Not Trauma Alone: Therapy for Child Abuse Survivors in Family and Social Context (SERIES IN TRAUMA AND LOSS)

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Until now, psychotherapy for child abuse survivors often centered on the trauma of their abuse experiences. However, survivors frequently reveal a history suggesting it was not abuse trauma alone that created their difficulties, but growing up essentially alone - without the consistent emotional support and guidance needed for development of effective functioning. This book presents an alternative to trauma-focused treatment that, though effective for treatment of other forms of trauma, can induce deteriorated rather than improved functioning in survivors of prolonged childhood maltreatment. The contextual therapy presented in Not Trauma Alone delineates a psychotherapeutic approach that emphasizes helping survivors develop the capacities for effective functioning that were never transmitted to them during their formative years. Detailed descriptions of the methods and interventions comprising contextual therapy are included in this critical book for all mental health professionals, clinicians, academics, and students in the field.

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Great book - really offers context - recommended for professionals.......2007-06-06

This book is really for professionals; I wouldn't recommend my clients read it. I appreciate the perspective it brings to an often too politicized field. In addition, Dr. Gold does an excellent job of *not* blaming but rather using the available literature and the experience at his clinic to endorse ways to help our clients *move on* from their traumatic situations & contexts into a healthier and happier life.

Not Trauma Alone.......2007-03-26

Excellent viewpoints from different angles. I read it from a 'victim in recovery' view. I identified with the entire book. It does not cover the more unusual aspect of the victim living in fear of losing his life at the hands of his mother as in my case; but does cover very fully the more usual traumas in the family context of PCB (Prolonged Child Abuse). I read it all through, then started all over again - slowly - with my yellow highlighter. It gave me confirmation and great respect of Steven Gold's immense research and practical experience in this area. One can see 'Dissociation' in action from the social family viewpoint. Definitely a good study/read for those dealing with trauma victims as survivors or those in recovery. This is reality. (We are not alone!)

this is a great book.......2006-01-15

I think there is an unfortunate tendency among some therapists even today to focus primarily on child sexual abuse (and perhaps to a lesser extent, child physical abuse) as the source of the client's problems. The treatment approach that ensues all too often involves one of two things: focusing exclusively on the damaging effects of the traumas, which in the 80's and early 90's often promoted deterioration rather than increased functioning, or, in reaction to this, avoiding the subject altogether and focusing on the biological basis of mental illness and an often superficial examination of present-day problems.

This book provides another approach. As other reviewers have stated, it emphasizes the essential fact that many child abuse survivors grow up alone. If not physically alone, then emotionally abandoned in many cases. This points out the difficulties of living with insecure attachment, a subject that is getting more attention among therapists these days.

However, Dr. Gold does not stop with a conclusion that adding attachment theory to trauma theory will relieve the client's problems. He also says that many clients are missing essential life skills (and I mean basic skills, such as regulating emotions to avoid suicidal crises and be able to function; paying bills; keeping the house clean; maintaining a healthy weight, and establishing a stable attendance record at a job, among others). These skills are so obvious to many people that some therapists (along with the general public) expect child abuse survivors to know them. However, they all too often don't and are blamed when they can't function well (or even at all) in life. This book shows how to remedy these problems.

Another benefit of this book is the inclusion of experiences of male survivors, who were until recently often neglected in the child abuse literature.

I am using the word "survivor" in this view for lack of a better term, but Dr. Gold points out the limitation of this term; that it does not account for the non-abuse related aspects of the person.

Dr. Gold points out that clients usually don't enter therapy with the goal of talking about child abuse experiences. They want to know why they can't make their lives work. In his approach, some processing of the trauma may be necessary, but it is put in context of the overall life of the person.

This book makes the reader conceptualize child abuse and its sequelae in a totally different way and I strongly recommend it. As another reviewer pointed out, it is well-written and free from the jargon and highly technical language of most professional mental health books. My only caveat is that no one book, including this one, can be viewed as the Bible for explaining an individual's life. In therapy, the individual's experience is more important than any book. But I think the author would agree with this. His approach is highly instructive and compassionate.

This should be on every therapist's bookshelf.......2005-10-15

This is a book you have to have. It's an `I can't put it down' book. It makes you wonder how you ever managed to work with traumatized clients without it. It makes you realise why you weren't getting anywhere, why what you were doing in therapy wasn't good enough to help clients move on from their past trauma.

Traditionally therapy with this group of clients focussed heavily on the trauma. This book takes the reader beyond that. For once a book is looking at more than just the trauma in the past as something to be dealt with. It shows the reader why difficulties today must be tackled in a different way when the client has a trauma history than with other clients. But it opens your eyes to ways to work with other clients too.

When I am asked to recommend a book for therapists with trauma clients this is the one I choose. It is the only book that helps one understand why everyday life is so difficult for such clients, something no other book does in such depth or in such a useful way. Reading this book is like waking up to what life is really like for this group of clients; you will never see a client in the same way again. Now you will know why they behave as they do, why making changes is so difficult and why what works with other client groups doesn't work so well when the client comes from an abusive or neglectful family.

Steve Gold shows clearly how incidents of abuse are set within a family context that does not provide the tools for dealing with everyday life in an effective manner. Because of the general family context in which ongoing abuse occurs, these clients have always lacked vital coping mechanisms and abilities that are usually learned during an adequate childhood. The model proposed gives one a framework to work effectively and help the client face both the fears of the past and the fears of today. It places the trauma processing within a therapy that enables the client to grow rather than staying focussed on trauma alone. It provides the reader with a model to use to effectively understand, assess and teach the vital abilities that were never taught in childhood. It opens your eyes to the context in which these clients developed all their strategies to cope, ones that do not help them now.

This is a book that mustn't be missed. It is one you will take off the shelf again and again. Whatever DSM category your client fits into, if they have problems that arose from a traumatic childhood this is the book to guide you. It is the most important book you will ever buy.

A Must Read.......2001-10-20

When Not Trauma Alone: Therapy for Child Abuse Survivors in Family and Social Context was first published, I quickly ordered it from my local bookstore. I had known Steve Gold as a supervisor, a dissertation committee member and a friend and I absolutely cherished him and his work. But the book sat on my shelf for over a year before I finally picked it up and read it from beginning to end. Maybe I thought I knew what Steve had to say. Indeed he was my clinical supervisor in a yearlong practicum with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse and my professor in a couple of graduate school courses. Perhaps I was thinking that my clinical conceptualization and treatment of clients, not just trauma survivors, were so greatly affected by Steve's influence that I could indeed learn no more.

How wrong I was!!! Not Trauma Alone is one of the best books I ever read. It did not read as so many mental health treatment textbooks do. Steve's insight, compassion and humor really shine through and are truly inspirational. From the title of the chapters (e.g., Alone: Growing Up in an Ineffective Family) to the specific skills taught (e.g., self-sufficient problem resolution), this book is a must-read. My reactions to the content of the book, in particular the clinical vignettes, were vast. At some points, I laughed out loud, at other times, my heart felt heavy in sorrow. But most importantly, my reactions were, "Right on Steve!!!!" and "This is why I am in this profession" and these are the kinds of mental health practitioners I am proud to say I am a part of.

I encourage everyone I know in the mental health field (and a few psychologically-minded friends who aren't) to read this incredible piece.

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Child Development (Book Alone) (7th Edition)
Laura E. Berk
Manufacturer: Allyn & Bacon
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Readers are provided with an especially clear and coherent understanding of the sequence and underlying processes of child development, and the effective topical organization emphasizes to readers the way in which all of the domains of development relate - physical, cognitive, emotional, and social-throughout the book. Berk revised the book offering readers a heightened emphasis on the interplay between biology and environment, expanded coverage of culture, and an enhanced focus on education, health, and social issues. While carefully considering the complexities of child development, Berk presents classic and emerging theories in an especially clear, engaging writing style, with a multitude of research-based and real-world examples. For anyone working with children, or those in the fields of child development, child psychology and childcare.

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This book is good........1999-06-19

I am currently using this book for my Early Childhood Education(ECE)Diploma studies.This book has detailed and comprehensive topics and theories on Child Development.It also provides lots of pictures and graphics to enhance your understanding of what you read.This book is a must for anyone studying ECE or for those teaching children and wish to know more about Child development.

All Alone in the World: Children of the Incarcerated

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Why are these children judged and sentenced with their parents?
A Wake-Up Call
For Parents, for policymakers
a great book for anyone concerned our contemporary America
Typical blame-the-system claptrap absolving criminals of any responsibility

All Alone in the World: Children of the Incarcerated
Nell Bernstein
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An intimate and heartwrenching investigation into the lives of children of imprisoned parents, by an award-winning journalist.

"I think they shouldn't have took my mama to jail….Give her the opportunity to make up for what she did. Using drugs, she's hurting herself. You take her away from me, now you're hurting me."—Terrence, a fifteen-year-old boy left to fend for himself after his mother was imprisoned for nonviolent drug possession

One in ten American children has a parent under criminal justice supervision—incarcerated, on probation, or on parole. One in thirty-three American children—and one in eight African American children—goes to sleep without access to a parent because that parent is in jail. Despite these staggering numbers, the children of prisoners remain largely invisible to society.

Following in the tradition of the bestseller Random Family, journalist Nell Bernstein shows, through the deeply moving stories of real families, how the children of the incarcerated are routinely punished for their parents' status: ignored, neglected, stigmatized, and endangered, with minimal effort made to help them cope.

Topics range from children's experiences at the time of their parent's arrest, to laws and policies that force even low-level offenders to forfeit their parental rights, to alternative sanctions that take into account prisoners' status as mothers and fathers.
All Alone in the World defines a crucial aspect of criminal justice and, in doing so, illuminates a critical new realm of human rights.

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Why are these children judged and sentenced with their parents?.......2007-05-14

A sensitive portrait of the realities of being a child whose parents, one or both are incarcerated.
Well written and tugs at the heart strings! Makes you reflect and think soberly and seriously about this reality for many children. How are they supposed to rise above their unfair and undeserved label? They are also much a victim of their parent's crime and serve their sentences with them.

Every child welfare worker and teacher should read this for insight to the children they come in contact with.

A Wake-Up Call.......2006-06-23

We have failed to measure the true cost of our policy of incarcerating offenders and Nell Bernstein describes the costs that we have yet to pay. The damage done to a whole generation of young people who have grown up without their incarcerated parents are coming of age, and we need to recognize and address the problems that the punishment policy has caused.

Ms. Bernstein has introduced us to these children and the sadness that they will carry for the rest of their lives. She makes us care. She has also given us a well researched review of the system and the problems that have been created by society as well as making suggestions on how to prevent or diminish the damage that we are doing.

A must read for anyone who cares about the health of our society.

For Parents, for policymakers.......2005-12-19

The SF Chronicle says it better than I could so I am pasting part of their review below:

"Chapter by chapter, Bernstein takes us through each lamentable phase of the incarceration cycle, from arrest to sentencing, to visitations and foster care and finally re-entry. She interviews scores of experts -- police officers, criminologists, sociologists and dedicated service providers, many of them reformed offenders who would never have been released from prison had they committed their crimes today. But Bernstein...derives her best expert testimony from the families themselves, whom she treats not as victims of an unjust system but rather as experts and resources, the best available analysts of their own experience and needs.

Bernstein ... lays out 18 policy suggestions [in her conclusion]. Most of them are pure common sense -- remove financial barriers to communication (like the hiked-up fee for collect calls from jail), keep prisoners near their families so they can receive visits, and of course revisit our failed drug policies. What her suggestions have in common, besides being relatively easy (and cheap) to implement, is that they are focused on the basic premise that crime is reduced by keeping families together, not ripping them apart.

In terms of elegance, breadth and persuasiveness, "All Alone in the World" deserves to be placed alongside other classics of the genre such as Jonathan Kozol's "Savage Inequalities," Alex Kotlowitz's "There Are No Children Here" and Adrian Nicole LeBlanc's "Random Family." But to praise the book's considerable literary or sociological merit seems beside the point. This book belongs not only on shelves but also in the hands of judges and lawmakers. "

a great book for anyone concerned our contemporary America.......2005-11-13

Its always easy to blame individuals for society's ills, it's been the American way for at least in the second half of the 20th Century.

Maybe that is not always the case. Maybe our complex country -- especially its justice system -- is a lot more nuanced. Author Bernstein offers a glimpse into some truly horrifying machinations that go on in today's America, all in the name of protecting our communities. Some 2.4 million children nationwide have a parent behind bars. That is more the entire population of Denver, Colorado and its six-county suburbs. Offering intimate portraits of a numerous kids who are affected by the mass incarceration of non-violent felons in the 90s, she then connects the dots to show that through community neglect, governmental policy and condemnation by self-righteous citizens, we are neglecting our own.

All is not bleak in Bernstein's world though, the resilience of many of the spotlighted kids is dramatic and emotional and she showcases some efforts and individuals (including cops) that are emerging to help change this social abomination. Another way to look at the problem is to ask ourselves when a huge number of our country's youngest members - more than the population of a major metro area - are affected by a horrible problem not of their making, how can this be only their burden to bear? Now is time for us to apply the precept of reaching out to and helping "the least of these brothers of mine." And "All Alone in the World" is call to action.

Typical blame-the-system claptrap absolving criminals of any responsibility.......2005-11-13

This book tries to tug at your heartstrings by portraying the plight of blameless kids whose parents are in prison. Everyone can agree that their situation is sad and they have tough lives to lead. But this theme is only a mask to disguise the author's true intent, which is to criticize the very concept of imprisonment and to lay the blame on the "racist," "classist" system. This is the equivalent of dropping a bowling ball on someone's foot and saying, "Hey, it's not my fault -- blame gravity!" There is almost no mention of the true villains in this situation: the parents themselves, who chose to commit criminal acts that endanger and degrade society.

As a prototypical example taken from the book: Say a young child has a father who is a drug dealer. The father is caught and sent to jail for a long time, so that the child grows up fatherless. Sure, that is a tragedy for the drug dealer's child, but is it society's fault, or the criminal's fault? The author implies that it would be better to let the drug dealer out of prison to help raise his child. But then what of the consequences? What if he goes back to being drug dealer (which is highly likely), then ALL THE OTHER CHILDREN IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD have their lives negatively impacted when this criminal turns their block into a crime zone.

It is this kind of muddled thinking typified by this book that shows the moral bankruptcy of the New PC Police. In order to potentially help one child (and even that is debatable -- criminal parents often do a bad parenting job), we are expected to endanger the lives and well-beings of hundreds of other children. Taken to its logical conclusion, the "solution" promoted by this author (who is part of the radical movement to shut down all prisons and release all prisoners) would be to create a society in which criminals run free and there are no consequences for hurtful or irresponsible acts. In other words: her true goal is to turn all of America into a seething slum, in which the seeds of a socialist revolution can more easily be sown. Her gimmick of playing on your emotions by discussing the sad children of criminals is nothing more than a mechanism to promote her ultimate agenda.

The children of prisoners do have tough lives. And the people to blame are their parents, who choose to hurt others and society at large by committing crimes. Every sane society segregates criminals from the general population for the benefit of all.

We Are Not Alone: A Guidebook for Helping Professionals and Parents Supporting Adolescent Victims of Sexual Abuse

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Jade Christine Angelica
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Home-Alone America: The Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes

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the motherless society
Finnally SOMEONE SPEAKS UP FOR CHILDREN
How we are harming our children
Thought-provoking; rasises important questions
The truth is out there!

Home-Alone America: The Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes
Mary Eberstadt
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Why are there so many troubled kids these days, diagnosed with learning disabilities or behavioral problems? Why is child obesity out of control? Why are teenagers contracting herpes and other sexually transmitted diseases at unprecedented rates?

In Home-Alone America, scholar Mary Eberstadt offers an answer that's widely suspected but too politically incorrect to say out loud. A few decades ago, most children came home from school to a mother who monitored their diets, prevented sexual activity or delinquency by her mere presence, and provided a basic emotional safety net. Most children also lived with their biological father.

But today, most mothers work outside the home, and many fathers are divorced and living far away because society promotes adult fulfillment at the expense of our children. Too many kids now feel like just another chore to be juggled—dropped off at day care; handed over to a nanny; left in front of a television or a computer; and often simply home alone, with easy access to all kinds of trouble.

Eberstadt offers hard data proving that absent parents are the common denominator of many recent epidemics, including obesity, STDs, mental health problems of all kinds, and the increased use of psychiatric medication by even very young children. Drawing on a wide range of medical and social science literature as well as popular culture, she reopens the forbidden question of just how much children need their parents—especially their mothers.

Home-Alone America issues a radical challenge to the way America's kids are being raised. Like The Bell Curve or The Nurture Assumption, it's a controversial book that many will disagree with, but no one can ignore.

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the motherless society.......2007-04-06

Contrary to popular belief, not even a "village" can substitute for a mother.

Unlike many "committed" treatments of this subject, this author adopts a scientific approach, citing studies and reasoning in a clear and cogent way.

The problem: (p. 20)
In 1975, 33 percent of children under six had employed mothers.
In 1993, 55 percent of children under six had employed mothers.
In 2000, 70 percent of children under six had employed mothers.

The ideological battles are exactly what you would expect. Militant feminists regard these numbers as good news: more women are employed. Family people regard these numbers as bad news: children are growing up without their mothers (or fathers or grandmothers, as it turns out).

But there is more bad news: enraged children, fat children, drug-addicted children (not yesterday's drugs like marijuana but prescribed drugs, legal drugs), rage-driven pop-music-addicted children. With a younger generation like this on the way, who needs terrorists, Reconquistadores and the like? We've got them anyway, of course, and nothing is being done about them. To see how the problem of alienated children fits into these other problems, read While America Sleeps: How Islam, Immigration and Indoctrination Are Destroying America From Within. America is one "village" that is bent on self-destruction.

Finnally SOMEONE SPEAKS UP FOR CHILDREN.......2006-11-01

I was highly impressed by this book. Finally there is a children activist. The parenthood crisis we are living is what our society represents now: desire. Now, the woman who is the manager or president of a company is very admired and encouraged but the home-stay-mom value goes to "0". Consequently and obviously women will seek happiness into what society accepts. If we all genuinely really focus in what is best for our children well being and happiness this society will be so different.

How we are harming our children.......2006-07-25

This may be the first time in history that we have forced a generation of kids to be separated from their own parents. The results of this grand social experiment are beginning to come in. And Mary Eberstadt does not like what she sees. Nor should we.

We have embarked upon a unique historical trial of seeing what life is like for children who have been for the most part separated from their parents. And while there may have been some benefits for the parents, few people were asking the really important questions: What about the children? Is parent-absence good for the kids?

While Eberstadt recognises that correlation does not always equal causation, she rightly questions why adults always try to put a positive spin on child separation when children seem to take a much different view. We need to stop looking at this problem as if it is all about adult choices, and start focusing on the possible harm our children are experiencing.

And there seems to be plenty of harm. We have witnessed in the past few decades a huge rise in childhood problems, whether sexual promiscuity, mental health problems, the rise of the prescription drug generation, childhood obesity, and many more worrying symptoms.

Eberstadt argues that all of these problems, at least to some extent, can be tied in to parental absence. Consider the issue of obesity. Eberstadt looks at possible reasons for this, but then focuses on the real culprit: absent parents. When kids are kept home-alone, they are usually kept inside for safety sake. Thus they usually end up in front of the TV or computer, instead of running around outside.

Also, without a parent at home to prepare a healthy meal, kids are often left to live on junk food. These two factors alone explain much of the childhood obesity problem. Common sense bears this out, and research helps to confirm it. For example, we know that kids are less at risk of obesity problems if breastfed. But absent mums means no or little breast-feeding.

Eberstatd also looks at the alarming rise in psychotropic medicines. Kids are being plied with various drugs at an unprecedented level, be it for ADHD, for depression, or whatever. Yet a growing body of literature is showing that there are many risks associated with drugs such as Ritalin, Paxil, Risperdal and the various anti-depressants, and stimulants such as methylphenidate.

Why are we drugging our children as such high levels, even with the known risks? Eberstadt again suggests that parental absence is part of the reason our children are experiencing so many problems. Most of these drugs are really behaviour-management or performance-enhancing drugs, designed to give a technological quick-fix to what may just be old-fashioned discipline problems, or what may be largely manageable when a parent is around.

But with parents absent in such great numbers, more and more of our child-carers resort to drugs to fix the problem. And the ironic thing is, it may well be the stresses and unhappiness caused by parental separation that is getting the kids into more trouble to begin with.

Eberstadt also looks at the day-care industry, and how we are allowing a generation of kids to be looked after by strangers. She examines the huge increase in emotional and psychological problems plaguing our children. She also looks at the rise of violence among children.

All in all, our kids are experiencing an unprecedented tidal wave of physical, social and psychological problems that we normally associate with adults. And these problems have arisen at exactly the same time that we have seen absentee parenting mushroom.

Adults living in denial will want to say that the two are simply not connected. Perhaps they are right. But the correlation seems to be strong, and some type of causality seems to be involved. If so, then for the sake of our children we need to slow down and take stock of how this rise in parent-separation is affecting our children.

Eberstadt finishes her volume with a simple plea. She does not offer a checklist of policy options or steps on what must be done. She instead summarises the findings of this book by stating what most of us should know by common sense and experience: children do better, generally speaking, when parental absence is minimised, and they do worse, generally speaking, when it is not.

Parental presence will not solve all the problems mentioned in this book, but it will help quite a bit. But unless we are ready to get real about the damage being done to our children by parental absence, things will continue to worsen. We can turn things around if we are really concerned about the welfare of our children. And this book helps point us in the right direction.

Thought-provoking; rasises important questions.......2005-06-16

I live in a blue state, and mostly agree with what most people think of when they think "blue state". However, I questioned my liberal thinkiing while reading this book. Why? Because I have been concerned this year with how many 6th graders in my neighborhood come home to an empty house. And I see how divorce has affected my son's young friends.

I have two children, both for whom medication has been recommended. We tried it with one, and the best school year he's had was this year when he was off ANY meds. Why? We have focused on teaching the skills my son's lacked, among them: study skills, organizational skills, social skills and using behavior modification. I can't say they will never be on any meds for their entire school career, but so far what we are doing is working better than any medication did - and with no side effects! I took my one son to many doctors and psychiatrists to learn to deal with his "problem behaviors". All agreed we should medicate, and prescribed increasingly serious meds. I wanted advice on how to help them, instead I received numerous prescriptions.

My younger son is on the autistic spectrum, and I do disagree with some of Eberstadt's "findings". She states how the media or medical establishment does not relate studies showing how increased breast feeding can lower the incidence of autism. Yet, many autistic kids have been breast fed. More significant, she relates how autism is being diagnosed at an alarming rate compared to even 10 years ago. But during my parent's generation, breast feeding was not the norm, and there are not high incidences of autism among my peer group.

The truth is out there!.......2005-04-05

Finally, an author who's willing to call it as she sees it. More than that, Mary Eberstadt is an author willing to voice dangerously un-PC views about the status of American children and families. This book exposes some of the deceptive research and antequated theory used to support the use of behavior drugs. Eberstadt voices what most people already know, but may be unwilling to admit: kids who have the love and support of their parents when they need it (not at their parent's convenience) do better in the long run.

This book forces parents to remove the rose-colored glasses through which they may have once viewed the world.

We Need Not Walk Alone After The Death of a Child

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Great Book for Military Wives --- And Others
Better Understanding of Children
EXELLENT, EYE-OPENER, STRENGHT GIVING BOOK
WONDERFUL!!!
I highly suggest this book for anyone who is raising a child

Help I'm Raising My Children Alone
T. D. Jakes
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Today in America, one out of two marriages fail, which means there are many single parents out there who are struggling with raising their children alone! T. D. Jakes shares a poignant message that will bring comfort and encouragement as well as conviction. Being a child from a broken home, he learned first-hand what the enemy does to intimidate children and destroy parents. At the same time, Satan is whispering in a parent's ear about how incompetent and ineffective they are as a parental figure, he is also trying to deceive their children with his lies. There is a powerful anointing behind every word in this book for single parents and for those who feel single. The reflective questions at the end of the chapters in this newly-revised edition of Help! I'm Raising My Children Alone will help loose men and women from the perils and pitfalls of living in a broken home. Jakes encourages all parents to know: “There is a spiritual warrior and a leader in your child, and no mistake you've made in the past can stop God from blessing him or her.”

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Great Book for Military Wives --- And Others.......2007-09-11

We've worked with single parents --- single moms and single dads --- for more than twenty years. This new book by T.D. Jakes is one of the best resources we've seen for single parents, or for those who are "functionally single" such as military wives whose husbands are on long or extended deployments.

Bishop Jakes is a wonderful author and speaker. His stories get right to the point and show you how to move forward with confidence and hope, even if you're the only parent your children have. You and God can do it!

Be encouraged today: you and God can raise great kids!

Dr. David & Lisa Frisbie
The Center for Marriage & Family Studies
Authors of Raising Great Kids on Your Own: A Guide and Companion for Every Single Parent

Better Understanding of Children.......1999-08-25

This gave me a better understanding of being a single parent and helping my children adjust to a one parent household and to be more receptive to their needs

EXELLENT, EYE-OPENER, STRENGHT GIVING BOOK.......1999-02-20

I have been separated from my spouse for 3 1/2 years. This book blesses me so much. I've cried while reading it, because it ministers strength and answers many questions beginning with Why. It also helps you to realize that just because the husband is gone, does not mean you have no husband. He is a father to the fatherless -PSALM 68:5. Isaiah 54:5 says For Thy Maker is thy husband. I am learning to depend upon him to help me raise my 4 children, because I cannot do it alone and this book has blessed me with Strength - highly recommended!!!!

WONDERFUL!!!.......1998-10-13

This is a wonderful book for anyone raising kids. I recommend it to anyone who has kids, married or not, or who plan to have kids. Thank you Bishop Jakes for this wonderful book. It has helped me more than I can express!

I highly suggest this book for anyone who is raising a child.......1998-04-26

When I started to read this book, I said to myself let me keep an open mind. Well, I was sure glad I did. Bishop Jakes cover every aspect of anyone who is standing alone in raising their child alone. He took a close look at our parenting skills and said "Let us ask God to enter into this task of raising our children. Thank You Bishop Jakes for shouting with spiritual love, I am not alone.

A Child Alone (The Library of Holocaust Testimonies)

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A Child Alone (The Library of Holocaust Testimonies)
Martha Blend
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When Aging Parents Can't Live Alone : A Practical Family Guide

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"Must" reading for adult children of aging parents.
excellent step-by-step guide to handling tough situation

When Aging Parents Can't Live Alone : A Practical Family Guide
Ellen F. Rubenson
Manufacturer: Lowell House
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Written for those affected by an elderly parent's inability to continue living autonomously, When Aging Parents Can't Live Alone provides comprehensive information on in-house help, retirement communities, assisted living options, and nursing facilities. Financial, medical, and emotional considerations are discussed, enabling families to make healthy decisions about this sometimes delicate adn emotional situation.

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"Must" reading for adult children of aging parents........2000-08-03

Ilen Rubenson's, When Aging Parents Can't Live Alone provides step-by-step explanations of alternatives to living alone, and surveys the decisions and choices involved in evaluating physical and mental health, finances, insurance benefits, and safely issues. From legal issues to evaluating facilities and understanding their different levels of care, this is packed with important considerations.

excellent step-by-step guide to handling tough situation.......2000-04-26

In this outstanding work, Ellen Rubenson provides extensive "nuts and bolts" guides to assessing elders' needs, family capacity to provide care, information on products and services, insurance, hospitals, and alternative living situations. Readers will also find an extensive guide to on-line information sources. Anyone who has dealt with the long-term care system knows that you practically have to be your own doctor, own lawyer and own social worker. This book shows readers how to better navigate these waters. We want to help our aging parents and relatives but too often get paralyzed by confusion, family conflict, guilt, ignorance, anger, burnout, fear, regret, and the sense that we'll be ineffective. Relying on this book will certainly increase the chances of actually being useful while helping to manage all those feelings.

.Rubenson's book is an invaluable guide for facing what we'd like to deny: The US population is aging. The percentage of the "old old," people over 80, is rapidly increasing, and when we "boomers" start to hit our late 60s, we will seriously strain medical, housing, and economic resources. We are now helping our elder parents' deal with their challenges, but soon enough it will be our own (and our children's) turn to make the decisions Rubenson describes. This book helped me to fully realize the personal impact of the challenge our social and economic infrastructure faces.

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