The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

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Are you just another AFC ("average frustrated chump") trying to meet an HB ("hot babe")? How would you like to "full-close" with a Penthouse Pet of the Year? The answers, my friend, are in Neil Strauss's entertaining book The Game. Strauss was a self-described chick repellant--complete with large, bumpy nose, small, beady eyes, glasses, balding head, and, worst of all, painful shyness around women. He felt like "half a man." That is, until a book editor asked him to investigate the community of pickup artists. Strauss's life was transformed. He spent two years bedding some fine chiquitas and studying with some of the North America's most suave gents--including the best of them all, the God of the pickup "community," a man named Mystery.

Mystery is an aspiring Toronto magician who charges $2,250 for a weekend pickup workshop. He is not much to look at: a cross between a vampire and a computer geek. But by using high-powered marketing techniques he's turned seduction into an effortless craft--even inventing his own vocabulary. His technique sounds like a car salesman's tip sheet: his main rule is FMAC--find, meet, attract, close. He employs the "three-second rule"--always approach a woman within three seconds of first seeing her in order to avoid getting shy. Other tricks: Intrigue a beautiful woman by pretending to be unaffected by her charm; also, never hit on a woman right away. Start with a disarming, innocent remark, like "Do you think magic spells work?" or "Oh my god, did you see those two girls fighting outside?" And finally, the most important characteristic of the pickup artist--smile.

After two years, Strauss ends up becoming almost as successful as Mystery, but he comes to an important realization. His techniques were actually off-putting to the woman he ended up falling in love with. And they never prepared him for actually having a relationship. After a while, he ran out of one-liners and had to have a real conversation. Still, The Game is a great read that may help some AFCs come out of their shells. --Alex Roslin

Book Description

Hidden somewhere, in nearly every major city in the world, is an underground seduction lair. And in these lairs, men trade the most devastatingly effective techniques ever invented to charm women. This is not fiction. These men really exist. They live together in houses known as Projects. And Neil Strauss, the bestselling author, spent two years living among them, using the pseudonym Style to protect his real-life identity. The result is one of the most explosive and controversial books of the year -- guaranteed to change the lives of men and transform the way women understand the opposite sex forever.

On his journey from AFC (average frustrated chump) to PUA (pick-up artist) to PUG (pick-up guru), Strauss not only shares scores of original seduction techniques but also has unforgettable encounters with the likes of Tom Cruise, Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, Heidi Fleiss, and Courtney Love. And then things really start to get strange -- and passions lead to betrayals lead to violence. The Game is the story of one man's transformation from frog to prince -- to prisoner in the most unforgettable book of the year.

Customer Reviews:

One of the few books I've found that was interesting enough to read completely.......2007-10-17

Fascinating book about the PUA subculture. Love the black leather like binding and the red bookmark. Highly recommend reading for any man that wants to broaden his horizons.
I've read similar books and I'll share some observations to aspiring PUA's : All the good PUA guys either are either somewhat naturally charismatic, or have higher education and / or have established careers with significant incomes. While I'm not suggesting that you have to be rich or handsome to be a successful PUA, you will need to be getting a paycheck somehow. And higher education is a definite plus. Odd how all these books seem to leave out this essential fact.

Invest in yourself. Material things come to those that have self actualized.

If something has a direct benefit to an individual or a class of people, and a theoretical, abstract, or amorphous benefit to everybody else, realize that the proponent's intentions are to benefit the former, not the latter, no matter what bull they try to feed you.

Don't take proffered advice without a critical analysis. 90 % of all advice is intended to benefit the proponent, not the recipient. Actually, the number is probably closer to 97 but I don't want to come off as cynical.

As a young man, you're on your own. Society divides and conquers. Unlike women who have advocates looking out for them (NOW, Women's Study Departments, government, non-profit organizations, political advocacy groups) almost no one is looking out for you. Know that few people have your best interests at heart. Your mother does. Your father probably does (if he stuck around). Your siblings are on your side. Everybody else worries about themselves.

Remember, 97% of all advice is worthless. Take what you can use, and trash the rest.

Lecherous Men Who Need This "Book" For Advice Aren't Real Men And Deserve To Be Lonely, Frustrated & Lacking Self-Worth!!!!!!!!!.......2007-10-17

US culture has coarsened. Republicans are 100% correct in citing this trend that exploded since the 60s, liberal "revolution." Nowhere is this ghastly reality seen worse than The Game and its subordinating, brownnosing, 5-star reviews. Reading these 5-star ratings, the unsuspecting surfer would misconstrue The Game possesses virtue, entertainment and usefulness. My skewering review will disprove the 5-star reviews' fraud and divulge The Game as debauched, sadistic, sophomoric, misogynistic, underhanded, lecherous!!!!

The Game's the libertine story of an LA Times writer who longingly plots to "correct" his frustrated teen and twentysomething years spent without success in "getting laid." He's also insecure and awkward around women; he spends his waking hours longing for tail. His "solution?" Frequent the underground, pickup artist community--via internet groups--to procure tips on seducing, then bedding women. So, he becomes the pupil of the misogynistic and emotionally stunted man-child Mystery, self-proclaimed master of picking up women.

The "star" (Mystery) of Strauss' writing is one of the worst lowlives you'll ever witness. At first, Mystery's in his thirties YET LIVING WITH HIS PARENTS in an underprivileged, Toronto apartment!!!! He's emotionally retarded as evidenced in his confession that he never received love from his father--German immigrant-alcoholic who beat Mystery!--and how he yearns for a polygamist relationship with two lesbians. Mystery's pickup artist routine involves seducing many women to ineffectively battle to bring up his insecure sense of self-worth; underestimating the intelligence of women; and lecherously fu**ing as many women as he can pick up.

Mystery's routine is so elementary that it involves thoughtless, robotic patterns Mystery claims work on all women. From the seedy places described, it appears his routine only works if you target lowlife establishments (bars, clubs, Hollywood parties) and loose women. I repeat: The Game is misdirecting since Mystery's coarse pickup routine is never attempted on women of better breeding, ie., those with education, self-worth, class, morals--in short, conservative-leaning. His routine's only applied to liberal women he finds in the meanest of skid row locales. If one subserviently and errantly uses Mystery's pickup routine on women in normal places--away from the liberal skew of places like Hollywood parties and seedy bars--like malls, parks, offices, community/recreational activities, functions, etc., you'd get slapped in the face, and rightly so.

Mystery's tactics are misogynistic because they devalue women as fu**-buddies (actual term from The Game!) and conquests to be had; Mystery/Strauss admit many times picking up women is an addiction to satisfy their egos. Mystery's tactics involve going into a bar with his insecure, lowlife co-sargers and approaching women within three seconds of eye contact. It continues with pretending to be disinterested in the targeted woman ("negging") while the PUA's wing distracts whoever else in her group. It then, if need be, also resorts to ludicrous magic tricks and calculating demonstrations of value to the targeted woman. This combination of BS is alleged to result in quickly getting an indiscriminate, liberal woman's phone number, or even getting laid that very night!!!!

It's obvious Mystery's game is to be the poor man's Machiavelli, as The Prince dealt with manipulation too; only in The Prince, manipulation was applied intelligently and observed properly. These BS-routines are absurd and untrustworthy that only lonely/mousy nerds desperate for a woman's sexual touch, or sophomoric teenagers should/will bother with them. The censurable absurdity is Mystery proposes women will fall for elementary magic tricks done in bars!!!! Strauss alleges women are like crows hopelessly attracted to shiny objects, that if one ludicrously does magic in front of her, or asks her value-demonstrating questions, she'll put out like a sl*t!!!! No human's that insanely stupid, though liberal women in LA may well be.

Strauss also introduces other characters in the pickup community. There's Papa, Tyler Durden, Ross Jefferies, Sweater, etc.. Like Mystery, ALL suffer from irreversible, emotional damage. Papa's a rich college kid obsessed with scoring; Durden doesn't like girls but lusts for power over women; Jefferies hates women due to a life of rejection; and Sweater naively wants to find a wife. Due to the soulless PUA lifestyle, most of these characters met with misery by the book's conclusion: Papa dropped out of college where he was studying law; Sweater was trapped in a loveless marriage; and even Strauss, the author, was pining for Lisa (Courtney Love's guitar-player) who disdained his lifestyle.

I'll stereotype the demographic of verminous male who basely reads The Game. You're a life-loser who isn't getting any; loathes women; feels inferior; and cannot relate to women in healthy, emotional terms. I bet I'm 100% correct!!!! Ironically, Strauss terms the Alpha Male of the Group as the man who competes with the PUA, yet I feel I'm the Alpha Male of all who've read The Game because I refuse to be so desperate to pick up women by resorting to this BS. I, as the normal, healthy and well-adjusted man, simply relate to women as the human beings they are, and that works a zillion times more effectively than Mystery's BS.

Compelling tale - couldn't put it down.......2007-10-15

Neil Strauss, who co-authored bestsellers about Motley Crue and Jenna Jameson, nails it again with another great tale into the bizarre worlds most of us never visit. This isn't so much a how to pick up women guide. It's a captivating story line as he ventures into the seduction community and grows his skills and insight into his own existence. Truly fascinating. Much of the material the average guy cannot relate to, or will ever experience, but as a page turner it is truly masterful.

I would couple this book with one recommended above by Amazon, The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho. As you read them, you realize the techniques they teach parallel how to "win friends and influence people", along with how to seduce the babes. The skills dissect and perfect being charismatic and comfortable in new situations with strangers. Get both books, they will accelerate your self-confidence to a very high level; for me it's been life changing.

Great lessons in personality transformation.......2007-10-12

Having seen Neil's interviews on the chunky feminist TV circuit and he how handled the bitter hens with ease, I bought The Game. A very intriguing and unusual tale told with some ingenious to bizarre characters throughout.

Neil's written for Rolling Stone and had other great books like The Dirt: Confessions of the World's Most Notorious Rock Band; this book carries on with his engaging writing style. Highly recommended.

The game.......2007-10-11

Good story. However, if one listens to Mystery's tale about the scorpion, which can't change its nature even if it has to die, then how on earth a male in his thirties (fourties?) is able to transform his habits in couple of years? A reader is being familirized with the PUA terminology like - elicit values, field test; fluff, opener etc., where talking is the most essential part. But hey, then Style brags about picking up a Czech girl who "has no more than a dozen words of English in her vocabulary"! Bars and clubs are where the action here goes on, yes, but what about everyday environment like a store, shop, show, queue. Unfortunately, in the book those are just couple epizodes.
And finally, Neil Strauss says that a shrunken-apple face betrays one's Eastern European origins (p.406). Interesting. It reminded me of an Italian prison doctor Cesare Lambrose, who in the 19th century suggested that physiological traits such as the measurements of one's cheek bones or hairline, or a cleft palate were indicative of one's atavistic criminal tendencies.

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A light read
Hilarious and Brilliant!
Excellent Effort-Mixed Results
fear and loathing in park-on-lexington
How fun!

Mergers & Acquisitions
Dana Vachon
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Release Date: 2007-04-05

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A graduate of Duke University in 2002 and an analyst for J.P. Morgan for a few years after that, Dana Vachon is a writing wunderkind along the lines of Jay McInerney in Bright Lights, Big City and Bret Easton Ellis in Less Than Zero. However, the similarity ends with the theme of young guys on the razzle, because Vachon's protagonist, unlike his predecessors, observes and learns without falling into the honey pot. Tommy Quinn graduates from Georgetown and lands a job with J.S. Spenser, an investment banking firm. His major was Interdisciplinary Studies, a kind of Liberal Arts wastebasket, and he knows nothing about finance. In the brain-deadening Spenser training program he hooks up with Roger Thorne, a really crass human being, but one who knows all the moves. The genesis of the friendship sets the tone rather well: They are both wearing Gucci loafers and Rolex watches.

The story begins at Roger's engagement party, with Tommy waiting for his erstwhile girlfriend Frances to arrive. Everyone thinks that she has been at a spa, but she has really been in an upscale Home for the Unsure, being ministered to by a freaky shrink. The story then moves backward through Tommy's ruminations about meeting Roger, "the John Audubon of preppy flesh," and about connecting with Terence Mathers, Spenser's guru of mergers and acquisitions. At the end of Mathers's first speech to the new Spenserites, Tommy says: "We had all partaken of the capitalist Kool-Aid and the applause was as much a tribute to the stupidity of young men and women after four years of elite education as it was to the success of Spenser's training program." Greed is definitely good in this atmosphere--the more the better--but Tommy is not really a full-fledged participant. After Tommy blows his first assignment, he and Roger are sent to Cabo San Lucas on a major deal. What happens there is life-threatening and hilariously over-the-top but perfectly plausible and moves Tommy to rethink his life path. Vachon has left his own fledgling financial career behind, and instead has written a first-rate first novel that is smart, funny, witty, and wise. --Valerie Ryan

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A stylish and hilarious novel about the lives and loves of well-to-do young Manhattanites in their first year on Wall Street, destined to become one of the year's most buzzed-about debuts.

Mergers & Acquisitions is the story of Tommy Quinn, a recent Georgetown grad who has just landed the job of his dreams as an investment banker at J. S. Spenser, and the perfect girl, Frances Sloan, the daughter of one of New York's oldest moneyed families. As he travels from the most exclusive ball rooms of the Racquet and Tennis Club to the stuffiest boardrooms of J. S. Spenser, from the golf links of Piping Rock to the bedrooms of Park Avenue, and from the debauched yacht of a Mexican billionaire to the Ritalin-strewn prep-school dorm room of his younger brother, he finds that the job and the girl are not what they once seemed.

Sharply written, fast-paced, and bitingly witty, Mergers & acquisitions is a compulsively readable story of Manhattan's young, ambitious, and wealthy. Set against the backdrop of money, lust, power, corruption, cynicism, energy, and excitement that is Wall Street, it is suffused with an authenticity that only an author who lives in that world can provide. A former investment banker at J. P. Morgan, Vachon offers an insider's point of view on the financial scene, and he knows the moneyed turf of Manhattan inside out.

Customer Reviews:

A light read.......2007-09-01

I did enjoy this book, but I wish the author had written a few more chapters on actually working in the office of J.S.Spenser. The author does have a comic way of writing, I liked the part where the main chararter converted the US dollar into itself! I also liked how the book was written, it started in the present at his friend's engagment, then the next chapters where in the past and the last chapter was at the engagment party. Though I did find the main character's girlfriend a bit disturbing.

Hilarious and Brilliant!.......2007-08-04

A comic romp dealing with the financial world and early employment after college. Some passages are so funny, I laughed out loud! The characters, even though seemingly over the top at times, ring true, and present archetypes that are unforgettable. The romantic plot line is heartfelt and also has a profound feeling of felt life. I look forward to more novels by this remarkable talent!

Excellent Effort-Mixed Results.......2007-07-07

The book starts out great, but then it fades off the map. It is similar to Hemingway's -To Have and Have Not-. Since I have worked on The Street, and I am a writer, my hopes were very high. However, I have not been able to finish the book.

The author has some talent, and I wish him luck.

fear and loathing in park-on-lexington.......2007-07-05

I can't believe the dichotomy in the reviews of this book! It's either the best book ever written, or the worst. For my part, I'll give it 3 stars...an enjoyable read that was light-hearted and fun...an entertaining mind-candy romp, but certainly not a 5-star classic. It was exactly what I expected going in to it, and it delivered.

I really wasn't keen on Roger Thorpe's character, though. He was the most colorful character in the book; and as much of a slime he was, I think he could have been more realistic, and yet taken the character further into slimedom with his unique ability to slide through life despite his incompetence. But the "dudes" and "babes" made him more of a sixteen-year-old punk skater rather than the uppercrust moneyed college grad he was. I may be missing the point, but I would have enjoyed an underlying "knowing" of "not knowing" in his attitude...and accidental tourist, per se.

I will say this, however...I relish the thought of the book being re-written: but instead of Tommy Quinn narrating, Hunter S Thompson steps into the role. As I read the book, I kept wondering just how far out-of-hand Tommy's situations could truly have gotten with Gonzo at the wheel. I kept waiting for Fear and Loathing on Wall Street, but all I got was Mergers and Acquisitions. Perhaps Vachon's next book...?

Still, I highly recommend it. Pour yourself a Sapphire and Xanax (or three) and finish the book in one sitting. Enjoy!

How fun!.......2007-06-14

As a Wharton MBA who has observed this scene for 20+ years, I found this book to be an over the top spoof of high finance and NYC society. If one were pitching it as a movie, I would say it is The Great Gatsby meets Catcher in the Rye meets Bright Lights, Big City. A great, light read that had me laughing out loud! Enjoy!

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I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell
No Socially Redeeming Qualities Except He's Funny
HILARIOUS
Lost your balls? get them back here.
One of the funniest books I've ever read

I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell
Tucker Max
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My name is Tucker Max, and I am an asshole. I get excessively drunk at inappropriate times, disregard social norms, indulge every whim, ignore the consequences of my actions, mock idiots and posers, sleep with more women than is safe or reasonable, and just generally act like a raging dickhead. But, I do contribute to humanity in one very important way: I share my adventures with the world. —from the Introduction Actual reader feedback:

"I am completely baffled as to how you can congratulate yourself for being a womanizer and a raging drunk, or think anyone cares about an idiot like you. Do you really think that exploiting the insecurities of others while getting wasted is a legitimate thing to offer?"

"Thank you, thank you, thank you—for sharing with us your wonderful tales of drunken revelry, for teaching me what it means to be a man, for just existing so I know that there is another option; I too can say `screw the system' and be myself and have fun. My life truly began when I finished reading your stories. Now, when faced with a quandary about what course of action I should take, I just ask myself, `What Would Tucker Do?'—and I do it, and I am a better man for it."

"I find it truly appalling that there are people in the world like you. You are a disgusting, vile, repulsive, repugnant, foul creature. Because of you, I don't believe in God anymore. No just God would allow someone like you to exist."

"I'll stay with God as my lord, but you are my savior. I just finished reading your brilliant stories, and I laughed so hard I almost vomited. I want to bring that kind of joy to people. You're an artist of the highest order and a true humanitarian to boot. I'm in both shock and awe at how much I want to be you."

"You are the coolest person I can even imagine existing. If you slept with my girlfriend, it'd make me love her more."

Customer Reviews:

I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell.......2007-10-12

You will either love this book, or hate it.
Stories of one man's drinking adventures, and the women he hooks up with.
This book kept me up till four in the morning, the stories are short and composed in a very engaging manner.
I believe that if Tucker Max were not addicted to sex, he would be a serial killer.

No Socially Redeeming Qualities Except He's Funny.......2007-10-03

Tucker Max, the author, is a narcissistic, alcoholic, egomaniacal, sexist pig with the morals of an alley cat in heat, but he has one redeeming quality. He is funny! This book is the story of his adventures, and while the conduct is contemptible, he has a gift with words and phrases, which make what he writes humorous. In addition, it is his frat boy antics that land him in many of the situations that are so funny.

Karma will one day land in Tucker Max's lap and cause him unmerciful grief. Until that day happens, however, he will continue to be a pig and will continue to write about it. If you're female, and think you don't want to read this because he is so bad, think again. It's a great lesson in how some males behave!

HILARIOUS.......2007-09-28

This book is very funny. The key is to not take it too seriously or you might think it is vulgar and rude. Overall a hilarious take on drinking and sex. Perfect for a night of reading and drinking a beer or two!

Lost your balls? get them back here........2007-09-27

So i was a little skeptical about how entertaining it would be to read the drunken (mis)adventures of Tucker Max, Duke Law Student. I read this book faster than I've ever read a book before and boy was it entertaining. I almost laughed out loud on the bus a couple times while reading it. If you can't see the humor in situations where women are treated like sex objects then don't read this. If you don't think it's funny to drunk drive a car into a bakery and leave the scene without a trace, don't read this book. If you don't think it's funny to f@ck a fat girl and then throw her clothes out the window and make her run out the front door so your roomates don't see her, don't read this book. Get it. Good.

One of the funniest books I've ever read.......2007-09-26

Rarely does a book make me laugh out loud. The last one was "A Nasty Bit of Rough"...but if you don't like golf you should avoid it.

If all the stories in here are true, and I'll bet they are, how in the hell is he still alive? Between his psychotic friends, his raging addiction to vodka and his insatiable sex drive, most mortal men would be either pushing up daisies or resting comfortably in a padded cell.

Tucker is a great storyteller and you are cheating yourself out of a ton of laughs by not reading this one. Bra - freaking - vo!

The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed

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Mystery's Magical Tour.
Best seduction book out there!
Good info on the psychology of women.
Excellent Book
well worth the money!

The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed
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“One of the most admired men in the world of seduction” (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women

For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world’s greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world’s most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss’s New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.

He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."

His tips include:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.

Customer Reviews:

Mystery's Magical Tour. .......2007-10-19

I have never been a consistent reader of the "pick up/player" genre, but I've become more attuned to it recently as I have begun a work of my own on a similar topic. Based on the tomes I have consumed, The Mystery Method currently ranks as second best--just behind How to Succeed with Women by Lewis and Copeland.

Many of us know Mystery from The Game or his new TV show on VH1. Unlike most of the Amazon reviewers, I was not a big admirer of Neil Strauss's account, but I found Mystery to be, by far, the only compelling character in the book. He was the only person you cared about. In the narrative sections concerning him, readers become entranced. He arouses feelings within us of elation, zeal, and sympathy. He is a man of depth and vision which was a major reason why The Game was worth perusing.

If you have any doubts about this offering--thinking that perhaps the 6'5" would-be rock star is trying to cash in on his recent celebrity--think again. He has produced an instructional volume of which he will forever be proud. I think that is why some people found it dry because, in my estimation, he attempted to put everything he had into this publication. It stands alone and is not a "teaser" vehicle by which struggling Average Frustrated Chumps will feel a need to purchase a registration ticket for one of his seminars. You get the vibe from these pages that he was scared to leave anything (essential) out as he knew it would be a work from he would always be judged.

So much about women and our romantic relations with them is counter-intuitive which renders conventional wisdom completely useless. Mystery asks us to suspend disbelief in these pages and we are wise to do so. He analyzes the irrational process of seduction and attraction in the most logical way possible. These chapters are full of symbols and lingo which (yes, can be trying) but ultimately describe the privileged sex in a manner far superior to anything you will find in the self-help section of the local bookstore.

I have studied women to a great extent, and believe that what Mystery reveals here informs us more of their group behaviors than the majority of psychology textbooks. As I read this work I looked back on some of my own romantic successes and failures--particularly those with unexpected outcomes. I came away with the realization my most fantastic memories were a result of my own--generally unintentional--practice of negging and demonstrations of value; while my memories of disaster sprung from a diminishment of personal value and a refusal to build comfort. All of us can learn from this man and we must always remember that in this game, as in so many others, fortune always favors the bold.

Best seduction book out there!.......2007-10-18

I have read everything on seduction on Amazon and this one is by far the most useful and practical than the rest. It tells you what to do and how to do it at every step, no guess work, tells you what you need to know and nothing you don't need.

Good info on the psychology of women........2007-10-14

Yes, this book is dry. And yes, the stuff probably won't work "as-is" once the show gets seen by a lot of people. But I think the basic concepts work well and will last you a long time, if you're able to adapt.

I think when you combine what you learn from this book with all the other great seduction books out there, you'll see that this stuff is strong and will work for you. Just don't take everything word-for-word.

I was out in a club the other day and there were some "mystery method" guys there. They were actually helping me, even though they didn't mean to, because the chicks were onto them. They didn't know I was running the same game.

So get this book, change it up, and have good luck!!

Excellent Book.......2007-10-11

I really enjoyed reading this book. It's a quick easy read, that you will refer back to time and time again. The thing I like best about The Mystery Method, as opposed to other "pick up" books, is that it isn't about manipulating people, taking advantage of girls, or getting laid. It primarily serves you with a structure for meeting new people. It shows you the steps it takes to move through an interaction, from the first word to many dates later. This book will help you make friends!! It shows you what you are doing wrong and what you should be doing.

well worth the money!.......2007-10-10

Very informative and well-written. Explict, modern and spedific. I would also highly recommend another awesome book- The Exclusive Layguide: When Dating and Having Sex with Incredibly Hot Women is No Longer Mirage Even If You Don't Look Like a Model or Don't Make a Fortune Both books are well worth the money!

The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho

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Must own for marriage financial advice
Fantastic read - and hilarious
Fascinating book
ok
Flirt, Attract and Seduce ; great advice here

The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho
Brett Tate
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ASIN: 0975264028
Release Date: 2007-01-01

Book Description

Pickup Artists' Psychological Secrets to Turn on, Charm, and Seduce almost any Woman.

The Art of the Pickup involves analyzing your target, determine her values, beliefs and weaknesses, and role-playing her desires.
Sexual Persuasion occurs by stimulating her subconscious emotions and desires. You create value and scarcity for yourself, remove her barriers, build trust, and initiate the close. The best Pickup Artists are teasingly cocky, have a cutting sense of humor, and the poise to pull it off with class.

The dynamics of Sexual Persuasion share the same techniques perfected by all great salesmen. Any man with the right tools and attitude can transform himself and create an exhilarating lifestyle he controls with style and ease. Face the facts. Women in courting mode are phenomenal actresses; many devote their whole lives to role-playing, camouflaged appearances, and storytelling. They manipulate men by dangling potential sex to satisfy their ego, play games, or vacuum your wallet. Understanding how seduction works is a double-edged sword. You can either go through life playing the victim, or educate yourself using the techniques to your advantage.
The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide reveals how to:

Predict, anticipate, & easily influence female behavior.
Create instant attraction and lust in seconds.
20 Seduction speaking techniques that create Irresistible Sexual Charisma.
Master Speed Dating, eliminate 80% of your dating time & money spent, with a superior closing ratio.
Read women instantly; spot and avoid the Psychos, Game Players, and gold digging cons.
Build instant rapport with Smooth-talking Sexual Persuasion.
Know exactly what she wants to see and hear, and feel.

Considering marriage? With a failure rate of 50%, the best defense is a good offense. Remove her financial incentive to file with a pro-active asset protection plan well in advance. In straightforward, easy-to-understand terms learn the Advantages, Limitations, and costs: the complete how, what, and where to setup multiple Trusts, FLPs, and LLCs. Learn how to:

Legally Protect your ASSets from the whims of divorce courts and frivolous lawsuits.
Shield a large salary, limit alimony to one based on a nominal salary YOU choose.
Structure your financial planning and shield your entire estate layers deep and out of sight.
Remove the assets from your name. You Control everything, but own nothing.

Tired of the Chase and want to elevate your Game to the next level? Section three is a Jet-setting Bachelor's travel guide to the best Sex Vacations around the World: where gorgeous young girls compete for you. Spoil yourself rotten, and be a Professional Bachelor.

Customer Reviews:

Must own for marriage financial advice.......2007-10-13

Asset protection is a must these days before marriage. Find any guy who's been ridden hard and dry in a divorce, and show him this book. He will cry he didn't have it available, and then will beg you to buy it.

After listening to his nightmare story (there's millions of them out there), you will definitely find The Professional Bachelor a godsend. It's also an excellent dating psychology book on working the ladies, how to pick and choosing the right ones, avoid the psychos, etc.

Getting insurance on your assets is inexpensive; if your marriage doesn't work out your life won't be destroyed. This book explains the ins and outs of setting it up in layman terms, for the average asset structure to the super wealthy. Great value.

Fantastic read - and hilarious.......2007-10-11

This is a very effective textbook for attracting women and social dynamics that can be applied in most any situation. If you're falling short in creating attention and holding onto the ladies (and in business), you will seriously accelerate your success in interaction in all situations. One of the more entertaining books you will read, and easily the best on this topic. It's a quick easy read, and you will love re-reading parts time and time again. I rarely read books let alone review them, but I read this in two days. Worth every penny.

Fascinating book .......2007-10-10

Easily one of the most interesting and entertaining books I've read in a long time. For anyone who took psychology in school, you will laugh non-stop at his uncanny and hilarious analysis of the different personalities of women and how to approach seducing/dating each. They are spot on accurate, and you'll remember girls in your past and see where you failed, and how to improve in the future. He gives great pickup advice in breaking the game all down to a science. Every guy can benefit from reading this one. Highly recommended.

ok.......2007-09-11

just make sure you walk your talk or talk your walk thats good advice

Flirt, Attract and Seduce ; great advice here.......2007-08-30

Excellent social pick up advice for flirting, being a smooth talker, and enhancing your look attitude and skills in attracting women. We all know women are the biggest players out there in the clubs. It's nice to see there are now some guides for men looking to even the playing field.

This book could be bought just for entertainment value alone, as the writer is seriously interesting and off the wall, with some pretty great observation jokes throughout. I never thought of asset protection before, but the facts he presents show only a fool would ignore his advice of not setting it up before getting married. Cool book.

The Layguide: How to Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible No Matter What You Look Like or How Much You Make

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Waste
The Layguide
Lots of ideas
A Must Have!
Doesn't Have Too Much To Offer (Rating: 5 out of 10- -2.5 stars)

The Layguide: How to Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible No Matter What You Look Like or How Much You Make
Tony Clink
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ASIN: 0806526025

Customer Reviews:

Waste.......2007-10-18

Has no structure, no step by step, just a collection of loosely related chapters, better to get "Mystery Method" that is the real deal.

The Layguide.......2007-10-12

Ok seems more tailored towards white women. Does help you understand how to be confident and great tips on how to approach a women without all the extra thought!

Lots of ideas.......2007-09-18

This is basically a compilation of the wizdom and ideas of many of the great PUA's. A must have for the comunity.

A Must Have!.......2007-08-25

This book is a must have for every man who wants to have success with beautiful women. Another new bestseller which I highly recommend - The Exclusive Layguide: When Dating and Having Sex with Incredibly Hot Women is No Longer Mirage Even If You Don't Look Like a Model or Don't Make a Fortune

Amazing books!

Doesn't Have Too Much To Offer (Rating: 5 out of 10- -2.5 stars).......2007-08-14

So I read this book on how to help pick up women, because the title looks so promising. I read it and basically it doesn't have too much to offer. It doesn't give straight foward help, it kinda beats around the bush. I have learned some new things in this book, such as how to start conversations with women and ask openended questions with them (expect the phrase "Whats your story" about 1000 times). But basically, the information in this book is vague. It does not give instant results like we guys all planned to, but it gives you a starting point and hangs you out to dry on your road to being a PUA instead of a chump.

Being a 20 year old college student and living in a city full of females who are stuck up, I figured this book would help out. Unfortunately, it did not do me too much justice. If you guys found success in this book with the opposite sex, give yourself a pat on the back. Funny that female reviewers (like the one below me), might get a joke out of this book because they go around making others feel like crap. I for one really don't recommend this book because of it's vague subject matter. If you want to read a good book, I recommend How to Succeed with Women, because that book gives more info into detail. Peace.

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

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So there you have it!
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Men vs. Women?
A very thought-provoking and helpful book
MUST HAVE!

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
Sherry Argov
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ASIN: 1580627560

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Do you feel like you are too nice?

Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:

-Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?

-Why do men take nice girls for granted?

-Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?

Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

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So there you have it! .......2007-10-15

During a conversation, a friend of mine told me about how her long time best-friend was having "dating" disasters! We both came to the conclusion that perhaps a dating book may help out! So we purchased this book and I decided to read it first to ensure we would not "insult or hurt" her feelings... and... This book made me laugh (to the point of tears at times), kept my attention (I could not put it down) and offered sound advice (confirmed by male friends)! It was obvious the research was well documented because I selected numerous males (both friends and co-workers) and suggested a topic of: how they would respond OR what they expected, to a scenario this book gave advice about and received a 100% correct response. One guy even made the comment that HE likes to be the LION and go after the woman he is interested in...IF she is too nice, too available and esp too needy OR if she chases him, HUGE turn-off! Basically he is looking for a B*@&#!!! So there you have it! We are keeping our fingers crossed that she enjoys this book as much as we did and honestly, I would read it again just for the humor!!

VERY GOOD!!!!.......2007-10-03

This book was funny and very true. Bottom line-when you treat men like crap, they treat you better. I don't think its for everyone though, some people are just too nice and probally wont be able to handle some of the advice that the author gives. This isn't a bible, just a guide and a very good guide at that.

Men vs. Women?.......2007-10-03

I bought this book a short while after getting out of an abusive relationship, thinking it would help me hold my own in any future relationships so the pattern of abuse wouldn't continue. This idea, however, backfired. What I found myself doing while reading this book was getting more and more angry at men.

I understand that women do need to stand up for themselves in all areas of life. If anyone understands this, it's me. I don't, however, believe that it's a good idea to get embroiled in the battle of the sexes. I'd like to believe that not all men are bad, and that I can be happy in a future relationship without having to resort to any tricks or manipulation.

While this book has some good advice (i.e., go out instead of waiting by the phone for him to call) I certainly wouldn't recommend it to anyone who has any resentment towards the opposite sex. There are some great books out there which are more healing, and less damaging. Try anything by Kathryn Alice or Kathy Freston, for example. I also recommend "Make Every Man Want You" by Marie Forleo.

Good luck!

A very thought-provoking and helpful book.......2007-09-18

I just finished reading this book, and am in the process of reading her other book, "Why Men Marry Bitches".

I have to say that initially, like some other reviewers here, I was reluctant to read the book due to the title and the simple fact that I don't have much respect for so-called "girl guides". I agree that the title does a disservice to the book, although after having read it, I understand what the author means when she uses the word "bitch". I was afraid that this would be a book about being aggressive and demanding, but that is not the case at all. I am also an independent woman who is emotionally mature, but I must confess I have behaved too nicely many a time. If you read this book, please understand that it is meant to be humorous. Don't follow everything blindly (especially some of the jokey and outrageous advice). Use your own thinking. Like some people here, I don't think you should serve your date popcorn on the first date. But this doesn't 'mean that her advice isn't sound; she exaggerates of course, but what she means is, please don't bend over backwards for someone you barely know. I read some reviews here who claim that this book is about playing games, or that it says things that are too obvious, or that it teaches women to be abrasive. If you actually read the book you will see that she insists that a "bitch" is a woman who is nice, polite and gracious. She never, ever advises bitching and complaining; in fact she devotes a whole chapter to precisely why these tactics never work for women. Some negative reviewers insist that the book tells you to be someone else, and that you should be honest and open about what you want in a relationship. I completely agree with the latter; however, the book tells you to do the same thing. It shows you how to communicate with men on their level, without being too emotional; how to make them listen to you and how to get your point accross, and I repeat, NOT through bitching and complaining, but by presenting strong, logical arguments in a calm and rational manner. Surely this can only promote good communication?

I can understand some viewers' hesitation about the "tactics" that she describes, like boosting a man's ego from time to time. I used to think, why should I boost anyone's ego? If he puts up a shelf and the damn shelf is crooked, why should I praise him? Or better yet, I'll do everything myself. The truth is, you need to praise and acknowledge his effort. Women fail to do this and then we wonder why "there are no real men left in the world". The truth is, for a man to show his generosity, you need to let him do it. Men have sensitive egos (they may deny it but we all know it's true). You put him down once or twice, he'll give up trying and you'll be putting those shelves up yourself for the rest of your life. If that's what you want, fine. But normally it's not, so you start complaining that he never does anything for you. This is how the vicious circle starts. After having read the book, I understand this better. So what if a shelf isn't perfect. You can still thank him for the effort and be tactful about it. Just don't criticize him when he's feeling all proud and manly. Don't criticize him in front of other people. It's basic consideration and common sense, of course. We women like being given presents and flowers, and being paid compliments. Men also like being appreciated. This is only logical. If you are having one of those "ugly" days, the man who truly loves you will say something encouraging, like "you look beautful, and you are always beautiful to me". He will sense your vulnerability and show his support. You do the same for him. Both are white lies; you don't always look beatiful, and he doesn't always succeed in home improvement. But you want him to keep trying, and you encourage and support him. I don't see how this is could be detrimental to any relationship.

Finally, upon having read this book (and her second book which I most highly recommend), I feel a newfound appreciation for men. We women always puzzle over the things men do and often feel like men just don't get it. Well, the truth is, they do get it. They observe you and draw their own conclusions. They will test you to see your reactions to different situations, just as you will test them. You may call it playing games, or dislike it, but no matter what you think, this is normal behavior. We all test each other to a certain extent, consciously or unconsciously, depending on our individual insecurities and preferences. If you fail to acknowledge this simple fact, you fail to acknowledge reality.

I think that this book is not your typical "relationship" book. It doesn't teach you how to "catch" a man, or win him. It teaches you how being a self-sufficient, independent, gracious and considerate person will help you attract the right man and more importantly, will keep him interested and focused on your relationship. Please read this book and you will see that the author doesn't condone games; what she does is help women understand men better and learn to communicate with them better. If becoming a woman worthy of respect (your own and other people's) means you must change yourself, then of course you must, otherwise you will never grow as a person. If you don't respect yourself firstly and foremostly, how can you expect other people to respect you? You would think that this is self-evident, but obviously, looking at the world today, it's not. Sherry Argov's book was written to change that.

MUST HAVE!.......2007-09-12

Its every womans must have bible! Hide it under your mattress...not necessarily a coffee table friendly book unless its girls night. This book has saved all of my future relationships! Best kept secret since He's just not that into you. Loved every detail of the book and her sense of humor keeps you reading all throughout the night!

What's Going on Down There?: Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask

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Dangerous Words, Beware!
Very Insightful
For boys who want to know the facts, this book has the answers!
so very informative
Great Information!

What's Going on Down There?: Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask
Karen Gravelle , Nick Castro , Chava Castro , Robert Leighton , and Walker & Co
Manufacturer: Walker Books for Young Readers
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Why is my voice making such weird sounds? When will I be able to start shaving? Why do I keep getting pimples? What is a wet dream?

Your body has been behaving very strangely lately. You hardly know what to expect from one day to the next. Karen Gravelle, with some help from her two young advisors, Nick and Chava Castro, has written a down-to-earth and practical book that will help guide you through this confusing time in your life. What's Going On Down There? answers any questions you might have about puberty, from what it is and what it feels like, to what puberty is like for girls, to how to handle the sexual feelings you may be starting to experience. Robert Leighton's funny and informative cartoons ease the confusion and exasperation you might feel.

Part manual, part older brother, What's Going On Down There? will give you the facts you need to feel comfortable and confident about this new phase of your life.

Customer Reviews:

Dangerous Words, Beware!.......2007-05-25

Chapter 8, titled: Is This Normal? States, "it is not unusual for a boy to watch another boy masturbate or to masturbate with a group of boys. Nor is it unusual for two boys to masturbate each other." My 13 year old son was accused of sexual assault by an 11 year old boy (a friend) after the 11 year old suggested they masturbated together, they did so on three occasions. The charge came a year later, social services and the police visited our home. Our younger son was almost removed from our home. Our 14 year old was questioned by police, charged, fingerprinted and we had to hire a lawyer. This book states that boys masturbating together or each other is not unusual. Maybe so, but it is a crime, and your child could be charged with sexual assault. Especially when the other child, out of guilt, fear, or revenge perhaps, tells his parents that he wasn't a willing participate once he realizes his "young, boyish curiosity" was a crime. BEWARE!

Very Insightful.......2007-05-15

I bought this book for my 12 year old son and he finds it to be very interesting. It has opened up discussions on things he would normally not discuss with me which has helped us have great conversations. I recommned this book for anybody with young boys going through puberty whom are normally not used to talking about what's going on with them.

For boys who want to know the facts, this book has the answers!.......2007-04-10

What's going on down there? A general question, perhaps, but one that boys between the ages of ten and fourteen ask regularly about the changes their bodies undergo during puberty. In Karen Gravelle's book, What's Going on Down There: Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask, she describes the physical and emotional changes that occur in boys (and, to a lesser extent, in girls) during puberty. In addition, Gravelle discusses sexual activity, homosexuality, AIDS, and other related topics. Gravelle had help with the book; 11- and 13-year-old brothers, Nick and Chava Castro, served as advisors, asking questions and working with Gravelle to make the book's language easy to read and to understand.

I bought this book for my older son when he was ten years old. I liked the funny and informative cartoons, and my cursory reading before giving it to him left me believing it might help him navigate the storms of puberty.

I had not read the book cover-to-cover, but I did so recently in connection with an assignment for my master's degree in library science. I am glad I did. Reading the book carefully served to confirm that I made a wise purchase five years ago, something I suspected when I noticed that my older son had handed down the book to his younger brother a few years ago.

Although the book has a few weird and wonderful moments (like stating that many women don't find childbirth to be particularly painful!), I found it to be an excellent source of practical, no-nonsense information. Some parents might be uncomfortable with the book's approach. The author includes frank discussions of orgasms, masturbation, and abortion, and the illustrator has a drawing of an orchidometer so boys can measure their testicles to see how far along they are in the puberty process. For parents who want their sons to know the facts about their bodies, though, and for boys who need to know those facts, this book is the one book on the subject I would recommend first.

so very informative.......2007-03-06

This book is packed full of useful information, easy to read, and helpful drawings. A must-read for any boy going through puberty.

Great Information!.......2007-02-08

I mailed a copy of this book to my 10 year old step son, because he was asking his father questions about the process of becoming a man. I read the book thoroughly. I believe the book is excellent. There are a few points in the book that will make a parent uncomfortable, but it is information a young boy needs to know, and deals with situations he has likely seen on television or in movies. My step son's mother did not let him read the book because she felt he did not need to be exposed to the small section on homosexuality and masturbation. I ordered a copy for him to read at our house, and he told his father he was glad to have the opportunity to read the book. He stated that the book addressed questions he would never have asked his mother, and that the book also helped him determine where his friends had given him misleading or incorrect information about what to expect during puberty. Overall, this is an excellent book, and I hope that parents won't let their fears override an otherwise excellent method of providing a young man with the information he desparately needs to know.

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Book is hilarious, Column better for advice
Too Much Empty Sex Leads to Nothing but Empty Sex
The Book and Column are Gold, Pure Gold!!!!
So Funny
Fantastic book!

God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters
Ian Coburn
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Comedian Ian Coburn re-lives his funniest dating failures in the best dating advice book geared toward both sexes. Ian shares lessons learned from his embarrassing escapades and tackles some of the biggest questions men and women have about each other: Do guys know they favor one breast over the other? Why do women like jerks? Why don't guys call? Why don't women call back? What's the best way to approach a woman at a bar? He admits it's harder to be a woman than a man and tells why.

Ian's funny, edgy style and fresh advice, have enabled him to do something no one has done effectively previously--write a book about dating and sex that appeals to both genders. Unlike other authors, Ian is not just comfortable with his "game;" he is comfortable with women. His book spawned his syndicated dating advice column "Lunch is Not a Date" and has garnered great reviews from the pua community. It also landed him a spot on Lifetime's site as a dating expert. His stories and advice truly appeal to everyone. The book has ranked #1 in humor on Amazon.ca and other sites repeatedly. Publishers are beginning to translate it into other languages.

Ian's advice is appealing because it is fresh, original, and works. He doesn't lump all men and women into one category; rather, he examines the different types of each and how to work with their personalities, like diffusing the bitter friend in order to pick up the woman you like or why women shouldn't date their guy friends. While other experts prattle on about tired techniques to get a phone number, Ian tells you how to make sure the woman will return your call, not just get a number. It's no wonder this book is a big hit.

From the Publisher
Comedian Ian Coburn wanted to share with the world the zany stories that happened to him with women. They were too long for a standup routine, so he offered to write that routine in a book. We happily obliged.

It just so happens that Ian also wanted to share dating and sex advice that he's learned from his various escapades. After each story, he reviews what he learned, gives a few examples of how he put that knowledge to successful use in the future, and provides quick pieces of dating or sex tips between chapters.

Unlike self-help books, Ian's book is actually categorized as "humor." It has to be; it's simply too funny to be categorized in another genre. If you like standup comedy, you'll love this book. If you want excellent dating and sex advice, you'll find that inside, too. That's the real beauty of God is a Woman: Dating Disasters ... guys can pick it up without the stigma of buying a self-help book. (Guys don't like to buy self-help books. We all know that.)

From the Author
Go to the bookstore and you'll see a bunch of books on sex, a few books filled with advice for men on how to score beautiful women, and oh... ten thousand books filled with advice for women on dating.

The problem? They're all separate. Why? Don't this things need to go together to work? What good is knowing everything about sex if you can't get a date? How can you get a date if the book telling you to do "this and that" is in direct conflict with the book telling your date to do something else?

I always wanted to tell my dating failures onstage because they are very funny and informative. They are too long, though, to work in a standup routine, so I'm glad I was able to put them in a book.

From the Back Cover
Ever feel like God is against you when it comes to dating, sex and one-night stands? She is.

Comedian Ian Coburn relives his funniest dating failures in the best dating advice book geared toward both sexes. While Ian shares the lessons he learned from his embarrassing escapades in his hilarious standup fashion, he tackles some of the biggest questions men and women have about each other: Do guys know they favor one breast over the other? Why do women like jerks? Why don't guys call? Why don't women call back? What's the best way to approach a woman at a bar? Why are men so bad at reading signals? He also admits that it's harder to be a woman than a man and tells why.

Whether the story is about the time he was fooling around in his mom's car while he was supposed to be bringing Drew Carey offstage or how he graduated college still a virgin; or the time Jenny Jones grabbed his butt and hit on him or his downward spiral to behaving like a jerk culminating in a night on the town with Damon Wayans, it's all here--openly honest and hilarious--including Larry the Cable Guy's real name and what Nikki Cox is like in person. So sit back, relax, get ready to laugh and find out why God is a Woman.

Celebrity comments about Ian's comedy and writing:

"Very funny." -- Drew Carey (The Drew Carey Show)
"Very talented." -- Damon Wayans (My Wife and Kids)
"Funny and edgy; love the sarcasm." -- Nikki Cox (Las Vegas)
"Fun-nee!" -- Larry the Cable Guy (Larry the Cable Guy: Health Inspector)
"Captivating . . . intriguing." -- Joan Cusack (Various films)

Publisher and agent comments about God is a Woman:

"Too big for us; funny." -- Capital Books
"Hilarious . . . can't wait for it to come out." -- Basic Books
"Funny . . . made me laugh pretty hard."-- The Waxman Agency

About the Author
Comedian-turned-screenwriter Ian Coburn was one of the most highly sought standup acts on the comedy circuit throughout the nineties. He still boasts the industry record 106-straight weeks on the road. Ian has written two feature length screenplays for hire along with nine of his own. He writes fast, knocking off some topnotch scripts in less than a week. His manager is currently negotiating the options of two of his scripts while he is developing a third with Davis Entertainment (Predator; Flight of the Phoenix; I, Robot.) Ian is also under consideration for a staff writing position on a newly pitched television series. His scripts have won screenwriting contests, including HSI's competition.

Standup comedy and the road shaped Ian's life and personality... it also gave him some crazy dating stories.

Excerpted from God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters by Ian Coburn. Copyright © 2006. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
From the Introduction

When I first started to date, I was the same as everyone when they start to date--confused and scared. Like most guys, I looked to magazines and movies for advice. Both sucked. Magazines told me all I needed were some cool clothes, a hot car, and the right cologne, along with a few million dollars to pay for all that crap. The articles were nothing more than guys on ego trips bragging about their sexual conquests; I learned nothing. Movies skipped the most important scenes, where the guy says all the right things to the girl. Instead, movies showed the guy meeting the girl, then cut to them in bed together; big f[...] help. To make matters worse, my mom gave me a book about chickens laying eggs and lambs suckling. Someone shoot me, I thought.

What I needed was a book with honest, adult advice--which wasn't afraid to get graphic when necessary--that taught me what to say, what actions to take, and how to read women. My sisters seemed to need similar information about guys. It would help if the stories were funny so I didn't feel so alone and self-conscious. Better yet, if some of them included celebrities, they'd be even more entertaining and really put me at ease. (If I knew celebrities struggled with sex and dating, I'd feel better about my own problems with them.)

No such book was ever published. Much to my surprise, as I got older I found I could use such a book even more. Then one day I woke up and realized: I could write the needed book. I had the celebrity stories. I had learned about sex and dating the hard way. I could tell guys how to get women. And I could tell women what men were thinking, as well as how to identify the good guys from the creeps. And I could do it all through stories of my funny failures.

Streeter Seidell and Sarah Schneider, CollegeHumor.com
"We loved it! The best 269 page book about dating disasters we've read this year!"

Actress Tina Kraus
"Funny!"

Comedian Rocky LaPorte
"Loved it! Ian's book is very insightful and learned a lot from it, mostly that women are crazy and Ian's a perv."

Mystery Method Forum
"Nothing short of hilarious. (on the advice) AWESOME stuff!!"

Legal Pub Blog Review and Discussion (60 comments)
"The new bible for college students."

Book Description

Comedian Ian Coburn re-lives his funniest dating failures in the best dating advice book geared toward both sexes. Ian shares lessons learned from his embarrassing escapades and tackles some of the biggest questions men and women have about each other: Do guys know they favor one breast over the other? Why do women like jerks? Why don't guys call? Why don't women call back? What's the best way to approach a woman at a bar? He admits it's harder to be a woman than a man and tells why.

Customer Reviews:

Book is hilarious, Column better for advice.......2007-09-24

The stories in this book are flat out hilarious. I read it twice in a week it is so funny. I started by reading his column 'lunch is not a date' and then read the book. The column has more in-depth advice, often taking a concept from the book and expanding on it. While it was fascinating to read the column then read the stories from which his wisdom came from, it would have been better to read the book first I think. Great stuff - I cannot stress that enough.

Too Much Empty Sex Leads to Nothing but Empty Sex.......2007-09-09

I discovered this book in of all places half-drunk at a bar - it was advertised on a poster over a urinal at my favorite watering hole. It claimed to be a funny book about a comedian's "hilarious escapades with women." It is. But it is much more than that. Unlike pua manuals it has complete, excellent advice both for meeting and dating women. It also has lots of good advice for women, too and is also a terrific story of growth. (The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists is the only other book advising men about women which is also a story; all other books are just manuals for tawdry sex.)

Ian opens the book early on with an observation, and perhaps the most important lesson in the book, and one which pua's and other authors like Neil Strauss and Mystery would have benefited greatly by experiencing, as well, but didn't. After working early in his career with a comedian who sleeps with 3 different women in one day, Ian remarks, "And he was still on the prowl! I learned that sex can become a drug for a lot of these guys...I never wanted sex to be like eating a donut or sipping a beer...Too much empty sex - sex for the sake of simply having sex - leads to nothing but empty sex; highly undesirable." He decided early on not to become victim to his own sexual desires - which has clearly happened to the pua leaders (you have to sleep with 1000 women or something to become one, which I don't even believe any of them really have.) He goes on to state that there is a difference between adoring women and adoring sex and that some men who adore sex are actually very hostile toward women. I would say this description accurately depcits popular womanizers like Neil Strauss, Mystery and Tucker Max, who all seem destined to having empty, meaningless sex for the rest of their lives.

Unlike pua's, Ian does not preach about prescribed lines or dozens of defintions; he is about theory - like how to flirt or develop a sense of humor - and gives clear examples of how he developed these skills and how all guys can. For instance, he breaks down humor simply and tells dorks directly why women don't get their jokes. "The roots of humor are relativity and logic. People have to be able to relate to the topic to find the joke funny, which is why many women don't laugh at Star Trek or Three Stooges jokes. Women don't typically watch these shows, so how can they find references to them funny?" He goes on to describe how to develop timing, delivery and all the elements of humor. He does this with flirting, breaking the ice, making a move, yada yada yada; Ian covers it all.

Unlike pua manuals, the advice is not simply a bunch of lines (Neil Strauss promises on his web site to give you all kinds of new lines and jokes if you pay him lots of money); instead, it is the tools to develop everything you need. Once you understand how to flirt, how to be funny, how to be confident, yada yada yada, you can do it anyway you want. Most importantly, Ian explains how women see things; how everything appears from their perspective. Pua books and web sites don't do that because they don't really know; they rely on their lines and techniques; they don't have clue what is actually going thru the woman's mind and how she sees things or even why their techniques actually work. A simple perusal of reviews by women here and Ian's site, where advice is posted for free in his column Lunch is not a Date and for women on Lifetime, and you'll see that women recognize, often reluctantly, that he knows what they are thinking and more importantly, feeling - "Women act on emotion, often making decisions based on how they feel, not what they think. Oftentimes, their minds later second guess the decision, resulting in them experiencing confused emotions. It must be a dizzying experience; and one which guys need to be sensitive to in order to maintain a relationship or even get a date (sometimes women avoid even meeting a guy because they are tired of experiencing the forthcoming mixed bag of second-guessing emotions - "Should I have given him my number? Will he call? Do I really want to go out with him?")."

A great read with lots of advice. No pitches for expensive pua seminars. If you're a woman, it tells you exactly what a guy thinks but be warned - it isn't pretty all the time, though; Ian becomes a real jerk before he turns over a new leaf and he shares all of that. When something starts as new, something else often comes along as the next best thing. Pua's started the movement of books and advice for guys about women and charging money for seminars. Ian's advice is in the book and supplemented on his web site with a free column; Ian is the next best thing. Hopefully, enough guys will discover him before becoming bitter sex addicts.

Also read The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists; the similarity and contrast between the two books is nothing short of fascinating.

The Book and Column are Gold, Pure Gold!!!!.......2007-09-07

I must admit this book and author has me eating crow. So many articles and books out there by purported experts are about a bunch of meaningless jibbersh, like getting a girl's phone number in 5 minutes of meeting her at a bar. Yeah, but how many of those women call back? Probably close to zero but the authors don't talk about that. It's bs. That's what I used to think. Then this week I read an article by Ian Coburn on ezine (man, I wish I could link to it but Amazon won't let me; just search his name or for this book and it will come up.) The article made alot of sense and told guys how to get a woman to return their call, calling out guys who try to get a number in 5 minutes as their focus. "Forget getting her digits. When you meet a woman you like, you want to do 3 things - be memorable, suggest a date, and create a reason to call." Find this article, it is gold! Then Ian's article on "The Flaw of Game" which defends the pua society turned me on to them. (I loathed the pua society before Ian's article explained to me that they weren't jerks, just guys trying to get better with women. He goes on to explain that their created terminology is what gets them looked down upon and misunderstood. He is right, the terms don't really mean what they sound like they mean.)

Basically what's happened with this book is that a comedian with alot of knowledge about women wrote a book telling the hilarious stories where he got that knowledge. It somehow became a dating guide (I agree with other college students that it is the new college dating bible) and Ian got an advice column Lunch is Not a Date. Then Lifetime hired him because he has great advice for women, too. I've been reading all of his advice and stories. It is gold, man, pure gold! Much better than anything I've ever seen and far more insightful.

I read The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed and am reading The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Check them out, too, but realize, as Ian says, your goal should be to change who you are, not rely on lines and openings forever. Use them to get comfortable then move past them. Pua's don't want you to do that because they want to sell you their courses, which is a rip. Read the books. Find Ian's ezine articles "Get Her to Return Your Call" and "What About Her - The Flaw with Game Exposed". They are gold! Also, the second one has a great opener which is guaranteed to get the converstion going easily by wowing her. He calls it "2 to 9" and of course doesn't use it anymore because he is past game (i.e. needing openers, negging, etc), so it's available to the rest of us! (Ian's past lines and openers, onto what he calls the common-denominator. I'm telling you, read the book!)

So Funny.......2007-08-12

This book was so funny. I am doing some research for a class and this was one of the easiest books to get through because it was so funny. It reminded me of a show I saw as part of my research. My First Time in NYC. Both were so funny! Give them a chance.

Fantastic book!.......2007-07-18

This book is brilliant. Buy it, you won't be dissapointed. The stories are hilarious and the advice to men and women is second to none.

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World (The Every Man Series)

Average customer rating:

Great Advice!
P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!
Does not provide complex and nuanced strategies, which are essential for intensely complex dilemmas
A "Must-Read" for teenage girls
fantastic!

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World (The Every Man Series)
Shannon Ethridge , and Stephen Arterburn
Manufacturer: WaterBrook Press
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Binding: Paperback

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Book Description

Guys Aren’t the Only Ones Fighting a Battle for Purity.

The world you live in promotes sex as the answer to just about everything. The pressure to go along with the crowd is greater than ever before, and it’s easy to compromise in little ways that are a lot more harmful than they seem. You and your friends may become caught up in destructive relationships or sexual activities without even knowing how you got there. You just want to be normal–to fit in, to be liked, to look attractive to the opposite sex. But are you paying too high a price?
This counterpart to the award-winning Every Young Man’s Battle can help you:

· learn how the sexual battle begins in your heart and mind
· understand your hunger for attention from guys
· recognize and avoid the potential pitfalls awaiting young women on the journey toward adulthood and possibly marriage
· find out how the media, novels, fashion, internet chat rooms, and body and beauty obsessions influence your sexual choices–and what you can do about it
· guard your mind, heart, and body against sexual and emotional compromise
· develop a deeper, more satisfying level of intimacy with God

Whether you have so far protected yourself emotionally and sexually, feel that you’ve been robbed of your purity, or have given in to temptation in some way, this book can help you achieve or reclaim sexual integrity. It can also guide you through the temptations and pressures of young adulthood while demonstrating how you can live your life to the fullest–without regrets.

Customer Reviews:

Great Advice!.......2007-09-06

Awesome book! Another great book that I recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You

P-E-R-F-E-C-T!!!.......2007-08-21

Another bestseller which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You

Both books are a must read for every woman!

Does not provide complex and nuanced strategies, which are essential for intensely complex dilemmas.......2007-07-31

Do not buy this book. If you are curious and want to evaluate it for yourself, borrow it from your local library (ask for it via inter-library loan if your library does not hold a copy).

Girls who have not acknowledged their own healthy sexual desires, who have not thought about their sexual desires in context with their other desires (to date, to connect with other people, to not have sex until marriage, to find and marry a person with similar values, etc.), and who have not pre-conceptualized how they might manage predictable situations will find themselves ill prepared to handle those situations.

"Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World" does not help prepare or guide the girl who is alone with her boyfriend and finds herself intensely aroused while kissing him. Libido only looses its clarity, not its intensity, when jumbled with the social and cultural complexities of sexuality.

Ethridge and Arterburn do not provide complex and nuanced tools and strategies, which are essential for deeply complex challenges. Hopefully they can do so in their next addition, or perhaps another author will.

In the mean time I think girls and women would be better off reading "Every Young Man's Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation" along with "Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality" by Deborah L. Tolman. (Ethridge and Arterburn should read Tolman's book as well.)

Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality

A "Must-Read" for teenage girls.......2007-07-16

If there had been a book like this for me when I was a teenager in the 70's, I could have saved myself many mistakes. The book answers questions every parent wants to answer but may not know how to or have the nerve to, in a way that is straightforward and scripturally based. I suggest parents and daughters read this one together. We read it together in our high school youth group while the boys read it's companion book, "Every Young Man's Battle". It helps everyone understand why they should remain sexually pure until marriage.

fantastic!.......2007-05-17

This book was real. It touched on the soultion for dealing with constant thoughts of the opposite sex as well as forgiving yourself for your past. Everyone is a new creature when they ask for forgiveness and this book did a great job of reminding us of that. I recommend this book to ALL young preteens, teen age, and young women. Anyone who is interested in EVER dating.

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