How Men Think

Book Description

"An interesting tool for working with gender differences."
--John Gray
Author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
Men at work do it all the time: They brag, cover up their mistakes, pretend to know what they don't, start fights. And they still get ahead! Why? As psychologist Adrienne Mendell learned when she interviewed one-hundred male executives, the traits that women spend their entire lives erasing from their personalities are actually the qualities that men value in the world of work. And since men are still in the power positions, if you don't play it their way, you don't play at all.
Based on Mendell's interviews and her experience of counseling hundreds of frustrated career women, How Men Think identifies the seven rules that men learned by playing sports as children--games that excluded girls. These rules may seem simple on the surface, but understanding them as men do is anything but easy. You may have fallen into many of these traps yourself:
* You're mad because you want your male boss to let you control your projects. But you've got to take control--that's the only way you'll get it.
* You're steamed because a male colleague consistently takes credit for your work. Do you make a point of touting your accomplishments?
* When you make a mistake you apologize. But the man you apologize to doesn't think you're polite--he thinks you're admitting incompetence.
* A fight with a male colleague leaves you shaken. But the men in your office shout at each other for an hour and then go out for a beer.
These are the times that try women's souls! The strategies, insights, and eye-opening advice in How Men Think will help you get along better with the boys and propel you to the top where you belong.
"The more women have opportunities to play sports the more proficient they will become in competing in this men's world of 'unwritten rules.' To bridge the gap, Mendell's book, How Men Think, is a necessary guide for women working with men."
--Diane Everett, Ph.D.
Executive Director
National Association for Girls and Women in Sport

Customer Reviews:

A must-read for women entering the workfield!.......2007-10-19

I wish this book had been around when I joined the workforce in the late 80's, because I work in a mostly-male field and for years I was "the only one" everywhere I worked. Having been a tomboy when I was a child made some of the aspects of working in my field(civil engineering/construction)easier for me, but I still struggled with some of the other aspects, like fear of making mistakes and conflict. Through the school of "on the job training" I figured out a lot of the information presented in the book, but it was sometimes a very painful process. When I read the book, it verified for me that a lot of what I had figured out on my own over a period of 10 years was on the mark. If I had had this book when I started working, I believe I would have handled certain issues in the workplace differently. Although some of the information in the book is now somewhat dated, it is still a good book to read before you start your first job, because you will always be competing with someone in the workforce and the book offers strategies for successful habits.

How Men Think.......2007-01-10

Perfect insight for women in the business world. This book helps level the playing field. A must read for any woman trying to climb the corporate ladder.

True and Helpful Today.......2005-05-27

We could debate about the degree to which Ms. Mendell writes about is relevant today, 10 years after the book's publication. I found everything she said was true. Nothing she wrote was ridiculous or exaggerated. She gives plenty of real examples to make her points, plus the examples of situations and suggested responses are from both Men and Women. My own life experience in the Technology field confirms the reality of what she has to say. I can give examples from my own life that parallel the samples in the book. And I'm still in the 1st half of my work career.

I liked that the suggested behavior changes for Women don't include turning themselves into some weird version of men. Instead Ms. Mendell suggests using humor as much as possible to keep your poise. The point is more to put the person on notice that you are on to their attempts to "put you in your place" and you will act accordingly. To dismiss the book as being "out of date" or "true 20-25 years ago" is to your disadvantage.

Generally useful but slightly out of date.......2003-11-02

Psychologist Mendell does a credible job in emphasizing the differences between how men interact with each other and how women interact. Her basic premise is that men view everything as a game, with set rules, with winners and losers, but do not take things personally. Women, on the other hand, are more interested in relationship building and concerned about other people's feelings rather than the scorecard. Since business is usually run by men, in order to succeed you must play by men's rules. Based on my observations over 25 years, I'd say that her theory was definitely true 20-25 years ago, when men were mostly in charge in the workplace, and the women were mostly secretaries and clerks. Back then, men did not even fill out their own timecards, but had their secretaries do it. Secretaries answered phone calls from the men's wives, and filled out grocery lists for them. The workplace was definitely more military like, with a lot of retired military men up the ranks. Women were definitely outside the norm, and a smart woman engineer was looked on with much suspicion and ridicule. However as technology advanced, voice mail and word processing systems took over the roles of secretaries, and men had to actually learn to type (gasp), and women became more confident and moved up the ranks, the business culture has changed to be more collaborative, emphasizing teamwork, interpersonal relationships, 360 degree assessments, and cross-functional horizontal teaming relationships. Suddenly, relationships mattered, whether between supplier and customer, employee and manager, engineering and marketing. Even the executives want to seem approachable, friendly and caring. So I don't see as much the harrassment of women, putdowns, feminizing, scare tactics and hostility as I did 20 years ago. Are the rules still tilted towards men's style? Yes, but not as much as Mendell suggests. Today, a lot of the collaborative behavior attributed to women is valued in the organization. While it is true that men still hold most of the top positions, and take most of the credit, the types of men that excel are not the old-line militaristic linebacker types, but ones that have figured out how to be diplomatic, concerned, and effective without resorting to caveman techniques.

Become Fluent in "Guy".......2000-11-05

Unless you already are more successful than you ever wanted or dreamed of being, this is a MUST book for any woman, whether rookie or veteran, whose business life involves regular interaction with men. As a woman who believes herself to be relatively fluent in "guy", I found this book to be extremely helpful in confirming many of my hunches about the "appropriate" behavior in particular work situations and explaining other reactions and actions of my male colleagues and opponents that I sometimes found puzzling before. Once you understand the WHY behind what men do, responding to it and mirroring it become much easier which in turn uncomplicates my life. After reading this book and implementing what I learned in the next relevant work decision (which meant acting somewhat different than I would have previously), I was able to finally take control rather quietly over a relationship with a male colleague that had been a source of friction and general unpleasantness for some time and direct it into a more productive path for both of us.

Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband

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Straightforward
Refreshing!
Practical knowledge
Newlyweds, READ
Beautiful!

Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband
Marla Taviano
Manufacturer: Harvest House Publishers
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ASIN: 0736918981

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For many married women, their sex life is a source of frustration instead of the pleasure they expected. Author Marla Taviano believes most women need an attitude adjustment before they and their husbands will experience a fulfilling sex life.

With candor, Marla helps women view sex God’s way and:

stop the “meet my needs; then I’ll meet yours” mindset
celebrate God’s plan for women to be godly and sexual
seek forgiveness for past sexual impurities and move on
get creative, spice up lovemaking, and increase desire

Marla debunks myths, calls women on their own issues, exposes the joy of sex, and presents hopeful advice that new or veteran brides will gratefully refer to again and again.

Customer Reviews:

Straightforward.......2007-10-11

Great book, well written with an informal and personal tone. Straightforward talk about sex. Perspectives and thoughts about sex within marriage that I've never heard before. Compare tone with "Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy". I read this book in two days and plan on reading it again.

Refreshing!.......2007-08-08

I am so glad that I read this book early in my marriage, and so is my husband! Marla has a fun, honest,and conversational writing style. This book is truly practical and biblical. Marriages young and old, can benefit from this book! Just ask your husband!

Practical knowledge .......2007-06-06

Reviewed by Patty Inglish for Reader Views (6/07)

What is a godly marriage? According to the Hebrew alphabet word-pictures, it is the union of man and woman with God embedded in its center. This marriage under God, then, joins three personalities and all three function in the couple's sex life. Many people find this shocking at first, but it is a fact that can free a Christian couple to love one another more fully.

Sex can be frustrating to Christian wives in reconciling spiritual and physical needs. However, clergymen such as Rev. Frederick K.C. Price have stated that there is nothing better than married sex, because God is involved. Such professionals feel that godly sex is a miracle that must not deteriorate into an annoying chore or ugly duty over time.

"Is That All He Thinks About?" is a good reference for maintaining excitement and joy in married sex. For a healthy Christian couple, sex should parallel prayer in its regular occurrence. This book helps women see their sexual relationship as nothing trivial, unwanted, or repulsive, but one to cherish. However, while some wives feel that they should satisfy their husband's needs and not their own, this is not optimal. Alternatively, a wife may demand all her needs met first before satisfying her husband's desires. This is also not going to work.

Husband and wife can be mutually satisfied, as well as drawn deeper into the godly marriage bond. A Christian wife can also improve her own skills and attitudes to bring refreshing, joy-filled perspectives to the marriage bed. This, in turn, can bring about pleasant changes in her husband. There is nothing wrong with the wife taking the first step, at least some of the time, if wife and husband are truly partners.

Ms. Taviano shows how to discard the "meet my needs first" attitude, as well as to express female desire assertively. She also teaches that in the presence of past sexual improprieties, wife and husband must forgive each other and themselves and then drop the subject. She gives creative lovemaking suggestions with full instructions that can help newlyweds and those at their 50th Anniversary alike. Couples can then discuss and choose the activities that fit their personalities. In agreement with the author, I would discard the notion of using pornography as a tool for excitement, because it replaces reality with addictive fantasies and inanimate objects.

Ms. Taviano targets the excuse of "no time for sex" head-on. "Too busy" is often an excuse for avoidance and it is better to face the topic of sex for a final resolution. The author describes this cure as a kind of parallel to tithing. Folks often find that after beginning to tithe, they become more organized and actually have more money available for paying bills and recreation. The author believes, further, that when she and her mate began to have sex more regularly, she began to have more time for other tasks and became more productive. It was a double blessing.

God gave humans sex as a gift. As Rev. Price has alluded, it is a communication and ecstasy powerful beyond words. Who would not want that?

Some women have the fear of losing oneself in marriage and becoming only "his wife." However, if God is truly central in marriage, then mates are partners. "Helpmeet" in Hebrew original texts means defender of the husband, not slave to him. English itself changed later to mean "servant," but the Hebrew stayed the same. Discarding the English "update" frees a couple to become Christian partners in marriage and a joyous sex life! Above all, Christian couples should pray together for the health of their sexual relationship, just as they do for prosperity in all other areas.

"Is That All He Thinks About?," by Marla Taviano, is a wonderful manual that can help married women of all ages, while engaged women can study it in preparation for added joy with their new husbands.

Newlyweds, READ.......2007-04-28

As a newlywed, this book allowed me to realize how important sex is to my husband before I developed many of my own misconceptions or annoyances. One of the most promiment things that I learned is that sex in a way, fulfills a man's "emotion needs". If I want my husband to fulfill my emotional needs, being loved on, cuddled etc, then I must first fulfill his needs unselfishly.
I couldn't put this book down. It is a great and Biblical resource to ignite sex within marriage.

Beautiful!.......2007-02-22

This is a beautifully written book that all married women will enjoy! What a refreshing look at relationships!

All the Pope's Men: The Inside Story of How the Vatican Really Thinks

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Vatican 101
A helpful and insightful guide to the thought of the Vatican!
Not a thrill ride.
Objective View? Don't Believe It
how to elect a Pope

All the Pope's Men: The Inside Story of How the Vatican Really Thinks
John L. Jr Allen
Manufacturer: Image
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0385509677
Release Date: 2006-10-17

Book Description

A fascinating and enlightening look at the world’s oldest and most mysterious institution, written by an American journalist with unparalleled knowledge about the Vatican's past and present.

The sexual abuse scandals that shook American and British Catholicism in 2002 brought to light a long-standing cultural gap between the English-speaking Catholic world and the Vatican. In Rome, the crisis was often seen as an attack on the Church mounted by money-hungry lawyers, a hostile press, and liberal activists who used it as a way to turn attention on such concerns as celibacy, women’s ordination, and lay empowerment. When the Vatican struck down the U.S. bishops’ draft for handling allegations of sexual abuse, many saw it as an attempt to curb an independent American Catholic church. Yet, as time passed, it became clear that the Vatican’s well-founded concerns about due process were shared by most liberal U.S. bishops and canon lawyers.

ALL THE POPE’S MEN is a lucid, in-depth guide to the sometimes puzzling, often incomprehensible inner workings of the Vatican. It reveals how decisions are made, how papal bureaucrats think, and how careers in the Roman Curia are shaped. It debunks the myths that have fed the distrust and suspicions many English-speaking Catholics harbor about the way the Vatican conducts its business, explains who really wields the power, and offers entertaining profiles of the personalities, historical and present-day, who have wielded that power for good and for bad. A thoughtful analysis of the recent sexual abuse crisis sheds light on how the Vatican perceives the Church in the United States.

Balanced, lively, and filled with Vatican history and lore, ALL THE POPE’S MEN provides the general reader with an authoritative picture of the highly charged relationship between the Vatican and the richest, most influential national Catholic church in the world today.

Customer Reviews:

Vatican 101.......2007-06-11

I found the book to be a very interesting read. As a convert I have picked up little pieces of information here and there on how the Holy See operates along with the basic structure. The first chapter in and of itself is a good reason to read this book. Vatican 101 gives a broad overview of the Vatican especially the various dicasteries. An overview of the purpose and function of each of the dicasteries is discussed a long with various positions such as Secretary of State and other support offices.

The next chapter points out and discusses what he calls the Top Five Myths About the Vatican. Addressed is the fact that most reporters think of the Vatican as some cohesive whole or how they confuse a personal opinion of someone working in the Curia as "Vatican says." He also addresses who's in charge, Vatican secrecy, Vatican Wealth, and the charges of the predominance of ladder climbing. All of this rebuttals to these are in depth and I especially found informative the section on Vatican wealth. He made the comparison that the Vatican operates at half the cost of Notre Dame here in the states and goes on to address the material worth of the churches themselves and the art within. All of the priceless pieces of art are itemized at $1.00 since they really can't be sold.

Other chapters include Vatican psychology, sociology, and theology. The chapter on Vatican psychology covers what he classes as the Top Ten Vatican Values. I think his writing on this is very insightful on the values he picked out and a great aid in understanding how many in the Vatican see their service. There is also much discussion on the gap between how much of the Vatican sees things compared to other countries. The focus though is primarily between the Catholic Church in America and the Holy See, though much of the gap applies equally to most countries. America being on fast-food time think everything must happen at a lightning pace and think the Vatican should do the same. That whatever happens in the Church in America must become the Vatican's priority despite the fact that the problem might not be be the same in the rest of the world. The last two chapters address the sexual abuse scandal and the war in Iraq listing detailed examples of this gap in understanding.

The book was apparently written while Pope John Paul II was still alive so some of what is in it is slightly dated. The book was reworked to mention Pope Benedict at times, but mostly this has no effect on the value of the book. One of the dated items I found funny was the mention of the fact that Pope's don't give interviews. True enough at least before Pope Benedict was elected.

I do wish most reporters covering the Vatican would read this book so they would have a better clue what they are reporting on. As a long-distance armchair Vatican watcher I found much worthwhile in this book as far as straight factual information and a better insight into the goings on in Vatican City. In short if you want to learn more about the Holy See and want a highly readable book to do it I can easily recommend this book.

A helpful and insightful guide to the thought of the Vatican!.......2006-09-18

John Allen has done a spectacular job! This is wonderful introduction into the practice and thought of the Roman Curia and the structure of the Holy See. While it is not exhaustive, with consideration of the fact that no presentation of the complex system that is the Vatican can be, it is probably one of the best windows into that world out there. Allen's presentation is intelligent, thorough and considerate. Always respectful of the institution with its tradition and solemnity, Allen helps to elucidate that which has been so misunderstood for so long.

While providing interesting historical commentary, Allen makes great effort to illustrate the current state of matters. It is important to note that this is slightly outdated at this point in that Allen is writing during the pontificate of John Paul II, two years before the election of Benedict XVI. While direct reference to the "current pope" in his book still provides the reader with supplemental information on the policy and practice of the late John Paul II, it should be noted that it may not be the same today. What is helpful though is his presentation on the theology, psychology and sociology of the Roman Curia, which would appear to still be very applicable.

This is a well-written work that rates careful consideration. I highly recommend it.

Not a thrill ride........2006-02-23

This book was a bit antiseptic. The author tells the story in a seeminingly factual way but without any real dramatic impact. If you're interested in a report without scandal or drama, then this is for you. It is my suspicion, however, that this story would have required an allowance of scandal and factual drama to make it truly accurate!

Objective View? Don't Believe It.......2006-01-22

The author presents himself as a benign observer of the Vatican, claiming not to be an apoligist for it. Don't believe it. While his tone is measured and far from strident, he clearly views the Vatican and the Roman Catholic Church as the sine qua non of Christianity. For him, the pope is the premier Christian leader who is ultimately responsible for all of Christendom worldwide. Pat Robertson, among others, might disagree.

The book does provide a fairly straightforward description of the structure and functioning of the Vatican as a bureaucracy. And the author does put it all in some measure of historical perspective (for instance, he observes that about 150 years ago the Vatican was very much pro death penalty to the point of having it's own, well oiled guillotine--now blessedly warehoused). But most of his take on the Vatican is from a deeply admiring, pro-Catholic angle. Criticism is light and glossy.

Now about the writing style...if you like cliches, you will worship the ground this book walks on! The author has a cliche up every sleeve, which is more than you can shake a stick at! It got so bad that I had to put the thing down every few pages to keep from screaming. Doesn't this man have an editor?

So if you want a minimally informative, superficial description of how the Vatican operates on a daily basis, this book might be for you (assuming you love cliches like the plague). A bonus is that the dust cover design is very nice (would look stunning on your coffee table next to the holy water bottle).

But if you want something substantial that peers well behind the black curtain of obfuscation, go for Garry Wills' "Papal Sin: Structures of Deceipt". Now there's a book you can sink your triple tiara into!

how to elect a Pope.......2005-10-09

A very good detailed account of how a Pope is elected, surpassed probably only by that of Lucien gregoire' Murder in the Vatican.

The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top

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do you have a heart?
This book is hilarious!
I finally came out on top of his game!
Hard-Hitting But True
New Yorkers are a tough crowd...

The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top
Steve Santagati
Manufacturer: Crown
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Binding: Hardcover

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ASIN: 0307345696
Release Date: 2007-05-29

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How many times have you and your friends asked one another these questions without ever coming up with any good answers? Your girlfriends just tell you what you want to hear. At the end of the day, the only person who can give you insight into man problems is—that’s right—a man! But guys have hidden agendas. What guy would give up all his dating advantages by spilling the goods?

Steve Santagati would. A self-confessed serial dater and Bad Boy, Steve is telling all for the benefit of womankind. Every guy is at least part Bad Boy, and in The Manual, this prime specimen reveals what every woman needs to know to counter Bad Boy tactics, both amateur and professional. Steve is never condescending or callous, but honest, perceptive, and street-smart. His guidance is straightforward and his insights are dead-on, giving women tools they can immediately put to work.

Discover what you may not want to know but need to know about:

•The Heart of the Bad Boy (i.e., the nature of the beast)
•The Male Mind: how he sees you and how you can make this worko your advantage
•Guys on the Hunt: the male modus operandi, from the grocery store to Home Depot
•When Boy Meets Girl: how to handle dating, from flirting to “sext” messaging to learning his weaknesses
•Mating: so you’ve got him . . . should you keep him?

Why learn from a Bad Boy instead of, say, a psychologist? Because there’s no replacement for “in the field” experience. You’ll benefit from (and laugh at) stories of real things Steve has done in relationships with women as well as of women turning the tables on him when he least expected it. The book also includes a question-and-answer section, in which Steve explores some of the toughest dating issues.

To understand Steve is to understand the Bad Boy, and that will take you a long way in understanding all men. Find out how much more fun dating can be when you get the upper hand on Bad Boys . . .
for good.

Customer Reviews:

do you have a heart?.......2007-10-23

If I could give this book less than one star I would!
My Letter to Steve:

Hi Steve, I love men, I know lots of you are lost and confused out there and that you are trying to tell sell books. But I have to say that I think you are a big sell out. You must hear this alot from "Real" women, and especially from feminist women, so I am sure this is not news to you. But I have to say you are missing the mark and perpetuating a big lie through the logical fallacies that most pop culture followers cannot sort out. In other words, you are taking advantage of people's ignorance and insecurities, especially women's, which makes you a woman user and hater, not a woman lover as you so proclaim. I hate to be harsh, but I am calling you on this one!

I just read "The Manual" and found it astoundingly shallow and deceptive if not down right manipulative. I must say Steve, that it is about as insightful as renting Debbie Does Dallas XXX, or any other Girl-on-Girl, Barely Legal porn movie. I think your best advice was probably: "Dye it pink, that will make him "think"!!!"

C'mon Steve, in a world that is now increasingly being dubbed as "pornified" (term coined by Pamela Paul, www.pamelapaul.com ) ALL I CAN SAY IS YOU OWE EVERY WOMEN WHO READS YOUR HORSESH** A BIG APOLOGY. I'd love one BTW, if you are man enough to respond to me at all. You will probably just write me off as "overly emotional or "needy" like a million others who are no longer allowed to be true woman, and must not recognize their own emotions so they can be servants of men's fantasies...

What you don't know about women Steve, is ALOT. You have had many women's bodies, but its very obvous from your writing, that you have never had one woman's heart or mind.

There is a love and union and depth you cannot achieve through more experiences, but only through true love which does not come from dressing up like a porn star to throw tricks on Halloween or any other time of the year!

Your book is anti-relationships, anti-intimacy, and sadly anti-love. I am so sad for you and all of us being crushed by this message that preaches the illusion of love over the real thing, cause real love does not look like pornography.

AND BTW, I LOVE NICE GUYS. I dated a "bad boy" who assaulted me a long time ago. I learned that he was a big player, a liar, and a pornography addict who used local prostitutes and was a suspect in the murder of a child that is still unsolvd in Colorado www.alie.org youcan see her online. He was a narcissistic player who used many, many women just like you portray that what it means to be a man is some shallow jerk who can only see a woman if she's wearing a stereotypical porno uniform...do you know what you are reducing love and women too?

And telling women that we want some kind of "bad boy" stereotype is the biggest BS load I've heard all week, and I've heard some! Its basically praising abusers. Do you know what the stats are for Domestic Violence today (see: http://www.endabuse.org/resources/facts/ )? And yet, you are practically shoving it down our throats, like if we want a nice guy we should check our pulse - sheesh!

I think you should check your own pulse Steve, do you have a heart?

Your book is advice for the lonely, for the jaded, for players....its how to play a game, not how to find love or a soulmate or even someone who would take care of you beyond one night of pink dye and perfect bikini lines. I hope you know the difference....

You are advising women that all they want is some bad a**, who will only want them when they look like a porn star - what great advice. No woman really wants that. Neither does any man...even if they are hard up. Sure it might be a fun fantasy, and you might get off, but Steve, in the end its a lonely road for both genders, filled with empty soulless orgasms, and bodies that never connect at the heart.

Its a travesty that you would be considered an expert in any area of matters or affairs of the heart, and that we are living in a time that is so soul-less that love is merely for sale to the highest bidder.

The are saying that the trafficking epidemic we are now seeing is going to be one of the human rights issues of or time, and researchers and scholars in this area (are you a scholar, I think not) are saying that this is now one of the most lucrative industries of our time.

I have been told that I was beautiful girl my whole life, and I can wear lingerie like your fantasies will never know, but I DO NOT WANT TO BE A PORN STAR STEVE...and I believe in true love, between two people who love each other. In fact, I don't think you should ever have sex unless you are in love, and if you fall in love every two minutes, then you are a shallow pool my friend. I dare you to respond to me or at least to read this info and do this research and learn what horrors you are perpetuating to make a buck. Now who's the whore? Seriously, your stuff sucks....you are a bad a** sellout. You sell out very well, but where's the honor in that, where's the heart, where's the soul, where's the love?

I DON'T WANT A BAD BOY OR A PLAYER.

Thanks for listening, and sorry for being a bit harsh, but at this point lies and secrets hold no intrigue for me. Hope you get that someday,

Yours Truly, Angel (sometimes a contradiction in terms)

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A Man Speaks Against Pornography
http://www.southendpress.org/2007/items/87767

"Porn is used to get men in the mood to kill - military Connection."

"Pornography and the death of empathy : men are being trained to ignore the expierences and feelings of women. Women in pornography are systematically subjected to cruelty and humiliation. This is a death of empathy. This plays out in public contexts all the time. its a serious problem in this culture. In a predatory corporate capitolist system, we have to constantly struggle to reconnect as human beings."

LISTEN TO THIS>>> JUST CLICK THE LINK AND LISTEN AND LEARN....
Paraphrasing from Robert Jensen: Listen/CLICK here to Robert Jensen's discussion of the reach and impact of pornography in US society as a guest on WORT-FM's "A Public Affair" program on March 9, 2007, hosted by Diane Farsetta and produced by WORT-FM. (WORT-FM retains all ownership and rights to the program, so please contact them if you'd like to link to or distribute this program.)

A Man Speaks Against Pornography
http://www.southendpress.org/2007/items/87767

"Porn is used to get men in the mood to kill - military Connection."

"Pornography and the death of empathy : men are being trained to ignore the expierences and feelings of women. Women in pornography are systematically subjected to cruelty and humiliation. This is a death of empathy. This plays out in public contexts all the time. its a serious problem in this culture. In a predatory corporate capitolist system, we have to constantly struggle to reconnect as human beings."
http://www.amazon.fr/Make-Love-Like-Porn-Star/dp/0060539097
How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale (Reli?)
Jenna Jameson (Auteur), Neil Strauss (Auteur)

"There comes a moment in every life when a choice must be made between right and wrong, between good and evil, between light and darkness..."

From Publishers Weekly:
With its wit (the book is dedicated to Onan), its victim narrative (multiple sexual assaults), its celebrity dish (Howard Stern is actually well endowed), and its frank, one-fisted prose style ("After three hours of sweaty, psychotic sex, she handed me a huge black strap-on"), the queen of porn's autobiography is destined to become a lowbrow classic. Jameson's career began at 16, when she fell for Jack, a tattoo artist. At a party, Jack's neo-love uncle raped Jameson. Unable to face her father, a Las Vegas cop, she moved in with Jack. Within a year, she went from high school cheerleader to stripper to nude model to porn actress, with a stop along the way to become a crack addict. Jameson's life wasn't so much a downward spiral as a freefall into darkness.

But, as the porn world would have it, the harder she fell, the more everyone wanted her, and she quickly became a top nude model and porn star, and the country's highest-paid feature dancer, all while leaving a path of carnage worthy of several rock bands. Beneath Jameson's monstrous diva exterior, however, was a girl who just wanted to become a loving mother and wife. After many failures, she finally succeeded, and her X-rated book ends on an uplifting family-values note. Jameson's life was a mess, and with its multiple formats (interview transcripts, movie scripts, advice sidebars, diary entries, cartoon strips), so is this book. But it's a remarkably appealing and honest mess, and should earn Jameson some of the mainstream acceptance she so clearly desires.
Worldwide tragedy: U.S. not immune to sexual slavery
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3820/is_200007/ai_n8902819

Social Measure of Gender Inequality - Trafficking
Prostitution still a problem for women worldwide - a measure of gender inequality
http://media.www.ramcigar.com/media/storage/paper366/news/2004/04/08/News/Prostitution.Still.A.Problem.For.Women.Worldwide-654626.shtml

Child Prostitution Crisis
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1462628.stm

The Graphic - Child prostitution crisis surges worldwide
http://graphic.pepperdine.edu/perspectives/2003/2003-10-23-prostitution.htm

Thailand's Child Slaves
http://www.thaiembdc.org/socials/childprs.htm

Women's issues are still in crisis as well around the globe. In many nations around the globe women cannot take care of themselves and are given no recourse to do so. They cannot read or write, do not know their rights, have no voice, cannot vote, cannot hold property, run a business, or establish financial or land holdings. In many places women still have no rights, and can be legally raped and murdered. In some places in the world if a woman turns a man's marriage proposal down she can have acid thrown into her face marring it forever. In some countries in Africa and Asia they still practice clitoral mutilation:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/medical_notes/241221.stm

Prostitution, the oldest profession, sees 1 in 3 women in Africa contract HIV/AIDS while working to feed their starving children and in Russia the incidence is also very high. These women are selling what should never be bought or sold and no man of honor would participate in letting this situation continue, much less suppress the voices of women with the courage of conviction to speak out against these crimes against humanity and against women the world over.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/actionnetwork/A24078071

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This book is hilarious! .......2007-10-17

I discovered this book at the local bookstore recently. The funny thing was that I was on a date, killing time before we went to the movies. My man saw me thumbing through the pages and actually purchased it for me. As a former quasi-bad boy, he was just as intrigued as I was to find out what the book was all about, however, he wanted to look cool about it. Well, the book did not disappoint. To my girlfriends out there, Steve Santagati is laugh-out-loud funny and for this never-married, actively dating single gal like me, I can really relate to this book. For those ladies who tend to gravitate to the bad boys or quasi-bad boys, you will really benefit from reading this book. For those ladies who are only attracted to the 100% good guy (i.e., []), you may feel that this book is a waste of your time and energy. But like Steve says: "You need someone around to bore you into a deep slumber? Predictable nice guys can have that NyQuil effect." (LOL) To my writing community: This book gave me some valuable research from the male perspective for my upcoming books. (LOL)

Reading this book feels more like having a great conversation with a quasi-bad boy that you really get along with, despite his faults. One of the tips that meant the most to me was found on page 15: "The fact that you're reading this Manual means that you are actively seeking information that will make you better able to understand guys, and therefore have more fun with the kind of man who gets you hot, but not too hot that he burns you. You're on your way! If you listen to the advice in The Manual, I promise you'll be able to handle the kitchen no matter how high the temperature." Every time I read that quote, I feel empowered. My girlfriend and I took the quiz in Chapter Four at Waffle House and there were folks eavesdropping on us!

I have benefitted from the tips in the books directly and indirectly. Although the cover makes it appear like it could be a fluff piece, it has been surprisingly helpful. My man is too proud to ask to ask for the book, but he asks me questions about it every now and then. Recently, he just couldn't resist and took the book from my coffee table and started thumbing through the pages!! As a never-married, early 40s, former-quasi-bad girl dating a never-married, early 40s, former-quasi-bad boy, there are challenges in developing a long-lasting relationship, especially in the early stages. There is pride involved as well as the fragile ego... and of course there is always the communication thing (why didn't he/she call me?). Everyone one goes through some challenges in relationships, and I am glad that Steve wrote this book. He gets right in your face and tells you exactly what the deal is. He is very frank about what he thinks. To some folks, his frankness may be a turn off, but not me. I appreciate his honesty, his viewpoint, and his humor. 5 Stars!!!

I finally came out on top of his game!.......2007-10-03

This book will help you to know what's inside men's heads and this will eventually prevent disappointments. Every woman should read it! But also don't forget to read the BIBLE for all women - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You This is a must read for every woman on the planet!

Hard-Hitting But True.......2007-10-02

Wow, this is a difficult book to read, not in the intellectual sense but in actually grasping the concept that some men really don't understand or refuse to accept that women are people with real lives and real feelings. It's written by a guy who says he loves women - he loves them for his own needs not theirs! He's the kind of guy that thinks he's done a woman a favour or given her a wonderful experience by having a fling with her -- because 'hes' so great. The egotism - and complete lack of awareness of actually how women think - in this book is astounding. But, in saying all that. This book is a very interesting insight into the minds of so called 'Bad Boys' AKA selfish self-obsesses users who love themselves more than life itself! It is funny to see how attractive 'Bad Boy' qualities can be, and it is intersting to see how these males think about themselves and women in general. If you want insight, read the book, but don't be surprised if you're shocked and a fair bit disgusted by some of what you read. Hopefully... there is still hope for the human race!

New Yorkers are a tough crowd..........2007-09-29

It is more a book about dating (i.e. sex) than about relationship (Advice on marriage/getting married is probably best mined from those already married.) He reviews advice on how to be sexy (without being over the top) but ultimately his over-simplified solution for a woman is to act like a man: Be busy, have multiple options (i.e. lovers) and be that elusive cool, confident girl who never asks the predictable question "where is this going"?

He makes the single lifestyle (not just being single, but cultivating the easy come/easy go numbers game lifestyle) sound pretty good - for a man, or for a jaded woman who feels and behaves more like a man.

Steve distinguishes between The Player (has issues, treats sex like sport) and the Bad Boy (is secretive, confident, lots of female friends, does love women - all of them).

Steve also states a few good obvious reasons when to leave a man rather than try to snag him (sad that some of us need to be reminded of this).
If you were lied to/hurt, state it bluntly and calmly in the breakup, the only emotion allowed is a little pity. If you must hit below the belt, make a dig at his appearance/confidence.

This is a how-to dating book, not the promised holy grail of men's mentality revealed: expect a few nuggets, not the whole farm. My favorite part is his letter responses at the end of his book. I'll check out his website http://www.askstevesantagati.com/.

Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women: Thousands of Men Confess Their Well-Guarded Secrets about How They Think, Feel, and Behave!

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A Woman's Dictionary of Men
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Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women: Thousands of Men Confess Their Well-Guarded Secrets about How They Think, Feel, and Behave!
David Zinczenko , and Ted Spiker
Manufacturer: Tantor Media
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RunTime: 5 hrs 30 min, 1 CD. * Mp3 CD Format *. "Men's Health"(r) editor-in-chief David Zinczenko, the "New York Times" best-selling author of "The Abs Diet," has applied his highly popular voice and insightful research methods to solving one of the great challenges of the day-helping women understand men. From the first moment they meet, through every stage of courtship to the inevitable conclusion-success or breakup-Zinczenko outlines with vivid, compassionate, and irreverent detail exactly what goes on in the minds of men and how women can use that knowledge to their advantage.

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A Woman's Dictionary of Men.......2007-09-22

I checked this book out from the library and found it so useful I had to purchase it for my collection. I love how it has the man's point of view on a lot of questions we have, not a women's guess of what a man wants. It will prove to be very useful reference material. I would almost called it a women's dictionary of men.

men think.......2007-09-20

I found the book quite insightful of what guys really think about us. I learned alot of how they think. Great book.

Eye Opener!!.......2007-08-23

I was very impressed with this book. It was very easy to read and understand, and it was filled with TONS of useful information. A lot of it seems common sense, but obviously we don't use it. I received an objective perspective by reading and understanding relationship and dating issues from a man's perspective. Definitely recommend!! It's a must read!!!

P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!.......2007-08-17

A must ready for every woman! Another besteller which I highly recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You by Mandy Simons

Some good information...........2007-08-05

This was a good book. I bought the audio version. It didn't live up to my expectations though. The best book/audiobook that I've bought recently on men and relationships was "He's Just Not That Into You" by the writers of Sex and The City.

Gay Questions: Quizzical Queries into How You Think, Feel, Love, & Live

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Jerry Holderman
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Gay Questions mixes the feel and fun of a Trivial Pursuit game with the gravity of serious issues facing the gay community, prompting discussion on a broad range of topics--morality, privacy, relationships, and attitudes--affecting the life of the gay reader. Among the more than 200 questions: Have you ever intentionally given another man a wrong phone number? Why?

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Gay Questions: 218 Quizzical Queries into How You Think Feel, Love, and Live

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Stimulates conversation in a party. Had a ball

Gay Questions: 218 Quizzical Queries into How You Think Feel, Love, and Live
Jerry Holderman
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Stimulates conversation in a party. Had a ball.......1998-05-15

This book is a great gift. A friend gave me a copy for my birthday and we ended up spending the evening asking and answering questions.

How Men Think: What Women Need to Know about Working with Men

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How Men Think: What Women Need to Know about Working with Men
Adrienne Mendel
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The Secrets Men Keep: Find Out What They Think...How They Really Feel

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The Secrets Men Keep: Find Out What They Think...How They Really Feel
Ken Druck , and James C. Simmons
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