Book Description
For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship –– written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity.
When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend.
There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self–respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow.
After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership.
Customer Reviews:
After The Affair.......2007-09-26
My son-in-law absolutely loved the book. Hasn't stopped talking about how it helped him deal with various issues.
From the HURT party.......2007-09-06
This book was very painful to read as the "hurt" party. It makes you revisit very painful experiences and feelings, which I had dealt with already. The unfaithful party would rate it 5.
Saved my sanity and hopefully my marriage.......2007-07-20
I felt so lost and out of control, I didn't know where to turn - so immediately searched for a book on the subject of infidelity. I was at first hesitant after reading a review claiming the author places blame for the affair on the betrayed spouse -BUT - After reading this book as a betrayed spouse, I believe this is NOT the case.
What she DOES do is address both the wayward spouse and the betrayed spouse equally when taking an honest and often hard look at the relationship before the Affair took place - where there was breakdown in the marriage that may have lead up to the affair. She does clearly state that the wayward spouse IS responsible for their actions and the affair - after all, no one can FORCE someone to CHEAT.
But thankfully, this books delves far beyond finger pointing, and looks for a way to bring partners back toward one another, by dealing with issues in the marriage rather than sweeping them under the carpet. It does this in a supportive, non-judgmental way, that both sides can feel comfortable pursuing. And she gives us simple yet important exercises to do, and action plans to follow, to help us get there. It's a book to be devoured in one sitting, and then read and reread countless times as needed through the different stages of grieving and healing. This book is a true marriage saver - at least, it is for us, and I hope it can be for you, too.
Let me put it as simply as I can:
I (Betrayed Wife) couldn't put this book down, I was so thirsty for understanding - and cried tears of relief when I felt validated in both my feelings and reactions surrounding the discovery of the infidelity.
My husband (Wayward Husband) skimmed through the book with great interest, then went straight to the closest bookstore and bought his own copy. We both now are in our second readings, all the while making lots of notes in the margins, and doing the simple exercises that pop up from time to time. It has helped us to each understand what the other spouse is going through and may be thinking, and has helped us find a way to relate to one another productively.
We have come a long way in two short weeks, and although I know we still have a long way to go, I don't think we would have made it this far (and remained best friends, as we are) without the help in this book.
In fact, the end chapters on Forgiveness are so good, we've also purchased 'How Can I Forgive You' by the same author, to delve even deeper into the moving forward stage of healing and forgiving.
I would recommend these books immediately to any woman I love - and to any couple or man I care deeply about, too - if they found themselves facing infidelity.
For anyone out there hurting this much right now, I feel your pain, confusion and shock - and want you to know you aren't alone. Get this book and you'll see what I mean - you won't be sorry you did.
Excellent Resource for Surviving and Growing after Infidelity.......2007-05-23
After the Affair is a comprehensive and insightful manual that has provided extraordinary help in my life and Im sure will help millions. It helped me to get through the crisis and shock after finding out that my partner was having an affair. It explained the "normal" feelings and helped me to gain insight into what i was going through. After an affair there are of course choices you have. You can stay with your partner and make a committment to working on the relationship or you can move on to the new adventure that awaits you. This time in your life can be truly transformative. This book offers practical information on rebuilding trust if you choose that path. Personally I got a lot out of the book but I chose to move on with my life. The answer lies within your heart. You just need to listen closely. Highly recommended reading for anyone dealing with this challenging situation.
Not my favorite.......2007-05-13
I was not impressed by the advice in this book.I think no two affairs are the same, neither are all waywards or all betrayed spouses.Her approach seemed to be very one size fits all.Maybe it will help some people but it doesn't help all.The old adage of bad marriage=affair needs to be looked at again.Sometimes there are seriously messed up people that have affairs and fixing the 'broken marriage' will NOT fix them.
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As a follow-up to his bestselling book Life Strategies, Oprah acolyte Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D., moves from aiding the aimless individual to coaching the disconnected couple. McGraw has distilled his more than two decades of counseling experience into a seven-step strategy he calls "Relationship Rescue."
"I'm prepared to kick a hole in the wall of the pain-ridden, unhappy maze you've gotten yourself into, and provide you clear access to action-oriented answers and instructions on what you must do to have what you want," says Dr. Phil. His aim is to expose and eliminate the saboteurs that cause senseless damage to already-fragile marriages, and, like an emotional root canal, to replace them with values he says provide positive results. If you follow Dr. Phil's strategy, he will lead you on a precise journey to uncover your heart and then share it with your partner as part of taking the "risk of intimacy."
Dr. Phil leads you to "reconnect with your core" in the first five steps of his seven-step strategy. By no means a quick fix, there are in-depth and rigorous questionnaires, surveys, tests, and profiles that require a "brutally candid" mindset, with such fill-in-the-blanks as "List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner." With this internal work accomplished, you'll then move on to reconnecting with your partner during a two-week, half-hour-a-day short course. As a "dyad," you and your loved one take turns giving monologues on topics such as "The most positive thing I took away from my mother and father's relationship was..."
Once the "reconnection" has been established, Dr. Phil says the work shifts to a management role, as relationships are always a work in progress. Dr. Phil humorously refers to his own marriage throughout the book, sharing his mishaps and victories in learning to accept and enjoy what he sees as fundamental but complementary differences between men and women. --John Youngs
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As a follow-up to his bestselling book Life Strategies, Oprah acolyte Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D., moves from aiding the aimless individual to coaching the disconnected couple. McGraw has distilled his more than two decades of counseling experience into a seven-step strategy he calls "Relationship Rescue.""I'm prepared to kick a hole in the wall of the pain-ridden, unhappy maze you've gotten yourself into, and provide you clear access to action-oriented answers and instructions on what you must do to have what you want," says Dr. Phil. His aim is to expose and eliminate the saboteurs that cause senseless damage to already-fragile marriages, and, like an emotional root canal, to replace them with values he says provide positive results. If you follow Dr. Phil's strategy, he will lead you on a precise journey to uncover your heart and then share it with your partner as part of taking the "risk of intimacy."Dr. Phil leads you to "reconnect with your core" in the first five steps of his seven-step strategy. By no means a quick fix, there are in-depth and rigorous questionnaires, surveys, tests, and profiles that require a "brutally candid" mindset, with such fill-in-the-blanks as "List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner." With this internal work accomplished, you'll then move on to reconnecting with your partner during a two-week, half-hour-a-day short course. As a "dyad," you and your loved one take turns giving monologues on topics such as "The most positive thing I took away from my mother and father's relationship was..."Once the "reconnection" has been established, Dr. Phil says the work shifts to a management role, as relationships are always a work in progress. Dr. Phil humorously refers to his own marriage throughout the book, sharing his mishaps and victories in learning to accept and enjoy what he sees as fundamental but complementary differences between men and women. --John Youngs
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Dr. Phil McGraw, whose first book, Life Strategies, was a number one New York Times national bestseller, now turns his expertise to the primary area of concern troubling most people: their relationships. In his tell-it-like-it-is style that already has had an impact on millions of viewers of The Oprah Winfrey Show, Dr. Phil blows the whistle on the rhetoric of traditional "couples therapy." Instead he tells you at the very beginning that no matter what state your relationship is in, not only are you responsible for it, you are responsible for rescuing it. McGraw explodes the ten most popular myths about good relationships and provides a series of fascinating exercises that allow for a step-by-step process for you to reconnect with your partner. This is a transformative book that not only will put you back on track with your partner, but you'll know that you are back on track with yourself.
Customer Reviews:
Must have companion to the book!.......2007-10-14
This is a must have to go along with the Relationship Rescue workbook by Dr.Phil. You can't go wrong with this set of books to help any struggling couple to renew their relationship and bring them closer, and so they understand one another. It gives you skills to learn how to talk to each other with less defensive mannerisms and reactions, how to control the yelling that inevitably happens (with me anyway!) and the name calling issue! It teaches you how to treat one another with love and respect and to realize the other isn't your enemy, who you need to have your guard up with...they are the one you love and want to be loved by. You can't go wrong with this...it takes you through some difficult emotional exercises but it makes you a better peerson with a better ability to handle difficult situations that occur in every relationship!
Don't like Dr. Phil?.......2007-10-06
I was wary of the cult of Dr. Phil, but this guy is famous for a reason. He doesn't mess around with cheesy, flowery language and his methods really work. Read the whole book and do the work and you will end up a happier person.
Foundation Work.......2007-09-10
Relationship Rescue is targetted for those people who have relationships in serious trouble. However, it is also useful for those people who feel that there relationship is stagnating or going through a significant transition period, such as having children, children leaving home or one partner retiring.
The methods are well-established for handling most problems between any two people. You start with yourself. What needs cleaning up in your life? Because, truly, you are the only person that you can control, and even that can be a problem!
The methods given to reconnect with a partner are clear and powerful. If both parties can give the relationship a fighting chance, these steps might be what you need to reconnect, rediscover and fall in love all over again.
On the other hand, the book might be too overwhelming for some people who are in a real crisis. In that case, it could be a companion guide as the couple (or even just one of the couple) works with a helping professional such as a clergy memeber, coach or therapist.
Insightful and amazing.......2007-08-11
Phil McGraw never ceases to amaze me. Marriage therapy in-person would cost thousands to have this sort of information given out on a silver platter. The only thing missing is the obvious direct and personal feedback, but isn't that worth $20? vs. $100 per hour? This is a no-nonsense book or CD that will help you grow and deal with life even better than you ever have. If one takes the time to self-reflect and realize how much control we actually do have in our lives to allow conflict or not; it's actually all very simple. I do not know of a more gifted doctor at reading between the lines and caring about families and life's situations than Dr. Phil. To generate the quality of TV and also produce such excellent resources to us all is truly a blessing. He deserves every bit of his success and to enjoy his practice. Highly recommend this if you are willing to open your mind yourself and not expect someone else to solve your own problems, rather appreciate that someone helps give "you" the gift of insight and clarity to solve your own. The relationship will only improve and survive if "both" partners end up adjusting things anyway, but you can still triumph yourself no matter if the rescue is possible or not.
Growing Together.......2007-05-09
Keep your relationship alive and well with the advice in this book. You'll learn how to nurture each other and your relationship.
Book Description
It’s a simple and pleasant experience that millions of women struggle with on a regular basis: having an orgasm. After years of frustrating, orgasmless sex, Rachel Swift chose to confront the problem. She devised a remarkable plan to teach herself to have an orgasm—as often as she wanted. How to Have an Orgasm ... As Often as You Want is her bestselling courageous, witty, and controversial guide that has successfully helped women throughout the world better understand how orgasms work and how to have more enjoyable, fulfilling sexual experiences—with or without the full cooperation of their partners. In clear, honest language focused on realities, not ideals, Swift covers all of the emotional and physical aspects involved in mastering the female orgasm, and offers straightforward steps for achieving it. This is essential reading for every woman who’s ever had trouble reaching orgasm and wants to find out how to transform her sex life forever.
Customer Reviews:
Informative.......2007-05-31
In this book is proof that almost every woman is in the same predicament. It is entertaining to read as well.
Good for some audiences.......2007-05-06
This is a well written book. It is, however, for a specific audience. The overall theme of the book is ways to relax and get in touch with your body. There are ways to do that, that one might not have thought. It is very basic. I'd already done 99.5 % of the stuff in there, and it wasn't working, so although the book is good, it did not work for me. This book is based on very traditional sex, very traditional sex roles, and more towards the romantic, and "making love" instead of purely physical f***ing. This book would be good for women who see alot of sex topics as taboo, and are not comfortable with their bodies, or expressing what they want out of sex.
Just what I was looking for........2004-01-23
This book was just what I was looking for. I didn't want some preachy book about how women have been opressed for so long. I didn't want someone to talk to me in a condescending way, or make assumptions about me or my partners. I wanted something concrete-a program or steps that I could follow. And this is exactly what I found! The author offers a step-by-step program, which guides you to orgasm by taking "baby steps" to get there. The program has helped my relationship immensly, and I know it will be a very rewarding journey all the way through to the last steps!
good book.......2001-12-19
It seems that most of the sexual guides out there are geared to giving the man pleasure. In my experience that has never been a problem. The guides that are geared toward woman are usually filled with stories about muti orgasmic woman sharing their adventures. If you are a woman who really wants some clear cut advice that really works given in a friendly chatty kind of format this book is for you. It is written by a woman who had the frustation of regular unsatisfying sex herself and tells how she learned to overcome this. It was not written by some clinical doctor. The program teaches you how to be in control of your own orgasm in bed not be dependent on the abilities of your partner to have one. It's empowering. I definately recommend this book.
the most subtle and positive feminist approach ..........1999-12-12
Of all how-to-do sex books for women, this one is the best because it focuses on the intimate relationship of women to their own sexuality. More than just giving techniques, Rachel Swift leads the reader to a very natural change in the everyday behavior, focusing on how to gain control in sexual (but it extends to more ...) situations by learning to develop the ability to satisfy oneself and to get familiar with one's own fantasies.
Average customer rating:
- Great info and a great relief.
- Offers Important Insights - Essential reading for victims
- Great resource.
- Lots of Insight Given
- Oh my Goodness---
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Loving the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner
Nina W. Brown
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Book Description
With 5 million Americans suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and another 10 million with the less severe syndrome Destructive Narcissistic Pattern, Loving the Self-Absorbed is a timely book. Author Nina Brown gives readers specific steps for limiting the effect of a partner's narcissistic behavior and getting what they need out of the relationship. She explains the five types of "destructive narcissism" and how to recognize their effects on a relationship. Realistic strategies show how to set mutually agreeable behaviors. Because narcissists lack natural empathy, Brown teaches readers how to change their own "fantasy" expectations, create boundaries, learn new "attending behaviors," listen and respond in a self-caring way, and learn when to avoid and ignore especially bad behavior.
Customer Reviews:
Great info and a great relief........2007-10-05
Find it very helpful. If you want to stay with this partner, it provides a great perspective.
Offers Important Insights - Essential reading for victims.......2007-07-02
First off - I am grateful to this book for concisely identifying what it is I am dealing with. Regardless of the critics who say "why would you want to stay?" - this book has tremendous value in helping one to identify the various manifestations of narcissism.
This is an important premise of this book - that narcissism is not an all or nothing thing. She posits that - short of the full-blown NPD - there are more subtle shades of "destructive" narcissistic traits. And within these subtle traits are various sub-types. These insights have been very significant for me in that my wife is not a full-blown NPD and most of the reading I have found seems to only deal with the extreme - DSM-defined - personality disorder.
She provides checklists that are very useful in identifying subtle nuanced behaviours. Things I had felt vaguely uneasy about for a long time came into clear focus. She also provided checklists to help identify my 'collaborative' behaviours. This does not, however, have the effect of blaming the victim. Rather it provides some clarity on the previous 'crazy-making' behaviour and my part in that dynamic (for example, as a conciliator and one who tries to anticipate the needs of others - I play right into the hands of my wife's narcissistic tendency's).
The author outlines the various sub-types of destructive narcissists and by understanding my wife's specific 'hungry' narcissistic traits - I now have far better insight and possibly some improved coping skills in dealing. It was affirming to me that some of the 'counterintuitive' coping skills I had already developed (purely as defense-mechanisms) were in fact the kinds of things that were recommended.
Whatever one's ultimate choice is (ie to stay or go) this book will provide invaluable guidance for how to cope with the process and with your partner - now and in the future.
Great resource........2007-04-02
I am impressed with this book, which covers the topic of narcissim without assuming that the victim can just walk away from the relationship. This offers some hope to those who for whatever reason don't have the luxury of ending it, and rather must find ways to cope.
Lots of Insight Given.......2006-11-06
I bought this book when I was struggling with a very difficult and painful relationship. This book helped me see the behaviors my partner was manifesting were very destructive, had nothing to do with me, and were unchangeable by anyone other than my partner -- who was unwilling to look at himself and his behavior. I had spent several painful months deciding what to do. This book helped me end the relationship and move on with my life. It is easily understood and contains checklists and exercises to help the reader understand the problems the self-absorbed bring to a relationship.
Oh my Goodness---.......2006-08-13
This is written clearly for the layperson who may find themselves involved with a "self-centered" person.
This book does not focus on that person, but on the partner and what within the partner-- attracts and is used by the narcissist. Gives strategies the partner can use to stay emotionally healthy.
As I read this I thought..."Oh my goodness"
Book Description
Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and and bestselling author of
You Just Don't Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In
I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages — unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom.
This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.
Customer Reviews:
You Need to read this Book!.......2007-09-13
Everyone with a family should read this book. It has excellent examples and you will recognize the conversations and situations because you have heard or participated in very similar communication fiascoes.
Extremely informative.......2006-06-27
I have used the information in this book to enhance my communication and relationship skills with my family and others I work with. I believe the book is worth the time reading!
I only Say This because i Love you.......2006-03-19
This makes a mother stop and isten to herself when she is talking to her adult daughter. Why does the daughter not like to visit her? Well, in this book may be the answer, the way the mother talks to her grown daughter. The book should go both ways in helping the daughter learn how to talk to her mother, who is wanting a close relationship to her grown daughter now. This is a very good book, one that can help people grow in their communications with each other.
Interesting.......2006-03-16
I found this book to be helpful in understanding some of the language that goes on between my family, to know we are not the only ones out there with problems in relating to each other.
really really really really good. really........2003-10-27
I cannot express how much this book has helped me understand what's going on in my family. A lot of arguments in my family center around who said what, how they said it, and why they said it. And Tannen provides almost all of the tools necessary for us to even think about reconciling.
This really is an enlightening book. What it does do, is explain what goes on in a particular aspect of any family - she explains how family arguments and conversations work, why some things are said but other left unsaid, and provides some suggestions and advice for going back and fixing some of those misunderstandings. She provides a really comprehensive overview of whole family setups, organizations, and tons of possible situations.
She doesn't say "here's how to fix your problems - they shall all be solved". She can't - she's not your own psychologist. But there is so much information to work with, that for a majority of families this will definitely provide a really good and solid basis for reconciling, and even allowing family members to start talking to each other civily again.
Tannen has done tons of research, and provides many examples from all types of families throughout the whole book - grandparents, partners, families with children, families without children, cross-culture families, etc.. I do have to completely agree with another reader that the examples Tannen gives could have been plucked straight from my life. I found one line in particular that could actually explain away years of misunderstanding between two whole branches of my family, myself included. It's also a very fast read - I read it through in just a few days, and I'm a slow reader.
If anyone in your family is even remotely having difficulties talking to others in your family, you should buy this book. I can't tell you how much it's helped me already. Had to buy two more copies of the book for other family members to "borrow".
Book Description
Ten proven principles for choosing the right marriage partner, and seven danger signs to
look for while dating.
Customer Reviews:
A Good Grounding.......2007-03-12
This book does a good job at making one step back and realize what is and what is not right in a relationship. This book never gets too directional or limiting (i.e. you should never marry someone with green hair, etc.), but guides you through what makes a solid relationship, and what might make for a bumpy road. I had wandered through the dating world always wondering what I was supposed to be looking for, and I believe this book will help me become more focused.
I'm not Christian, and I had worried that this book might be too "preachy," but was pleasantly suprised when religion was mentioned more in a spiritual sense.
This should be mandatory reading........2007-01-15
I got divorced after 19 years of marriage; the last six of which really saw its deterioration.
Chapter One lists Dr. Warren's seven principles. I realized that my ex- and I had violated five of them. Right from the start, we were in trouble.
Let me introduce another aspect to the challenge of choosing the right marriage partner. I'm sure my fellow reviewers have already rained the accolades that this book deserves.
I'm Asian and, while it's not practiced in the Philippines (from where I come from), arranged marriages are the norm for more than 60% of the world's population. Think about it. It's only in the more industrialized societies where women have attained enough social status and independence that women have the freedom to exercise their right of choice. How many are there? There are more than six billion of us now.
Let's say North America has 350 million. Central and South contribute another 500 million. Western Europe another 500 million. Japan another 300 million. Australia and the more industrialized parts of Africa, say 100 million. Those are generous figures that I didn't take the time to verify but I'll bet the sum of 1.75 billion is roughly accurate. Round it up to two billion and that means that only 33% of us practice the right to choose their own marriage partner.
Does anybody know the stats for arranged marriages?
My ex- and I were going to Asia in the early 90s and got stranded in Tokyo with this Indian man, our age (at that time in our early 30s), who was going back to India to marry his chosen bride. I wonder what became of them.
So anyway, that's the blog I didn't mean to start.
A Must Read for Every Man and Woman Looking for Mr./Ms. Right!.......2006-08-25
Oh, brother, was I ever looking for love in all the wrong people! Until I read this book, I didn't realize the meaning of commitment, nor did I have the tools to eliminate emotionally unhealthy individuals from my list of prospective mates. Dr. Warren has written the best book on finding the perfect mate for me, how to eliminate obstacles BEFORE things get too involved and, most importantly, how to recognize deal-breakers right at the beginning. I will read this book again and again in order to reinforce Dr. Warren's principles for finding my perfect partner and best friend!!
Eye opening and wonderful.......2006-03-10
My fiance and I purchased our first copy of this book four years ago; before Dr. Warren was popularized by the TV commercials. We found it to be so helpful in our relatioship, that we recently purchased several more copies as gifts for our grown children (from previous marriages). If you're not currently in a relationship, the book has a great section to help you determine the type of person you would be compatible with. For those already in relationships, it helps you determine how compatible you are. There is a wonderful list of 50 items to discuss with your relationship partner. These items will help determine your compatibility on a wide range of issues, from finances and parenting to the temperature setting of your home. We highly recommend the book to everyone seeking or currently in a relationship.
Helped me to wait for the right man .......2006-02-20
I read this book more than 10 years ago when I was 21 years old and dating my first boyfriend (I was picky). My boyfriend and I read it together and found it very helpful. In fact, we realized that we weren't for each other!
This book has you picture your ideal mate and to list the top essential things that you must have in a spouse and the top things you definately don't want in a spouse. I'm so glad I followed his advice! I had very few things on my "must have" list and a reasonable amount of things on my "must not have". I also had a bunch of things on my "optional" list. I did not date again for 7 years! I just figured that such a man must not exist and told everyone I wouldn't get married. I figured that I'd rather not marry and still retain the choice than to get marry and regret it.
I finally met a wonderful man and because of the work I'd done with this book so long ago I knew he was what I was looking for. In fact, one evening after having a long prayer time with him I realized that he not only had everything on my "essential list" and nothing on my "must not have list", but he had everything on my optional list!!! ...plus some things I hadn't hoped to ask for. I can't say this will happen this way for everyone, but if I hadn't been encouraged by this book to wait I most certainly have married someone who didn't fit me nearly as well.
Now I've been married for 5 1/2 years and am in love with my husband as I was when I first met him. Because I'd learned in this book what to look for and what to becareful of I knew what I was getting into and have not had any dreadful surprises along the way. We are very happily married and celebrated the birth of our first child last fall.
I've read all kinds of books on marriage and most of them say exactly the same things in differnt words, but this one offers things other books don't. This is the one I give to all my friends who are looking for a spouse and feel uncertain. I highly recommend it!
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- Positive practical Help for Men and Their Partners
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Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex
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Barry W., Ph.D. McCarthy
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Book Description
Explore a multidimensional, bio-psychological approach to dealing with this problem and strengthening your sexual relationship. Explode the myths of male sexual performance and analyze male sexual desire. Learn about the different types of premature ejaculation and use assessment exercises to find out which you suffer from. Then, follow one of the structured, symptom-specific treatment strategies based on psychological, relational, and physiological techniques. Find out ways to prevent relapse. Enhance and improve your overall sexual relationship. Designed as a resource for couples, this book is powerful tool for creating support and positive change in your relationship.
Customer Reviews:
This is a wonderful book!.......2006-12-14
I am a sex therapist and sex educator, teaching at a large graduate school in the midwest. I use this book as a required text in my 'Treatment Strategies for Sexual Dysfunction' class. It is not only an excellent self-help book, it teaches clinicians how to think about and treat sexual difficulties. Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz are simply the best at what they do. I recommend this book to clients, students, and colleagues.
Bravo to two excellent sex therapists!
Great.......2006-05-25
One of the best and detailed books aboout premature ejaculation out there. The advice in this book is top of tje line, taching you and your partner about the perills of premature ejaculation and how to overcome such a disorder. With greta references and a great structure you'll surely love this book for all that it's worth. A nice book but below the level of "Volume II - Natural Penis Enlargement: New methods of avoiding and curing impotence, premature ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction safely and inexpensively. ... Book on CD-Rom for PC & Mac Computers" by Platinum Millennium, the ultimate resource for premature ejaculation and another sexual disorders
A good book.......2005-10-01
I am a medical doctor with 16 years of clinical experience in treating erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and related conditions. I was happy when this book appeared last year because it is really well written and provides a full overview of this serious and common problem. Regarding the proposed ways of solving it I have my disagreements. Always having the best interest of the client or reader, I have to say that by following this book it will take long time trying to solve your PE. Plus, complete and permanent solution is questionable! This is partly due to the fact that there was less available data and research in this area 2 years ago.
A science-based book appeared 2 months ago, which provides the latest and very best approach to solving PE, impotence and lack of libido. Its name is "Scientifically Guaranteed Male Multiple Orgasms and Ultimate Sex", which can solve your problem within a few days. That's why many real people and doctors from around the world highly recommend it. Check it out and see for yourself.
Dr. Joseph Alexander
Works great, really.......2005-04-14
To start with I do have PE. I think this is a most outstanding book. It approaches the problem in very thorough and easy to understand way. I have read many books and tried everything on the market - desensitizers, herbal pills, exercises you name it I have tried it. Nothing worked. The book allowed me to approach the problem very methodically and I am practically PE free now. It shows you that this is a problem which is only a matter of management and right approach to sex. Also I have no permanent partner so it works for singles too. I used to cum in about 2 minutes although sometimes I could go for 10 or 15 but no rule for it. Now I can easily have 15 minutes pre-intercourse and at least 15 minutes of intercourse.
I would also suggest that you use some of the hypnosis tools on the market. They work great in conjunction with the book as they allow you to relax which is crucial for success. Good luck to anybody who is in need of such a book. This is the one :-))
Positive practical Help for Men and Their Partners.......2004-03-31
Metz and McCarthy have done the research based on their work with troubled clients. And they know how to offer step-by-step advice on successful coping with the problem. Best of all, they take a complex issue and give people permission to explore and experiment. They see healthy sex as important, and most especially, fun.
I hope many people will find this important resource so they can end their suffering and find the joy of sexual enrichment.
Book Description
The Solo Partner is the only book on the market that is written solely for a relationship with problems in which one partner refuses to cooperate in repairing the relationship: they deny a problem exists, blames the other party for any problems or promise to make changes and never follow through with the changes. If you find yourself in this kind of situation then this book was written specifically for your situation. In addition, it provides an alternative to traditional approaches and many times can be successfully used when both parties have worked on resolving their problems yet traditional approaches have failed to resolve their problems.
Customer Reviews:
A very good book for "soloing partners".......2005-07-16
Presently, this is "THE" book that provides a practical description of the "distancer-pursuer" pattern of interaction, which is the most common pattern found in distressed marriages and exclusive committed love relationships. It tells you what you need to do to produce positive changes in your marriage or relationship if you mate or partner refuses to work on the problems in it, and it goes into some of the 'why' you need to do so. I'm a professional life skillls coach who specializes in working with 'soloing' spouses and partners, especially those who need help in getting their "walkaway" husband or wives, or boyfriends or girlfriends, back. This book was one of the foundation stones of the strategies, tactics, and techniques I teach them to use. It's a very good book!
really worked-fast.......2003-04-18
this book gave me ideas for changing my own behavior in ways that were not only healthy for me, but also resulted in my partner making changes that made our relationship much more satisfying to both of us. The changes it reccomends were not comfortable for me to make, but Deluca's book gave me the willingness to do things differently. If, like me, you are always trying to get your partner to give you more (more time, more attention, more love) this is the book for you.
An excellent help for Distancer-Pursuer marriages.......1999-03-08
This book was very helpful in helping me to understand what was happening in my marriage, and of all those read would have been the most likely to save it had not the marriage been doomed. It is one of the few to address the difficult concept of Distancer-Pursuer pattern in relationships in a non-sexist manner and the only one to suggest concrete solutions. It has many self tests and exercises which help apply the book to your own personal situation.
Book Description
The lights are low. Your favorite sultry tunes are playing quietly in the background. The phone is off the hook. A scented candle is burning. Your man sits in the center of the room, eagerly awaiting the surprise you’ve been planning for weeks. Slowly, you make your entrance, dressed in a little black number you bought on the sly. As his jaw drops you slink toward him, moving to the rhythm of the music. You’ve got his attention now, and the night has only just begun.
The art of the striptease involves more than a revealing costume, stiletto heels, and a red feather boa. To successfully release your inner stripper, ladies, you’ve got to have the moves (of course!), but most important you have to exude self-confidence. With two decades of on-the-job experience, former exotic dancer Mary Taylor offers a wealth of advice for women on how to cast aside their insecurities and inhibitions. Full of tips on choosing the right time, setting, music, lighting, costume, and persona, and step-by-step instructions on basic and more advanced striptease moves, Bedroom Games is your key to turning your (and his!) most secret sexual fantasies into reality and giving the man in your life a night he won’t soon forget!
Customer Reviews:
Surprise!.......2006-10-10
This book was not what I expected. I must admit it was a pleasant surprise. I found it easy to follow and very well grounded in relationships. Even though I am a very visual person and usually find books without at least diagrams a let down...this one was not. There were no pictures but the explanations are so clear...it is hard to get it wrong. The author includes personal stories to help the reader grasp the material and it is a wonderful combination. Great book!!! I highly recommend it!!!!
I am a beginner..........2006-07-29
What a wonderful book! I did not need pictures just an active imagination. It was easy for me to follow the directions that was given. I would recommend this to all women whether you are shy or insecure or outgoing it will be helpful.
I am practicing the moves. I share my desires with my partner and he is looking forward to me dancing for him. It is all about how we feel -- if we feel good and enjoy what we do then they will enjoy it with us.
She (Mary Taylor) has dvds and videos and other items on her website. It was a big help!!! I can only get better!!
Great!.......2006-03-19
Bought this book as a present for my friend and she was thrilled! Even better she didn't have to wait long for it to arrive.
Beginners Only.......2006-02-12
I bought this book implusively, and it's going back. It's aimed at women who are insecure and inexperienced. Renting 9 1/2 Weeks would be a better use of your time, unless you really think you need a pep talk, too. And tips on how to make your own sexy outfits with a glue gun and velcro. Pass.
entertaining, but no pictures.......2004-09-12
Maybe it's just me, but when someone is teaching me how to dance, I like a picture (or, better yet, video) of how each move goes. It takes more practice when you're reading about it. Other than that, this is a great book. I learned some new things and can't wait to try them out on a live person!
Book Description
A rich collection of prayers for all occasions written by, and uniquely tailored for, a husband and wife to use together. In their engaging foreword, Walter and Ruthanne Wangerin describe their practice of prayer—and the compelling role prayer has played in their relationship. In addition, they suggest helpful, creative ways spouses can use the book together.
Prayers are grouped under six major headings: “Daily Living as Husband and Wife,” “Love and Loving,” “Times of Suffering,” “For the Faith of My Spouse,” “Roles as Children and as Parents,” and “Traveling.” Topics and occasions for the prayers are as universal—and as personal—as the experiences of marriage partners everywhere. The Wangerins offer a collection of prayer litanies that turn everyday events into shared, sacred occasions and make special events even more meaningful. The final section of the book provides marriage partners with simple step-by-step instructions for a private, yearly retreat that can renew and refresh their love for one another and their faith in God.
Customer Reviews:
PRAYER IS THE KEY TO HEALTHY MARRIAGE.......2006-07-25
I commend them for finding and sharing their how-to's in a special prayer relationship that is VITAL in a healthy marriage. As we focus on God loving through us, and bonding marriages we give God a platform for His Power to come through our marriage. I agree we can't use our own power, but must depend upon prayer! AMEN!!
For the Christian Couple's Nightstand.......2001-12-01
Another vulnerably honest, poetic, daily-living tool from the Wangerin pen... this time, however, delight in hearing from both Wangerins. My husband and I were looking for some help in learning how to pray together (I longed to overcome my awkwardness with praying aloud), and in one of those on-our-knees moments, found this to be just the tender nudge we needed. In a candid style that seems to characterize both Thanne and Walter, the prayers will assuredly give voice to a spectrum of painful and joyous times in the life of a Christian couple. It is a dynamic reference allowing a couple to find easily a prayer language of their own and includes suggestions for private retreat, litanies, and devotions to enrich any married couple seeking to grow together in Christ. The moving Foreward nearly stands alone, but we plan to pair PRAYERBOOK with AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE for wedding gifts.
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