Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage
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A Must for every newly married couple!

The best solution probably is not to be a wussy!

GREAT Read!

Harmful to all relationships

Toxic In Laws meets expectations

Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage
Susan Forward
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Susan Forward's practical and powerful book will help couples cope with terrible and toxic in–laws.

Toxic in–laws are in–laws who create genuine chaos through various assaults––aggressive or subtle––on you and your marriage. Toxic–in laws come in a wide variety of guises, " The Critics.; ", who tell you what you're doing wrong, "The Controllers.;", who try to run you and your partner's life, " The Engulfers.;", who make incessant demands on your time, " The Masters of Chaos.;", who drain you and your partner with their problems, and, " The Rejecters.;", who let you know they don't want you as part of their family.

Susan Forward draws on real–life voices and stories of both women and men struggling to free themselves from the frustrating, hurtful and infuriating relationships with their toxic in–laws. Dr. Forward offers you highly effective communication and behavioral techniques for getting through to partners who won't or can't stand up to their parents. Next, she lays out accessible and practical ways to reclaim you marriage from your in–laws. She shows you what to say, what to do and what limits to set. If you follow these strategies, you may not turn toxic in–laws into the in–laws of your dreams, but you will find some peace in your relationship with them.

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A Must for every newly married couple!.......2007-08-15

Marriage is difficult enough without someone trying to undermine it. This book helps you identify those things that can be out there to trip you up. It makes the playing field level again.

The best solution probably is not to be a wussy!.......2007-06-27

I have read many stories on the internet about people who have huge problems with their in-laws and virtually all of these people have one big thing in common: they are gigantic WUSSIES!!! They are wussies and their spouses are wussies. They are incredibly weak. They refuse to stand up for themselves and refuse to confront anyone. That is why the in-laws are able to cause so much trouble. They put up with abuse for years and years and do nothing about it except whine and cry about it in private. These people have a helpless victim mentality and a whiny, submissive attitude. Instead of actually doing something about their problems, they spend their time privately complaining to their spouses, which 99% of the time does no good! Well, a life of misery is what a coward gets! These victims are too cowardly to stand up for themselves. What they need to work on the most is to develop courage, assertiveness, self esteem, and the willingness to fight for their rights! Another problem that these people have is that they are people-pleasers. They will spend years futilely trying to please their spouse and their in-laws before they finally give up. I think this is another serious personality flaw of the victims. The idea that you should try to please toxic people is very wrong and doesn't work. My policy is I should only be good to people who are good to me. The people who are bad to me can go to blazes! But these victims of in-laws don't see it that way, until years pass by and they finally wise up!

WE ALL CREATE OUR OWN LIVES.

Despite having bad in-laws, the truth is that the real fault lies with the victims themselves for allowing themselves to be abused. They made their own beds by accepting abuse instead of fighting it or getting away from it. They are their own worst enemies. No one has to be a victim. Being a victim is something you choose to be by having a victim mentality.

I never see any stories about how strong people with high self esteem and assertiveness deal with toxic in-laws. I guess this is because people like us take care of our problems quickly and therefore we don't need to tell whiney tales of woe on the internet. People like me actually SOLVE our problems instead of complaining about them. Once you become a strong person, you can quickly solve pretty much any problem. The stronger a person you are, the smaller problems become.

GREAT Read!.......2007-05-13

Definitely made me feel better and more prepared to deal with the issues I was having with my mother-in-law. I would definitely recommend this book!

Harmful to all relationships.......2007-04-30

Toxic In-Laws is definitely a flawed title as well as using flawed psychology. I would give it 0 stars if that were an option.
1. The author makes too many presumptions on all sides. She presumes all young people to always be in the right and all parents to always be in the wrong. That is flawed logic and results in flawed counseling.
2. The author never puts balance to things by showing both sides nor does she interview the in-laws for another point of view yet she projects intent upon the in-laws. This is called a closed system and not a sign of a good counselor.
3. The author does nothing to define a toxic person whether young person or parents.
4. The author does nothing to define what a good in-law would be like. In most of the cases, the in-laws are not in the wrong, but she never points that out. Anyone who does counseling would agree.
5. The author does nothing to show how to get along with others. Instead, her only solution is to cut off all contact with people with whom you disagree. That does not show maturity in conflict resolution.
6. The author does nothing to show that although a person is an in-law to one person in the couple, he/she is a parent to the other and deserving of respect, love, and an opportunity to express his/her side. She also tells men and women that they should be upset with their parents when they are not. This is bad counseling advice and gives family counselors a bad name.
7. The author does nothing to point out how communication, on an adult level and presuming the best in the other first, accomplishes more good than evil.
8. The author did nothing to show skill in counseling, but rather the immaturity of a child who is a persistent bully and negative personality.
If following this advice, one would be accused of being an immature junior high schooler, not a justified, mature adult. Save your money and time on this one. Had I (or any of the couples I've worked with) followed this advice, I would have missed out on many good memories and wonderful times with both my parents and in-laws.

Toxic In Laws meets expectations.......2007-03-08

I ordered Toxic In Laws after enduring yet another horrible holiday season with my in-laws. I was prompted to order the book because of the "protecting your marriage" part of the title. In the past, I've been angry with my in-laws on many occasions, but usually I just put it behind me. This Christmas, however, my mother-in-law verbally attacked our young son, and that was the end of the line for me. I had concerns about being able to effectively communicate my position to my husband, and as many of Dr. Forward's clients mention in the book, I have never felt like my husband was completely on my side. In reading the book, I could pull out specific examples of behaviours that are very similar if not identical to things we've gone through with my in-laws, and I was able to share the information with my husband. I felt very empowered by the book, and began to realize that there is no way that one person in a relationship involving three other people can possibly "fix" it all by themselves. The book gave me suggestions about what to say to my husband and helped me move past communicating from anger and hurt to a more rational and sincere way of speaking. I would highly recommend this book to anyone having trouble with in-laws who is concerned about the effects on your marriage. I wish I'd read it sooner. We are still going through the process of dealing with this and I don't know how it will all come out. Dr. Forward isn't promising any quick fixes. I do know, however, that if the very worst happened and my husband and I were to break up over these issues with his parents, that I would feel totally comfortable that I had done all I could to stand for myself while supporting my husband and protecting my kids.

Toxic Psychiatry: Why Therapy, Empathy and Love Must Replace the Drugs, Electroshock, and Biochemical Theories of the "New Psychiatry"

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tOXIC pSYCHIATRY
Global Drug Abuse!
Toxic psyachiatry is toxic for parents of the mentally ill
Only people that has right to say anything about these drugs are the people that have taken them
Argh!

Toxic Psychiatry: Why Therapy, Empathy and Love Must Replace the Drugs, Electroshock, and Biochemical Theories of the "New Psychiatry"
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tOXIC pSYCHIATRY.......2007-08-07

This book will open your eyes to the myth that if you can't fix something with a pill, then it can't be fixed at all.

An exvellent read. A bit advanced, but still can be followed and understood. A word of warning: If you have a psychiatrist treating you, he/she probably won't appreciate your input from this book. But I still think it informs and then allows you to discuss treatment options more factually, as opposed to just being passive in your care decisions.

A must read for those who find themselves blindly accepting yet another prescription, because the doctor said to.

Global Drug Abuse!.......2007-01-06

Peter Breggin is the Erin Brokovich of the Psychopharmaceutical Industry! The widespread "chemical abuse" of millions of people by psychiatrists, is an international crime! Peter Breggen's book(s) are the most powerful whistleblower revelations against this global multi-billion dollar psychiatry industry. Governments need to recognise that they are actually funding with billions of taxpayer dollars, the barbaric brain damaging and controlling of multitudes of people they are elected to protect.

"Toxic Psychiatry" is more than a wake up call, it is trumpet call to confront this diabolical nazi-like "poisoning" of millions! It is a must read for all. Having been involved in counselling for nearly 30 years, I have seen first hand the dis-diagnoses and subsequent mind-altering "treatments" of the psychiatric fraternity empowered by the psychopharmaceutical giants. The results of lifelong enslavement to "diagnostic labelling" and to the chronic poisoning by mind/body disabling medications, is a modern day holocaust affecting millions, which continues to be supported by governments of most nations.

Toxic psyachiatry is toxic for parents of the mentally ill.......2006-11-05

I was going to assign this book to my students in my Abnormal Psychology class... The first chapter is powerful and true. However, this author irresponsibly attacks the parents of the mentally ill as responsible for their children's illnesses!!!! He also attacks NAMI, the National Association of the Mentally Ill, an organization that has helped more mentally ill patients recover, find support and their way to a successful and meaningful life, and has truly educated more people about mental illness than Breggin has ever done himself, I am sure. The good points the book makes about inadequate and even harmful psychiatric care in mental institutions are, in my opinion, obfuscated by his unwarranted attacks on parents -- attacks, I believe, that may be a result of his old-fashioned psychoanalytical training.

Only people that has right to say anything about these drugs are the people that have taken them.......2006-05-23

Some people think they are so smart that they know everything about these drugs and chemistry, no matter how smart you are and lets say youre #1 top psychiatrists in the world. If you havent taken the SSRI yourself and experienced the damaging affect of these drugs, you cant say anything PERIOD. Not even if you invented the drug !!!!! Why do we have so many people complaining about these drugs? duh maybe because there is a problem and causing problems!!!, people who havent tried or experience the damaging affects afterwards dont see why people are complaining. We dont see books about warning people not to take for example flu shots do we? No. I used to be one of those people who believed and that popping a pill can solve my life problems but Now because of SSRI my life is ruined and have permanant problems that wont go away. And for people who are currently on SSRI, pills will never ever cure depression unless you stay on them forever,Im sure you are happy with those fake smiles, see what happens when you taper off of them. And people who are FOR these drugs should immediately go to doctors and try them and see how safe they are. I recommend you try prozac first. If that dont work out dont worry there are plenty others that doctors will want you to try. HAHAHA so sad that there are still people out there in this country that really believe these pills can help them.

Argh!.......2006-02-13

I couldn't resist writing this. The ad hominem abusive, straw man, slippery slope and other fallacies running rampant in some of the other reviews are just ridiculous!

First off, comparing insulin to brain chemistry is not a logical argument! Just because it has been proven that certain levels of insulin are necessary for proper metabolism, it does not mean that brain chemistry works the same way!! The two processes are completely different. One is very well understood and proven, while the other is not understood well at all and is definately not proven. Using this logic, I could say that diabetics take insulin, therefore I must take lead to fix my "electrostatic disorder." I cannot invent a disorder in this way, except in a work of fiction! Beware of "convincing" analogies, especially ones that seem like common sense, they are all too often wrong, wrong, wrong, and more wrong.

Breggin also has been in private practice since 1968. If he spent a few years being an expert witness in lawsuits, then that only shows his dedication to his cause, not that he has been "gallivanting around" as one reviewer seems to think! If you want to know a little about Breggin, try http://Breggin.org.

Also, Breggin does not oversimplify the problem and say that "all drugs cause brain damage." He quotes case studies and peer-reviewed journal writings concerning specific drugs and specific disorders. He does not draw his conclusions out of thin air and make only blanket statements! There are no rabbits being pulled out of any hats anywhere but in the review I'm commenting on.

And another thing, just because someone is depressed, it does not mean they will commit suicide! Stop convincing people that they will kill themselves if they don't recieve drugs! It cripples people and makes them unwilling to help themselves! It's not logical and is NOT shown through any studies that a majority of depressed people will kill themselves if not medicated. In fact, studies have shown that the biggest factor of whether a patient improves or not is whether they believe that they will get better or not, it is not whether they recieve psychotropic drugs or not.

Breggin also does not come anywhere close to making it seem that patients are defined by their illness! It's laughable to suggest the notion having read the book! He demands the utmost respect for even the most troubled persons and I believe he shows how there is more to the person that their disorder by his disgust for how psychiatrists don't look for the reasons for a person's disorder but instead only try to match a person to the "diagnostic criteria" of the DSM IV. If anything, the practice of matching patients to illnesses defines a person by their "illness," NOT Breggin's perspective of the patient.

Also, to say that Breggin "throws the baby out with the bathwater," while admitting the book has several good points, only to give it one star is a bit ironic and hypocritical, don't you think?

And in closing for this review.. Just because Tom Cruise and the wacky Scientologists are anti-psychiatry, it does not mean that there is nothing wrong with psychiatry. That is an obvious ad hominem circumstancial fallacy if I have ever heard one. (For those who have no idea what that means, it means that just because someone is part of a group, it does not mean that a statement they have said is wrong. A group may be known for their likely incorrect viewpoints, but it does not make untrue all of the beliefs of every group member. An example would be how Hitler created the idea for the Volkswagon Beatle. The Nazi's were wrong for mass murdering Jews, but that doesn't mean that they were also wrong in thinking that smaller, more efficient cars could actually be a good thing for society.)

Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

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The Best, Most Practical Self Help Book on Relationships
excellent title!!
Changed my life
This Book Saved My Marriage!
Best relationship book I've read

Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship
Jeffrey Bernstein
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Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it's actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication. In Why Can't You Read My Mind?, psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals-for the first time-the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every relationship, and shows couples how these distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts can poison their love and end their union. With warmth and wisdom, Bernstein offers a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps readers establish new and more positive thinking habits for solving their problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life. Packed with practical advice and valuable insights, Why Can't You Read My Mind? makes it possible for couples to remain in or return to loving relationships permanently, and points the way toward finding a truer kind of love with one another for the first time. Perfect for couples wanting to maintain their loving relationship as well as for those working to restore their love, this book provides the missing link, enabling couples to beat the relationship odds and sustain a long-term relationship.

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The Best, Most Practical Self Help Book on Relationships.......2007-10-13

This excellent book, written by family therapist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein, is practical, easy-to-follow, and a quick read. Although it is not an instant panacea for relationship ills it did make me recognize my own (negative) contributions to my relationship with my husband and, later, with other, less integral people in my life. Be open-minded, willing to learn, and spend the time and thought to do the exercises honestly. I read this book prior to choosing Dr. Jeff as a therapist and cannot speak highly enough about him. (Yes, we are fortunate enough to live in the same area as his practice!)

excellent title!!.......2007-08-10

This book is really helpful and right on target. It seems so many people try to have magical mind reading abilities and this book helps to sort that fantasy out!! Particularly useful to give to others to read as a gift!!

Changed my life .......2006-08-26

This is the most amazing book I have ever stumbled across. It not only gave me a new perspective on love and relationships but I was able to incorporate the logic of it into all areas of my life. I've recommended it to friends left and right. This is definitely a must read.

This Book Saved My Marriage! .......2006-04-20

Before we found this book, my husband and I were highly discourgaged and didn't think there were any solutions to repair our miserable relationship. All I can say is that this book finally stopped us from resenting and blaming each other for the crumbling of our marriage. I had seen Dr. Bernstein on the Today Show a while ago when they had a segment on toxic relationships and I remembered the title, Why Can't You Read My Mind? This book helped us to understand and appreciate each other in ways we never have before. I only wish that I had bought it before our relationship got so bad. My advice is don't wait till the 11th hour to read this outstanding book.

Best relationship book I've read.......2005-06-05

I buy far too many self help books but this one was the most practical and eye opening regarding how one can develop destructive patterns of relating to your partner (or anyone, for that matter) and how perception plays a key role in all of negative and irrational behavior. He give practical methods for countering these irrational thoughts and thus have a better relationship with both your partner and yourself. I really needed this book and feel it may lead me to finally have a successful relationship leading to a happy marriage. My irrational thoughts and behavior have so often sabotaged me in my relationships up to this point. I highly recommend this book!

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Knowing the subjects.......2003-05-22

I probably would not have read this book, until I found out few years after that I had been dating the adult Male victims wife. The ex of the killer named Sandy. We did not date for a long period of time. However after reading this book and with my inside knowledge of the family and victims. I believe it may be that Sandy put her ex-boyfriend up to this, possibly trying to release herself from an unhappy marriage. You will have to make your own conclusions. I think the writer was spot-on when pointing a finger in Sandy's direction.

Blame the Victim?.......2001-06-29

This book was very interesting and competent when describing the process in which the chemical substance that caused the deaths was tracked down. However, two parts of this book disturbed me greatly. The first was that the author kept casting unfounded suspicions on the surviving wife. I really felt disgusted by this in some portions of this work. The second is the author sometimes veers into satanism. One gets the feeling that this theme was originally more prominent in this work and an editor reigned it in. Still, someone should inform the author that humanism does not equate with satanism.

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My City Was Gone: One American Town's Toxic Secret, Its Angry Band of Locals, and a $700 Million Day in Court

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Dennis Love Pens A Superb Book

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Powerful and important, My City Was Gone is the cautionary tale of how a hardworking small town was destroyed by the very forces that created it. Anniston, Alabama, was once a thriving industrial hub, home to a Monsanto chemical plant as well as a federal depot for chemical weapons. Now its notoriety comes from its exceptionally high cancer rate—some 25 percent above the state norm—and the town's determined citizens, who joined together and struck back at the corporation that employed them—and poisoned them.

Dennis Love's bold, gripping narrative unfolds through the stories of three Annistonians: David Baker, the black community activist and environmental folk hero who would lead the charge against the polluters; Chip Howell, the white mayor who defended and provided political cover for the army; and the author himself, a native son who shares his memories and offers compelling insight as the events unfold. Throughout, Love introduces a diverse collection of citizens—heroes and villains, bystanders and victims—whose experiences put a human face on this modern tragedy.

"Anniston—," Love writes, "created from whole cloth to serve exclusively at the pleasure of commerce, a Reconstruction-era `model city' envisioned by its profiteering yet starry-eyed founders as a Utopian centerpiece of the Industrial Age—became the victim of a staggering, even historic, environmental double-whammy, brought on by the harsh, consumptive legacy of its longstanding paternal influences, the twin gods of Industry and National Defense."

As provocative and timely as Erin Brokovich or A Civil Action, My City Was Gone is a magnificently told true story of ordinary citizens in a small Southern town who led a legendary fight against corporate pollution and wrongdoing.

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Dennis Love Pens A Superb Book.......2006-08-28

BOOK REVIEW
A chronicle of small-town lifeand what almost destroyed it
By Robert Braile, Globe Correspondent | August 28, 2006

My City Was Gone: One American Town's Toxic Secret, Its Angry Band of Locals, and a $700 Million Day in Court
By Dennis Love
Morrow, 344 pp., $25.95

In ``My City Was Gone," Dennis Love's superb book on Anniston, Ala., the journalist at one point meets his old Anniston Star editor for a drink. Love had left his job and hometown years earlier, restless for change. He ended up in California, adrift at 40.

``Then he swung back around on me," Love writes about the editor. `` `Listen,' he said, and I could see him taking me in with a long hard look. `Don't lose track of who you are. Don't distance yourself from the people and places that make you distinctive.' He drained his glass and looked at me again. `Don't get too far from home.' "

Love returned home by writing ``My City Was Gone." It displays his talents as a reporter and memoirist in exploring one of America's darkest environmental nightmares, that of the Monsanto Corp oration 's chemical pollution of Anniston and the military's storage and incineration there of a massive stockpile of Cold War chemical weapons.

But this book is more than eco-drama, a trend that surged in 1995 with Jonathan Harr's ``A Civil Action" and has thrived since. Love suggests a deeper theme -- that he and Anniston were fated long ago to become who and what they are, and that no one can get too far from home.

In a poignant, punchy, New Southern voice, Love probes his life, those of activist David Baker and Mayor Chip Howell, and the late-19th-century ``manufactured" creation of Anniston itself, to make the Faulknerian point that we are our pasts, destined for better or worse to reflect our origins, no matter how far we stray.

Anniston's historic patriotism, industrialism, utopianism, and isolationism made it ripe for abuse by Monsanto and the military. Yet its decency, among other traits, helped it prevail over that abuse, evident in a landmark $700 million payout in 2003 by Monsanto and a subsidiary to settle lawsuits against the companies. As for Love, he suggests his place in life turned out to be the very one he had sought to flee, Anniston.

``But Anniston did change," Love writes at the end, gazing at his high school football field. ``I turned my back for only a moment -- or maybe it was twenty years -- and a great reckoning came to pass. People like Chip Howell and David Baker left town and went to college or the big city and came home to lead armies and make decisions and write history, so that childhoods like theirs and mine could be replicated on floodlit football fields and all the other places where young people grow up and learn about life and the living of it. Maybe they even did it so that knights-errant like me could wander to the ends of the earth and then return, if only to make sure that the old home place still stands in the mist, like Tara. And Anniston persists, by God, having nearly died and the stronger for it, different and the same, a place where an old ghost can sit on a hill on a timeless night and gaze down on what is gone forever and still there."

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How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities

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Ouch! It's kinda painful to read this book!.......2006-03-07

I read this book, thinking I had people in my life that would fit the description of porcupines, and that I could pick up a few pointers on how to handle them. Imagine my horror and dismay when I discovered that I'M a porcupine!!! That is, I have a goodly number of the characteristics that the author uses to define porcupine behavior. I was stunned to see that many qualities that I saw in myself as being "helpful" to people are in fact toxic and painful. When I looked at these traits from the point of view of "would I want someone to treat ME that way?" the answer was a definite "No." *sigh* Thus, reading the book became one of the most painful experiences of my life. Now I have to say that I think that I'm one of the nicest porcupines you'll ever meet. Nonetheless, I saw traits in myself that need to be changed. Mr. Lund gives you steps to take if you want to eliminate these behaviors, and it has been my daunting task to work on this ever since. It took me about three years (!!!!! NO, I'm not kidding) to complete the assignment of going through one twenty-four day without saying anything negative at all. Try it before you roll your eyeballs into next week. It's (MUCH) harder than you think. I'm not sure a truly toxic person could take this book. But it does give good strategy suggestions for protecting yourself from such people.

All I can say is good luck.

Great Find.......2005-08-19

This book is great when dealing with all kinds of personalities. But what I liked most was being able to identify and cope with the different types. And yes even finding that there were tough to love spots in my reflection. Really a good book for relating to parents, children, spouses and self and anyone you have a close working relationship with.

How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing with Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities.......2005-07-10

This book is a must read for anyone who is in a relationship, whether it be parent, child, friend, neighbor, spouse, ------->in other words EVERYONE could benefit greatly from reading this book.

Toxic Mother In Law 101.......2005-07-05

I read this book to help me deal with my very toxic MIL and it has helped me immensely! I highly recommend it for anyone seeking sanity from a highly critical or "toxic" person in your life. John's humor and down-to-earth approach makes this book very easy and enjoyable to read.

You are not going crazy, only being driven crazy.......2003-05-29

This book was like finding a miracle for me. I have dealt with several difficult people in my life. I didn't know that this was not normal behavior. One of them was my mother who is now 85 years old and getting a more difficult personality everyday. This book has helped my perspective in dealing with her immensely. The one sentence, "decide what a reasonable person would do" has been a sanity saver. I have taken my life back and am learning to deal with all the guilt she dishes out in a more positive manner.

I have already given this book to several others that I know are dealing with a toxic personality. Good luck to you, this book will help you deal with these people in a more healthy way.

I Love Him Lord, But He's Not A Christian - The Christian Woman's Guide to Deliverance from Toxic Relationships
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Pray, women of God, and then move your feet

I Love Him Lord, But He's Not A Christian - The Christian Woman's Guide to Deliverance from Toxic Relationships
Esq. Latasha G. Hines
Manufacturer: Jewel Publishers LLC
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback
ASIN: 0977832201

Product Description

I Love Him Lord, But He's Not a Christian is the unmarried Christian woman's guide to deliverance from relationships with men who do not share their faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Unmarried Christian women are encouraged to allow God to fill the missing pieces in their hearts as they journey toward the equally yoked relationship God ordained for them.

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Pray, women of God, and then move your feet.......2007-04-24

It's rare that self-help books will succinctly and effectively address the fundamental issues that cause relationship dysfunction. Usually, there are some glaring generalities that are based on societal assumptions, and no real empowering advice on how to navigate a sometimes intimidating environment. If not, you get a long diatribe full of theories and notions that any graduate-level psychology student will understand, but that no woman outside of academia can utilize.

Latasha Hines' book, I Love Him Lord, But He's Not a Christian, is a breath of fresh air. This simple, practical book based on biblical principles goes right to the heart of all relationship dysfunction. Her no-nonsense advice starts right at the beginning, with her tale of her own relationship snafu, and her contribution to its chaos. Her determination to make things work with a man who didn't value God as much as she did guaranteed the relationship's failure. Using the principles espoused by the Bible and modeled by Jesus, Hines was able to escape the toxic relationship. Her bold and unrelenting honesty set her apart as a writer who writes from testimony and not from theory, and that testimony qualifies her as an expert in this field.

Being a successful lawyer, Hines wanted to create a book that was suitable for the busy woman, so the book is compact enough to slide into a briefcase or a purse, yet chock full of valuable insights. Each chapter concisely addresses the many facets of relationship dysfunction; all confronting the mistaken belief that a relationship developed from a sense of need will be a lasting one. Then, she firmly (but gently) calls the reader to task with reminders of God's promises, all anchored in the reader's worthiness as a child of God, and guides the reader at the end of each chapter with a "Prayerful Application". Her simple, but powerful prose makes every page sing with the witness that a divinely-guided relationship is worth waiting for.

With chapter titles like, "How Did You Get to this Point?", "You Cannot Change Him, so Stop Trying," "You Are A Gift from God, Therefore You are not Yours to Give," and "Tell God How You Really Feel," she allows the reader to view a relationship in its entirety without the blinders of romantic idealism. Being unevenly yoked is not just about marriage, or a bad relationship, but it's about the uneven places in your spirit where you will not allow God to lead you. As another reader writes, "Your book has admonished me to remind and encourage my friends to keep God first and to be obedient even though the flesh is weak." Her most powerful chapters urge the woman to be completely honest with God, so that she can know truly the gifts a relationship with God will provide. Hines' book is about a rededication to spiritual integrity so that God can fully lead your life into freedom, joy and love.

I Love Him Lord, But He's Not A Christian is now in its second printing, and the expanded edition features more techniques for any woman to understand her value through communion with God. Hines wants to remind women and men to invest time in loving God first, then letting God love them by providing a divinely appointed mate. When you enter a relationship looking for completion, you rob yourself and your mate of a fulfilling communion with each other. She warns not to sow unto the flesh, which is not about just avoiding the urges of sexual satisfaction. She warns of the impatience of humanity's short-sightedness which impedes the work of God in our lives.

Hines closes the book with the scripture, "To obey is better than sacrifice." (1 Samuel 15:22)
The obedience she speaks of is to the love that God is aching to pour into your life. Your disobedience only means that you will sacrifice the hope of lasting joy and fulfillment. I say, take Hines' advice and be delivered from toxic relationships.

Love Canal: Toxic Waste Tragedy (American Disasters)

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Love Canal: Toxic Waste Tragedy (American Disasters)
Victoria Sherrow
Manufacturer: Enslow Publishers
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Library Binding

General | Ages 9-12 | Children's Books | Subjects | Books

Deliverance to a Fresh Spirit: 12-Step Guide for ending toxic relationships and overcoming their effects

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Deliverance to a Fresh Spirit: 12-Step Guide for ending toxic relationships and overcoming their effects
Conte Morgan Terrell
Manufacturer: AuthorHouse
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

Love & Romance | Relationships | Health, Mind & Body | Subjects | Books

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ASIN: 1418414492

Book Description

This faith journal is a wonderful tool and may by used in conjunction with the book "Deliverance to a Fresh Spirit" or alone. Writing down your feelings, successes, God's blessings and more can help the hurt turn to healing. Many people have found peace and healing of the mind, body and spirit by using a journal. Take this opportunity to write the things that you may never say, want to say or need to say. There are 365 pages in this journal, and twelve sections that you may use to express your thoughts and feelings. You may choose to use the twelve catergories to journal daily throughout the twelve months of the year or as you work through each of the twelve steps of the book to document your struggles and growth from that step. May God bless you as you work to overcome toxic relationships and their effect. I know that you will grow personally, spiritually and emotionally. You deserve good healthy relationships, you deserved to be healed, and you deserve to be delivered to a fresh spirit. The Faith Journal can be used to help you : * Document and celebrate your growth * Record God's blessing * Express emotions * Reflect when times are difficult * Empower your life * Increase your faith and trust God for a new life

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Everything You Must Know About Tampons
Nancy Friedman
Manufacturer: Berkley
ProductGroup: Book
Binding: Paperback

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ASIN: 0425051404

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