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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships
John Gray
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Amazon.com Audiobook Review
Relationship counselor John Gray focuses on the differences between men and women--men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, after all--and offers a simple solution: couples must acknowledge and accept these differences before they can develop happier relationships. In this unabridged version, Gray gives a spirited delivery of his message, especially when role-playing typical male/female interactions. Although it takes some time to adjust to his slightly nasal tone, the information is sound and gives both men and women helpful hints on improving themselves and their union. (Running time: 9.5 hours, 6 cassettes) --Sharon Griggins
Book Description
Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them.
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.
With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners.
Customer Reviews:
Awesome book.......2007-10-09
Its not only great for learning about your partner, but about yourself too. This is a great book.
P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!.......2007-09-06
It's amazing book. Another one that I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You
If you are having a hard time in your relationship..........2007-09-03
I am a skeptic when it comes to self-help books, so I wasn't too excited when my husband purchased Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus for the two of us to read.
We had been together for seven years and our relationship was at an all time low. A number of things had happened and we had grown apart.
Then we read the book and saw ourselves on most of the pages. Many thoughtful and open discussions followed. It was the beginning of a recovery process which lasted a few months and has a perfect outcome. We are so close and so in love now - the centers of each others universe.
My favorite piece of advice from this book is setting time aside to spend with each other uninterrupted by TV, reading, etc. We do this at least a couple of times a week. Sometimes we just sit together in silence and relax; sometimes we discuss something trivial that's on our minds... These are perfect moments.
Obviously, it is hard for me to write all this because it is very personal. However, I sincerely hope to help another couple through this book and save them months of anguish. I wish someone had given us Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus a few months earlier.
A Classic!.......2007-08-30
Almost everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex!
Just great! A must have!
Why is this book so popular?.......2007-08-24
The reasons why this book gets two stars from me are as follows:
POSITIVE:
- Gray did make a few good, common sense points: Do nice things for your partner, don't try to fix your partner, be direct in making requests.
- Some real-life examples are true to life (such as the wife who keeps trying to coax an answer to "Is anything wrong?" out of her mate.)
NEGATIVE
- Gray is extremely self-righteous, which is very annoying.
- The book is VERY repetitive, which makes it hard to read.
- The Mars/Venus analogy gets annoying after a while.
- His gender assumptions are extremely rigid, without much room for individuality.
- Some of his examples are hair-raising: he tells the story of how his wife tore giving birth, and ran out of pain killers a week after delivery. When he came home from work, she told him that she was in pain all day and felt abandoned. His reaction? He exploded, shouted at her, and stormed off. What normal man would do such a thing??
- His dislike for the word "could" is hard to explain. He claims that "could" must be replaced with "would", or the husband will not respond to any requests.
- He claims that it is natural and important for women to fall into deep depressen regularly where childhood issues resurface and she has nohing left to give this world. If her man does not support her, she will fall into a panic. WHAT?!?
- His phrase dictionary is plain ridiculous. Here is an example: If a woman says "I am so tired, I can't do anything" a man will hear "...Picking you was a big mistake" unless he has read Gray's true interpretation. Uh-huh!
- The most offensive part of the book, though, is this assertion in the introduction: "About 10 percent of women will relate more to being from Mars. This is often simply a result of being born with higher testosterone levels than most other women." WHAT?!? If my readers don't agree with me, then they have a hormonal problem. This statement unsubstantiated, false, nonsensical, and brazen. Interestingly, he does not address the fact that some men may not find themselves in these pages, either.
Overall, the book deserves two stars, considering that it had a little bit of merit to it.
Book Description
Why do some men score with women while others only fantasise? Men who are successful with women know that scoring is not only knowing how, it's knowing when....Full of much needed advice and hilarious relationship scenarios; these questions and more are answered in "Seduce Me! What Women Really Want," the latest best-seller by R. Gregory Alonzo
Customer Reviews:
too little, too late.......2007-10-18
It has a handful of good ideas, but virtually nothing on the initial approach of a beautiful woman; he merely says that you go up and honestly state that she's the kind of woman you want to meet. Really hot chicks get enough of that every day. I ordered this together with the Lay Guide, and think that I should have just got the Lay Guide.
Impressive!.......2007-09-04
I finally know hot to seduce women. Another new bestseller which I highly recommend - The Exclusive Layguide: When Dating and Having Sex with Incredibly Hot Women is No Longer Mirage Even If You Don't Look Like a Model or Don't Make a Fortune
A quick read.......2007-04-10
I enjoyed this book for what it was. It was an easy read, but if you really practice this stuff you should do well with girls who like men who listen to them. This book cuts against the grain that says you have to be an a-- to women to get a date. I read the book in just over an hour. I wish the author had gone a LOT more in depth. The book seems to be selling well for him, so I am happy about that, but maybe his seminars give more information. It is definitely worth the price, but it is not a bible (like The Layguide: How to Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible No Matter What You Look Like or How Much You Make). Add this to your collection, but don't believe the hype that this is the end-all be-all of books. It is a good book, and a fun one to read though.
Fun read........2007-03-09
Well, the book is entertaining, Greg Alonzo is the man. Most of this is stuff you should already know, but if you don't, then you need to read the book. The only thing that saved this book for me were the interesting quotes before each new chapter.
Take initiative and you won't go dateless anymore........2007-02-17
This a classy quick read with a wealth of information that will assist any man being successful with the ladies. If you're looking for a starting point this one's rock solid one of the better one's you'll find. What you won't find in here are tactics or gimmicks and ways to manipulate a woman exploiting her. Mr. Alonzo points out the foundational aspects of how to date women truely respecting her. I have shelves full of books on interpersonal relations some of the things I have got are garbage this one is in a class all it's own. Difference between being a "player" and a true MAN. There are three categories of men or some combination of them. A) Those who believe that they are superior to them looking down on her B) Those who put her on a pedistal insecure. Those are cocky insecure, wussy types inconsiderate absent treating her with respect and dignity. Category C) Is the man who treats her as an equal respectful, certain and knows how women tic has his life together. Treats a woman right has boundaries expecting the same. Is direct. Is in the "zone" women are comfortable with him. Takes the lead. So if you aren't into games not particularly fond of reading at length this one goes right to the core offering sound, practical information as well as various comments from women's perspectives. Good book particularly for the less seasoned. Lots of good stuff in there. Always think PRO-fessional. ; ) Have fun with the ladies!
Customer Reviews:
Wanna Make Him Commit?.......2007-09-23
If you want him to commit more, so this is the book for you! If you want to know how to seduce him How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You this is the book for you! Both books are extremely helpful and interesting! You may not believe, but books can change your life!
Women Men Love.......2007-09-14
Book arrived in a very timely fasion. Have not had the time to review the book itself as yet. I would purchase again from this seller. Book is in excellent contition.
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worth every cent.......2007-09-07
I had to send to the States to get this book, and it was well worth the wait and the dollars. What I loved about this book is that it has something unique to say (and I own a LOT of books on relationships), and any woman would benefit from its message. If you find yourself working hard in your relationships, and they keep blowing up in your face, get this book and apply what it says. For most women this means relatively small shifts in behaviour and attitude, that pay off big time. This time when my prince showed up I didn't unwittingly sabotage my happily-ever-after ending!
This book will change the way you date!.......2007-08-14
This is great book. Every woman should read it. You will be surprised how iformative this book is!
But you must read another new besteller which I highly recommend - "How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You" by Mandy Simons
These two books are fascinating!
Great book.......2007-08-14
This is a great book, written from the male perspective. It gives lots of insight into how men think and operate emotionally, and also supplies practical advice for the woman who wants to understand her husband.
Book Description
Celebrated for their courage, vision, hospitality, and spiritual giftedness, it's no wonder women were so important to God's plan revealed in the Old and New Testaments. It wasn't their natural qualities that made these women extraordinary but the power of the one true God whom they worshipped and served.
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Twelve Extraordinary Women, you'll learn more than fascinating information about these women, you'll discover-perhaps for the first time-the unmistakable chronology of God's redemptive work in history through their lives. These women were not ancillary to His plan, they were at the very heart of it.
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A Thorough study.......2007-09-29
John MacArthur does it again with a thorough study on these precious women of faith. He has the depth of his years of study to give historical and cultural background. It is refreshing in the epilogue when he points out that the lessons of the women are about spiritual character and feminine virtue, not their talents or beauty or even who they married! They were just women who loved their God and were great because of that. They were not perfect, but God uses flaws in everyone's lives to His good, to work out His perfect will. That is why He is called Redeemer. Twelve Extraordinary Women has been a very useful reference, along with the workbook, in writing my own simpler study for a ladies' Bible study at church.
Typical .......2007-09-06
Knowing Macarthur's limited views of womanhood, I guess I shouldn't be surprised that he used this book more to promote his views of women than to glorify God's plan for us. Still, I was disappointed, knowing that Macarthur's a great teacher and he could have done a lot better. I guess it goes to show that sometimes, you can put Jesus in the person, but you can't remove the person from their own prejudices.
Naturally, the book opens with Eve as the first extraordinary woman. Macarthur started this chapter excellently, explaining Eve's beauty, innocence, and position as God's crowning achievement. He even went so far as to say that "Adam was made of dirt, but Eve was made from the actual human race" or something similar, indicating that Eve possessed a grandness that was almost superior to Adam (personally, I don't agree with this; I think Adam was equally magnificent and gorgeous as a creation of God's. However, I found this a sweet thing for Macarthur to say and took it as a mark of his respect for women rather than an insult to men) Unfortunetly, these lovely words may have just been placed to soften the blow of the following few pages, which were dedicated to preaching female subordination to men. I gotta say, I really had my guard down for a moment there, especially when MacArthur spoke of Eve's equality to Adam and said she was not to "be above him or trampled by him, but beside him". (Funny how complimentarians always throw out the equality thing before they procede to majorly contradict it).
All the usual tricks were there: women are lovely, smart, fascinating: we just have to submit to men. Eve was spiritually and intellectually Adam's equal; she just had a subordinate role. I never cease to get tired of these self-contradicting loopholes and double-talk that patriarchs throw out, just as they never seem to tire of tossing them at me and all of womankind. Not surprisingly, Macarthur tried to offer explanations for his beliefs; also not surprisingly, the explanations were incomplete and often nonsensical. At one point, he even said, "All people need to do to know that men and women are different is to look at nature; men are often physically superior in strength to women." Yes, but what on earth was his point? We haven't relied on physical strength to determine leaders since the caveman days; haven't we evolved just a tad since then? Macarthur never really went anywhere with this apparent argument; he dropped it a few sentences later and went on to admit that Eve was Adam's intellectual equal, which just served to further disprove the whole physical strength standard and any relevance it had.
Macarthur went on to try and stress how women are to submit to male authority in all kinds of places, claiming that "The Bible makes it clear that women are to be under the authority of their husbands in home and under the authority and instruction of men at church." Wow, those testasterone people really have the bar over us, don't they? It's fascinating to me how complimentarians are simultaneously blatant in their condenscension of women and over the top in their attempt to pillow it. Take Macarthur's rosy words of Eve's magnificence, for example. I've noticed that complimentarians are the only ones who lavishly praise Eve to the point where they indicate that, in creation at least, she was superior to Adam. No wonder; they need something to compensate for the subordinate roles they place for women in every other sense. They basically seem to say "Hey, women have subordinate roles, but they at least were CREATED in superiority to men. Man was made of dirt but woman was of flesh!" I find this endlessly amusing; if woman was created in a superior way, why is she always subordinate? Why must the beautiful flesh people be in constant submission to the dirt people?
(You see why equality is so much easier?)
The chapter on Mary had some other downfalls, due to Macarthur's cutting words on Catholicism. I don't agree that Mary is the Holy Mother either, but I have a hard time believing that Macarthur is completely informed of either the Catholics' true doctrine or the genuinely Christian nature that many of them possess. The two major problems with the chapter on Mary were, firstly, the fact that Macarthur chose to focus on Catholics in the first place. This was supposed to be about Mary, remember? The point of the chapter should be about God's purpose for her, not about how Macarthur found other people's beliefs of her to be stupid and heretical. Secondly, if Macarthur was going to make a rebuttal of the Catholic view, there is a civil way to do this. John Piper, for example, has made rebuttals to feministic beliefs in several of his sermons. However, I was always impressed by how politely and respectfully he did this; perhaps Macarthur could take a lesson from him.
I will say that some of his studies of Biblical women are excellent. The man is talented, I just wish he could keep his secondary roles of women out of at least ONE book. I felt like saying "Macarthur, people pay for this book to hear about how women were used in the Bible, NOT to hear your personal views on their positions in the world!" I totally agree with the person who said that the style of writing in this book was clearly a man's (and not in a good way). There are some men who excellently write books for/about women with understanding and empathy; this isn't one of them.
Wonderful Sunday school material........2007-08-29
I teach our adult class of mixed ages and gender. We have been using Twelve Extraordinary Women: and enjoying it very much. I would recommend this wonderful book for any small group study. Not only is it very informitve but also generates excelent group discussion.
Biblical.......2007-08-15
Extremely well written, Biblical and Accurate. Would recommend it to men and women alike.
Written from a biased male perspective.......2007-07-21
I am participating in a small group study of this book and, generally speaking, we have been very disappointed. The author appears to have very specific biases related to women and each chapter reflects that bias. Even if you didn't know who the author is, it is very apparent that he is a male. I have never read a book by a male Christian author with such obviously slanted views about females. As for the part of the title "What He Wants to Do with You", after 7 chapters that has never been addressed other than to be faithful to God and your husband and raise Godly children. Not very helpful to our single sisters or even to men who might be curious about the women in the Bible. The author states he was encouraged to write this book after the success of "Twelve Ordinary Men". It appears that he did so more led by his opinions and bank account than the Holy Spirit. I would not recommend this to anyone. Of dozens of Chrisitian books I have read, this was the least helpful.
Book Description
What do men wish women knew about sex? The answer's not as simple as you think! In What Men Really Want in Bed, 200 men from all backgrounds and walks of life reveal frank, surprising truths about sex and what really turns them on (and off), including: The most exciting thing a lover has ever done to them in bed; What kinds of things their partners do that make them feel special and appreciated; How they really feel about oral sex; What they wish their wives and girlfriends knew about seduction, foreplay, masturbation, intercourse, sexual positions, body image, and more.
Customer Reviews:
Highly recommended! Great fun!.......2007-06-14
Though most of what is in this book is pretty obvious stuff, some of it was insightful but mostly it was just a fun book to read. Definitely worth buying!
Interesting, useful, and ok... fun........2007-04-03
We passed this book around at a party and had a great time reading the results of the many surveys and the insights revealed in the interviews. Very interesting information turned up in this book!
Just bought my own copy..........2007-03-28
...having perused a friend's copy of it last night. I've also read Red Hot Tantra by the same author and would highly recommend her short stories to anyone who enjoys good erotica.
Listening to Men.......2007-03-27
A wonderful opportunity to hear men talk about their experiences, and a chance for women to think about how they objectify men (we all know how it works the other way around!). Written clearly and with wit, by Cindi Gentry, this book is informative, juicy, without being sensationalistic.
Great book with great insight........2007-03-19
If you need to get into your man's mind and better understand why he acts the way he does, this is a great book for you.
Book Description
A Southern Belle Primer meets The Rules in this engaging volume that explains the mystique of Southern women and why they always get what they want, and shows women how to get the same kind of romantic, professional, and personal success.
A born-and-bred Steel Magnolia reveals her secrets for success, and, frankly my dear, "Scarlett O'Hara couldn't have said it better."--Atlanta Journal Constitution
"A must read."-Atlanta Magazine
"Hilarious anecdotes about Dixie Chicks who have succeeded in life and love."-People
"Reading her book is like watching a hilarious episode of the sitcom Designing Women."-The Tennessean (Nashville)
"Rich's wit and charm come through."-Richardson News (TX)
"Who could resist? Down-to-earth, common sense tips for satisfying personal and professional relationships."-The Sun Herald (Biloxi, MS)
Customer Reviews:
NOT the real 'Steel Magnolia'.......2007-09-25
Sometimes lovely and insightful but mostly silly and stereotypical. There is a great deal of snobbery in this book even though this Southern Lady claims to have had hard times they are more along the lines of chipping a nail or running out of Aquanet. I gave it 2 stars because the great embellishment and novelty of her southern lala land is somewhat entertaining.
Making Southern Women Look Bad.......2007-08-18
What a disappointment. I can't believe anyone would write a book advocating flirting and high heels to get ahead at work. Take it from a native Southern woman - we are not as superficial and silly as this book makes us appear.
Worthless Trash.......2007-05-09
Probably one of the most pompous, self-inflated pieces of writing I have ever read. Ronda Rich creates a romanticized world of Southern women in which the largest majority of Southern girls seductively drawl their words, manipulate men into getting what they want, represent the highest apex of class and style and do it all with grit, spunk and modesty.
In reality, anyone who lives in the South knows that Ms. Rich is full of bull to put it nicely. The MAJORITY of Southern women are NOT perfectly manicured belles of class and distinction. As I was reading this book, I was overwhelmed by the sensation that Ms. Rich has decided that the South IS everything she's seen in Gone With the Wind and that she is the Scarlett O'Hara of her own little delusional world.
Among the most offensive paragraphs in this book (and there are many), the one that shocked me most was the notion that when a man in a position of authority - like a boss or co-worker - tries to feel "a Southern woman" up, we don't do slap him or claim sexual harassment, but instead tell him to be nice in an "enchanting, lilting tone." Is this woman kidding? She is suggesting that you respond to unwanted sexual advances by saying no, but in a suggestive tone? Maybe women like these are the ones that some men say "were asking for it."
TRUE Southern women don't bat their eyelashes at unwanted sexual advances, nor do they often file sexual harassment charges. Most often, they let the man know that if he touches them again, he's gonna get decked and have to explain to all the guys in the office how he got that black eye.
If you are interested in "scoring" a high-earning, powerful husband through your seductive femininity, then this is the book for you. But be forewarned, the author also wants you to understand that you will NEVER come first in his book, and you should accept that, like "all Southern women do." Also, even if you are married, you should still "flirt shamelessly" with other men as "all Southern women know" in order to get what you want.
In addition, as "all Southern women know," you CAN have it all. You should pursue your career like "strong, determined Southern women do", do everything you can to please your husband (or any other man you may want something from), bake from scratch, give all your remaining attention to your children, and still be able to throw elaborate holiday displays all year. Of course, like "all Southern women", you must do this with grace, dignity, a fresh manicure, and perfectly applied makeup.
I have yet to meet this Southern belle that Ms. Rich describes. I HAVE seen many harried, miserable Southern women in the upper and upper-middle classes trying to achieve this ideal to keep from being scorned by their peers (which Ms. Rich admits on more than one occasion they WILL BE!)These women are "esteemed" of sorts by their peers, always look their best, attend every social function, have their kids in all the right programs, etc.
What SMART Southern women know is that while these girls are pecked together like a bunch of hens, clucking about how classy they are, their husbands are flirting with the cocktail waitresses. These women live in a world of fantasy and savage competition with each other. They desperately crave the approval and attention of everyone around them. Ms. Rich extols the virtues all the while covering the pettiness, jealousy, and insecurity that lies at the root of what even she proclaims as the most judgmental women in the country.
The essence of the truth about these "most esteemed" Southern women is found on page 173, where Ms. Rich advises you to NEVER talk about your problems outside of your family, and sometimes not even within your family. Herein lies the core of the code of the South - APPEAR perfect in every way by never admitting that anything is less than perfect in your life. This is the heart of Ms. Rich's book. Many people are dazzled by these Southern vixens' charm because they don't ever see what lies beneath.
Ms. Rich tries to paint a picture of a perfect woman, but she doesn't exist. If you want a guide on how to manipulate men or how to become a shell of a person whose existence depends on fitting in to "high society" then you will enjoy this book. If you want a real guide on how to be a lady, considerate of others feelings, and a person of true class, you'd be better of reading Judith Martin or something equivalent. This book belongs in the trash can.
By the way, there is no stereotype that can cover every Southern woman. We are fiercly independent and cannot be labeled. We share some common traits, but our unpredictability and individuality make it so that pidgeonholing the way Southern women act and live can be a pretty daunting task.
Perfect.......2007-03-08
I almost wish she didn't write this book so all our secrets wouldn't be given out. But she describes southern women perfectly -- we are sugar and spice. Highly recommend this book.
She is Wrong.......2006-12-29
This book is great, and I love it, however I think the author should have checked a few facts better. On page 210 she writes that Blythewood, SC has an annual Kudzu Festival, however she is wrong. I was born and subsequently raised in Blythewood, SC and there was never a Kudzu Festival. The town is a very small town in Richland County, South Carolina, that I believe, she confused with another Blythewood. There is another Blythewood, and there is a Kudzu Festival, I do not know what state it is in, it is not South Carolina though.
Amazon.com
The aim of Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men is to teach men what lesbians know about pleasing women. This is more than a primer on body parts and oral sex (though yes, there's plenty of that). It's also about how to talk (the best way to find out what your partner likes), how to listen, how to open up, and how to get your mind off your member. The chapter entitled "Foreplay? Honey, It's All Play!" should make women cheer. The writing is clever, graphic, intimate, and festive. No subject is off limits: sex toys, sex during menstruation ("When the Moon Is Between Her Legs"), "Finger Love (Becoming a Digital Master)," "The Lowdown on Going Down," anal play ("Ass-istance for Two"), and much more.
In many short quotes, women frankly discuss their likes and dislikes. Notes of special importance, titled "Honey, Come Closer," include:
- "Quit thinking of the clitoris as a little pea-sized bump.... It is actually a whole system of erectile tissue, spongy tissue, muscles, nerve endings, blood vessels, and glands."
- "By taking your time, not only do you create steamy anticipation in your partner; you also get to check out the territory and get a good sense of where everything is so there is no clumsy fumbling."
- "A steady hand is worth a thousand orgasms."
If men understood what great sexual tools their brains, mouths, and hands were, say the authors, they'd see sex and pleasure differently and communicate in new ways. This book is guidebook and roadmap--and very entertaining besides! (Warning: If you're offended by slang terms for sex and sexual parts, this book isn't for you.) --Joan Price
Book Description
For men, the intimate workings of the female body have long remained one of the great mysteries of the universe. What gives her the most pleasure? Where should you be touching her--and how? Fortunately, there are some people who can offer men the empirical knowledge gained from a lifetime of pleasing women--and getting pleased by them. This frank, frolicsome, and wonderfully illuminating book draws on the sexual advice and sex secrets of lesbians to help men become better lovers. A groundbreaking dialogue between straight men and gay women, and an erotic look inside the often hidden world of lesbian sex, Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men reveals a whole new approach to pleasure for men and the women they love. At the same time, this book proves that while sex is something we all do naturally, a little focused effort--and a few simple lessons--can open up a whole new world of enjoyment.
Customer Reviews:
No secrets.......2004-08-31
This is a very interesting book with an equally interesting title but the excitement stops right there. There were no secrets nor any extraordinary information or techniques that I haven't read in countless other books. What I found strange in this book, that supposedly was intended for men, was an over abundance of unnecessary lesbian advocacy and grand standing. The over generalization of men as bumbling, insensitive and unknowledgeable became very annoying early in this book. While this book does deliver basic knowledge and a necessary biology refresher, I wouldn't recommend it. The author is obviously condescending to its target audience, for reasons unknown but I do suspect that the authors of this book are secretly hoping that your wife/girl friend pick up this book and discover how inept that you are to a "sweet lesbian lover".
Fun for both guys and girls.......2004-08-16
This is a great book for both couples and singles to add a little spice to your sex life. While the title might say it is only for men, it definetly can be for women as well. The book is also very serious, and does not make jokes out of your sex life. Overall, a great how to book and definetly not your old school, Joy of Sex.
If Your A Rookie At Getting Nookie Give It A Try.......2004-07-04
I bought the book Lesbian Sex Secrets For Men by Jamie Goddard and Kurt Brungardt for my husband as part of a "Spoof" Father's Day gift pack. We read the book together last Saturday night. In this book the audience is promised by the authors the secrets that every man wants to know about making love to another woman and never asks, but the authors fall a bit short on their delivery of that promise.
A good example of that is the fact that no less than 28 pages are dedicated to the art of kissing. To say that parts a slow read is an understatement. Then starting in chapter titled "Sapphic Arts" the tone of the book turns downright crude starting with the section titled "Finger !ucking" and goes downhill from there. It takes very little creativity to call the art of sex !ucking, and a woman's vagina a !ussy which these two do repeatedly throughout the book.
We did learn a couple terms we were unaware of such as fisting, and found the twenty pages dedicated to the different aspect of dildo usage somewhat humorous at times (never considered boiling one :P ). Overall if you are a rookie at getting nookie we would recommend this book. However if your not, don't expect to get hot, because you will not :) .
Brilliant!!!.......2004-03-06
This book is one of my favorites! It is a book about women, a book that unveils our sexuality and secrets. Any man, who wants to understand us better and be a great lover, MUST read this book!!! This book tells who we are, how we feel, what we want, what our cravings are, and what our frustrations are. For many people it is very difficult to talk about sex and sometimes heterosexual couples pretend that their sex life is great but deep inside they know that isn't true. As a heterosexual woman I never thought that lesbians had so much fun, but I can totally see how the female understanding they share is key to have great sex. If guys had a better understanding of women we could also have as much fun!!! So guys leave your pride aside and open your horizons to AWESOME SEX!!!!!
Brilliant!.......2004-03-05
This book is probably one of the best books I've read. To me it is a book about women, who we are, how we feel, what are our cravings and our desires, our hopes and our frustrations, the secrets of our sexuality! this books says it ALL.
I think any man interested in understanding women's sexuality and feelings, must read this book!!!!! I am an heterosexual woman and I never thought lesbians had so much fun, but after reading this book I can totally see how the female understanding they share is extremely valuable to having an amazing sex life; so for all of you guys who want to understand us and please us, this book is for you!!!!
Book Description
Ever since Barbara DeAngelis wrote the #1 New York Times bestseller Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, her female readers have been begging her to write its counterparta book for both sexes that explains what women want men to know about understanding and loving the woman in their life. Delivered in her signature frank, provocative, and down-to-earth style, this new book does just that, and is an insightful guide that women will read to learn more about themselves, and will give to the man they love. Here, women will learn how to successfully communicate their needs and desires about love, sex, and relationships to men in a way men can really hear; men will get an inside look at how to really understand and love a woman in and out of bed, including techniques that will be very tempting to try; couples will get proven and practical advice for transforming power struggles into cooperation, and frustration into exciting new ways to be intimate. Included are the biggest myths about women and why theyre just plain wrong, the four secrets to remember about women that will make a mans life easier, how to translate what women say into what they really mean, ways to avoid turning a perfectly sweet woman into a raving maniac, and sexual secrets women wont tell men, but that every man needs to know. Dr. DeAngeliss appealing and honest style has already helped sell millions of relationship-building books, tapes, and videos. Now, she stands poised to reach her largest audience yet with this powerful new book that every woman will want for herself and for the man in her life.
Customer Reviews:
Helpful.......2006-01-04
Dr. De Angelis has written a book that will appeal to both men and women, although she does rely on stereotypical perpectives rather than providing more insightful and original suggestions. However, when it comes to men and women this may be a reasonable approach. I also recommend Men in Marriage: Straight Talk For Men About Marriage: What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know About Men)by Marty Friedman. This wonderful book provides a much needed male perspective and is presented in a unique and practical manner that both men and women will find useful in making lasting chages in their relationships.
Runied By Exaggerated Stereotypes About Men And Women.......2005-11-15
This book is based on the author's very stereotypical views of both the male and female genders. She continually describes all women as being essentially emotional creatures who need constant support and affirmation from men. Similarily, she depicts all men as being analytical and goal orientated people who place less value on romance and relationships. Obviously, men and women are different in certain ways and De Angelis does occasionally make some valid points about communication styles and how to better understand your significant other. But her comments are so exaggerated and generalized that she really destroys her own credibility.
Most people that are more open-minded about gender roles and don't fit into her extreme stereotypes will feel this book doesn't apply to them. She is also very insulting towards those who don't fit her gender stereotypes. For example, she describes a certain more analytical and less emotional woman she once knew, Abby, as being disconnected to her true "womanhood" because of bad past experiences. Maybe the reality is that people are just more complex and intricate than the simple stereotypes De Angelis would like to portray.
Explains alot about women........2005-09-13
I was looking for a book to give me tips or ideas on how to improve my relationship. I am a guy and I need a list and I have a goal. This book does that, but you do have to read a little too. It is an easy read though. It also explains why women are the way they are. Strange but true. Guys-why do girls need to know where I went, who I talked to, how was my day, why I didn't check in. They have to be spying on me, right? It is a hard concept to accept and I still am having a hard time with it but this book helps explain why. How many times have we heard "let's have more quality time"? Well I have given out more details about my day like the people who came in, some problems I had, solutions I found,... at dinner instead of "fine" or "ok" and this was accepted as quality time. Granted she wants more, but I can do the quality time and eat at the same time. The book explains the telephone phenomenon which why my conversations last under a minute and hers are why they have "unlimited nights and weekends". Last example, I went to my wife and told her that "I appreciated all her hard work in her planning of making sure the kids and myself were happy." this was in the morning and when I got back home at the end of the day she was beaming and had a great day and the nice comment I said had made her day. Wow, that was kind of easy to do, even though I felt like a dork saying it that morning. Only draw back of the book was that I felt like my side of the story was not told and felt overwhelmed that this is a 2way street and what about how to make me happy? Granted, its usually quite simple and obvious but none the less needed. Well I have ordered her other book about what secrets guys want girls to know and that will probably do a good job doing just that. It should be here today. Good luck.
GOOd read but too much for guys who are tied down.......2004-12-28
I found this book imformative and a good read expect this book focused too much on serious relationships. It could have been more appealing to guy w/o girlfriends.
great sex advice.......2004-08-28
Guys, if you take away nothing else from this book, take the section on making love to a woman as good advice.
Book Description
Applying the concepts from his bestseller Sacred Marriage, Gold Medallion award-winning author Gary Thomas reveals what a man needs from his wife to become the husband she wants.
Customer Reviews:
Very helpful male perspective, 4.5 stars.......2007-10-07
This book is a great tool! It helps one identify the ways they might be plowing their field upside down. Developing charity is tough. It takes incredible humility and Gary Thomas has some motivating methods for stirring up our resolve. So, 4.5 stars?
The book has one major controversy. Midway through the book Thomas admits this change in direction by bringing up Madame de Pompadour as a chief model of how to influence one's husband. Only Pompadour uses that influence on the king INSTEAD of her husband. Madame de Pompadour is actually a character one might want to avoid modeling their life after. She, a married woman with 2 children, chose to go and seduce the king of France and crush her husband rather than hold to the principles that would have kept her less famous, yet building her marriage. She became a master of intrigue who won for herself pompous titles and honors of land and a royal burial, but she was just the main course in a continuous buffet of infidelity, never mind what happened to her broken family. She did little more than what any power hungry, spiritually undeveloped woman, fearful to maintain illegitimate ties, might do.
So read that section with blinders off. His point for bringing her up is weak, but it does come across. Treat your husband (except in the case of Madame de Pompedour, conquest) like a king and a you will, more likely than not, be blessed for it. Thankfully, Thomas mentions that model within marriage is still a position of subservience if used as a tool of manipulation. Submissiveness is an entirely different thing. It is done with confidence in Christ's love while subservience is not.
If you can get through that pot hole, the rest of the book does stay on track regarding submissiveness and its role in the salvation of one's family. This is mainly in regards to attitude.
Besides this there are some excellent points in Mr. Thomas' book regarding the role of hormones, such as oxytocin, and how they are used in a man's body to bond him to his wife.
This is a good read. The section on Madame de Pompadour is awkward, but Gary does use other righteous examples of women who secured for themselves splendid honor in their marriages. There is just less of a prominent focus on them because their racy side is left veiled to the public as it should be. Through them he makes a good point: it is an exceptional woman who comprehends her potential in the role that God outlines for her AND, after reading his book, you do come out flipped back over properly and plowing right side up.
Transformational!!!.......2007-09-28
Rather than me attempting to express the depth of insight and wisdom in this book, I decided that Gary Thomas speaking for himself would serve the purpose. The rest of this review comes straight from "Sacred Influence" to your screen :)
Quoted from "Sacred Influence" by Gary Thomas:
"How is God using your marriage to teach you how to love?
When you find yourself in a difficult marriage, or in a basically good marriage with one particular issue that grates on you, you can be sure that God wants to mature you as you face this problem with strength, courage, dignity, and biblical wisdom. God could of course speak the word and your problem would be solved- voila! But that's not how God usually works. He allows us to face issues that may terrify us and make us feel completely inadequate- he may even walk us through our deepest fears- so that we can grow in him.
The Bible is adamant about this. Spiritual growth takes place by persevering through difficult times
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The good news is that you and God are in this together. He knew, even before he created you, who you'd marry. And he will continue to give you the tools you need to become the person he's called you to be and to do the work he's created you to do within your current relationship. God would never leave you alone in any situation: "He will never leave you nor forsake you" (Deut 31:6). Even if you married a non-Christian, God's grace is sufficient for you. You cannot dig a hole so deep that it cuts you off from God's provision, care, and life-giving strength....
That's the message I want to communicate: you and God are in this together, and he's beginning your marriage makeover with you. Let him transform you as you seek to move your husband. While you may never achieve the results you have in mind, you can- without question- change the equation of your marriage by remodeling yourself. It begins with understanding, perhaps for the first time, the glory of being a godly woman and acting with the strength of a godly woman who understands she was created in the image of God, forgiven of her sins through the work of Jesus Christ, and gifted and empowered by God's Holy Spirit to live the life God has called her to live...
By courageously facing up to the challenges that every marriage faces, and by letting God change you in the process, something wonderful takes place- the formation of a new woman, fully alive to God, who can take the lessons she learns at home and apply them everywhere else.
'We can't guarantee success in this war, but we can do something better. We can deserve it.'"
Slightly stereotypical, but good.......2007-09-02
Gary Thomas is brave to write a book for wives from a male perspective and he does a fairly good job, in my opinion. There are spots where he makes generalizations and the examples of couples he uses are on the sweet and simple side, but he makes some good points. We are either making a good marriage by degrees or tearing one down by degrees. Our identity is in Christ, not our marital status.
I preferred "Sacred Marriage" over "Sacred Influence" by Thomas, but this one did make a good book for a discussion group of wives in my church.
Spectacular!.......2007-07-24
This is definitely worth reading! I wish every married (or soon to be married) woman would read this. Gary Thomas writes TO women, not just at them or for them. I felt very understood and was excited to alter my behavior during and after reading this.I also learned a ton about men in general...and i've been married for 14 years so i am not "new" at this. I am so encouraged! This isn't 5 easy steps to change your man, but a challenge and call to change yourself...the ONLY one you CAN change. The blessing that comes in your marriage from your personal growth is a bonus! It gives great advise from a man's point of view. Isn't that what we all need since we are so different from men? He is caring and respectful but plain and easy to understand. I hope you enjoy it as much as i have. Since i have read this and Sacred Marriage i have gone on to read Gary's other book The Glorious Pursuit...another winner!
Good book, very helpful; some drawbacks.......2007-06-09
I must first and formost admit that this is was a very difficult book for me to read. The TRUTH presented in it hit home like a tone of bricks! I really appreciate Mr. Thomas's point of view and I really like that this book is written from a man's point of view. I really feel like God has chosen me to do a good work in my husband's life. This book has helped me see how I have not been cooperating with God in being a Godly influence to my husband. Here's the thing: I'm not sure I would recommend this book for women who are being neglected or emotionally/physically abused by their husband. Women in this position are in a very delicate state and need to be built up in God and receive a stronger foundation in Him before being able to take a look at themselves throught the lens of this book. There are elements in this book that may inadvertently reinforce a woman's belief that her mistreatment is her doing and her responsibility. A woman's abuse at the hands of her husband is his choice and his choice ALONE. There are so many woman out there who need to be empowered FIRST, before one is able to pick apart their roles in their abusive relationships. There needs to be a greater awareness of this issue and it needs to be addressed more openly in books that deal with the woman's role in the marriage.
Although there was a chapter on husbands who are unsaved, it was not adequate. This kind of union has different needs from a christian union and I felt that this book did not provide this different perspective.
Another bad taste that was left in my mouth after all this was that in my readings of so many of the Christian lit on marriage (including this one), men seem to not be held accountable for ungodly behavior as much as women. Despite this very valuable point of view from Mr. Thomas, it lacks any kind of idea that men should be held accountable for the mistreatment of their wives.
I gave this book four stars because I feel like despite it's drawbacks it has helped me realize that by honoring my husband I'm really honoring God. It is God who requires me to be a good wife to my husband and that fact is paramount to whatever self-centered feelings I may have toward my marriage and my husband. This book defintely helps you to realize how you can be the wife God wants you to be.
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- Great Insider Advice Served with a Twist
- Single women will LOVE this book!
- Like selling ice to eskimos
- the boys hooked us up!!
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Book Description
Ever wonder how the great flirts do it? How they manage to attract a man's attention, even in the distracting setting of a crowded bar? And then, once they've got it, how they keep him focused? The people standing behind the bar watch this game play out night after night. Now, two of the best in the business, Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas, are ready to spill all the secrets of the hookup game. In this groundbreaking book, they tell women everything they need to know to pick up men (the right men).
A good bartender doesn't just know how to mix drinks -- he knows how to read people, too. Dushan and Jason have witnessed every kind of hookup (and screwup) you can imagine. They know who is going to send over a drink before he even thinks of it. They can tell if a man's a bully, a loser, or gay as soon as he walks in the door. Most of all, they know what women have to do to make guys want to get their number.
Drawing on their own observations as well as surveys of their patrons, Dushan and Jason show women what men are really thinking and how to use that information to their advantage. They provide step-by-step advice on everything from how to approach a guy to how to tell if he's worth it, and how to make an exit if he's not.
Filled with street smarts, bar lore, and, of course, delicious cocktail recipes, You Didn't Hear It from Us is ultimately about more than dating -- it's about learning how to present the best parts of yourself, thus making the world your martini glass.
Customer Reviews:
Great lessons for some, old news for others.......2007-07-07
I like this book because it states over and over to be completely yourself and it doesn't matter if you are the shyest person on the planet or the most outgoing. It is also matter-of-fact and straight up tells you what men want and don't want. Men in a bar setting are after only one thing and when they get it, us women should not expect anything more. However, if you are a woman who knows how to work it and is not insecure, don't waste your time. Only read this if you are clueless, anxious, or unconfident while at a bar. My best friend and I, both frequent bar-goers and huge flirts, read this book and found only a few pages with advice that was actually new and useful. Other that those, we basically knew all the other stuff.
Great Insider Advice Served with a Twist.......2007-03-21
The most important message that bartenders Zaric and Kosmas give in their book is that it is truly all about attitude. Though the theory is often preached, it's a little harder to practice when you're standing in a dark, crowded bar where first impressions are served up as often as cocktails. I found reading this book was like talking to my best girlfriends, hearing advice from a good older brother, and getting insight from potential bar-mates all at once! I'm recommending it to everybody, especially now with Spring Break season approaching. Seeing Lauren reading it on The Hills only supported the reality that the authors so often find overlooked by their patrons; everyone feels a little uncomfortable and out of place in this hook-up/bunk-up/break-up world we often find ourselves in. However, with a little positive reinforcement, insider knowledge, and a ton of hilarious anecdotes, You Didn't Hear It From Us will definitely have you smiling all the way to the bar and back!
Single women will LOVE this book!.......2007-03-21
This book has such great advice about grabbing a man's attention in a crowded bar or party setting. It gives you very specific tips on how to open the conversation and how to flirt in a way that really will hold his attention--the suggestions are so helpful, especially if you tend to get a little shy or intimidated by these situations. The authors also tell you how to read the subtle signals a guy is sending you that tell you more about his personality than he's actually saying, so the next morning you don't regret giving him your number (or taking him home)! I also really enjoyed all the funny stories from their customers that Jason and Dushan interspersed throughout the book. All in all, the book worked for me and I want to buy a copy for all of my friends--especially those who go home sad at the end of the night because they didn't hook up.
Like selling ice to eskimos.......2006-12-10
this book is fine, but seriously--a book on how a woman can go to bars and land a man??? the answer, ladies is in the question: go to bars--the men will most likely take it from there. (it helps if you're hot). i have an idea, to test the efficacy of this book: go to a bar--like employees only--and take a look around and note how many women (again, being attractive helps) are standing around alone and unnoticed. my guess is they have a drink in one hand and pepper spray in the other. i suppose the point of this book is to "teach" women how to "get" the man they want, but really, anyone with a modicum of social intelligence knows that women usually get the man they want (or at least deserve)--it's men who need a clue as to how to speak to/pick up women. maybe next these authors can pen a book detailing the best way for fat people to gain weight.
the boys hooked us up!!.......2006-11-16
What a great read......its clear these two gentlemen have heard and seen it all. Buy the book and visit Employees Only (the establishment they own in the west village) and you have a killer combination . The advise to hook the man you want and the venue perfect for a date with devine food and cocktails. Why am i such a fan?? i met my man at Employees Only over a year ago so had to buy the book for sentimental reasons and everything i read made a hell of alot of sense!! GREAT XMAS GIFT FOR YOUR GIRLFRIENDS TOO!! Thanks boys for taking care of the ladiesx
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