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In this entertaining, surprising, and thought-provoking book, family therapist Stanley Siegel challenges conventional therapeutic thinking with an unusual approach: instead of trying to "fix" clients, he encourages them to appreciate their own adaptive ingenuity. In the process, something remarkable almost always happens -- as in the case of the couple who solved their conflict only after literally building a wall within their home. These dozen stories demonstrate Siegel's convictions that the therapist has as much to learn as the patient, and that real healing is possible only when the healer truly respects his or her patients.
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Thinking Outside the Box.......2002-01-21
As a first year master's student in counseling, I enjoyed this book because people's stories fascinate me--their case histories and how the therapist relates with the patient. This book is for the most part extremely interesting because it's written by someone who thinks outside the box. The title story was one of my favorites.
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Caring for troubled adoptive/foster care children can be both harrowing and heroic. Many of today's foster and adopted children come from backgrounds where they experience not only the loss of previous caregivers, but have also suffered from abuse, sexual exploitation, or neglect. Individuals who invite these children into their homes often find themselves in a therapeutic role that can tax and exhaust. Troubled Transplants focuses on these children, their backgrounds, and their deleterious impact on the interaction and environment with the foster or adoptive family. The authors provide suggestions about behavioral roots and practical strategies to address and improve these issues.
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Helpful.......2006-04-24
This book contains both useful and not-so-useful information. It covers the basics of harmful, abusive and neglectful relationships and why they cause behavioral problems. It also discusses many therapeutic adoptive and foster family environments and techniques to be used with problem kids. The methods suggested are very situation-specific, and all were developed with the advice of therapists working with the families whose situations are (anonymously) described.
The book, as a previous reviewer notes, mostly discusses methods of therapeutic intervention, with the aim of achieving four goals: Reduce and manage acting out; assist the child to become aware and conscious of others negative expectations; help the child develop constructive interpersonal skills; increase positive interactions between the parent and child.
The authors note frequently that when dealing with these kinds of situations, there is no magic bullet. Therapies and therapeutic parental reactions must be developed in response to each child's needs. But very often, these strategies work. For example, the behavior of a screaming child was changed when the parents and other siblings began to scream along with him, until he stared at them silently, in disbelief. The method also worked in a supermarket, when the child started screaming there. And humorously, the store personnel even played into the strategy, announcing over the PA system, "child meltdown in aisle 4." Ever after, this child stopped screaming for attention.
Obviously, not all therapies work in all situations. Also, some of the therapies are controversial and are probably contra-indicated in many if not all cases.
Even so, the creativity of the ideas offered herein is a very useful springboard for other parents and therapists struggling to find ways of modifying a child's behavior, when all the other, traditional behavior modification systems have failed.
--Alyssa A. Lappen
Abusive "Holding Therapy".......2006-01-06
Be advised that Delaney and Kunstal promote "Attachment Therapy," an unvalidated and abusive form of coercive restraint that is use as psychotherapy for adoptive and foster children. Attachment Therapy is denounced by the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children (APSAC Task Force, 2006) and the use of physical restraint in this manner is condemned by all mental health professional organizations.
On page 142, Kunstal and Delaney describe the "Holding Therapy" they do:
"...it is essential for foster and adoptive parents (and caseworkers and therapists) to be ready for such interventions. Many parents and professionals may find this approach quite overwhelming and intense -- even contrary to their beliefs about helping. However for some children in placement, therapeutic holding is imperative to stimulate them to cathart, vent and then sort out what it all means afterwards. Without such extreme intervention, some children may be returned to hospital or residential settings..."
And on page 141: "When held in place, Jay became livid and struggled against the adults -- to no avail. His rage escalated quickly as he screamed louder and louder at those holding him. He commanded them to let him go, he threatened to turn them into the police, and he claimed that they were breaking his arms. The adults kept Jay in a 'therapeutic restraint,' nonetheless."
The whole notion that people can get rid of anger through catharsis was discredited decades ago. Forcing children into this sort of "therapy" is nothing less than torture.
Informative and empowering.......1998-02-26
This book explores the dynamics of both harmful (abusive and neglectful) and therapeutic (specially-trained adoptive and foster) family environments. Disturbed children can be helped to develop more productive and satisfying relationships, the authors suggest, through the efforts of foster and adoptive parents working in the home environment, aided by the support, encouragement, and resources of the professionals on the team.
Most of the book is concerned with therapeutic intervention, based on four goals: Manage acting out behavior; assist the child in becoming conscious of negative expectations of others; help the child develop constructive interpersonal skills; increase positive interactions between the parent and child. Delaney and Kunstal are clear there are no magic or immediate "cures." Their "unconventional" strategies (examples rather than prescriptions) attempt to discourage power struggles, create new opportunities for both the parent and the child, and encourage small successes in order to help motivate foster and adoptive parents to keep trying.
This book, coupled with Fostering Changes (a previous book by the same author), should be required reading for foster and adoptive parents and caseworkers. It is informative and empowering.
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Family businesses prosper by pursuing unconventional strategies. Because they are values-driven and think very long-term, they take approaches not popular with current management fashion or most companies. That is the key to their competitive advantage. However, family businesses must find ways to simultaneously serve business needs and family goals, which require very different priorities and principles. As a result, they must think paradoxically, and find insights that single-purpose enterprises need not contemplate. They must dare to be different. Family business requires a different governance system, but it must nevertheless be one that can be controlled. Building on insights from the worldâs premier family business executive education course, this book offers the Unconventional Wisdom needed to leverage the strategic and cultural uniqueness of a family business for enduring success.
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Family businesses prosper by pursuing unconventional strategies. Because they are values-driven and think very long-term, they take approaches not popular with current management fashion or most companies. That is the key to their competitive advantage. However, family businesses must find ways to simultaneously serve business needs and family goals, which require very different priorities and principles. As a result, they must think paradoxically, and find insights that single-purpose enterprises need not contemplate. They must dare to be different. Family business requires a different governance system, but it must nevertheless be one that can be controlled. Building on insights from the world's premier family business executive education course, this book offers the Unconventional Wisdom needed to leverage the strategic and cultural uniqueness of a family business for enduring success.
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Academics issue a clear compendium on family companies.......2006-05-05
This brief book is the product of an academic collaboration but its professorial essays are mercifully clear and free of academic jargon. This collection, edited by John Ward, explores the performance, management and governance issues that matter most to family businesses. The title refers to the fact that family-owned companies are unconventional, at least in comparison to publicly owned businesses and, therefore, they need a distinctive management approach. Family businesses derive competitive advantage from precisely those practices that conventional managers abhor - such as nepotism. We recommend this book to anyone engaged in a family business, and certainly to other academics studying this subject.
Judo for business families.......2006-02-06
Similar to using an opponent's strength against him, as in martial arts, Unconventional Wisdom shows business families how they can turn a negative into a positive. Or think of it like this: what used to be considered a negative has been discovered to be a positive. Nepotism is not a bad thing, for example, using nepotism positively awards the business with a loyal, passionate, dedicated employee.
Other examples abound in this fine book, like how family business frugality is a positive. Long range planning can better be done by families with a multi-generational viewpoint.
Perhaps soon there will be university courses for NON-family business people to learn from the world's leading family businesses. As referenced within Unconventional Wisdom, the family controlled businesses in the S&P 500 were found to be more valuable and more profitable than the non-family controlled businesses.
And that quotation you always see about how few family businesses make it into the fourth generation? It does not apply to the modern world: if you are the second or third generation in a family business, you have nothing to worry about as long as you build upon the STRENGTHS inherent in family businesses.
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This engrossing book by the author of The Lenses of Gender is an account of her years as an egalitarian partner in a gender-liberated, anti-homophobic, feminist marriage. Bem reveals how she and her husband, Daryl, became gender pioneers, how they raised their two children, and what their experiences-both positive and negative-have to say about the viability of nontraditional gender arrangements in society today.
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Oh please, Gender Troubled.......2003-03-28
While this book may have its flaws (I wish its sense of narrative were richer, for example), it hardly warrants the snotty, ad homi/homonem attack by Gender...Gender Troubled strikes me as one of those "scholars"...who will never forgive him/herself for growing up in a bourgeois family and who keeps saying, "I AM a radical, I AM a radical, I AM a radical." Bad manners and purple prose do not a radical critique make. Go get another piercing--perhaps that will make you feel more self-righteous, girlfriend (whatever your sex/gender/sexuality/subjectposition may be).
genderblind phantasy.......2001-12-22
Back in the day, some people figured out that gender is a cultural construction, and that was important. Still is. Some people, or at least one of them, seemed to go from there to gender doesn't matter, if you don't want it to, unless of course you step out of your comfy bubble. Yeah. If you are really gender subversive, like Ms. Bem, then gender suddenly doesn't have to affect you, you can just be who you are and you can raise your kids like that. When they go to school and the unenlightened lumpen proletariat make "uneducated" and "prejudiced" comments such as expressing confusion that a boy's wearing barrettes, you can just reassure your son that he is superior to the masses, although not because he's living an upper middle class white academic sheltered lifestyle with a (pink) backpack full of privilege, but rather because culture is dumb.
I also enjoyed the security of knowing that, although gender is a construction, biological sex sure isn't. That's Science. And while cultural constructions are dumb, Scientific ones are important. THerefore, while your son sure is a boy, what a boy is can be whatever he wants--except, barrettes aside, a girl. Girls and boys are biologically determined. Cultural signifiers, which mislead the bamboozled and ungifted masses into believing that they actually signify, are in fact completely irrelevant when you can step into An Unconventional Family and just take off those lenses of gender. Give your eyes a rest. Let your brain float free from reality, lock your door and forescorn the people who feel that gender constantly impacts their life whether or not they want it to. Really, it's just their lack of imagination and Science when they are confronted by society's concrete barriers to eliminating gender from your life.
Also, someone missed the pomo boat, and that, apart from the evident theoretical problems raised by Bem's "reify oldetyme stereotypes, knock em down, and then advocate a lifestyle based on an attitude adjustment", more than just a self help strategy, is also only accessible to the privileged few. And completely useless, as well as aesthetically displeasing. I was especially frustrated by the book's second wave tendencies to buy into notions that playing with cultural signifiers is buying into one's own oppression, whereas demonizing them is somehow "subversive". The answer is, of course, Bem's academifrump version of androgyny, which she doesn't seem to realize is just as much of a gendered cultural construction as anything she disses. Also, she should note that "real" gender subversives would be considered, in one way or another, pawns of the patriarchy by her cozy coffee klatch of delensed academics who somehow missed the past thirty years of radical gender theory. However "pro-sex", wacky and transistorized Bem tries to be, she is just as naiively, repressively and uselessly moralizing in her privileged myopia as Catherine McKinnon. Her vision of life outside of the confines of gender is actually just as narrow and paralyzing as that of those explicitly invested in upholding the bianaries she claims to deconstruct. Her ideas for how to build such a shnasty escape fanatsy within one's own home are also actually a blueprint for raising kids unable to cope with or process the rest of the world, let alone construct a productive radical space within it. Thank god if you're a Beminist you have your privilege to protect you as stumbled confusedly through the dumb conventionally gendered world, mixing with the duped masses who believe gender matters, otherwise the ideology would be a recipe for raising a kid who's gonna get [messed] up pretty bad, a kid with elitist mythology and smug retorts to fall back on rather than genuine coping mechanisms.
Wonderful Eye-Opener.......2000-12-18
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great book.......2000-02-09
Fascinating look at gender issues in child rearing. Well worth the time, plus engrossing and entertaining.
A book every woman and man should read.......1999-11-14
Bem is a pretty cool psychologist who lives her life in a way to test the theories she proposed. It really helps those who want to raise their kids in a non-sexist and gender aschematic way to gain more insights of the practical issues in doing that. I really appreciated that being a researcher Bem was able to share her personal life to others so as to illustrate the gender related problems and struggles in our society.
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