The Act of Marriage

Book Description

This updated and expanded edition gives a fresh informative edge to an already definitive book. New sections discuss "sex after sixty" and five reasons why God created sex, all supported by the very latest findings in the fields of medicine and sociology. For engaged couples and newlyweds who want to make lovemaking a joy from the start . . . For couples who have been married for years and want to maintain the flame or rekindle the embers . . . for every husband or wife who wants to be a better lover -- here are the insights into each other's bodies, psychosexual makeup, and need for tender, unselfish affection that can help you achieve your goal. With over 2.5 million copies in print, The Act of Marriage has helped thousands of Christian couples maximize their joy in sexual union and saved countless marriages. Pastors, doctors, and psychologists alike have endorsed the frank, practical insights.

Customer Reviews:

Thought I knew it all, but..........2007-10-03

found this book had some interesting information. It brought my husband and I closer...sort of rekindled the flame after 28 years of marriage. I especially liked that it is written from a Christian view point and answers many questions about sex and marriage by looking directly to the bible to see what God wants for us and from us. Also has a lot of practical info. from years of research and marriage counseling. I think it would be especially helpful to newlyweds. Down side: stereotypes the roles of wives and husbands a bit. We need to work together, taking advantage of our God-given gifts and interests. That may mean the wife handles the finances or the husband does the cooking (just an example).

Fantastic!.......2007-09-29

This book was recommended to us by a friend and my OB/GYN. It was great. For young, inexperienced, Christain couples, this tells you what you need know without feeling like you're reading a nasty book, while at the same time, putting sex in marriage in the proper perspective.

A reverent book about sex.......2007-09-24

My wife and I read this book before getting married and we really found this to be a helpful source of information. Both of us were virgins before getting married as we strongly don't believe is premarital sex. This of course, also made sex a sort uncomfortable, yet important topic we needed to discuss before actually doing it. Reading this together helped open those doors of discussion and guided us in talking about sensitive subjects that perhaps have never were discussed before. Perhaps the best thing about this book is that it is in no way written in an offensive language. It mostly expresses general christian values regarding the importance of marital sex in strong relationships. I highly recommend it, whether you're about to get married, or already are.

Because my pastor said so..........2007-05-13

I honestly only read this book because my pastor strongly recommended the book to me and my fiance. Turns out, it's actually a very good book and gave me a lot of insight into what I can expect as far as physical love in my marriage. My fiance read the book, too (a feat in itself) and we had many in depth conversations about opinions and understanding. Not only was this a great book to foreshadow our upcoming life together, but it helped my fiance and me talk to one another about what we didn't think to discuss before.

content.......2007-05-07

This is a useful book but very, very repetitive and could have been 100 pages shorter and not lost anything.

The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do

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Not recommended - much better books exist for understanding yourself & other people
Fun through navel gazing
A True Self Portrait
WOW! Even better the 2nd time around!!!
good book

The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do
John M. Oldham
Manufacturer: Bantam
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0553373935
Release Date: 1995-08-01

Book Description

The New Personality Self -portrait is the only guide to personality types based on the American Psychiatric Association's just-published official diagnostic system -- the DSM -IV -- and written by one of today's leading personality researchers. A long-time backlist bestseller in its previous edition, it has now been completely updated to include all the fascinating new information about how we become who we are-and how we can change. The self-test in The New Personality Self -portrait is already used extensively in mental health and business settings. It reveals a profile so personal, so accurate, that it's as individual as a fingerprint. Readers discover their unique mix of 14 distinct personality styles -- and learn how those traits impact their relationships, work and home life. Fascinating case histories show each style in action, with tips on how to live and work with every type, and exercises for turning vulnerabilities into strengths -- plus warnings about when individual differences develop into personality disorders.

Customer Reviews:

Not recommended - much better books exist for understanding yourself & other people.......2007-10-07

Although the introductory chapter of this book started out promisingly enough, I've read half of the book and given up because I was so disappointed with it.

The book's introduction explains that it is based upon the DSV-IV - which is a manual which outlines 14 different types of personality disorders. This book sees each of those 14 personality disorders as extreme versions of 14 normal and healthy personalities.

Unfortunately when you read the personality portraits of each of the 14 supposedly normal and healthy personalities, you'll come to the conclusion that none of these personalities are normal or healthy at all. The book describes personalities which demonstrate behaviours which clearly would impede a person's ability to either hold down a job or form HEALTHY human relationships. All of the personality portraits describe people with problems of self-importance, selfishness and a lack of integrity in terms of their character - i.e. they just act the way they do, even if the way they act is hypocritical because they expect others to obey rules that they themselves blatantly ignore.

The advice and tips on dealing with each personality type amounts to walking on eggshells: i.e. "This is what makes this person react negatively, they cannot be anything different, therefore give them what they want or just avoid broaching that particular topic with them."

When I completed the personality self-portrait questionnaire and read the descriptions of the personalities that I supposedly had within me, I was horrified and outraged to think that the authors of the book (a) thought that I was like that and (b) that this was a normal and healthy representation of a person's personality!

If you are looking for books to read on self-improvement, I recommend books that emphasis self-awareness and understanding other people. Stephen Covey's book "The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People" is an excellent book that promotes self-awareness and how to develop leadership skills by developing a good character and leading by example.

In terms of understanding how people think, I recommend David Keirsey's book "Please Understand Me II". It's a revised edition of original "Please Understand Me" and explains 16 different personality types which are very different, often conflict, but are all healthy. You'll laugh when you read the descriptions of each personality type, because it will remind you either of yourself or someone you know.

As for this book, the "New Personality Self-Portrait", I would advise you avoid unless you're a psychology student who wants to learn more about people with personality disorders and how that extremeness manifests itself.

Fun through navel gazing.......2007-07-28

If you are a Baby Boomer, as I am, you will find books about knowing yourself endlessly fascinating. I didn't really learn anything new about myself but I enjoyed the narcissism of the whole process. This was a great way to spend a lazy afternoon.

A True Self Portrait.......2007-06-27

I love this assessment and the information it reveals. I would like it even better if it was on line. :-)

WOW! Even better the 2nd time around!!!.......2006-12-03

So I have had this book on my bookshelf for while. I am an avid collector of psychology books, fascinated by people and figuring out what makes us all tick.

So when I picked this book up AGAIN in my bookshelf and started the read the chapter on the Sensitive Style, something just clicked for me. It was one of those rare "AHA" moments where things just make sense.

I picked up this book to learn about other people but what I am learning about myself is incredible. I have decided to go back and cover the book slooooooooooowly....page by page....Highly Recommended Keeper!!!

good book.......2005-11-22

people can learn alot about a few different types of person's mentalities from reading this book and also can take a test to see what kind of person they are. i took the test and felt the results were accurate. it was a fun read

The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love

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Great advice!
Awesome pre-marital guide
Not 'terrible', but not that great, either...
A must for all couples
Great, but need up-to-date info on the new NFP method

The Act of Marriage: The Beauty of Sexual Love
Tim LaHaye , and Beverly LaHaye
Manufacturer: Zondervan Publishing House
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

Act of Marriage After 40, The
The Act of Marriage
Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage, Third Edition
Sheet Music
Communication: Key to Your Marriage: A Practical Guide to Creating a Happy, Fulfilling Relationship

ASIN: 0310270626

Customer Reviews:

Great advice!.......2007-05-17

This book is the best and most practicle source of sex education I have read. It would be a great help to any married couple.

Awesome pre-marital guide.......2007-03-12

Have a friend or family member who is going to get married soon? This is a great book for future married couples. The book talks about the needs of men and woman, how to satisfy your spouse, and how to keep sex in marriage holy. The book gives a lot of information in a variety of areas to help lovemaking meaningful, satisfying, fulfilling and enjoyable. Included in his work are several surveys the conveyed a lot of useful information. This is the most through book of this topic that I have come across. I highly recommend it.

Christian Fobian, Author of Why Christ?

Not 'terrible', but not that great, either..........2006-02-14

Overall, an 'OK' read, but teaches human sexuality as though his audience was a grade-six sex education class as rather than mature-minded adults. This book is extremely simplistic and vague, and tends to lean towards a more dellusional depiction of human sexuality, often confining it to the contexts of outmodded biblical principles and male-dominated patriarchy. Lacking modern approach and intimate sensuality, I would sincerely hope that this book is not a reflection of poor Tim's seemingly mechanical sex life!! I would not recommend this book unless you are totally ignorant and clueless about what sex is all about. I would suggest looking elsewhere for a more relevant guide to sexual intimacy.

A must for all couples.......2002-04-09

An excellent informative book with very clear and concise information which also embraces humour and personal experiences. The LaHaye's are both extremely frank in their approach to writing and are not scared to discuss issues which most Christian literature skirts around. I really wish we had been given this book to read prior to marriage, it would have prevented the stumbling around in the dark that inevitably occurs when you get married. This book will definitely be required literature for my children prior to marriage. I would recommend it to all couples - prior to marriage, newly weds and "experienced" couples - there is a lot to be learnt in these pages at what ever stage you are at.

Great, but need up-to-date info on the new NFP method.......1998-04-16

An an engaged woman who will be married in a few months, I found this book quite insightful. It was informative in a Christian way that made me feel educated without feeling embarrassed. I wish it had discussed the new Sympto-Thermal method of Natural Family Planning -- this is not the old, outdated rhythm method that they describe. My fiance and I recently completed a very professionally done training seminar for the Sympt-Thermal Method of NFP (conducted by the volunteer organization called the Couple to Couple League). It's a shame that we were the only Protestants in the class. If the LaHayes and other Christians knew that this method of NFP is 99% effective and that there are very few abstinent days due to its accuracy, we would have more bible Christians practicing this method. I don't understand how the LaHayes, who are pro-life, can tell couples that the Pill is the best birth control. It is now a medically established fact that the Pill causes micro abortions when it fails to prevent ovulation. Also, I have friends who have suffered severe side effects from taking the Pill, such as blood pressure abnormalities. I feel that the LaHayes should recommend the new NFP over the unethical Pill. Otherwise, I felt the book was worth buying. Thank you.

The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love

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Far From A Sex Manual
Reader From PA
Rich Exploration of the Senses
Sexuality is a banquet from God
Awesome

The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love
Thomas Moore
Manufacturer: Harper Perennial
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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Soul Mates
Care Of The Soul: A Guide For Cultivating Depth and Sacredness in Everyday Life
Original Self: Living with Paradox and Originality
The Re-enchantment of Everyday Life
The Soul's Religion

ASIN: 0060930950
Release Date: 1999-08-04

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As in his previous bestsellers Care of the Soul and Soul Mates, Thomas Moore wants us to think more deeply about the spiritual implications of everyday life. Which is to say that this is serious stuff--anyone looking for sexy beach reading won't find it here. What does interest the popular theologian, therapist, and former Catholic monk are the historical, philosophical, religious, and psychological aspects of sexuality that people tend not to consider. "We have a habit of talking about sex as merely physical, and yet nothing has more soul," Moore begins. If only we realized that fact, he then argues, it might relieve us of the guilt we so often feel over our own sex lives. "The problem may be that we are accustomed to imagining morality from a purely spiritual point of view as a way of limiting rather than enhancing sexuality," he continues. Yet if we paid more attention to beauty, sensuality, and pleasure, writes Moore, we might actually enhance our spirituality.

There's much more to this wide-ranging meditation, which moves from the history of the word "orgasm" to the mythic presence of Marilyn Monroe. Those willing to follow Moore's mind as it courses through these subjects will find it a fascinating journey, one that ends by stimulating their own thinking about the relationship between sex and the spirit.

Book Description

A highly original approach from best selling author Thomas Moore, restoring sex to its rightful place in the human psyche as an experience of the soul.

In The Soul of Sex, Thomas Moore at last restores sex to its rightful place in the human psyche. Describing sex as an experience of the soul, Thomas Moore here brings out the fully human side of sex – the roles of fantasy, desire, meaning, and morality – and draws on religion, mythology art, literature, and film to show how sex is one of the most profound mysteries of life.

While finding spirituality inherent in sex, Moore also explores how spiritual values can sometimes wound our sexuality.

Blending rather than opposing spirituality and sexuality, The Soul of Sex offers a fresh, livable way of becoming more deeply sexual and loving in all areas of life.

Customer Reviews:

Far From A Sex Manual.......2004-08-01

If you liked Moore's earlier works (especially 'Soul Mates'), or you are entirely new to his writing..there is something of wisdom and insight for everyone in this magical volume. As is true of Moore's other, related books, they invite you to a smorgasboard of ideas, knowledge and observations. You can pick and choose, take or leave, as you like. Whilst some of his chapters are slightly 'academic', there are many aspects to his interpretations that have perfect relevance to, and resonance with our own, everyday experiences. 'Intimacy within intimacies'-this book is like the candle we hold to the dark window, as we wonder how we might feel less alone in this world. It is a guide only. However, worth the journey and the read. Even if, a little indulgence does certainly go a long way.

Reader From PA.......2002-09-12

I really like Thomas Moore's books but this one was definitely not one of his best. I found it very boring and it was kinda one of those books that just made no sense at all. I found it hard to continue to read the whole book even tho I did....

Rich Exploration of the Senses.......2000-10-12

Spiritual writers have always assumed we're trying to get to some loftier plane than this one, where there's lots of love but no sensuality. A sort of endless group hug, perhaps. Without entwining sex with its sentimental partner, love, this book examines the deeper meaning and life-affirming need behind our fascination with sex. Thomas Moore isn't the easiest writer to understand, I find I have to switch to some more lyrical level of my brain to follow him, but his elliptical style fits this subject well. And it's a hidden subject, one that vanishes if you look at it too directly. For all the joy and depth that sex brings to our lives, we treat it rather shoddily, plastering it with coyness, burying it in morality, or handing it off to biologists for dissection. The danger lies not in the concealment, for the elusiveness adds to the intrigue and mystery, but in thinking that we can separate sexuality and sensuality from the fabric of our lives.

Sexuality is a banquet from God.......2000-06-02

In the introduction to his book, The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love, Thomas Moore writes about Sigmund Freud's principal that: "we display outrageously and obsessively that which we do not fully possess or have deeply at our disposal. If we are displaying sex with unseemly exaggeration and preoccupation, then we have not found the heart of sex and made it a fully integrated part of individual and social life." Freud's statement appealed to Moore because he can see both the irony and reality of this state of nature. That given, Moore himself can not resist the pun "...we need more sex, not less, but we need sex with soul. If we are to believe and follow in Moore's teachings we must look to Eros and find the sexuality in all things. Moore gives us great license in life through, his philosophy to live life in pursuit of the fulfillment of pleasuring our soul. The Soul of Sex will be an extremely useful tool for anyone to use in ministry. What kind of a book do you give Christians to read that is not offensive and yet will stimulate their imaginations to think creatively about such an intimate topic? Moore's book may not be for all as the subject of sex is not always for all. However, I would suggest using this book as leverage into the mindset of the audience. It has so many great archetypal patterns and examples that can be translated into lively discussion and self-examination. Can we be sexually creative and free and be moral? Can people be sexually active and good Christians? Moore believes we can and that is point. How did we as a culture become so hung up sexually? Where in the bible does it say that we must live with the burden of "puritan morality?" The book will be a resource to reassure those that are questioning their sexuality. People have many different normal feelings about sex that are completely natural. These feelings need to be listen to, fed and identified. Sometimes we need to follow our hearts and listen to our gut. Moore states that our sexuality extends outward into the world. We in America need to review our art, literature, architecture, and our fundamental beliefs and see that our spirituality and our sexuality can coexist. The road less traveled comes to mind here. That road suggests Moore should be sucked up and smelled and touched and experience to it's fullest. We are more alive and more in harmony with our creator when we not only smell the roses but enjoy the arousal within us that the fragrance sets stirring.

Awesome.......2000-01-26

the best yet ... infomative , poetic , lovely , insightful , accepting , nourishing , wise , real , human ... something to eat in small , tasty and tasteful nibbles ...

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Fascinating and warped novel about Siberia during the Russian Civil War
Good stuff
So, The End Justifies The Means?
Showdown in Siberia
Odd Book

The People's Act of Love: A Novel
James Meek
Manufacturer: Canongate U.S.
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Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 1841958778

Book Description

In a remote Siberian village, amid a lawless, unforgiving landscape, lives Anna Petrovna, a beautiful, willfully self-reliant widowed mother. A mystical, separatist Christian sect, a stranded regiment of restless Czech soldiers, and an eerie local shaman live nearby, all struggling against the elements and great social upheaval to maintain a fragile coexistence.
Out of the woods trudges Samarin, an escapee from Russia’s northernmost prison camp, with a terrifyingly outlandish story to tell about his journey. Immediately apprehended, he is brought before the Czech regiment’s megalomaniac, Captain Matula. But the stranger’s appearance has caught the attention of others, including Anna Petrovna’s.
This stranger, his bizarre story—if it is to be believed—and the apparent murder of the local shaman quickly become a flashpoint for this village: temperatures rise, alliances shift, and betrayals emerge. Written with a commanding historical authority and remarkable grace, The People’s Act of Love is an epic of desire and sacrifice that leaves the reader utterly mesmerized through to the final heart-pounding pages.

Customer Reviews:

Fascinating and warped novel about Siberia during the Russian Civil War.......2007-10-23

"The People's Act of Love" by James Meek is a thrilling and surprising page-turner, situated in Siberia in 1919. Since the plot of the story is compact and full of surprises, I will not spoil the story by describing it, but instead I will give an impression of the book's atmosphere.

Through the eyes of several people present in a small town in the wilderness of Siberia, we see all the chaos and cynicism as well as dreams and aspirations of the time reflected. The characters, among which we find a mysterious cannibal, a Cavalry officer who becomes a member of a bizarre sect, a Jewish officer in the Czechoslovak Legion, and a woman with a gift for photography, may not be immediately likable, but they are certain to make a strong impression on the reader. Meek weaves the story of the meeting and eventual clash of all these characters together very well, making excellent use of evocative flashbacks, letters and monologues to create narrative tension, while maintaining at the same time a high pace of action.

The storyline is generally violent and cynical, as fits those times, and the brutal backdrop of Siberia in winter during times of shortage only serves to heighten the tension. After the various characters find themselves in Siberia, the Czechslovak Legion's presence in the area, an interesting yet historically real adventure tale, becomes the pivot around which all the events unfold. The bitterness of the cold as well as the people and their ideals portrays this crossing in Russia's history very well, and Meek has done a good job keeping the storyline actually exciting with constant surprises and plot twists. Although some of the praise on the cover must surely be taken as hyperbole, this is certainly an intriguing and riveting book, and well worth picking up to read on a lonely winter night.

NB: My review applies to the Dutch translation of this book only, as I have not read the English original. I see no reason to assume there are material differences between the two though.

Good stuff.......2007-03-30

While the paperback of The People's Act of Love is covered in quotes comparing it to Doctor Zhivago and Anna Karenina, the reader would be better off without such grand expectations. As a page turner, it's a first class thriller. As a work of literature, it's sly, reserved tone can't cover the outright sensationalism and melodrama that the author serves up. It's a book about lives weaving closer together in the Siberian hinterland and while these lives are fairly convincing while told separately, once the characters begin to intertwine, they seems to lose their individuality and move only as chess pieces. This is probably because Meek seeks to wrap up his book in a grand finale, with terrible characters claiming grand acts of redemption against a background of revolution and blood. Perhaps he gave himself a bit too much to chew on, and the last quarter gets weighed down by exposition as Meek tries to tie up his ends. Still, great fun getting there, but please leave the comparisons to Tolstoy behind.

So, The End Justifies The Means?.......2007-03-10

"He's not a destroyer; he is destruction, leaving these good people who remain to build a better world on the ruins. What looks like an act of evil to a single person is the people's act of love to its future itself." Samarin pretending to speak of another, but really speaking of himself.

James Meek has written a marvelous story-telling in this novel. It portrays the Russian revolution in such detail you would think you are in the world of 1917. So many characters woven into effortless story lines, so that the story grabs our attention. The characters are revealed in a central figure, and we are able at last to understand the drama and the truth. James Meek attended Edinburgh University and as a journalist for the "Guardian" and "Observer" reported from Russia for ten years. He has been able to show us the horrific sights and scenes of Siberia: cruelty, murder and cannibalism. And, yet the sun shining on the snow, the love of a man and a woman; the everyday life of those who live the best they can.

Samarin, one of the main characters shows up in tiny, poor Yazyk, a Siberian community. His story is that of a political prisoner, a run-away from a horrible place in the Arctic. He has escaped with "Mohican" a guard at this prison. Mohican took Samarin with him, it seems, to eat his flesh. Samarin's story is slowly unraveled, but not before we meet the other characters. An extreme Christian sect that castrates its members so they can be called angels. A group of Czechoslovakian legions, trying to leave this God-forbidden place, led by Lieutenant Mutz. Mutz loves the earth and a woman, Anna Petrovna. Anna is the wife of the leader of the Christian sect. She is also a woman who loves men and sex, photography and her son.

All these characters and more who are puzzled about many events. They learn as we do, when the puzzle begins to fit; the meaning of the extremes of the political, the spiritual and the humanity. There are heroes and there is goodness. This is a particularly spectacular book, written by a particularly special writer.
Highly recommended. prisrob 1-24-06

Showdown in Siberia.......2007-02-21

James Meek brings together a number of forces in an isolated Siberian village during the last stages of the Russian Revolution: a young mother who has lost her husband; a sect of religious zealots and their otherworldly leader; a shaman from one of the forest tribes and his albino acolyte; a force of Czech soldiers, unable to return to their newly-established country; and an escaped political prisoner, driven, charismatic, and wrapped in mystery. Meek gradually introduces several even more unusual elements into this mixture [some of which are revealed by other reviewers on this site, which is a pity]. The result is an exciting and relatively short work of fiction that defies easy categorization; history, romance, mystery, horror, politics, and even comedy combine in a quite unusual way.

I have to say, though, that it is not entirely a success. For one thing, it demands more knowledge of early Soviet history than can be expected of every reader: to understand, for example, the timeline of the defeat of the White Russians by the Reds, the history of the Russian prison camps, and the surprising presence of the Czech Legion thousands of miles from home. For another, I personally found that the presence of such diverse elements made the novel difficult to follow, or rather difficult to penetrate to the deeper levels that the author occasionally implies, as he raises questions about fanaticism, religion, and the suitability of means to ends. The cover reviews compare James Meek to Tolstoy, Lermontov, and Pasternak; this is true in that he writes well, and captures the Russian atmosphere memorably. But although Meek juggles them skilfully, themes of this scope really demand to be developed at a length more typical of his great Russian predecessors if the book is to rise above the level of a very good thriller and become a true novel as those authors would have understood the term.

Odd Book.......2007-02-19

It is difficult to identify with such unusual heroes as a cannibal and a self multilator even if the author throws the two of them redemptive acts in the final pages of the book.
The bizarre cast of characters does not live up to the stage it performs on.
I expected much more when the book was compared on the cover to Dr. Zhivago and Anna Karenina.....PLEASE.....

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong (Indispensable Guides for Godly Living)

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Book for every Marriage
Excellent Book!!!
A Must Read!
Wisdom for the married!
"For every husband, every wife."

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong (Indispensable Guides for Godly Living)
Leslie Vernick
Manufacturer: WaterBrook Press
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 1578563976
Release Date: 2003-09-16

Book Description

Experience the Blessings of an Imperfect Marriage. We all–at one time or another–have the opportunity to act right when our spouse acts wrong. There are no perfect marriages or perfect spouses. We know that having a good marriage requires effort and hard work. Yet we often don’t know how to continue to love when we are angry, hurt, scared, or just plain irritated. Nor are we sure what that kind of love is supposed to look like. Should we be patient? Forgive and forget? Do something else entirely?

Acting right when your spouse acts wrong will not necessarily guarantee a more satisfying marital relationship, nor will it automatically make your spouse change his or her ways–although both could occur. It will, however, help you see how God is stretching you in the midst of your marital difficulties, teach you to respond wisely when wronged, and lead you into a deeper relationship with Christ as you yield your will to his plan for your life and learn to be more like him.

Customer Reviews:

Book for every Marriage.......2006-02-23

The real title is "Indispensable Guides for Godly Living" - it is so helpful and within one week of reading it I see changes in myself and my marriage. This is not just for troubled relationships. As your marriage grows so will you - in Christ!

Excellent Book!!!.......2005-09-22

This is one of the best books on relationships that I've ever read. Every married couple should read it! It's not just a fluff book on "how to have a happy marriage," it's a book that challanges and encourages you, and helps you clearly understand God's plan for your marriage. I'm very thankful that I stumbled upon it, and I plan to read it over and over.

A Must Read!.......2002-08-27

I have read countless books on marriage, not because I have a hard marriage, just the opposite.
I feel my marriage is worth all the effort I put into it and because our Enemy is always throwing those daggers at Christian marriages it never hurts to be encouraged by others.

Leslie has written one of the best if not THE best book on marriage that I have ever read. It does not seem to be a book written through the human perspective it seems that all of her wisdom is God-given and Biblical in nature.

You could almost think of her book as a bible study on acting right (at any time, not just in marriage)! She not only tells how to act right but why we should and how we will benefit and how our spouse will benefit.

She does not promise that acting right will guarantee that your spouse will begin to act right also. That is not the issue. The issue is that we are in a marriage not for our felt needs she says but our real needs and what we really need is to learn to be more like Jesus. Sometimes our Lord uses tough things for our benefit and for us to grow spiritually. (There is always the hope and possibility tho that the more we act right our spouse will learn to act right also.)

I highly recommend that anyone read this book, if you are married, engaged, dating a possible mate (aren't all dates possible mates) or just even want to learn how to respond to other people correctly.
Thank you, Leslie for such a great book!

Wisdom for the married!.......2001-11-22

Leslie Vernick provides practical wisdom that can move you beyond the struggles and entanglements of your martial frustrations or woes toward new growth. This book is a must IF you want to do what is best for your marriage-- regardless of the decisions and choices of your spouse. Georgia Shaffer, PA Licensed Psychologist

"For every husband, every wife.".......2001-10-31

Unless you're married to Jesus, your spouse often acts wrong. The most natural thing in the world is to react in kind. Natural, but not helpful! With tremendous insight, licensed counselor Leslie Vernick explains what our reactions reveal about us, why it's so important we respond right, and how to practically act right when everything within us wants to act wrong. I found this book incredibly convicting, extremely encouraging, and highly practical. Give your marriage a gift and read this book as soon as possible. And, when you're finished, pass it on to your spouse. Chances are his/her mate doesn't always act right either!

Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love

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Care for the Dead...and Their Hard-Earned Savings!
Read it before you die!
Gets 10 Stars from Me
Good handbook-style reference
Most excellent, and highly reoommended.

Caring for the Dead: Your Final Act of Love
Lisa Carlson
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Book Description

This is a comprehensive guide for consumers making funeral arrangements with or without a funeral director. It contains detailed descriptions of the "tricks of the funeral trade", to avoid unwanted and overpriced goods and services, and how to file a complaint when subjected to unethical funeral home practices. It provides practical information on all aspects of death care, so that family, friends, and church groups can perform some or all of the functions themselves rather than hiring a funeral director. The laws and regulations of each state are described in easy-to-understand language, with listings of "consumer concerns" in states that have inadequate protections for consumers. The individual chapters for each state also include contact information for medical schools that have a need for body donations, crematories, local non-profit memorial societies, and specific statewide cautions about dealing with funeral and cemetery establishments. The Federal Trade Commission's Funeral Rule is explained, including the protections it provides for consumers and also its shortcomings.

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Care for the Dead...and Their Hard-Earned Savings!.......2005-05-11

In "Caring for the Dead," Lisa Carlson provides both an informative guide to DIY funerals and cremations, as well as a searing exposé of the funeral and cemetery industries.

Carlson divides her book into three sections: "Personal Stories" is a 40-page introduction to the text in which different individuals (including Carlson) discuss their experiences with death and the subsequent disposal of the dead; "General Information" consists of 14 chapters and explains both "traditional" and non-traditional funerals, as well as cremation and body and organ donation; finally, "Caring for the Dead" details the relevant laws and regulations of all 50 US states.

It was the "General Information" section that I found most captivating. I've never had to arrange a funeral (and hopefully I won't need to for some time yet!), so I was woefully unaware of what actually takes place during the course of planning and implementing one. Carlson demonstrates how greed and callousness have pervaded the funeral and burial industries, causing prices to skyrocket while sales tactics plummet to new levels of depravity.

Through manipulative techniques and downright lies, funeral directors convince John Q. Public that embalming is both required by law and essential for public safety (in reality, it is neither, and the chemicals used are actually toxic to the environment), while cemeteries strong-arm consumers into paying maximum price for a minimum amount of real estate, all the while demanding that any upgrades be purchased, installed, and maintained solely by them (for a hefty fee, of course!). Even cremations don't come cheap, as crematories guilt-trip survivors into buying expensive caskets (which will simply be destroyed within days) and cemeteries deceive them into buying niches in which to "bury" the cremains.

While this is all quite appalling, it hardly comes as a surprise; after all, it's just another example of capitalism at its worst. Harder to comprehend is how funeral homes and cemeteries are allowed to get away with this sort of crap! Well, again, I guess I shouldn't be shocked - we are talking about the FTC here. Like many savvy businesses, funeral homes and cemeteries simply band together in the form of associations, which then employ lobbyists, apply a modicum of political pressure, and top it all off with campaign contributions, and - presto! - the FTC at your command!

End of political rant, back to the book review!

In essence, the "General Information" section serves as an excellent consumer guide, informing you of your rights, detailing the immoral and sometimes illegal sales tactics you're likely to encounter, and teaching you how to come out victorious over those who wish to separate you from YOUR money and rob you of the valuable opportunity to care for YOUR dead, YOUR way. The final chapters on state-by-state laws offer an excellent supplement to the general information.

I highly recommend "Caring for the Dead" to EVERYONE, whether you anticipate planning a funeral in the near future or not. Many Americans are duped into buying funeral and burial services that they neither need nor want. Chances are that, sooner or later, we'll all be responsible for "caring for the dead," or will know someone who is. As consumers (it sounds rather crass, but `tis true!), we must arm ourselves with information so that we aren't caught off-guard when a death does occur. After all, we shouldn't expect those involved in the funeral business to look after our bests interests; the bottom line is that they're businesspeople who are concerned about their bottom lines! Educate yourself, and share your knowledge with your friends, your family, and anyone you know who's in the unfortunate position of having to arrange a funeral or cremation.

Another excellent book that deals with this subject is "The American Way of Death Revisited," by Jessica Mitford (to which Lisa Carlson contributed). Ms. Mitford deals with the subject in more of a muck-raking journalistic manner (as opposed to a consumer guide, as is "Caring for the Dead"), but it's a highly informative analysis of the "American death" nonetheless. After developing a sense of the funeral industry's antics in "Caring for the Dead," you'll appreciate Mitford's dry wit and humor in "The American Way of Death Revisited."

- Kelly Garbato

Author & ePublisher, Peedee Publishing / Hot Dog!, LLC
Contributor, Always Remembered

Read it before you die!.......2001-11-18

This book is a must-read before you pre-buy your funeral and accoutrements. Caught planning someone else's funeral? Take time to read this book. This book has a load of legal information and practical advice to keep you from being scammed by those who are pros and have a ready audience in grieving people.

Not all funeral homes are devious. Some, no doubt, are very ethical and take the time to be fair with clients. But a time of grief isn't the time to seriously look into whether a home is trustworthy or not.

What you have been lead to believe about funerals and the law may not be accurate. This book is a real eye-opener!

Gets 10 Stars from Me.......2001-06-12

This is the update version of her original Caring For Your Own Dead and what I said about that book applies here. Lost count of the number of copies of this book I have bought, but I love giving it as a gift, and have used it myself actually when helping friends build plain pine burial boxes and oak burial boxes for loved ones.

It is a subject that needs to be discussed more, since so many people assume that ONLY a funeral home that charges thru the nose in prices, can legally handle a body or a funeral and burial. Fact is nothing could be further from the truth. The book discusses each states laws, along with what family and loved ones need to know about getting tansport permits to get the body of a loved one either home from the hospital, and prepared for a service and burial or to a local cemetary or cremation facility for handling. And the new edition has updated info on state to state laws.

Fact is my Grandma Katy who grew up in rural Montana knew all about washing and dressing family members and the whole life to death process and that death and burial need NOT be a scary and uneasy thing to take part in. The author discusses all the myths of handling the dead, and all the misconceptions people have about death and dying. Personally I cannot think of a more loving gift than welcoming a new life into the world and helping a loved on who has exited this world.

This book and the classic The American Way Of Death by Jessica Mitford are MUST reads for anyone who is mature, thoughtful and not so easy swayed to handing all their personal needs over to strangers. Ceasar Chavez' family made his plain pine burial boxes. The Amish make all their own burial boxes and have for centuries. Locally we made our friends Bea Brickeys plain pine box per her wishes.

Bill Cosbys family buried their beloved son who had been murdered, at their home. And the Amish, some Quakers and a number of Sierra Club members I know have all done the "home funeral", so the idea that you the average citizen cannot do what the Amish and the wealthy do for their own loved ones, is just not true. Read the book if for no other reason that to learn something new.

Good handbook-style reference.......2001-02-28

I had the earlier edition of this book, "Caring For Your Own Dead," as well as the most recent. Over the years, I've given both copies away to others.

The revised edition has a few extra essays by Carlson and others, but its bulk, and most important part, remains its state-by-state breakdown of mortuary laws. You may never again have to listen with a straight face while a Funeral Director tells you that the embalming and vaults are required by state law. She also lists cremation and burial societies in most states.

Most excellent, and highly reoommended........2000-05-07

This book is clearly writtten, and details what is and what is NOT needed to bury one's own.

Our father was buried simply, no flowers, or any of what he would have called 'that show stuff'.

Book Description

A course in compassion from the creators of Random Acts of Kindness, Practice Random Acts of Kindness is a compilation of inspiring meditations, affirmations, and true stories collected from the growing number of "kindness experts" in the world. Contributors include Cecil Williams, Billy Graham, Rosalyn Carter, the Dalai Lama, presidents George Bush and Bill Clinton, and a once-homeless millionaire in Los Angeles whose life was transformed by an anonymous act of generosity.

Kindness is a revolution whose time has come and, while most people sincerely want to be more caring, Practice Random Acts of Kindness brings it all home with simple suggestions of how to be kinder and why. From the wake of Hurricane Katrina to the tragedy of the tsunami to troops in Iraq performing acts of daily compassion, we see many glimpses of what a more benevolent world might look like. In Practice Random Acts of Kindness, the editors who flamed the spark of kindness tell us exactly how we can create this future and effect REAL change through kindness.

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Practice Random Acts of Kindness.......2007-07-18

The world would be a much better place if we all practiced random acts of kindness on a regular basis. It only takes a simple act, a kind word, or some small amount of kindness to change a person's whole day. Even the crankiest person, when given the chance, can actually show that their humanity. Moreover, kindness is highly contagious, so it is the gift that keeps giving. In return, we are able see people in a different light, feel more connected, and ultimately change the world just a little.

Practice Random Acts of Kindness is truly awe-inspiring. From the title, I expected that this book would include very specific lists of things that I could do to practice random acts of kindness in my own life. I was fully ready to pour over several hundreds of pages of ideas until I found one or two acts that I could actually do.

I was happily surprised. As I read though the pages, I came up with dozens of things that I could actually do in my daily life. Instead of long lists to peruse, this book examines important topics associated with helping others such as understanding what you expect to get out of being kind, how seemingly small acts go a long way, and most importantly that the best time to do an act of kindness is when you don't feel like it (for someone who might not be so appreciative). Each section includes an inspirational quote and stories of those who received or witnessed acts of kindness. This format allowed me to be creative and find ways to use my own talents, abilities, and circumstances to make the world just a little better.

Random acts of kindness........2007-03-16

This book is a wonderful expression on what the world needs most. I just couldn't punish my 8 month old puppy when he ate the cover off the book. So, even there is a random act of kindness inspired by this book.
I really enjoy Kushner's books.

More on random acts of kindness.......2007-02-09

"Try not. do or do not, there is no try."
-- Yoda, in The Empire Strikes Back movie of the Star Wars trilogy

Each special story starts with a quote. To me, this Yoda quote says it all. We should not talk or think about doing random acts of kindness--we should be doing them.

People's stories are divided into six sections:

Kindness Is An Attitude and an Action
Kindness Begins at Home
Kindness Ripples Out into the World
Kindness Creates Happiness and Peace of Mind
Kindness Generates Love and Compassion
Kindness Feeds the Body and Soul

In all areas of our life we can practice acts of kindness--and that is shown in these stories collected by the authors of Random Acts of Kindness.

The Random Acts of Kindness series has sold over 1.5 million books since first published in 1996. This latest release provides readers with meditations, affirmations, and stories collected on kind deeds throughout the world. It gives readers the spiritual and psychological impetus to "pay it forward" in a meaningful way, understanding that their act may go unnoticed, but as Rabbi Kushner says "our reward is the knowledge that we have redeemed the world."

At a time when readers are starved for heartfelt stories, good deeds, concerned neighbors, and all around compassion, Conari felt the time was right to reprint this book.

Armchair Interview says: Now is the time to act. Acts of kindness are easy to do.

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Inspiring
Mirrors of Love in Acts of Courage
Feel the Enthusiasm
Honoring people! What a concept!
Should be Required Reading!

Mirrors of Love - In Acts of Courage
Cheri Lutton
Manufacturer: CCQH Publishing
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0971644934
Release Date: 2004-08-05

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Mirrors of Love - In Acts of Courage is a fascinating read on love, leadership, and humanity. The creative nonfiction book series is a must for any self-help, business ethics, personal development, or biography book collection. A virtual blueprint for courageous living, the book is divided into six parts: spirit, mind, body, family, work, and society. Each part also portrays thirty famous and private leaders: Jesus of Nazareth, Mary, Blessed Mother, Pope John Paul II, Steve Barnhill, Mother Teresa, Crystal Lutton, President John F. Kennedy, Larry Wilson, Bob Proctor, Mark Victor Hansen, Steve and Steven Lutton, Steve Siebold, Rachael Lampa, Robert Troch, Steve Immer, First Lady Jacqueline Kennedy,Yvonne Kalench, Doc Moody, Renee Sisney, Melissa Montoya, Senator Robert F. Kennedy, Dean Nixon, Anita Sanders, Secretary Colin Powell, Patricia Krown, Scot Keranen, Grace, Princess of Monaco, Liz Mostov, Diana, Princess of Wales, and America's Finest in Tragedy.

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"There's a small group of people who make things happen, and a little larger group of people who watch things happening. Then, there are the unfortunate majority of people who never noticed that anything was happening. Cheri Lutton has bountifully written a book of powerful profiles and interviews that gets directly into the heads and hearts of that first group. For anyone who is up for taking a bigger bite out of life, this book will provide the inspiration, direction, and insights that will make the reader salivate to make new and wonderful things happen in their own life. Read this book and reap the rewards that are yours for the taking!" - Larry Wilson, BestSelling Author, Play To Win &Co-Author, One Minute Sales Person, Founder, Wilson Learning

Customer Reviews:

Inspiring.......2003-11-02

This book has shown me that average everyday people and people with amazing abilities can live their dreams. This is something i wish to achieve within myself. By reading this book and hearing how their passion bursting out within, I see the possiblities of a different life unfolding. Cheri Lutton lives what she preaches, thus making the book genuine and true.
I encourage anyone who fear living their dreams to read this book. You will find that living your truth is not so scary after all, and that many people around are doing jumping off that cliff with joy and inspiration.

Mirrors of Love in Acts of Courage.......2003-10-18

WOW! I had such an incredable experience reading this book! There are times when I am feeling a little down or I am in some need of inspiration, and re-reading some of this book helps me to get back what I am lacking at times...courage and inspiration.

Feel the Enthusiasm.......2003-03-01

You cannot help but feel Cheri's constant enthusiasm. She seemlessly weaves together countless inspirational stories from all walks of life. Cheri has demonstrated a true gift to touch each and every one of her readers in a variety of ways by sharing with us the lives of relatively few.

Honoring people! What a concept!.......2003-02-08

For anyone that feels they are not as blessed as others then this book will change their mind. We are all courageous in our own way and Cheri helps us understand this by writing about famous people alongside unfamous people. Placing them side by side and admiring all of them for their perserverance, faith and courage. We tend to honor heroes for great big things like scoring the winning touchdown or winning the presidency, but we can also honor the single mother who struggles to feed her family or the person who pursues a dream through tough adversity. Put down that negative newspaper and pick up this book! It will help spread some goodness in this current climate of fear we have in the world today.

Should be Required Reading!.......2003-01-30

This book should be required reading for everyone! I loved the book so much I just ordered a copy for my mother. There are not enough words to properly explain the way this book leaves you feeling!!

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A little something is missing
Strange but Mesmerizing; NOT a Love Story
Strange but Mesmerizing; Not a Love Sory
a lot of promise that fails to deliver.
One of a kind

The People's Act of Love
James Meek
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James Meek has won several awards for his journalism and his fiction, but The People's Act Of Love is a singular departure from all that came before. It is a big Russian novel, written in English. Meek has upped the ante on such books as Cold Mountain and The March in bringing the reader his version of the unspeakable horror and brutality of war, the colder-than-cold winter, the cruelty and humanity of people in extremis.

It is 1919 in Yazyk, Siberia, far from anywhere. The war is waning, but its ravages remain. There is an uneasy detente between a group of Czech soldiers, marooned on the losing side and longing to go home, and a fanatical Christian sect that practices castration as a means of purifying themselves. One of their number is their leader, Balashov, married to a beautiful and restive photographer, Anna Petrovna, who has come to the village of Yazyk to raise her son, after learning of her husband's castration. Her fury knows no bounds. She gives herself to anyone who is interested as a means of shaming Balashov, and satisfying her own appetites.

Into this motley collection of people comes a stranger, Samarin, who says he has escaped from The White Garden, Russia's northernmost prison camp, a place of unbelievable barbarism. Shortly after his arrival, the village shaman, possessed of a third eye and an albino sidekick, is found murdered. Suspicion falls immediately on Samarin. In successive chapters, Meek has each person or faction tell his or her story. Samarin, a revolutionary, charismatic visionary, every bit as zealous as the castrates, tells of his escape. Matula, the crazy, cocaine-snorting leader of the Czechs, doesn't really want to go home, so he prevents his soldiers from leaving. Mutz, a sensible sort, quite taken with Anna, dreams of home and keeps hope alive among his soldiers. Balashov tells of what led him to castrate himself.

The hopes, wishes, dreams, and illusions of all these people converge in Meek's novel. He shows man as pure, base, megalomaniacal, rational, intelligent, incredibly stupid--every aspect of humanity is examined, especially compassion. Despite the horrid excesses of war--and peace--Meek, in their telling, weaves a completely believable story of what happens to people who are not just at the margins of the world, but at the edge of their ability to understand themselves and the world around them. (The people's act of love, by the way, has nothing to do with love: it is cannibalism.) Don't miss this extraordinary novel; it is hugely deep and satisfying. --Valerie Ryan

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In the outer reaches of a country recently torn apart by civil war lives a small Christian sect and its enigmatic leader, Balashov. Anna Petrovna, a beautiful, restless photographer, is raising her young son by herself amid this brutal landscape. Stationed nearby is a company of Czech soldiers, desperate to get home but on the losing side of the recent conflict. Each soldier lives in a fragile co-existence and a troubling uncertainty prevails. Into this isolated community trudges Samarin, an escapee from Russia's northernmost prison camp. Immediately apprehended, he is brought before Captain Matula, the Czech company's megalomaniac commander. But the stranger's appearance has caught the attention of others, including that of Anna Petrovna. And when a local shaman is found murdered, suspicion and terror engulf this village. To be published in twenty countries, The People's Act of Love is quite simply magnificent storytelling and it promises to be an auspicious literary event.

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A little something is missing.......2007-06-09

My review's title does not refer to the act of self-mutilation by the sect of castrates, who do so in the name of love and God, and in an attempt to eliminate the evil caused by their base instincts. To me, something was lacking in what was almost a very compelling story. After all, the scene is in a remote village in Siberia, at a watershed time after the revolution. We have cannibalism, the religious castrates, a stranded group of Czech soldiers led by a crazy man, an apparent widow, and the mysterious Samarin with his compelling and eloquent story of escape.

This creative story lacked the narrative drive that could have forced me to continue, eager for the themes and characters to come together for resolution. One of the major plot lines is that of the stranded Czechs soldiers who cannot or will not return to their newly formed homeland, and who are eventually threated by an advancing Red Army bent on wiping them out for past atrocities. I couldn't muster enough interest to care much, although the Jewish officer Mutz and a few regulars were nicely drawn in human terms.

Mr. Meek's strongest writing may be in the extensive back stories. We learn about Anna's youth, we hear Balashov's dramatic explanation of his change, and the people of Yazyk are fascinated by Samarin's tale of his dramatic escape from the "White Garden" prison with his fellow traveler, the cannibal. All wonderfully told.

Anna's character left me ambivalent. As a youth, she showed spark and talent, headed toward a future in a world of more sophistication than her hometown. To me, her presence in a dull village in Siberia with her son did not fit, and her search for love through casual sex was unsatisfying. Perhaps I did not comprehend the essence of her story, whereas Balashov's own fall from grace and partial redemption in the end fit more tightly with the themes on the human condition. Love and evil are not so easily controlled by a quick slice of the knife.

Mr. Meek has captured the feel of Russian fiction, and incorporated some examples of Russian cynical humor. One of my favorites: "He was able to talk about Marx to them with more eloquence and conviction than they could muster because he wasn't hampered by any knowledge of the great thinker's writings." Perfect.

Strange but Mesmerizing; NOT a Love Story.......2007-01-31

Set in Siberia toward the end of the Bolshevik Revolution, this is one of the strangest but most intriguing books I've ever read. The primary subjects are: the rise of communism and some of the underlying reasons and a religious cult that practices castration on those who wish to become "angels" while still here on earth. And did I forget to mention cannibalism? Indeed those were tumultuous and confusing times as the social order defined by czarist Russia and its various institutions collapses.
A glance at the author's credentials shows that he clearly knows his subject. But his approach is to tell the interweaving stories of several different people: the headstrong Anna Petrovna who becomes a war widow and mother at a tender age and moves to a Siberian village to escape her past; her charming but elusive husband; the enigmatic but equally charming Samarin, who escapes a prison camp north of the Arctic circle; and a cast of Czech soldiers that might inhabit any war comedy, e.g. MASH, Hogan's Heroes, etc.
This is definitely NOT a love story, although there are elements of love within. Once the reader adjusts to that fact, it is an engrossing period piece that makes the case for communism (as preferable to what preceded it) by anecdote.

Strange but Mesmerizing; Not a Love Sory.......2007-01-31

a lot of promise that fails to deliver........2006-12-23

a literary thiller that starts with a lot of promise. part joseph conrad, part graham greene, and a pinch of Gabriel Garcia Marquez, and that's all very good. the problem is the thiller part. like almost all thrillers this book disinegrates (in the last 54 pages) into a bunch of cornball speeches and tying-up of things that had me rolling my eyes. verdict: sappy crap at end ruins promising book. try again mr. meek, you can do better.

One of a kind.......2006-11-07

Meek's style has a lot in common with Chekov's--simple, brisk and always on its toes. He too has the uncanny talent for creating brutally realistic characters moreso through perfect pitch and timing rather than straight description. He has a similar absurdist humor also. Sometimes reading this, I would cry and bust out laughing at the same time.

Other aspects of Meek's writing are uniquely impressive. His descriptions of setting are incredible. With a few deft words he creates visual images more exact than most writers do filling up an entire page.

As well-researched and traditionally "Russian" as this book is, it still reads like a modern novel. Meek is concerned with action as well as characterization, adding some mystery and plot twists; and language, sex, and violence are straightforward instead of suggested.
Altogether, the best of many worlds. An unusual and wonderful book.

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