separatism encourages black Americans to conceive of black people as an unofficial sovereign entity, within which the rules other Americans are expected to follow are suspended out of a belief that our victimhood renders us morally exempt from them." Anti-intellectualism is a belief that "school is a 'white' endeavor." McWhorter suggests that only blacks embrace such opinions, placing most of the blame on them while underemphasizing the institutional racism that facilitates such views. Needless to say, McWhorter has no love for the likes of Al Sharpton, Hazel Carby, June Jordan, or Patricia Williams and their ilk. His chapter on Ebonics, his specialty, is the most nuanced, though certainly not the final word on the matter. And though some readers will be turned off by his use of tired anti-affirmative-action, right-wing clichés, anyone interested in the education of African Americans in the post civil rights era will find Losing the Race a worthy read. --Eugene Holley Jr.
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Berkeley linguistics professor John McWhorter, born at the dawn of the post-Civil Rights era, spent years trying to make sense of this question. Now he dares to say the unsayable: racism's ugliest legacy is the disease of defeatism that has infected black America. Losing the Race explores the three main components of this cultural virus: the cults of victimology, separatism, and antiintellectualism that are making blacks their own worst enemies in the struggle for success.
More angry than Stephen Carter, more pragmatic and compassionate than Shelby Steele, more forward-looking than Stanley Crouch, McWhorter represents an original and provocative point of view. With Losing the Race, a bold new voice rises among black intellectuals.
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Poor Thinking.......2007-09-27
Too often McWhorter does what many blacks accuse whites of doing--he draws a conclusion from any negative encounter he has experienced with another black person and assumes it is the norm. Bad thinking.
Eye opener for white and black americans.......2007-09-15
I think this book is great!!!
McWhorter "exposes" the problem part of black americans have. As a white teacher, I do not want to give my black children the opportunity to give me excuses. They should be accountable for the work as much as any other student.
I too have suffered discrimination for other reasons. However, it is far better to have great expectations from my students, either white, black hispanic, asian. The important thing is that I need to believe in my students.
I think McWhorter gives all teachers hope to expect more from their students. The change will not probably happen in this generation but we need to work on it.
Good message, but too difficult to read.......2007-08-24
While I agree with the author's message, the style in which he delivers is too complex and convoluted. You will need a dictionary at hand to read this book. Sentence structure was far too comlplex and ambiguous. I think it could have been written in half the length, resulting in a much more enjoyable read.
Don't blame the whites.....for black's problems...........2007-07-26
Millionaire in 365 Days: The Daily Plan to Get There
Wow....what a revelation.....this is quite in indictment of the black establishment and their wining...the blacks just do not want to become "white" by getting smart...they are mired in a culture of not wanting to be "white" thus they do not value getting good grades, and in all economic circumstances under-perform in education, testing..etc....being smart is tantamount to being ostracized by other blacks....the culture of entitlement no matter what is so ingrained....that it is destroying the ability of blacks to get to a higher academics and social standing....very well researched by a Black professor who sees this firsthand daily....
McWhorter Mis-Diagnoses Part of the Problem and Mistakes it as the Whole.......2007-04-23
I personally know where Mr. McWhorter comes from. I've felt the pain and suffering that he's felt on the school yard where other kids horrendously tease you and call you an "Oreo" for wanting to do your best to get an education. Having spent a part of my childhood in predominantly white neighborhood, I know what it feels like to be made fun of for speaking properly or having a "white"-sounding voice. I truly know the frustration that comes with having to put up with crap from your own ethnic group when you try to succeed.
Knowing this, I also know that Mr. McWhorter has taken his statements a bit too far. He has made the mistake of confusing self-hate with victimhood. Yes, sadly there is still self-sabotage within the black community, but the black community cannot be left entirely to blame for its problems. No, slavery cannot always be brought up as a card out of the deck of excuses, but Mr. McWhorter refuses to recognize the full impact of slavery so to the point that he comes across as if he has not a clue what it means to be your average black American. He speaks as if it never happened and all things were just honkey-dorey after the 1960's Civil Rights Movement.
Yes, there is desperation within the black community. Black men are more likely to commit suicide, more likely to die early or end up in prison. But this is not because we suffer from some mental defect due to our blackness. And this is not because of some kind of cultural error on our part. Rather, it's because we've been stripped of our culture and have had to start one entirely from scratch. The psychological effects of an entire loss of one's identity are profound. Such is why black people tend to identify with our shared history of slavery so much, because as far as tracing our ancestry it's the most we have.
Mr. McWhorter speaks as if his childhood was typical of the black experience when it wasn't even typical of the American one. He was a natural child prodigy who went to Simon's Rock College, a school where high school-aged kids go to college. Not everyone has a kid with his kind of talent, and not everyone is expected to. He can speak of his success, but he can't speak of it as if it were something that all parents can aspire to or expect from their youth. Children are, after all, born different and each given to their own individual strengths.
And Mr. McWhorter overexaggerates the level of anti-intellectualism within the black community and fails to give it a fair examination as to its precise causes. For example, I'm currently a senior graduating Magna Cum Laude this year from Morehouse College in Atlanta, GA. I'm coming out of a school where black men are turned into leading businessmen, politicians, activists and scholars. Dr. Martin Luther King was our most famous graduate. W.E.B. Dubois once taught here. Historically black colleges are literally flooded with the sight of thousands of knowledge-hungry, college-loving black youth. Schools like mine, and our neighboring Spelman College would disprove his point that our culture is inherently anti-intellectual. What's really the case is that America's racist culture discourages us from getting to where we want to go and labels us of being incapable of such achievement. The socio-economic disparities are in some places so great that often poor blacks adopt an attitude of apathy and simply believe what is said about them.
McWhorter does not entirely understand the ideology behind black separatism. Though I do not entirely agree with the separatist viewpoint, I think that he does not acknowledge the variety of separatist views. No, not all black people are separatists, and not all of those who are take the view that it is feasible that blacks and whites should live institutionally segregated lives. Rather, there is a strain of separatism within this category of thought that deems it necessary that black Americans have a means of living apart from majority whites for survival. This is not always understood in terms of physical separation as it is often meant by many as form of cognitive separation. When this separation is given by force and not will, W.E.B. DuBois termed it "double-consciousness". When it is done in our minds voluntarily, Marcus Garvey deemed it a form of liberation of the mind. It is the latter and not the former that is desired by the majority of those within the black separatist movement, as they see it as necessary for the formulation of a healthy, self-esteemed black identity and flourishing black culture. I would agree to some extent that this is necessary for a black person to have survival in America, but I think that it is but an immature aspect of one's stages in development. The find stage would be the kind of consciousness that Dr. Martin Luther King sought which worked to cut across all barriers and conceive of the whole humanity not in terms of arbitrary lines and distinctions but shared similarities.
Mr. McWhorter laudably recognizes the dangers of an anti-achievement attitude, but I think his take is a bit disregarding and callous. Instead of seeing self-sabotage as simply being a small part of a larger problem, he mistakes it as the whole of the problem within the black community. This is why many black people hate him, because he won't acknowledge the very real reality of racism. And just because he hasn't personally experienced it in his own life doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.
Yes, Bill Cosby was right to some degree but at least he wasn't a hypocrite. After all, McWhorter is the kind of guy who finds race-based preferences in admissions to be unjust but has no problem with race-based preferences when it comes to getting put in the back of a cop car or searched. The guy should take sometime off from his multicultural environment of white liberalism in sunny Southern California and get to know how life really is down here in the Deep South. I should know. I used to live in California, and living out there ain't nowhere near what living down here in Georgia is like.
I'm not going to slam his book by giving it one-star because I think Mr. McWhorter does have a legitimate frame of reference and I'm sure he truly feels what he says. But, I'd hardly call this a five-star book. If anything, it serves as an artificial salve for the racism of some and is just another excuse for rich white political pundits on evening shows on Fox News to point the finger and say "we told you so" instead of confronting the harsh reality of the underlying problems.
I'm sure Mr. McWhorter would have never predicted the slowed reaction by the government to Hurricane Katrina in 2005. The fact that even middle class blacks and whites saw the response to the situation differently is reflective of the disparity in how we see racial issues being addressed in this country and whether or not one has had to live under racism. And I'm sure he would have never counted on a guy like me graduating college and going on to a school like Harvard. You see, in Mr. McWhorter's world race and racism do not exist and all blacks are suffering from some kind of mental disease of anti-intellectualism and self-pity. This view lends ease to the minds of people discomforted by their subtle feelings of racism toward us blacks and is to be more expected of iconoclast racist ideologues in the media like Sean Hannity than it is to be of people who truly seek resolution and reconciliation. For Mr. McWhorter, people like me are not supposed to exist. We simply exist to destroy ourselves and should somehow even be "grateful" of the fact that we were brought here by means of a ship and chains and weren't left to our own devices in some impoverished parts of the Third World. I, however, have too much respect in myself as a black man who is an intellectual to ever surrender to that kind of viewpoint.
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- An insightful, gentle wisdom focused on the self-defeating practice of trying to guard against disappointment
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When Misery is Company: End Self-Sabotage and Become Content
Anne Katherine
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Do you, or does someone you love, take comfort in misery? If achievement create anxiety, if intimacy leads to fear, of if happiness produces uneasiness, you might be unwittingly making choices that keep you miserable. You might, in fact, be addicted to misery. Feeling too good for too long--or even feeling good at all--can be a frightening situation for those who believe that every joy must be equalized by a setback explains groundbreaking author and psychotherapist Anne Katherine. In this first-of-its-kind, fascinating, and prescriptive book, Katherine describes how many people guard against disappointment, fear, or shame by not allowing themselves to fully experience intimacy, success, or pleasure. Offering exercises, personal stories and gentle wisdom. Katherine empowers readers to climb out of their carefully calibrated misery and find new comfort in contentment.
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An insightful, gentle wisdom focused on the self-defeating practice of trying to guard against disappointment.......2005-11-14
When Misery Is Company: End Self-Sabotage And Become Content by psychotherapist, licensed mental health counselor, and popular author Ann Katherine offers the reader exercises, anecdotal personal stories, and an insightful, gentle wisdom focused on the self-defeating practice of trying to guard against disappointment, fear or shame by not allowing ourselves to fully experience intimacy, success, or pleasure. Sound psychology combined with a natural talent for writing fully engage the reader's total and thoughtful attention from first page to last as individual chapters are grouped into two major parts: "Understanding the Problem" and "Finding and Living the Solution". Enhanced with five appendices and an index, When Misery Is Company is especially recommended for those seeking assistance in developing their own personal growth on the basis of sound psychology and practical experience.
Groundbreaking Work on an Often Overlooked Problem.......2005-03-24
Whether they like it or not, admit it or not, a large number of people are "addicted to misery." Misery addiction is an insidious form of self-sabotage that manifests in a large number of very different, but very "general" ways. For instance, we may habitually make choices that set us up to fail, or we may abandon projects right before they succeed. Maybe we choose abusive partners and friends; maybe we're chronically underemployed. Perhaps we avoid happiness because of a persistant fear that we will *lose* that happiness. Each issue-- in one way or another-- adds up to living a life in which we never really feel content or fulfilled, and like the "good things" of life somehow keep passing us by.
Whatever the issue might be, conventional psychology either does not recognize Misery Addiction at ALL, or it chalks such problems up to more "popularly acceptable" causes, such as poor self-esteem, lack of assertiveness, ADHD or some other more widely recognized "syndrome." In this groundbreaking new book, author and psychotherapist Anne Katherine explains that there's really much more at work here.
The book is divided into two main sections. Part One ("Understanding the Problem") is dedicated to explaining and identifying the various aspects of Misery Addiction. In short, easy-to-read chapters, the author takes us through descriptions of what exactly Misery Addiction IS, then on to explaining the strange paradoxes that lie at the heart of Misery Addiction; where we may have learned during our upbringings, and how we now engage in certain behaviors that keep up from reaching happiness in life. Throughout, Katherine illustrates her descriptions with examples from her own psychotherapy practice and Misery Addiction retreats, and also includes a number of small self-tests and quizzes to help readers understand precisely where their "traps" lie.
Part Two ("Finding and Living the Solution") deals with recovery from Misery Addiction. Katherine is a strong proponent of following the basic "12-step program" format, as the optimal road to recovery. Even if you do not have a local MAA (Misery Addicts Anonymous) meeting, she recommends recommends getting involved with a 12-step group. This section also includes several chapters with "tools" to help the recovering Misery Addict deal with life. Finally, there is a helpful appendix with resources; how to set up and run a MAA group, notes to therapists, national 12-step organizations, and more.
Final thoughts: Highly recommended (9 out of 10 possible bookmarks). This is a much needed book on a topic that generally is not covered by conventional psychology or therapy. My only reservation is the extremely heavy reliance on a 12-step program as "the solution" to a complex matter, while very little information is offered about other therapeutic options. But that's a minor niggle-- this is a highly worthwhile book!
Clear, Fresh, & Insightful.......2004-07-18
I first encountered Anne Katherine's writing when I took a continuing education course about setting boundaries. I am continually impressed with her clear and unique insights. She is able to see and UNDERSTAND humans and human interaction in an exceptionally clear way. In this book, she communicates what so many of us have been unable to express and overcome within ourselves. The dynamics of self-sabotage and self-created misery are finally understood and explained in a whole and empowering way. She teaches and shows the way past a painful, self-defeating life.
perceptive concept.......2004-05-06
It never occurred to me before that someone can be addicted to feeling miserable and sabotage their own efforts and/or another person's efforts to help them succeed and enjoy life, but it is true!
I found this book insightful and clear and eye opening. The concept of misery addiction was new to me, but as I read the book, it made perfect sense. I actually worked with a person who was addicted to misery and her behavior made no sense to me at the time. She was self defeating and I did not understand why. Now I understand her issues and thinking patterns much more clearly. Now her actions and reactions make perfect sense to me.
"When Misery is Company" is a great tool for someone who is actually addicted to misery, but it can also clarify and enlighten people who know or work with those who have this addiction. I recommend it highly.
An extraordinary book of cause and treatment ..........2004-04-02
This book gives birth to new hope and help to myriad thousands whose continued sabotage of self is the harbinger of doom that leaves their lives steeped in misery.
Anne Katherine, gifted psychotherapist and author, identifies two primary components that exist in the conundrum of this insidious condition. The mind of the child's maladaptive response to repeated painful stimuli and the brain's biochemical adjustment to stop pleasure or success before it can become pain. The child's jitterbug of emotions eventually imprisons its owner in the addiction to misery.
This author identifies this enigmatic problem and the healing solution in this prodigious book. It is another revelation of how important community is in the healing process.
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Sophisticated Sabotage: The Intellectual Games Used to Subvert Responsible Regulation explores regulatory cost-benefit analysis, quantitative risk assessment, the monetization of intangible values, comparative risk assessment and cost-effectiveness analysis, and related sub-disciplines. By explaining the arguments advanced by supporters of these tools, and discussing contrary views through short excerpts from the literature, Sophisticated Sabotage describes how dubious risk assessment and economic models have come to dominate regulatory decisionmaking and now stymie urgently needed health, safety and environmental protections. Each excerpt is thoroughly explained and previewed. Each chapter concludes with an extensive annotated listing of further readings. The authors are leading experts in administrative and environmental law.
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The Self-Sabotage Syndrome.......2002-04-14
From the moment I started to read this book, I was 'smacked in the face' by the relevence of this book in my life at this "exact juncture" !.
I have just lost a job that I "loved", it was my "home away from home" (I actually used to say that...); my boss was my "best friend", I would do virtually ANYTHING to support and help him in the work place and in his failing personal life. I was terminated because his wife felt we were "too close" after two years of blind loyalty. Terminated ! No notice ! No severance ! Lost my job, my best friend, my source of income, my entire world/life.
READ THIS BOOK IF YOU ARE AN ADULT CHILD !!! I wish I had read it before. I will not be the 'enabler' and the 'fall guy' the next time.
I highly recommend this book to anyone that is an ADULT CHILD and find themselves without a job/sense of self/reason to live/purpose in life because the "job" and "your life" ARE NOT intertwined unless you allow them to be. I did not establish correct "boundries", and coincidentally, my previous "boss/best-friend" is an Adult Child also.
I just ordered the book to be delivered to my previous boss/best friend. Hopefully he will learn from this book as well, and not follow the same patterns.
PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO WORK-RELATED PROBLEMS.......2000-09-04
If you have been losing jobs despite working "very hard", and you are an ACoA, this is the book that will finally answer the big question of "why! " ACoA's, as explained succinctly yet in detail by Woititz, have ingrained patterns of behavior that result in problems on the job. We can identify these patterns, come to understand where they came from, and finally, do something to change them! This book gave me far more insight than years of counseling - Woititz truly knows the ACoA!
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Freud once said that nobody is "normal," and after reading Shadow Syndromes, you may well be convinced of that. While more than 50 million Americans suffer from full-fledged mental illnesses such as depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder, millions more suffer from milder forms--yet they likely don't realize it. From chronic sadness to low self-esteem to shopping addiction to intermittent rage disorder, compassionate authors John J. Ratey, M.D. and Catherine Johnson, Ph.D. chronicle the often-undiagnosed (yet definitely insidious) "shadow" disorders. One of the most eye-opening points the authors make is that men who "can't commit" to a relationship may in fact be suffering from an unrecognized adult form of attention deficit disorder.
Shadow Syndromes is thorough, but at the same time it simplifies the technical aspects of mental illnesses--no stacks of footnotes or complicated neurotransmitter charts here. The authors use plenty of anecdotes to illustrate how everyday people have recognized and overcome shadow syndromes. They also prevent the book from becoming one big bundle of bad news by stressing that these disorders are treatable with medications such as Prozac, which Johnson took to handle her mild depression. Specific lifestyle changes are also advised, including more sleep, changes in diet, and more exercise. The "Care and Feeding of the Brain" chapter compiles other empowering, healing approaches. This book will be valuable not only for those who believe they're suffering from a shadow syndrome, but for doctors and therapists as well. --Erica Jorgensen
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Are you living under a shadow?
Do you or someone you love suffer from:
Chronic sadness
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Acute anxiety
Disabling discomfort in social situations
These are the "shadow syndromes" of major mental disorders that limit the lives, productivity, and happiness of millions of people.
Drawing on cutting-edge research, Drs. Ratey and Johnson challenge the most basic beliefs of our mental health professionals by uncovering the biological factors that often determine our personalities. They use real-life case studies to illustrate how shadow syndromes affect our everyday lives and how they can be treated--often dramatically--with diet, exercise, psychotherapy, and medication.
Shadow Syndromes is the revolutionary theory that sheds light on our life-limiting behaviors and offers the essential tools for changing them. This book will liberate you and those you love.
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Insightful observations, well written.......2007-03-27
I was familiar with John Ratey due to his involvement with Dr. Hallowell in books like "Driven to distraction" however I had never read any thing written by Dr. Ratey himself. I found his book surprisingly informative. This book is an easy read even for the lay-person.His explainations are easy to follow and understand. I have referanced this book several times when writting about mental conditions and sharing information with other who are intersted in mental health. As some one who is very familiar with mental conditions and mood disorders I found this book to be unique in it's presentation and ideas. Dr.Ratey does a wonderful job of bridging the gap between those who have sever mental conditions and those of us who are functional but still struggle with social expectations. I found his writing to be informative without being depressive or bias. I highly recommend for any one curious about mood disorders or various temperaments. One of a kind, very original.
Cultivate your shadow hypochondriasis.......2006-11-10
Shadows Syndromes is a worthy read, in that it does a good job of highlighting the major disconnect between diagnostic categories and reality. While the DSM model has its uses (research and billing being the only two I can think of right now), it also serves to reify the notion that mental illnesses are precise, discreet disorders. Any one with an ounce of clinic experience will tell you that real cases don't fit neatly into categories. The diagnostic questions sometimes help think through and organize the presenting concerns, signs and symptoms. But often the debate over whether someone is suffering from a pure mood disorder versus PTSD versus character pathology serves as a distraction. Or , another classic example: spinning wheels arguing whether a patient is an addict with psychiatric symptoms secondary to drug abuse or are they actually someone with a primary psychiatric diagnosis who is using substances to self-medicate their mental illness. It's a meaningless exercise based on an overly simplistic model. But that one does matter because insurance companies consider one of those scenarios worth paying to treat and the other worthy only of their contempt.
In reality, just like any other organ in the body, the brain mediates a number of functions. It is responsible for mood regulation, memory, sustaining attention, shifting attention, interpreting social cues, integrating sensory information, regulating motivation of all manner of behaviors, and impulse control, to name a few. We all have various strengths and weaknesses, and we all fall somewhere on a bell-shaped curve for performance of each of these various tasks. People who shake out on the extremes ends in one particular area probably look like textbook definitions of specific illnesses (a "pure" mood disorder with no other comorbidities). That's rare. Looking at it even just from this sort of statistical model, one would expect that, for any given disorder, the number of people who unmistakably qualify for a specific diagnosis would be just a fraction of those who almost qualify. These "subclinical" cases are what Drs. Ratey and Johnson refer to as "shadow syndromes." They go a step further and assert that these people actually suffer more from mental illness, because they slip through the cracks. They are not quite sick enough to find themselves needing treatment, but they are impaired by their symptoms.
It's an important perspective that is explained in simple, readable terms in the first part of the text. The second part then breaks the shadow syndromes down into specific "mild" mental illnesses based on the traditional categories. So just imagine how densely the comorbidities can layer now. Is there anyone motivated to pick up this book that won't conclude that they have masked depression, are slightly bipolar, have a subthreshold intermittent rage disorder, mild attention deficit disorder, a touch of "autistic echoes" and are a shadow addicts? Then what are the implications? Does everyone need to be in therapy? Does everyone need to be on a finely tuned psychopharmacological regimen and a behavior plan?
I recommend this book, I think it's well-written and thought provoking. It does succeed in explaining complex issues in a way that is understandable to people outside the field without being simplistic or dull to people within the field. That's a tough line to walk. And I like the emphasis on blurry boundaries to disorders, and the overall message of understanding how your brain works, what your relative strengths and weaknesses are and how to make the best of things. But I worry that the take-home message for many will be to feel these diagnostic categories expanding, billowing out of their margins, pathologizing every aspects of our humanity as it envelopes us. While it gets at the true complexity of these disorders, it also does so with the bias that mental illness primarily a Biological phenomenon. Perhaps this is to combat social stigma and people's assumptions that these deficiencies are due to personal weakness (or- just as damaging- all to be blamed on bad mothering). Or perhaps, it's that, as we learn more about these disorders (which we are doing at a rapid rate thanks to the new abundance of genetic data and advances in brain scanning that lets investigators see brain regions light up as they work), we learn more about the biological aspects, since that is what we are looking for and trained to interpret. So, now the authors expand the scope of these diagnoses and therefore lead us to the conclusion that more people could benefit from psychopharmacologic treatments. It's a nice book to recommend to your patients if you take only self-pay patients and only do psychopharm visits. But it skims over the real beauty of psychiatry, the reason it is the most intellectually challenging field in medicine and the most rewarding specialty to practice, which is the multifactorial, composite nature of everything our brain is and does at any moment. No doubt the genetics shape the brain, as does the metabolic and endocrine factors in the uterine environment during development, as does nutritional factors, and then near infinite environemental variables acting constantly on each individual. From things as foundational as the fit in temperament between primary caregiver and baby, all the way out to religion and culture. From the preconscious memories of the earliest childhood experiences all the way out to this morning's headline news.
You can take the best brain in the world, if there is such a thing, but I guarantee the individual possessing it will be no healthier than the families, systems, and societies they inhabit.
So thumbs up for a great read, and a perspective that broadens our view of the mind and mental illness. Too bad they interpret the new landscapes with tunnel vision, but it's to their credit that they left me wanting more.
I have found it very useful.......2006-01-22
A friend lent me this book in Portuguese, which is my native tongue, and I found it so good and useful that decided to try to find it in English to send to friends I have abroad to whom the informations it contains might be also useful, and help them in their daily life. So I was very glad to find it at Amazon and bought two volumes. I do hope they've enjoyed it as much as I and the friend whom first lent it to me did.
Gave me hope.......2005-07-14
Psychological problems due to having been developmentally disabled.
And then I read this and ...
I cannot recommend this book enough. This and the other book by J. Ratey, User's Guide to the Brain
Good Explanations of Personality Differences.......2005-04-21
This book clarifies many aspects of our personalities, helping us to understand why many mental disorders are just one extreme in a continuous range of types, and provides some hints as to why many of those types have advantages and disadvantages that would explain why such a range of personalities ought to exist.
I especially enjoyed their theory about how a smaller cerebellum could explain a number of different symptoms of a nerdy (mildly autistic) personality. I suspect it isn't exactly right, but it explains a good deal more than any alternative I've seen.
One warning - this isn't very valuable as a self-help book. It should be read mainly to improve your understanding of the human mind, not as a means of changing it.
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