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Developed by two master clinicians with extensive experience in cognitive therapy treatment and training, this popular workbook shows readers how to improve their lives using cognitive therapy--one of the most effective and widely practiced forms of psychotherapy. The book is designed to be used alone or in conjunction with professional treatment. Step-by-step worksheets teach specific skills that have helped thousands of people conquer depression, panic attacks, anxiety, anger, guilt, shame, low self-esteem, eating disorders, substance abuse and relationship problems. Readers learn to use mood questionnaires to identify, rate, and track changes in feelings; change the thoughts that contribute to problems; follow step-by-step strategies to improve moods; and take action to improve daily living and relationships. The book's large-size format and lay-flat binding facilitate reading and writing ease.
Customer Reviews:
Very Pleased.......2007-10-24
I am very pleased with this book. I'm only two chapters in but I like it so far. It was recommended as a workbook by my therapist. Easy to read. I do recommend.
Worth Reading and Doing.......2007-08-04
The principles it expounds are sound and the practices it prescribes are effective and beneficial. In a nutshell: it works.
That said, we are fortunate to have a better alternative for an individual who wishes to self-treat, without the assistance of a therapist. The magisterial book, _The Feeling Good Handbook_, by David D. Burns is one of those once-in-a-lifetime works which has no peer.
Both books share the same perspective on changing how you feel. As other reviewers have mentioned, _Mind Over Mood_'s basic tool is called a "thought record." You are instructed to change the way you think by writing down your thoughts and feelings in the thought record. You then identify the evidence for and against your thoughts. You conclude by writing a more balanced view of things.
The primary method of the thought record is looking at the evidence which supports or conflicts with your thoughts.
The basic tool of Burns's book is called a "daily mood log." This tool bears some resemblance to the thought record but there are subtle differences. Whereas Greenberger and Padesky have you critique your thoughts solely in terms of the evidence for and against them, Burns provides you with a more varied toolbox. He has identified a list of ways that we systematically distort our thinking. For example, we might get down on ourselves or others by using the words "should," or "must," or "ought." I might feel bad when I tell myself that "I should have turned left instead of right when I got off the highway." A more balanced thought would be, "I would have preferred that I had turned left and I can accept myself for having turned right." When I develop the habit of examining my thoughts and replacing them with more balanced thoughts, my mood brightens.
I currently am following Greenberger and Padesky's method in that I have done at least one of their thought records daily for 60 days. I haven't done one of Burns's daily mood logs for a few years. But I found Burns's mood logs to be a better method for improving my mood and I plan on rereading Burns's book soon.
_Mind Over Mood_ is an excellent book. I recommend you read it and practice it. If you could only buy one book, I would recommend you buy Burns's book. But most of us have the ability to buy more than one book and _Mind Over Mood_ is certainly worth studying.
MIND OVER MOOD.......2007-06-27
I love this book! It is a great resource and very easy to follow. It has helped me tremendously. Teresa
Mind over mood.......2007-05-13
I am currently working with the book in conjunction with CBT (Cognitive behaviour Therapy) I was reccommended the book by my therapist. I am finding the book extremely helpful . I think everyone should have a copy whether they are working on themselves with a professional or not. I am learning new life skills. Excellent stuff
Great Book!.......2007-05-13
My Psychologist recommended this book to me. I ordered it the next day and received it within the week. It has helped me tremendously. I would recommend it to anyone who suffers from depression or any other mood disorder. I would also suggest that a loved one of someone described above read this book also.
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- Stop Walking on Eggshells
- Good Real Life Examples But With A Lot of Redundancy
- BPD
- How to Live With a Borderline Without Going Crazy
- Eggshells is a great book plus another recommendation
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Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
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Stop Walking on Eggshells: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a self-help guide that helps the family members and friends of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive disorder and learn what they can do to cope with it and take care of themselves. It is designed to help them understand how the disorder affects their loved ones and recognize what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves.
Customer Reviews:
Stop Walking on Eggshells.......2007-10-19
I haven't finished this book yet. So far I have recieved information that has been valueable. I really think the book will be a great source of information and reference for me.
Good Real Life Examples But With A Lot of Redundancy.......2007-10-15
Having a parent with BPD, it was comforting to read the stories of other children and parents coping with similar issues in the examples offered by the authors. However, I found the authors efforts to analyze these real world examples to be overly simplistic. I would still recommend this book to others who have family members with BPD, because of the isolating nature of this disorder.
BPD.......2007-10-06
As a parent of a BPD this is absolutely helpful, and was recommended by our Dr. However it can be depressing as this disorder can wreck havok on your life.
How to Live With a Borderline Without Going Crazy.......2007-10-06
As a Clinical Psychologist who works with BPD (and lived with one) I don't know of another book that is more helpful to the spouse or family of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. It provides both reassurance (that they are not "making it all up") and helpful guidance for how to best handle their Borderline loved one, most notably the importance of "mirroring" unacceptable behavior and limit setting, while reminding them of the BPD's constant never-ending need for their own reassurance. For torn between the deepest fears of abandonment and of being controlled, BPD's are perpetual tornadoes of emotion without the ability to regulate it. So while this book isn't as helpful as others regarding the psychotherapy BPD's need (cf. psychodynamic or dialetical behavior therapy), it is the best one available to help families deal with their loved one's inability to handle strong negative emotion and their marked swings between extreme passion and semi-psychotic distortions, the most notable being the accusations that they are "controlling" the BPD loved one. The only thing I would have added would be an index, though I use the book so much I ended up making my own.
Eggshells is a great book plus another recommendation.......2007-10-01
Eggshells is a great book. It is full of helpful advice when you have a friend that suffers from BPD. It helps a layman understand the disorder and ways to protect yourself from the emotional demands of someone with BPD. It helped me a great deal understand not only the condition of BPD but also how caring for someone with BPD effected me in regards to my emotional health. Eggshells further gives assistance in recognizing certain red flags when a person with BPD is breaking down your boundaries and emotionally sucking you into their world. The book is very sympathetic to the reader and gives a very understanding view to the person that suffers from BPD. It is a one of the foundation books referred by therapist to assist people with weak boundaries or someone trying to deal with a friend that suffers from BPD. I wholeheartedly recommend the book and suggest keeping it close by as you will refer to it often.
Another book about BPD I would strongly recommend is One Way Ticket To Kansas: Caring About Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder And Finding A Healthy You. This book presents a more personal view as it addresses the emotional impact of BPD on the partner (spouse, romantic relationship, significant other). It includes the diagnosis criteria in easy to understand terms, ways to rebuild your self esteem, and gives a very touching personal story of the author that describes the impact and disorder progression of having a wife diagnosed with BPD.
In a book market with very few helpful books to explain BPD and its impact in laymans terms, these two books stand above the rest. I strongly recommend picking up copies of Stop Walking on Eggshells and One Way Ticket and keeping them close. You will find youself referring to them often for validation and advice. You may also want to look into some online support groups for people effected by having a loved one diagnosed or suspected to have BPD. Godspeed, keep you head up, and know that you will be strong enough to make the right decisions for yourself.
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Ways That Dr. Weisinger's Anger Work-out Book Will Work for You:
- Gives you better health
- Improves your self-esteem
- Helps you develop healthy, intimate, and trustworthy relationships
- Increases your work efficiency
- Makes you a more effective parent
- Improves your sex life
- Increases your problem solving abilities
- Puts you in charge of your emotions
- Gives you better communication skills
- Reduces stress
- Teaches you how to deal effectively with your feelings
- Increases your daily energy level
- Eliminates self-defeating behavior
- Enhances your family life
Customer Reviews:
Amazingly practical!!.......2006-10-23
As recommended by my graduate instructor, I used this book as a resource for my counseling internship and have helped me devise exercises for clients with anger management problems. It addresses the different angles of anger - including nutrition! in the most user-friendly and accessible manner. It is chock-full of practical steps designed to address different sets of client needs. Do not be fooled by the date of publication - this book is as current today as it was when it was first published.
Works if you really want to change........2006-10-12
One of the finest, if not the finest book of its kind. People who are interested in this item need to understand that it requires actual effort, and the results are usually going to be correlated to the effort put in.
A very practical, helpful and effective workbook........1999-11-10
This workbook is a very effective, practical and useful tool to better understand and manage anger. As with all self-help workbooks, the reader must be serious about learning or fixing their own anger problem. I found it very relieving and a source of peace to finally have a solution to the problem of anger.I coupled it with my Christian beliefs and found it effective. The author understands the problem and deals with it in on-nonsense fashion. But, the reader must WORK at the process. If you're angery and don't know why or if you're angry and want to fix the problem, save the $110.00 per hour you'll pay a shrink and do this book first...they are probably copying his outline anyway!
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We've all heard of "IQ"...but what's "EQ?" It's "Emotional Quotient" (aka Emotional Intelligence), and experts say that EQ is a greater predictor of success at work than IQ. Companies are increasingly looking for ways to motivate and develop their employees' emotional intelligence. This book presents trainers and coaches with 50 innovative exercises to be used for either individuals or groups.
The activities found in the book are grouped according to the various core competencies associated with Emotional Intelligence:
* Self-Awareness and Control: an awareness of one's values, emotions, skills, and drives, and the ability to control one's emotional responses * Empathy: an understanding of how others perceive situations * Social Expertness: the ability to build relationships based on an assumption of human equality * Mastery of Vision: the development and communication of a personal philosophy
The book also includes suggested training combinations and coaching tips.
Customer Reviews:
Some useful activities.......2006-11-05
I like the emphasis of this book - if you're someone who runs workshops, then this is a catalog of ideas complete with how to set it up, how to conduct it, and so on. It does not go into EQ theory, just practical modules for seminars and workshops. I use it quite a bit in my work. The only reason I gave it 4 instead of 5 stars is that there is a lot of emphasis on teamwork issues, and there isn't enough on understanding the specific techniques of empathy or managing self.
Not what I expected.......2006-08-30
I don't recommend this book unless you are looking for the same old stuff
Not useful at home.......2005-09-29
These activities are clearly for use at work when you are the boss. Not useful anywhere else.
Exclusively for leaders.......2004-10-14
The book contains some good activities, but the fact that they are ONLY for use with those in leadership positions was not reflected in the title. If you're looking for EQ activities for leadership development, this would be a useful book. Otherwise, look elsewhere.
MORE A BOOK ON GUIDE QUESTIONS THAN ACTIVITIES.......2004-06-21
I was disappointed with this book. Most of the activities were introspective questions (pencil and paper tests).
I was expecting activities that participants can use to improve their EQ. It was not like that at all. I wouldn't recommend this book to trainers who are looking for activities to make their EQ based workshops more interactive.
Perhaps that is the reason why no sample of the "activities" were included in the preview of the book.
Book Description
It's hard to be five.
Just yelled at my brother.
My mind says do one thing.
My mouth says another.
It's fun to be five!
Big changes are here!
My body's my car,
and I'm licensed to steer.
Learning not to hit? Having to wait your turn? Sitting still? It's definitely hard to be five. But Jamie Lee Curtis's encouraging text and Laura Cornell's playful illustrations make the struggles of self-control a little bit easier and a lot more fun!
This is the sixth inspired book from the #1
New York Times best-selling team of
Today I Feel Silly: & Other Moods That Make My Day and
I'm Gonna Like Me: Letting Off a Little Self Esteem.
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Parents Beware.......2007-10-17
I did not even get so far as READING this book. As a parent trying to see through my kids eyes I did the first thing a kid at this age reading level would do. I looked at the pictures first. We have a boy playing in the dirt NAKED burying his little brother up to his chin, a little boy lying on his back NAKED with his private part covered by an exclamation point from the text, and a little girl holding the front of her dress up for the 5 year old reader to view her girly little underpants. How is this book appropriate?? This was a book my kindergarten child checked out from his school library. I sent it back post hast. If I ever see this book come home again it will not be returning to the library. It will go straight in the trash.
My 5-year old is just like the kid in this book...........2007-05-31
My son is 5 and he loves this book. It captures the essence of a 5-year old perfectly. He loves to study the pictures and he tapes things on the wall with 20 pieces of tape just like the kid in the book does! We've been reading it every night before bedtime.
It's Hard to Be Five, It's Great to have this book.......2007-03-09
My five year old quickly made this one of her favorite books. We read it together almost every night. Jamie Lee Curtis once again has delighted my family with humor, wit and a glimpse a child's world.
mother of a 5 yr old.......2007-01-12
My son turned 5 in September and I bought this for him for Christmas. It's now the middle of January and we have read that book every night since Christmas day. He loves it. It starts out talking about the difficulties, but ends with the positives of being five. Good book.
My son loves this book!.......2007-01-10
He loved this book and wanted to read it all the time. Even when he turned six, he still wanted to hear the story!
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- Practical divorce advice
- Important book, along with...
- Very Informative, but deceptively biased
- Extensive Information
- The DEFINITIVE Divorce Guidebook
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Your Divorce Advisor : A Lawyer and a Psychologist GuideYou Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce
Diana Mercer , and
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A lawyer and a psychologist offer a groundbreaking divorce strategy that protects both your finances and your family.
From your first thought of divorce through the final paperwork, Your Divorce Advisor takes you step by step toward a divorce that dissolves the marriage but not your dignity, your sense of family, or your financial security. Whether you hire a lawyer or a mediator, or do it yourself, this practical, direct, and empowering guide offers you the wise counsel you need for both the legal and the emotional processes of ending your marriage.
Your Divorce Advisor shows you how to:
- Keep a healthy perspective that leads to a successful legal strategy and recognize when emotions threaten your case
- Protect your assets without destroying your family
Offering:
- Detailed coverage of all your legal options and guidance through every legal step, including anticipating the emotional repercussions of your decisions
- More information on custody than any other divorce book, including age-appropriate custody schedules
- A sample divorce agreement explained one paragraph at a time
Your Divorce Advisor helps you set yourself and your
family on a positive course toward a new life.
Download Description
This is the first book to focus on the concerns, fears, and futures of everyone involved in a divorce. With vital legal information and sound psychological advice, it takes readers chronologically through the divorce process and explains how to manage every step without losing emotional control, traumatizing young children, or jeopardizing the goal of reaching an agreement that will stand the test of time. Written by a matrimonial attorney and a clinical psychologist who specializes in family counseling, and featuring sidebars and highlighted sections for easy reference, Your Divorce Advisor covers all the legal and psychological aspects of divorce, including: -- Understanding your legal options and starting the legal process -- Preparing your family for what's ahead -- Negotiating with your spouse without hurting yourself or your children -- Preparing for a trial -- Dealing with the inevitable emotional conflicts among family members Divorce is a complex, stressful, and life-changing experience for both adults and children. Your Divorce Advisor will reduce the anger and pain 1.4 million American families face each year and set them on a path to a positive future.
Customer Reviews:
Practical divorce advice.......2007-04-17
Interesting book coming from both the perspective of the divorce lawyer and a psychologist. Some good, solid advice here. While going through a divorce you should gather as much information as possible and know how to protect yourself both emotionally and financially.
Seven Secrets to a Successful Divorce
Important book, along with..........2006-01-04
Divorce is one of the most grueling experiences anyone can go through, and this book is a great guide for easing the challenges. The book is packed with information on the legal and emotional issues that are likely to arise -- and how to deal with them. The topics span the board, from making the initial decision, to preparing for trial, to how to talk with the kids about it all.
THe authors have a section on negotiating with your spouse, and I think that that is essential. They mention the work of Harvard's Roger Fisher, who just published a new book that you don't want to miss if you're dealing with divorce. The book is 'Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as you Negotiate.' (The chapters on autonomy and appreciation struck a chord with me and offered great advice.)
Very Informative, but deceptively biased.......2005-07-03
After reading many, many studies on the subject of divorce, support and custody, and also personally being a single father for 13 years with sole custody of 3 children and also being a non-custodial parent of one younger child I feel I can comment objectively on this book.
First off, it is clearly very well written, covers almost all aspects of its subject and uniquely combines views from an emotional point of view as well as legal point of view. It also strives to be unbiased and provide clear representation of both parents. I do recommend this book but do so with one caveat (hence my rating of 3 stars rather than 5).
The book is riddled with hidden biases in favor of Mom rather than Dad and the reader should be cognizant of that. Also, it is not clear that all aspects of studies are clearly represented. i.e., both sides. The tricky thing is that both sides are mentioned but even when there is a preponderance of studies favoring one side, it seems the authors may lean towards the other side. A fairer presentation of studies supporting both sides would be really beneficial (particularly on child custody, visitation, overnights, bonding, etc.). Many of the studies are represented in summary form and as such remove a lot of important context.
A good example of a hidden bias:
"The Paradox requires that parents take into careful consideration how well their children are able to tolerate separation from their mother, the child's temperament, and the strength of the father-child bond prior to divorce, and weigh all this against the likelihood of the father staying in the child's life...." Page 203 - determining custody arrangements.
This seems like a very objective statement but upon closer examination it is clear that the authors are concerned with whether the child(ren) can tolerate separation from mom but never question whether or not the child(ren) can handle the separation from dad or what that impact might be. In addition, it questions the father-child bond but never suggestions that the mother-child bond should be evaluated as well in such a determination. The phrase ends with us weighing all of this against whether or not it is likely that dad will stay in the picture - again, what about mom. Studies are increasingly showing that even when mom has full custody of her children she can be less than a model parent for a variety of reasons.
Here's another:
"The amount of time between father and child is important because it facilitates a closer parent child relationship. But time does not automatically equal closeness. The quality of time spent and the level of involvement .... are ... more important." Also Page 203 - determining custody arrangements.
Again - sounds objective enough but actually why is this represented only in terms of dad. Isn't this statement true for moms as well? Phrased as written there is an assumption that mother time does equal closeness and that it is automatically quality otherwise why point this out only for fathers during a discussion on custody which should be gender neutral. If the term was written with parent in place of father then it would be truly objective. As written it supports the notion that moms are custodial parents and dads are visitors - and not to worry about the amount of time dads spend - but worry about the quality of time they spend. So to be fair, don't worry about the time mom spends with the children, just the quality of time she spends - thereby freeing up large amounts of time for dad and children.
These are only 2 examples but please read this book with caution, such biases are sprinkled all through out the book (perhaps because the authors are both moms) and amongst a backdrop of authority, general objectivity and mastery of the subject matter which makes them all the more dangerous.
Extensive Information.......2005-04-23
This book is filled with extensive information. With over 60% of the population getting divorced, this subject should no longer be taboo.
Barbara Donahue, Author of "The Anti-Rules, Now That
You've Got Him, How Do You Get Rid Of Him"
The DEFINITIVE Divorce Guidebook.......2005-04-04
"Your Marriage Advisor: A Lawyer and Psychologist Guide You Through the Emotional Landscape of Divorce" by Diane Mercer and Marsha Klein Pruitt is arguably the most respectable and comprehensive guidebook on Divorce out there in the market place. The co-authored divorce guide, written by a divorce mediator and a research scientist in child study, takes you on an informative and rational ride through the entire divorce process, both the legal and psychological aspects of it. Imbued with positive energy, the authors breathed a much needed breeze of fresh air in an area where bickering and revenge is rife, highlighting that "the best strategy is to take care of yourself and your family, especially your children...this is truly your mantra".
Complete with case studies and extensive discussion from the A-Z of all that you need to know on the divorce procedure/psyche, the book is well-balanced where the authors weighed the pros and cons of oft-repeated tactics, not least stressing ad nauseam that retaliation and lying to get your way as non-viable options. It is one of those rare self-help books where the humanity and sterling character of the authors shined through as readers are constantly reminded how divorce is a no-win scenario to all and how one should best move on from the unpalatable situation in one piece. This book is a gem amidst the universe of divorce guides advocating revenge, male/female bashing and dirty tricks. Equipped with knowledge from this book, readers could save their sanity and their children's, not least money on oftentimes deficient advice from attorneys who have their own agendas to meet. This book is good place to start when confronted by the "D" word and is placed right on top of the priority must-read list if you have just time for one.
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Do you have rushes of fear accompanied by a pounding heart, trembling, dizziness, and feelings of unreality that make you think you're sick, dying, or losing your mind? Do these feelings interfere with your normal daily routine, or prevent you from doing things you would normally do? If you are prone to panic attacks and constantly worry about when the next attack may come, you may suffer from panic disorder and/or agoraphobia. Though panic disorder seems irrational and uncontrollable, it has been proven that a treatment like the one outlined in this book can help you take control of your life. Now in its 4th edition, Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic, Workbook/I has been updated to include strategies and techniques for dealing with both panic disorder and agoraphobia. The program outlined is based on the principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and is organized by skill, with each chapter building on the one before it. You will learn the importance of record-keeping and monitoring your progress, as well as breathing techniques and thinking skills. The main focus of treatment involves learning how to face agoraphobic situations and the scary physical symptoms of panic from an entirely new perspective. Self-assessment quizzes, homework exercises, and interactive forms allow you to become an active participant in your treatment. Over time, you will learn to manage your panic attacks, anxiety about panic, and avoidance of panic and agoraphobic situations. This workbook is a one-of-a-kind resource that has been recommended for use by public health services around the world. It allows you to work alongside your therapist to personalize your treatment strategy and learn recovery skills that are useful for a lifetime.
Customer Reviews:
If you are committed to curing yourself get this workbook..........2007-07-02
Hi.
I've suffered on and off from acute generalized anxiety and panic attacks for the last 7 years.
After 4 weeks of following this workbook I am now feeling better than I have for quite some time and am making definite confident inroads into a freeing myself from this debilitating condition.
Let me first point out that this is NOT a "magic pill" (I've searched years for such and they don't exist). This workbook will take time and effort on your part. The end result however will be a life free of anxiety and panic and a trail back to feeling, thinking and acting "normal" again.
This workbook is much more simple to understand and follow compared to other CBT books I've read (and there are many). The steps are very easy to follow and the principles have been reduced down to their bare elements which I found helped enormously when dealing with issues amid panic and anxiety. Most importantly though, through constant practice and "homework" it en grains the thinking and ultimately bends our irrational beliefs/fears back to where they should be. Normal!
I've been following the program through with a psychologist who practices CBT and have found this beneficial. That said though, I'm also of the firm belief that it's been 90% my own work which has made the difference so if you aren't able to afford or have problems seeing someone I'm still convinced this workbook will work wonders for you.
In short this is a fantastic workbook which has changed life for me and will for you if you have the guts to make a commitment, accept some changes and start living again to your full potential.
If I can so can you!
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Praise For WHEN THE BODY SAYS NO
"Once thought to be in the domain of genes, our health and behavior have recently been revealed to be controlled by our perception of the environment and our beliefs. Gabor Maté, M.D., skillfully blends recent advances in biomedicine with the personal insights of his patients to provide empowering insight into how deeply developmental experiences shape our health, behavior, attitudes, and relationships. A must-read for health professionals and lay readers seeking awareness of how the mind controls health."
-- Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., cellular biologist
"The interviewees' stories are often touching and haunting. . . . Maté carefully explains the biological mechanisms that are activated when stress and trauma exert a powerful influence on the body, and he backs up his claims with compelling evidence from the field. . . . Both the lay and specialist reader will be grateful for the final chapter, `The Seven A's of Healing,' in which Maté presents an open formula for healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress."
-- Quill & Quire
"Medical science searches high and low for the causes of cancer, multiple sclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, chronic fatigue syndrome, and a host of other conditions. Yet it often ignores one of the most pervasive factors leading to illness: the hidden stresses embedded in our daily lives. In this important book, Dr. Gabor Maté combines a passionate examination of his patients' life histories with lucid explanations of the science behind mind-body unity. He makes a compelling argument for the importance of understanding stress both in the causation of disease and in the restoration of health."
-- Richard Earle, Ph.D.
Director of the Canadian Institute of Stress/ Hans Selye Foundation
Praise For SCATTERED
"One of the most comprehensive and accessible books about Attention Deficit Disorder."
-- Publishers Weekly (starred review)
"Utterly sensible and deeply moving."
-- The Vancouver Sun
Customer Reviews:
For everyone who is concerned about their health.......2006-03-25
This book is fascinating! It has information that we all know intuitively but is good to see all the studies that have been done that confirm the facts. I am reading it very slowly, even putting it down to read a novel, then picked it up again. It is intense but forces me to look at how I relate to all those I love.
The Best Book I've Seen on Mindbody Causes of Illness.......2005-01-03
Life and society put an endless series of demands and requests on us. If we can't or won't say "no" to some of them, our bodies may say no for us, by getting sick or even dying. This is not a new idea. Many healers have taught it, and many books, including my own "Art of Getting Well" have described it.
But Gabor Mate explains it better than anyone, with powerful scientific evidence and moving stories to back it up. This Vancouver physician and health writer gives us the latest research on how emotions, thoughts, the nervous system, immune system and hormones work together to create health or illness. He interviewed more than 100 patients with various conditions, and he shows how always giving in to others and denying our own wants and needs makes us vulnerable to a wide variety of illness.
If you or someone you love is living with an autoimmune disease, an inflammatory condition, or cancer, you may find this book powerful and healing. If you are a health professional looking for better ways to help people with these "incurable" illnesses, you may find it here. If you just want to know more about body and mind and how they work, if you want to be entertained and moved, this book is for you. I wouldn't necessarily say buy it INSTEAD of Art of Getting Well, but they're complementary, and they're both great reading.
At times, I felt that Dr. Mate must have read my diary. The stories he tells of people with multiple sclerosis, ALS and other autoimmune diseases all sounded familiar. I'm pretty sure that my own inability to say no - to be open about my own fears and desires - contributed to my MS, although there were many other causes.
Gabor Mate sees the big picture-the combination of genes, physical and social environment, stresses and behaviors that lead to health problems. He doesn't blame us for not standing up for ourselves. He understands and explains the family dynamics and social forces that make it hard to say "No," even when our lives depend on it. He says, "Personality does not cause disease. Stress does. If we speak of a disease-prone personality, it is only in the sense that certain traits - in particular, the repression of anger - increase the amount of stress."
He knows, for example, that many of us feel guilty when we say no to others' demands, and he wants us get over it. He says, "For many people, guilt is a signal that they have chosen to do something for themselves. If you face a choice between feeling guilt and feeling resentful, choose the guilt every time. Resentment is soul suicide."
I had read a lot on PNI, or psychoneuroimmunology, the science of mindbody medicine. But I never understood exactly how these organs and cells all communicated and worked together until I read When The Body Says No. Mate has a gift for explaining difficult concepts in simple language. You will learn a lot, even if you don't completely buy the central idea.
A couple of criticisms - I wish he had written more about economic and political factors that make saying no difficult. The less power you have, the harder it is to protect yourself. Obviously, you can't say no if you're a slave. I write about the power aspects of disease in my new book, The Politics of Diabetes (out in 2006).
But a lot of people have lost their power not by being severely oppressed, but by things that happened to them in their childhood, even their infancy. There may be things we can do to reclaim some of our power and regain the freedom to say no. We may help ourselves heal in this way.
"When the Body Says No" is strong on these issues but doesn't give a lot of advice on what to do about them. The last chapter, the 7 A's of healing, provides some hints. The A's are Acceptance, Awareness, Anger, Autonomy, Attachment, Assertion, and Affirmation. Most of these get fairly short introductions, but I found the section on anger extremely valuable. Anger can be a life-giving force, or it can be a killer if suppressed or acted out as rage. We need to get in touch with the energy of anger and use it to empower ourselves and make needed changes. The other A's could have used some fleshing out, in my opinion.
As someone who has been immersed in mindbody medicine personally and professionally for 20 years, I recommend this book to all of you. It has meant more to me than anything I have read in this area for a long time.
David Spero RN. www.davidsperorn.com
Great Book.......2004-12-05
I disagree with the reviewer who said that this book does not offer solutions. Again and again the author reports that people need to be heard, and need to stop repressing emotions to get well. As a counselor working with battered women, I was amazed at the number of them who also had auto-immune disorders such as fibromyalgia. This book is a must read.
Proves a connection, but offers no tools to correct things. .......2004-10-28
I wanted to love this book because I think the theory of how stress affects the body is sound. However, I could not love this book because although the books seems to show connection between stress and frailties or illness in the body, it fails to help us learn how to effect change and find solutions. It is filled with many discouraging examples of patients with extraordinary problems, but not with success stories, not with stories of achievement, not with stories of people beating these problems, not with solutions that could turn the tables in the favor of the patient. Knowing a problem is one thing, and I believe most of us who purchase this book already believe the connection of stress and disease exists, however, we really need tools and solutions to understand how to change things. It could have been a great book, a best selling book, if that was included. I'm extremely disappointed.
Bravo! An aspect of healing that is grossly overlooked........2003-06-02
When the body says no is one of the most enlightening books I have read on the subject of living with cronic illness.
After re-reading this book a few times, I find myself looking at my own life very differently in a very positive and hopeful way.
Gabore makes some otherwise very complicated issues very readable for everyone.
If anyone suffers from any type of cronic illness or pain, this is definitely a must read.
Thank You Gabore.
Book Description
How does emotional intelligence as a competency go beyond the individual to become something a group or entire organization can build and utilize collectively? Written primarily by members of the Consortium for Research on Emotional Intelligence in Organizations, founded by recognized EI experts Daniel Goleman and Cary Cherniss, this groundbreaking compendium examines the conceptual and strategic issues involved in defining, measuring and promoting emotional intelligence in organizations. The book's contributing authors share fifteen models that have been field-tested and empirically validated in existing organizations. They also detail twenty-two guidelines for promoting emotional intelligence and outline a variety of measurement strategies for assessing emotional and social competence in organizations.
Customer Reviews:
Valid Scientific Writing - misses detailed "How To" answers.......2001-10-17
After being disappointed by Cary Cherniss' book on "promoting" emotional intelligence, I was rather reluctant to spend money on this one, so I ordered a used copy through Amazon (very satisfactory: the copy I got was as good as new). I must say that I find my money well spent. In fact, the only reason why this book doesn't get 5 stars is that it's too scientific for practical application.
For instance, chapter 5 is correct to point out that most tests don't measure emotional intelligence, BUT emotional competence, and then goes on to warn us that a test as Bar-on's EQi test certainly has disadvantages, given it is a self-administered test (In my experience, self-administration of EQ-like tests is particularly dangerous for recruiting and other forms of evaluation). Of course, then the question becomes: BUT I want to test EQ in the context of work, how can I do this in a reliable fashion? You'll find the answer halfway chapter 6, which indicates that Behavior Event Interviews will do the trick (I agree with this, since that's what I experienced as well). Unfortunately, you won't find what kind of questions to ask during such an interview, let alone examples of how to do it.
Also, I was glad that the author of chapter 8 pointed out the same pitfalls of hiring senior executives I have been warning companies for. The suggestions that were outline come close to what we have been doing for several customers, but again the real, practical how to's are missing.
The chapters on training emotional intelligence in part three of the book were more useful than the book "Promoting E.I.", so there is no need at all to buy that other book anymore. Once again, these 4 chapters contain many of the messages one should have when working to develop EQ.
My critique: Except the scientific parts, I found that many of the more practical things this book covers, are "old messages" that can be found in works of Boyatzis, McClelland, Prochaska, Spencer and Spencer, ...
Conclusion? Buy this book if you need a solid scientific basis for your knowledge of emotional intelligence. As far as the how-to's are concerned, this book will serve very well as an outline and a checklist by which one can evaluate the quality of work delivered by a consultant - however, it's not enough to really go out there and "just do it". On the other hand, if you are a consultant recruiting or training for emotional intelligence, this is a MUST READ. Don't get caught not knowing what's in here!...
Book Description
Human interaction is never flawless. Even the best relationships produce tension and at times, unpleasant emotions. Since organizations are comprised of people, all organizations generate emotional pain as part of the process of doing business: producing new products on tight deadlines, setting benchmarks for performance, creating budgets, crafting company policies, and so on. Getting the job done is rarely painless. But when emotional pain goes unmanaged or is poorly handled, it can negatively affect both employees and the bottom line—in essence, it becomes toxic. In Toxic Emotions at Work and What to Do About Them, Peter J. Frost argues that the way an organization responds to pain determines whether it remains toxic or becomes generative, whether it endures as a debilitating poison or is transformed into a force for healthy organizations.
According to Frost, when ignored, toxic emotions betray employees’ hopes, bruise their egos, reduce their enthusiasm for work, and diminish their sense of connectedness to their company’s community and goals. Compassionate responses to pain, on the other hand, encourage those who are suffering to effect constructive changes in their work lives. Despite their powerful role in employee performance, toxic emotions are rarely addressed by organizations. Instead, most companies respond to pain informally and unconsciously through self-selected individuals whom Frost calls “toxin handlers.” Typically a senior manager or someone with a high emotional intelligence capacity, toxin handlers soften the blow of emotional pain for others, but over the course of time, absorb much of the pain they handle to their own detriment. They are often unrecognized, unrewarded, and poorly supported by their organizations. And, while they often provide a temporary relief from the symptoms of toxic organizational pain, toxin handlers alone are unable to eradicate toxic emotions for the long-term.
Toxic Emotions at Work and What to Do About Them suggebeststhat handling toxic emotions effectively is an important, though unrecognized set of competencies that must be understood and embraced—not only by toxin handlers, but by leaders, managers, and the organization as a whole. Through rich examples of how individuals and organizations have managed emotional pain successfully, Frost describes the key skills necessary to cope with emotional pain and to manage it effectively, and offers concrete courses of action for organizations to institutionalize compassion in the face of emotional pain.
Customer Reviews:
Excellent look at "toxic handlers"..........2007-07-01
Have you ever read a book that caused you to view your work environment in a whole new light? This book did it for me... Toxic Emotions at Work and What You Can Do About Them by Peter J. Frost. I now understand a bit more about the role I play, as well as how to support others who play that role to a far greater degree than I do...
Contents: Emotional Pain in Organizations; Sources of Toxicity in Organizations; The Work of the Toxic Handler; The Toll on Toxin Handlers; Healing the Healers; At the Interface - What Handlers and Their Organizations Can Do; Leaders Handling Pain; The Compassionate Company - Architecting Responses to Pain; Looking through the Lens of Pain; Notes; Index; About the Author
The premise of this book is that every organization has toxicity in it when it comes to emotions and interactions between employees and management. While that's to be expected, the real problem comes in with the people who unofficially deal with that toxicity. Frost calls them "toxic handlers", and they are critical to the functioning of a company. These people are the ones that soak up the irrational and emotional behavior of those above them, and then filter out the toxins in order to pass along the message to those who need to do the work. Likewise, they are also the "go-to" people when others are having emotional difficulties and need someone to talk to. The problem lies in how the handlers deal with the constant barrage of garbage that comes at them. If they internalize and take on the pain of others, there's a very good chance that they will end up frustrated and burnt-out. Then when they leave, everything crumbles down as there's no one to absorb that pain any longer, as their function was not recognized. But by following many of the steps and suggestions offered here, it's possible to successfully play that role and still not end up as a victim yourself. Frost also covers how organizations need to recognize the people who play these roles, understand the stress and pressure they're under, and give them the assistance they need to not become a casualty.
Having worked at Enron nearly up to the end, I can readily identify with everything in this book. And in a number of areas, I tend to be a minor toxic handler, in that I'm concerned about the well-being of others in any particular structure I'm part of. I also can now see a number of people who I've worked for who are major toxic handlers, and I think I have a better idea on how best to help them do their job better...
An excellent read, and one that could change the way you view your official (and unofficial) org chart...
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