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Written by a psychotherapist who has helped many women weather the heartbreak of a failed relationship, this uplifting and encouraging guide to letting go and moving on uses practical techniques to guide readers through a difficult and heart-wrenching process. With simple, enlightening exercises that will help readers chart their progress through a tough but important transition, this book shows that getting over and moving on may not be as simple as not picking up the phone; but it's a great place to start.
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I thought this book was a waste of money and time.......2007-10-04
Pretty lame. All of it was just common sense except for the "blame it on your parents part" which I thought was totally off base. I thought the simplicity of the way it was written and the tone was actually a bit condescending.
short and sweet.......2007-08-30
This book is a god send! I love how short and easy to read it is. It truly helped during those crazy times where all i wanted to do was dial his digits. Every woman can relate! I especially liked the chapter on ambivalent men. Read it during those hard times and don't call that man. Instead, go out and find a new man worth your time!
Victory.......2007-05-09
This book gave me some valid guidelines to consider in order for me not to call that man. I ended a relationship that was not going anywhere with hopes that it would. The therapy helped me get out of my "relationship over funk" also known as hurt feelings and depression much sooner. I had a light at the end of the tunnel after completing this book. Highly recommended if your thinking about calling that man.
But what about when he calls you...47 times???.......2007-03-23
I bought this book after a three year relationship had given me one too many roller coaster rides to hell. And,though it is tiny and a quick read, it did help. First of all, and I am not being sarcastic, while I was reading the book----I wasn't calling him. It worked as a delaying tactic and as a support of strength. I might be in denial, though, because a lot of the book seemed not to pertain to me. My father was loving and not distant, so I am still at a loss as to why I let this man torture me emotionally for so long.
But when I stopped calling, he STARTED calling, so I wish that she would write a sequel called DON"T PICK UP THAT PHONE!
It helps but definitely get other books as well.......2007-02-26
It was horrible during my break with my boyfriend then and I felt it was like an addiction that I needed to call him all the time. It was really painful to not hear from him and at least the time you spent reading the book you don't think of picking up the phone. I don't have as much take away from this book then others but still every bit of info helps.
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"Dr. Patrick Carnes is a creative, pioneering, and courageous human being. His books are changing the lives of thousands!"
"I lost three marriages, all because of affairs." "I became suicidal because of multiple intense involvements."
"I spent money on sex when I needed it for children's clothes."
"I lost promotion opportunities and a special scholarship because my co-workers found out about my sex life."
Every day they face the possibility of destruction, risking their families, fiances, jobs, dignity, and health. They come from all walks of life: ministers, physicians, therapists, politicians, executives, blue-collar workers. Most were abused as children--sexually, physically or emotionally--and saw addictive behavior in their early lives. Most grapple with other addictions as well, but their fiercest battle is with the most astounding prevalent "secret" disorder in America: sexual addiction. Here is a ground-breaking work by the nation's leading professional expert on sexual addiction, based on the candid testimony of more than one thousand recovering sexual addicts in the first major scientific study of the disorder. This essential volume includes not only the revealing findings of Dr. Carne's research with recovering addicts but also advice from the addicts and co-addicts themselves as they work to overcome their compulsive behavior. Positive, hopeful, and practical, Don't Call It Love is a landmark book that helps us better understand all addictions, their causes, and the difficult path to recovery.
Customer Reviews:
Amazingly and painfully insightful.......2007-07-15
I had already read Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes but Don't Call it Love was even more a amazing. It was painful to read trying to understand the sex addicts torment as well as the co-addicts. But on the other hand it was also refreshing to know that there is life after sex addiction and recovery is not only possible but necessary. I would recommend this book to anyone in recovery, it has helped me immensely.
My husband's secret revealed..I needed answers..I found them here!!.......2006-06-06
Easily, I could say that Patrick Carne's books on sexual addiction has saved my marriage and my husband's life and maybe my own as well. My first read was "Out of the Shadows" and it softened my angry heart after hearing my husbands confession of being with around 100 women over the past 5 years of our 17 year marriage and all sexual encounters were UNPROTECTED sex. I found out the hard way. How could all these powerful, crippling emotions that I was feeling be tamed?? How could I ever forgive this scrum of the earth!! READ this book and you can do the impossible!!
It answers my questions without having to continually confront my husband with the aweful thoughts of how he could be such a hypocrite all our married years!! What was he doing? Is he comparing me to his many different women when we had sex? Will he do it again? Will he always lie?? Is he really a good person deep down?? etc. All the questions have been answered and then some and I saw my own behaviors make the situation even worse without my knowing. I was a coaddict and codependent at different times. In only 4 months of my recovery and 18 months of his recovery we are happier than I ever thought possible!! This book takes you step by step as to what you can expect with building a healthy relationship with a recovering sex addict!! It is very detailed and gives advice from recovering addicts! It speaks in easy to understand language. It recognizes problems that can arise and gives you answers as to what to do if they happen to you!!
This was my fifth book on looking for answers to sexual addiction..Out of the Shadows was first, Secret Wars..second..Love, Sex and Infidelity, His Needs/Her Needs, and finally, with MUCH relief to my quest..DON'T CALL IT LOVE!! AFter reading this book I don't feel the need to read anymore on the subject of sexual addiction. I have more hope than I ever thought possible. The communication, Openess and honesty are first and foremost in reestablishing our relationship that was always crippled from the start of our marriage because he thought getting married would fix his problem!! It doesn't! It affects everyone around you and even the children!
If you are a sex addict or spouse, family member, friend, etc. of a sex addict..READ this book!! You will not be disappointed at all!! No book has done such a good job at laying it all out there and still keep it in healthy context for anyone to read! I saw my whole marriage and all the frustration of it take shape and form and how it brought out the worst in each of us..Now it is bringing out the very best in us with the 12 step program and this book!! Patience and understanding is most helpful and if you don't have it now you will get it from this book!! Good Luck to you and God Bless!!
As an Addiction Therapist I recommend this book to all of my clients seeking recovery from addiction to sex.......2006-04-14
Carnes can be readily credited for leading the way in developing a sound understanding of sex addiction and importantly, the treatment of this. By presenting sexually destructive behaviour within the paradigm of "addiction", Carnes has succesfully created a "problem to solution" model which offers a way out of sexually addictive behaviour. In "Don't Call it Love" Carnes offers a plan for living and a route out of this powerfully compelling condition. He manages to present a readable and coherent guide, outlining the multiple dimensions of both sex addiction and recovery from this. In his usual realisitic and compassionate style, this book makes it clear that the process of abstinence and recovery is concerned with helping "Good people get well" rather than helping "Bad people be good". Fundamentally, this book offers a clear message of hope to any person affected by sex addiction that recovery is indeed possible and importantly - enjoyable !!
This is an amazing book about the nature of intimacy.......2006-03-10
Don't be put off by the subheading about sexual addiction. I have recommended this book to everyone I know. It taught me so much about what a healthy intimate relationship should be, how to build one, and how to maintain it. I bought this book trying to understand what I thought was someone else's problem and found it invaluable for my own life. What a find!!! I heartily recommend that everyone read this highly informative book, even if you feel you need to acquire a book cover to read it.
Very Helpful!.......2003-01-19
As an addictions counselor and author, I found Carnes's work to be very insigtful and helpful. He has done a wonderful job highlighting a problem that is not often discussed and certainly misunderstood. I recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about sexual addiction. Please be sure to include this title as part of your recovery.
John D. Moore
Author of Confusing Love with Obsession
Book Description
Everyone can use a daily wake-up call.
Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that -- despite good intentions -- you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be, He's just not that into you.
He's Just Not That Into You -- based on a popular episode of Sex and the City -- educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. This book knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better
Customer Reviews:
Productive Reminders.......2007-09-04
I loved this little book and I think it's very useful as a wake-up call on a daily basis. Intellectually the book's thesis that tryint to read between the lines is futile in a dating context is very simple - however since this acvtivity is emotionally fraught one is likely to selectively ignore such sensible advice. I think this rhyme heps as well!
A man who doesn't call
Or simply finds he can't
Is not a man at all
That I would ever want!
Greatest Book For All Women!! A Must Read!!.......2007-08-31
As a former private investigator, when I purchased this book, I was a bit curious as to what this book would say. When I read it, and saw just how brutally honest and straight forward Greg was in telling women the TRUTH about everything, I was plesantly surprised and appreciative that a MAN would dare to be that bold and that honest about things. I urge any teenager, woman or man to read this book for any pre-dating, divorce or widowed circumstance if they are thinking of entering the dating world. Greg said things that I myself have been telling clients in domestic cases for years!!
wake up girls.......2007-08-23
I think Greg offers very good advice in this book. Girls, ditch those losers! You deserve better and Greg will help you see the truth about those obnoxious, careless, what about me guys out there. Read this if you are having doubts about your man or always end up with guys that are losers. Greg sheds light on behavior and what it means.
your daily wake up call.......2007-07-06
This book was funny in some ways and serious in others. It certainly makes you think about stuff that is for sure. I bought it just to see what it was about and some of the sayings caught my attention. A great book if you have just broken up in a relationship or thinking of breaking up...it will make you think.
Great Book For Singles!!.......2007-06-02
I have really enjoyed reading this book. I read alittle each night especially if I am alittle down at the end of the day or a man has said something that has ticked me off, then I read a few pages and it all makes sense as to why he said what he said! LOL I would recommend this book to every woman that has been through a bad break up or divorce especially DIVORCE!! I love Greg for writing this I could hug him! It is a real pick me up or it is a real wake up call for a woman that could be in the dark as to why men are the way they are or as to why we act like we do with men, it's because He's Just Not That Into You! LOL
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- FOR THE LOVE OF OLD: LIVING WITH CHIPPED, FRAYED, TARNISHED, FADED, TATTERED, WORN , AND WEATHERED THINGS THAT BRING COMFORT...
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For the Love of Old: Living with Chipped, Frayed, Tarnished, Faded, Tattered, Worn and Weathered Things that Bring Comfort, Character and Joy to the Places We Call Home
Mary Randolph Carter
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ASIN: 0847828476
Release Date: 2006-10-24 |
Book Description
This stunning volume focuses on the qualities of the old things in our homes (the patina of an old table, pewter dulled by age, old floorboards that creak) and how to live with and incorporate them into our personal aesthetic. Divided into chapters by the qualities of oldâpeeling, dried, tarnished, faded, chipped, frayed, rusty, and mossyâthis unique book not only pays tribute to furniture, textiles, china, silver and other accessories with these qualities but also shows us how best to preserve, adapt, and arrange them. Lavishly illustrated with beautiful photographs that highlight the warm colors and rich textures of wood and paint, cloth and leather, For the Love of Old also includes ideas and recipes for saving old items from the junk pile, preserving and caring for the old things you have, giving newer things a lived-in feel, and bringing an enduring personality to every home.
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Beautiful book.......2007-09-03
This book is beautiful. It is a coffe table copy. One you want to use for display. I was drawn with interest to someone who sees beauty in such old things. The book is very unique. I'm glad I have a copy.
Great Book!.......2007-02-07
I loved Mary Randolph Carter's book American Family Style so much and this book seemed to me like a part two of that original book. Although this book wasn't filled with pictures of her family it was filled with the same warmth and comfort as the original. Even though it may not be filled with exactly the things I might put in my own home it is something I enjoy reading. You can tell the author truly LOVES these lost, rusty, beautiful things. I truly can appreciate that.
Love It or Hate It - I Loved It.......2007-02-01
Many, indeed virtually all, of the books we see on interior decorating show rooms set with furnishings that are either brand new or antiques that are pristine and beautiful. They are a very, very long way from those long ago college days when glasses came from empty jelly jars and none of the plates or silverware matched.
Ms. Carter's book is a celebration of the old, the frayed, etc. The individual table settings don't have to be all alike. They just need to be interesting, attractive, have a story to tell. I particularly liked her comments regarding silver, probably because I've gotten a lot of it from my mother and grandmother.
Ms. Carter has an artistic eye that sees art where other people see junk. She matches her eye with her photographic skills that enable her to show exactly what she means. It's a book to be celebrated by those of us who like garage sales, thrift shops and making that special find.
FOR THE LOVE OF OLD: LIVING WITH CHIPPED, FRAYED, TARNISHED, FADED, TATTERED, WORN , AND WEATHERED THINGS THAT BRING COMFORT..........2007-01-10
AN AWESOME, INSPIRING, AND COMFORTING BOOK FOR THOSE WHO LOVE THE OLD AND ECLECTIC LIFESTYLE. SIMPLY WRITTEN AND BEAUTIFULLY ILLUSTRATED WITH PHOTOS FIT FOR FRAMING. A GREAT RAINY DAY READ AND SUITABLE FOR THE COFFEE TABLE.
Not her best..........2007-01-09
I love her other books, I was so looking forward to reading this one over a long afternoon. I fell hook, line and sinker for her romance with flea markets and flea market treasures. This one looks like she took the leavings off the cutting room floor from her other books, packaged it nicely and called it good. Except it is not, good that is. Sorry but this stuff just looks like junk that I would not give a second glance to at a yard sale or flea market. And the price is so high!! Mutton done up as lamb.
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- Of Whom the World Was Not Worthy...
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Love Not the World: A Prophetic Call To Holy Living
Watchman Nee
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Of Whom the World Was Not Worthy..........2007-06-01
I don't know what Bro. Nee intended for this work to be called, but whether he or another titled this book "A Prophetic Call to Holy Living..." could not have been more on the mark.
Watchman Nee is one of those figures in Christendom who did not enjoy a great deal of fame and fortune during his time on earth. He was a simple man, broken in health, this world's goods, and spirit, who spent his life in the serivce of the Kingdom of God. He enjoined his disciples to be a disciple of One and only one; Jesus Christ. He inveighed against having a relationship with the "church," as opposed to having a saving relatinship by knowing Him in the power of His resurrection, and in the fellowhship of His sufferings.
Needless to say, Watchman Nee was not popular for his exhortations to the crucified life. Nevertheless, he was not disobedient to the heavenly vision.
This work is a simple, yet profound illustration of how the believer, the true believer "is in the world, but not of the world." Of all of the books I have had the privilage to read on holiness, none has given me more conviction of my need for sanctifying grace as this one has. You cannot read this book and remain the same; you will be shoved off the fence, onto one side or another, if you honestly look at this book. You will either beg the Holy Spirit to do a greater work in your life, or you will find some self-justification for remaining as you are.
Read this book as if you were at the Burning Bush, because you are!
How to be in the world but not of the world.......2006-10-22
This book is based on a series of lessons Watchman Nee gave on the subject of the Christian and the world system from 1938-1941.
Nee points out that it is easy for the Christian to look at such world entities as night clubs as things that are of the world, but he points out that such entities as education, commerce, and science are also part of this same world system. Since we must touch these three things as part of our daily living, unlike the night clubs, then what is a Christian to do? Nee points out that we must walk amongst these things without letting them capture our hearts. Ultimately, when we touch the things of the world, Nee states that the question we must ask ourselves always is: "How is this thing affecting my relationship with the Father?"
Nee states that our deliverance from the world begins, not with our giving up this or that but with our seeing, as with God's eyes, that this is a world under sentence of death. He points out that if you knew a certain bank or school was to soon be closed, you wouldn't go and deposit more money into that bank or, if you were in a teacher in the condemned school, you might go on working in the school but you wouldn't bother with building up a future for yourself there. Thus, we may likewise say of the world that it is under a decree of closure, and not put our hopes there.
"Children of God," Paul calls us, "in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom ye are seen as lights in the world" (Phil. 2:15). Nee points out that God has deliberately placed us in the world to show it up for what it is. We are to expose the world system to the divine light, for all men to see the world's God-defying rebelliousness on the one hand and its hollowness and emptiness on the other.
My favorite chapter is on "Mutual Refreshing". Here Nee quotes John 13:14-17: "Ye also ought to wash one another's feet. For I have given you an example, that ye should also do as I have done to you.... If ye know these things, blessed are ye if ye do them". Nee points out that in the Christian life, to stumble and fall and then to flounder in the dust that is the world is sin which calls for repentance and needs God's forgiveness. However, walking through the world, no matter who we are or how careful we may be, it is inevitable that our feet will collect the dust of the world. Of course if we do not touch the earth at all, we certainly pick up nothing, but to achieve this we should have to be carried around by someone else who collects this same dust. It is at this point that we need to be refreshed by other Christians through fellowship and prayer - to have the dust wiped from our feet.
This book is very good, and will probably require repeated readings to really "get" everything Nee is saying. It is the best book I've found that is dedicated to clarifying what the Christian's attitude and relationship to the world system in which we live should be.
Very Good Book.......2006-05-27
This book was great! For sure, it will make you think. I have read many Watchman Nee books, and what amazes me the most is how he manages to take scripture that I have read a hundred times and bring things out of it that never even occured to me. I have to say, as a Christian, there were a few things I personally did not agree with Nee on that he said. But, that was very, very few and far between. On the whole, an excellent book! If you have never read The Normal Christian life or The Overcoming life, then you must get those by Nee and read them!!
What a liberating and great book!!!.......2006-01-11
I minister to a lot of people in the world, and when I say the world I mean in a system of thinking contrary to God/Jesus. So at times I feel almost the stench of more than the smell of smoke. Yet, I care about people and I love Jesus and want them to know Him.
This book will give you a clear view of the world and what it means to "love not the world". It will also keep you alert to
the world around us.
I found this a great and liberating book when ministering to those who do not know Jesus. I feel like I minister to those in this world with my eyes open to what is going on around me.
Got you a little curious, good get the book! Read it atleast a couple times.
Well titled. .......2005-05-31
This book does a great job of looking at how as Christians we are "in the world". His remedy isn't what first comes to mind but it is so true. This really is a great book. So much is packed into so little a space.
Book Description
Learn biblically-based principles for ministering to people and living a ministry life from a seasoned ministry wife, Mrs. Gordon (Gail) MacDonald. There is something here to fit just about everyoneÂ's ministry world—the excitement, the struggles, the blessings, and the consequences. This work is thoroughly revised and updated from the authorÂ's best-selling 1981 book of the same title, and is now available in paperback. The book is designed for casual reading, but it also includes discussion questions for study group or classroom use.
Gail MacDonald loves the ministry. Over a period of four decades, she has been involved with four congregations and one parachurch organization with her husband, Pastor Gordon MacDonald.
Throughout the book you will take a tour through these years of shared ministry. Like Paul the apostle who gave and received much from the churches, Gordon and Gail look gratefully at the journey they have shared with these distinctive groups of people.
It is Gail's prayer that readers will see their own uniqueness in God's design, never trying to be anyone but themselves—the people God intended them to be. When you are finished reading, she hopes that you have heard one unmistakable message—that a life of ministry in the church is still a high call, a high privilege.
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High Calling, High Privilege.......2007-02-21
"Even in those cheerless time which will come, we can affirm that they are neither the terminus nor the norm of experience. Instead, they are points of growth from which can emerge a clearer vision of how to reflect the splendor of God and the joys of personal relationships. God means for us to finish strong."
This quote is from the introduction to Gail MacDonald's book-High Call, High Privilege: A Pastor's Wife Speaks to Every Woman in a Place of Responsibility. I like this quote because "finishing strong" is something that I think about and pray for often. At the end of Paul's life he writes to Timothy,
"I have fought the good fight,
I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith."
(2 Timothy 4:7)
I remember reading this verse in a Bible class my first year of college and being inspired by Paul's confidence. I talked about it with my professor after class because I was baffled that Paul could say "I have," I asked my professor if that was a little arrogant and assumptive of Paul. At the time I thought most people should say it this way, "I've tried to fight the good fight, I've finished as much of the race as I could, I've done my best to keep the faith." The professor explained to me that through God's power, Paul was able to accomplish all that the Lord had called him to do in this life. God had saved Paul and then had completed the good work He had started in him. He said, "God can do this work in your life too, so that one day you could say these things with confidence."
High Call, High Privilege is a testimonial/autobiography of MacDonald's journey through life in church ministry. Her statement "God means for us to finish strong" is a theme that stood out to me throughout the book. Even when she faced disappointment, testing, pain and brokenness, she viewed them as "points of growth" in her walk with the Lord and was able to find joy in them. Her story was a huge inspiration to me of an example of a supportive wife, loving mother, and gentle and nurturing friend to all around her.
This book is brimming with practical lessons. As I read it I began to put in to practice some of MacDonald's disciplines that have shaped her life and ministry. MacDonald writes in such a personal way-weaving Biblical thought throughout her story-I began to think of her as a mentor to me. Some of things the Lord taught her were so encouraging-
Tend The Fire Within
In the first chapter MacDonald presents this concept of "time at the fire." She tells a story that as a new Christian, she heard an old missionary speak and he said, "Untended fires soon die and become just a pile of ashes." He said that the fire burns in the heart of the one who follows Christ and this flame cannot go unmanaged or it will dwindle into ashes.
MacDonald writes:
"My life was altered by that simple statement...It all begins with the fire within and your heart attitude. Tending the fire within is another way of talking about being open to the presence of Christ. It is what makes me long for his likeness, offers direction and stability, established proper motives and responses. Here is is that the real issues of the Christian faith are thought out and pressed into action." (p. 2)
I really liked this analogy of my relationship with Christ as a fire. John gives us an account of Christ with His disciples that made this concept poignant for me. In John 21 Christ is risen and the disciples see Him and make their way to shore. When they get there He is sitting with a fire and breakfast. This idea of us meeting Jesus at the "fire" to eat and learn is profound. Spending time in prayer with the Lord, studying His Word is vital and this is where life starts. Until this is understood and actualized all we are doing is in vain.
MacDonald closes her thoughts on this concept by writing:
"It takes time to come to the fire, it takes effort to keep the fire burning, it takes a willingness to become quiet enough to hear what God might be saying and it takes courage to snuff out the competing sounds and demands that attempt to shorten or neutralize the effect of the fire time.
But here is the great choice that must be made virtually everyday. Do I give priority attention to tending the fire within, or do I surrender to the alternatives of busyness, hurry, people pleasing, or the seemingly urgent that slowly starves my spirit and my resolve to be the woman God wants me to be? If that fire burns brightly, I share the experience of the disciples; of it dwindles unattended, I am gradually surrounded by a chill marking the onset of weakness and confusion." (p. 5)
Be Hospitable
Romans 12:13 commands believers to "practice hospitality." Hospitality is a spiritual gift (1 Peter 4:9) and one I have seen the Lord develop in my own life. I really gleaned from MacDonald's thoughts on this-
"We decided to use our home as a tool...Gordon and I wanted to know people better and to serve them. We were hoping that people would be drawn to one another as a result of being in our home. Those nights added a warmth and an acceptance in many people's hears that would not have happened had we not developed such close contact."
What a beautiful lesson. This so resounded with me, that I immediately talked with my husband about making our home open to people so that we can know and serve them. I desire those same things MacDonald shares for my home. Too often we feel disconnected and distant from people in our church bodies, even friends, because we allow ourselves to become too busy and closed to be bothered with having to straighten up the house and fix a nice meal. I hope this is something the Lord will continue to work out in our lives as we make ourselves more open to people by being hospitable to them!
What is your sermon?
If you are a wife of a husband who teaches, you know the rigors that a pastor puts into his sermon. Each week I try to devote myself to helping Bobby prepare his sermon. That doesn't mean I'm sitting with him going over Greek verbs and Bible commentaries. But I try to do what it takes to help him prepare a sermon that will be a tool in God's hand to work in the lives of our students. MacDonald writes about supporting her husband in this way and shares about an insight her husband had about her asking,
"What is Gail's sermon? It's the home she prepares for the children and me. Gail preached her sermon when she cooked a meal...kept the house neat, and planted flowers in the front yard."
I really related to this concept of a "home" sermon. MacDonald writes about how her husband wanted to hear and enjoy the "sermons" in her life. This point was particularly motivating for me because I asked myself, "Do I give myself rigorously and carefully to what God has called me to do?" God has called my husband to preach sermons. He has called me to do something for Him. Am I working diligently to deliver those "sermons" in my life?
I have benefited from numerous other lessons from this book. MacDonald writes about marriage, children, relating better with people, being a godly friend. If you read this book, do so with discernment, as you should respond to everything. Some of her conclusions I did not share-she writes a lot about the temperaments. In chapter ten she reveals a dark time in her life when she struggled through the pain of her husband having committed adultery. For a couple of weeks I couldn't finish reading because I had come to respect this couple so much and then was bulldozed by the grueling reality that this pastor and husband had not kept his calling. I was very disappointed, not by the fact of sin, but that the two of them kept this secret for a time while he still held the position he was no longer qualified to hold. Later they even returned to the position of pastor, so the book's end was not as high as it started.
I would recommend this to any woman who's life is devoted to ministry, not just a pastor's wife. I was sharpened and encouraged by MacDonald's journey and I hope that someday I will be able to look back over so many years and see God's hand at work in my life and our ministry.
A Mentor in a Book.......2005-03-04
This book was very encouraging to me because I felt that the author was my own mentor, as I am preparing to be a pastor's wife. She shared so many personal life expereinces, which I can tell will be relevant in my own life. I am thankful for her incredible encouragement to women and the transparency of her spiritual walk. This book will encourage you too!!
Honest View of Ministry Life.......2003-04-10
Even for someone not in full-time ministry this book really shows an example of what one could face when you committ your life to God's work. I would recommend it anyone either in ministry or considering it. And though it's for women, any man, either married or engaged to a woman who will be involved in ministry would find it useful to see what she will be dealing with.
A Gem.......1999-12-06
This book is thought provoking, encouraging, and convicting. I was changed in the reading of it. Buy it, read it, again and again.
Book Description
This workshop sets a powerful intention of opening up your life to the love you long for in your heart. Manifesting Love has helped thousands to bring in their soulmates.
• Manifest your soulmate
• Break down barriers you have to accepting love in your life
• Release your fears of being close, of being hurt
• Call forth love with this powerful process
• Wisdom, tools and a guided meditation that is highly effective
• Bonus meditation for daily use
Running time: 61:19
Customer Reviews:
Manifesting Love: Call Forth Your Soulmate.......2006-03-14
"Manifesting Love: Call Forth Your Soulmate" helped me to manifest MY soulmate by teaching me to ask for EVERYTHING I want in the man of my dreams. The more specific I was, the more clearly I could see things becoming real. Kathryn Alice taught me that no detail is too small. Not only does my man have a compassionate heart, a great sense of humor, and is deeply spiritual, (the things I've always prayed for), he is also a fellow artist, has great hands, nice teeth, good credit, a solid work ethic, AND he's tall, athletic, handsome, sexy and PASSIONate about everything he does! THOSE were the details I was leaving out thinking I was being too shallow. Until I read Kathryn's words of loving encouragement and utilized her advice, I kept winding up with "Mr. Almost Right". Now I have truly manifested the love that I want down to the last detail. My man and I are very happilly together and we have a beautiful baby girl. This is a great book and it really works. Just remember, NO detail is too small!
A Miracle CD...Guiding You to LOVE.......2004-12-30
I started listening to the Manifesting Love CD on October 29th
of this year. While I haven't yet manifested my soulmate, I've noticed a remarkable change in my outlook and my expectations in finding "the one". Kathryn's words and insights about love and
"knowing" there is a "lid for every pot" has convinced me that IT
WILL HAPPEN FOR ME ANYDAY NOW!!!!! Her CD has helped to dispel many of the myths and doubts that have plagued many of my everyday thoughts as to why love previously eluded me. NO MORE!!
Believe me...I now have this peace and serentity and knowing
that he and I will meet/connect and love ASAP! It's a magical CD..thanks Kathryn.. you are a true miracle worker.. Luv Ya!
PS: I'LL LET YOU ALL KNOW AS SOON AS IT HAPPENS...Betty
It Really Works!.......2004-12-09
Kathryn Alice walks the walk. She changes lives with her clear, intelligent message of love, inspiration and joy. You will be provided with practical and imaginative tools to date with fun and ease, until you meet your perfect match. I did!
A lid for every pot.......2004-12-02
I took Kathryn's workshop awhile ago and as I meet people who are more closely whom I'm looking for, I am constantly reinspired by her message that the RIGHT person is out there. It's all very encouraging and inspiring to move forth secure in that knowledge. In fact, I might have JUST met her!
Love is who you are.......2004-12-01
Kathryn Alice is a unique presence in the crowded field of finding a love relationship. Kathryn does not dwell on the mechanics but on the essence of finding a mate and living from that beingness creates an energy field around us to bring it forth. The great value is in developing that inner knowing and acceptance that many long time singles do not have.
Highly recommended for those who are ready to go beyond techniques.
Book Description
Relational Holiness offers insight and evidence for understanding the theology of holiness by focusing on love - the core of God’s nature and character - and describes how God invites us to share in a life of divine love. Thomas Oord and Michael Lodahl present this new paradigm for sanctification in a relevant and understandable style that is engaging and insightful, especially for the post-modern generation. ’...Communicating holiness in relational categories and making holiness understandable today are the two passions that inspire these imaginative theologians. With insightful originality they propose that love is the core notion of holiness. Every believer’s life can be enriched with this candid contemporary dialog about the holy life.’ -Dr. Jerry Porter General Superintendent for the Church of the Nazarene ’This study calls us to center our understanding and practice of Christian holiness where [John] Wesley did - in the love of God and neighbor. It also highlights Wesley’s wisdom about the vital role of the spiritual practices in nurturing and shaping this love. It is a welcome contribution to recent efforts to appreciate and revitalize the tradition in which we stand.’ -Randy L. Maddox Professor at Seattle Pacific University
Customer Reviews:
loving like god.......2007-06-20
an interesting exploration of what it means to incorporate the nazarene doctrines of holiness into one's daily life. more than an obsolete abstraction or a rigid following of rules, the easiest way to understand holiness is to understand that god's primary purpose is to love...
Great Book Clearly Explaining Holiness.......2007-05-08
This is absolutely the best book explaining Holiness that I have ever read. It fit my needs to a tee and I have given several copies to interested friends.
Of Limited Appeal For A Limited Audience.......2007-03-18
As the doctrine of Christian Holiness moves well into the background of popular western culture, a few die-hards still wonder what it all means (or meant). Oord and Lodahl take Mildred Wynkoop's view of holiness and develop it for the evangelical mind. They maintain that holiness is a God-centered relationship based on Divine Love. It is working for well-being in each and every one of life's situations. In advocating this approach, they avoid the extremes of Richard Taylor's insistence on holiness as a spiritual crisis that drives the believer into radical self-abandonment and total surrender to the cleansing power of the Holy Spirit. While Taylor may have been a bit of a radical, no one who ever knew him ever doubted his passion. For their part, Oord and Lodahl make holiness seem attainable and, one may say, even reasonable(?). A worthwhile read.
Follow-up to Wynkoop, maybe?.......2007-01-11
This book helps take Wynkoop's theology of love into the real world. Great book.
Book Description
The author of the hit Redemption Song returns with a sparkling new novel about looking for love in all the wrong places—and with all the wrong people.
Full of spirit and wisdom, the novels of Bertice Berry bring to life a rich tapestry of human experience. Now she turns her eye to matters of the heart, with an endearing main character who can’t seem to keep bad men out of her life.
Bernita Brown is a quick-thinking, tireless social worker who is good at practically everything—except love. Her first marriage ends in divorce, a painful experience Bernita refuses to think about. Instead, she dives into a series of sad relationships and overwhelming commitments to community and church. But not even church can keep her from being courted by dogs; Bernita’s married pastor begins making passes at her, then blames her for his backsliding. Along the way, the ghost of Bernita’s aunt Babe weighs in with plenty of advice (after all, Aunt Babe says, “You don’t need to be alive to tell folks how to live”). When a marvelous man finally enters Bernita’s life, only time can tell whether she will be able to trust him.
Written with Berry’s signature warmth and reliance on African-American ancestors who deliver homespun healing, When Love Calls, You Better Answer addresses a host of powerful topics, from abusive relationships to corrupt church leaders. Ultimately, Bernita’s story will inspire readers to find the love they need, especially the love that can only come from within.
Customer Reviews:
The referral .......2007-06-08
My best friend, who lives in Virginia, called me as soon as she read this novel. She insisting that I find a copy of it and read it, as it reminded her of me. I found it on Amazon and in no time, it was delivered. Granted...it was from a library and not brand new, but I was pleased nonetheless.
Turning Pages Book Club members agree that Ms. Berry has done another great job!.......2007-03-03
This storyline is so well written that it will captivate the reader from the very first word until the the very last sentence.
The story begins with Benita Brown, a social worker who puts every one's problems before her own, mainly because she has yet to discover her true self. Instead she lets other people define who she is or should be for their own benefit and not hers. Her first husband (Tyrone), who is in denial regarding his true sexual orientation. Then there was(Jimmymack) whose self esteem was so low he had to put Benita down to make himself feel good, (ReMember)the great white savior of Enlightenment, who wanted to take her back to her roots when he, himself was confused about his own identity. Benita went throughout the book falling into the clutches of people who did not have her best interests at heart. She ultimately runs into the Rev. Van and his wife Trisha who used the Lord to manipulate peoples lives for their own selfish prosperity and they hurt her to the point that she finally realizes that other people can not help you find you!
Her ghostly Aunt Babe who was the story teller; after she dies, she is suppose to be watching over her niece, Benita from heaven while she falls into all of these pitfalls. If she was watching over her niece Benita, she did not do a very good job, both while she was alive or deceased until the very end when she pushed fate into her nieces life. I think guilt from the negativity she helped cause in Benita life initially while growing up, caused her to finally help her niece through acts of fate to turn her life around so she could enjoy the positive aspects of life.
The person in the story who was a positive strong women, a truthful, and faithful friend was MaBisha, who stood by Benita through all of her ups and downs and was always there to be truthful, but a shoulder for her when she needed it. MaBisha is the most positive character in the story, even though she had been through some struggles in her own life, she kept her faith strong and her life was something positive for Benita to draw from to finally come to the realization that there is love for everyone, however "when love calls, you better answer" or you might just miss it!
When Love Calls, You Better Answer.......2006-08-30
This book is very thought provoking. I was intrigued with suggestion that the spirits our ancestors are partly responsible for putting us on the right path and are part of our decision making. Overall, it was an enjoyable read.
a no no.......2006-07-24
great story line, but the delivery was really bad, halfway in i gave up. a big dissapointment
Loveable.......2006-06-29
This book or shall I say novel should be on top of shelves in bookstores.It is very knowledeable,wise words, expressionist,openness,inspirational,and must read seasonal novel.Dr. Berry has done an entertainable and readable job.There are so many sayings I just love esp, "The Bible says to get angry but sin not" .I love the letter and painting part of expresionist.It is a recommendable novel to read.I guess I should know something about that love since,I/we been in love with man(each other) in marriage for 19 long years.smile!!!
Book Description
A celebration of our own potential for limitless growth. It will help many to awaken. DSDr. Wayne W. Dyer
Customer Reviews:
Why do we keep doing what we've always done?.......2005-09-16
If you are "sick and tired of being sick and tired" this book offers simplified explanations of the psychological issues that can hinder you. It will help you take a look behind your wall of excuses to find the real reason why you can't move ahead in life, and then learn what to do to push through. Dr. Eric Allenbaugh's WAKE UP CALLS, is a collection of resources which you can use to make the changes you need to make in yourself and in your most important relationships.
Time to move on...away from pop psychology..........2005-06-05
Shelf Help - another collection of half-baked rehash of basic fundamental ideas dished up in yet another glossy catch-phrase laden vehicle for jump-starting a lucrative consulting career.
Who was it that said "Knowing ones self is the hard part, but consulting for others is easy" (and profitable).
Get a grip...read a classic, or read to your kids, or read any book at random, and you might learn something more about life or yourself than this book that uses a simple semantic game to make you think you are very flawed and Mr. Allen-Barney is your only savior.
Well written though....
Excellent Beginner's Guide to Getting Unstuck!.......2002-11-22
This book was recommended to me in 1995, by a friend who knew that I was struggling with a difficult marriage and a business that was going nowhere. "Read this!" he said, "it will change your life." So, having little to lose, I bought the book and read it.
"Wake-up Calls" perhaps didn't change my LIFE, but it certainly gave me some things to think about.
The fundamental idea in this book is that many of us fall into a pattern of "sleepwalking" through our lives, but life also presents us with a large number of so-called "wake-up calls." These can range from major-- divorce, bankruptcy, getting fired-- to relatively minor-- a promotion, an invitation to an important social event. Each wake-up call generally results in us facing a "choice point," and from each choice point, we have the chance to learn and grow.
The book is fairly simple and very easy to read, and guides the reader through a step-by-step process of first teaching us to recognize where we may have choice points; then goes on to teach us how to overcome old habits, change direction-- and go on to "stay awake" instead of sleepwalking through life.
Almost every chapter is laid out with bullet-point lists, simple exercises to use with your OWN situation; as well as a closing list of "Awareness Checks"-- a list of questions to make readers think about how to apply the current chapter to their own life. The writing is "light" and Allenbaugh uses personal anecdotes to help readers relate "ideas" to "reality."
Overall Rating: Highly Recommended (9 bookmarks out of a possible 10) BUT this book is probably best suited to those who are just BEGINNING a journey of self-discovery. It provides some straightforward principles for "getting on with life." Although I have certainly referred back to "Wake-up Calls" from time to time, it is a somewhat basic motivational book, and probably too simplistic for someone who has already spent some time with other self-exploration.
Nice, soft, easy to read, self based relationship skills.......2000-11-02
A nice, soft book, and really worth reading for some very powerful relationship insights and skills. Some of the book's themes and ideas i found nice on paper, but useless (for me) in practice.
"What can i do right now that will make a positive difference?". Sounds nice. Tried it. It just does not seem to do anything for me. (If you use this skill successfully and profitibly, please write me and let me know how. Maybe i just don't get it.)
Other ideas in this book- especially relating to relationship skills- are incredibly powerful, and very well, very clearly, very simply described. I find myself using, relating to, and sharing the ideas and metaphores, years after reading the book.
Ideas like "Facade-to-Facade" communication vs. heart to heart communication; "Is it safe for me to be me when I am with you?"; the story of the farmer and his horse. These wonderful gems expressed so gently but so clearly that they have stayed with me, and enriched my relationships for years.
For these gems, this relatively short book, is well worth the price, and the time to read it. I promise.
Time to Move On!.......2000-09-21
This book helped me move on!. There comes a time in life when you take a look around and say "do I stay or do I go". Wake-Up Calls help me see that the moving on wasn't as hard has I had expected it to be. A step by step guide to opening your eyes to what is going on around you is what this was for me. I was a stay at home mother, and very good at it, with great potential to be even more. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your Wake-Up Call.
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