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According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.
Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)
Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."
Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening. --Erica Jorgensen
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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises,
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.
Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
"An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent -- and long-lasting -- marriage."
DANIEL GOLEMAN, AUTHOR OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
"Gottman stays refreshingly down to earth, rather than on Mars and Venus."
BILL MARVEL AND GEOFFREY NORMAN, AMERICAN WAY
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic."
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"Twenty-five years of landmark marital research."
USA TODAY
"Offers something every relationship can benefit from."
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"Astonishing new research!"
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Your marriage doesn't have to be rocky to get value from this book........2007-10-18
This is NOT a self help book. I can tell you that honestly because I don't read self help books. Self help books are generalist pseudo-science made up by so-called motivational gurus like Tony Robbins, Rhonda Byrne (The Secret) and Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup guy). The aforementioned books are mental pablum written by corrupt individuals whose goal is to separate you from your money. They are not experts. Their only accomplishment is to come up with a manipulative technique to sell a new version of snake oil.
If you want to learn more on this subject, read SHAM by Steve Salerno. It isn't a perfect book because he falls down a bit in the proof area, and some of his conclusions are outlandish, but he does give you a lot to think about regarding the self help movement.
John Gottman's book is an educational reference. If you want to be a physicist, you read books by experts in the field of physics. If you want to be a good spouse, you read books on marriage by experts in the field of marriage. It's not self help; it's education.
Make sure you pick your "experts" carefully. John Gray (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) is NOT an expert. He got is "PhD" from a diploma mill. The man has no accredited higher education at all. His book is pure, made up, stereotypical garbage. He came up with a catchy title, went on Oprah, and made millions because there are a lot of gullible people out there. Don't be one of them.
Gottman, however, really is an expert. He is one of the best in his field and is recognized as such by his peers. His credentials are legitimate and he wrote a very good book. My marriage was good before I read it. My wife brought it home because, as a family doctor, she often talks to her patients about their relationships and this was part of her overall education. I like improving myself, so I read it too and it helped. My marriage wasn't in need of saving, but fine tuning is always a good idea, so I used the techniques and they work. It helped evolve my marriage from good to great.
I can see how it would help save marriages that were really on the rocks, although I don't have the first hand experience in this regard. What Gottman has to say really resonates about things that you should and should not do in a marriage. On that note, I think people give up on relationships too easily. They become too self absorbed, worry about their own needs and forget the joy to be had in being dedicated to making someone they love happy. Not all marriages can be fixed, but most can.
It doesn't take much to motivate me to stay married, but the one thing that terrifies me more than anything about getting divorced is the thought of some other guy being a stepfather to my children. I am very protective of my kids, and no man will EVER take my place as their father as long as I'm alive. Think about that before you sleep with your secretary.
I have one criticism of Gottman. He's an expert, and he knows it. His book comes across as arrogant, and sometimes the material is dry. Forgive me, but I like to be entertained a little. I accept that you are an expert or I wouldn't be reading your book, so you don't have to keep reminding me. The information is great, but it isn't exactly a page turner. Perhaps he should have done different male and female versions with the same content, but written in different styles. A few metaphorical car chases and explosions couldn't have hurt.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Gu.......2007-10-15
This is a great book! I have read many relationship books and this is clearly the best. It is so easy to read and offers a lot of practical guidance. There are step by step exercises for you and your partner to work on together. Rebuilding and re-aquainting with each other. I found it to be hopeful and reassuring. It has helped me immensely in my relationship. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is looking for help in your relationship.
A must for couples considering marriage/long-term partnership.......2007-09-30
My fiancee and I decided to be proactive and visit a psychologist before we had any relationship issues and before we got married. He recommended Gottman to us, and what a fabulous recommendation it was! Reading "Seven Principles" really illustrated with lucidity what it was about my parents' marriage that has always bothered me (contempt from my mother in their arguments) and gave clear steps on how to avoid this and other relationship killers. It was very reaffirming in that it doesn't tell couples not to fight (because how realistic is that?), but teaches them how to fight and how to agree to disagree. My fiancee is in the process of reading it now, and I'm excited for him to finish so we can talk it over. The last principle, in particular, is really great for people who already have solid relationships...it made me excited to get married!
A really excellent book overall, Gottman's writing style is clear and concise!
A must have in protecting one's marriage!.......2007-09-26
This book is absolutely essential in the treatment of marriage or couple counseling, as well as can be used by anyone interested in strengthening their own marriage/relationships. It is helpful because it is basic, layed out in a very simplistic manner, and is an easy reader. The book offers concrete instructions for couples on how to improve their closeness, connection, and communication. It is also based on scientific studies thereby offering value and effectiveness of the techniques illustrated in the book. I would highly recommend it for struggling couples, those considering divorce, as well as couples with a good relationship seeking a closer bond.
researched through many, this one the best .......2007-09-05
This author uses common sense and clinical study and marries the 2 together,
He gives simple, thought provoking questions and daily/weekly effective deeds to do. Insightful and effective. We're using it to help others but aNYONE can take a few hints from this even MR and MRS perfectly happy.
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Back by popular demand -- and newly updated by the author -- the mega-bestselling spiritual guide in which Marianne Williamson shares her reflections on A Course in Miracles and her insights on the application of love in the search for inner peace.
Williamson reveals how we each can become a miracle worker by accepting God and by the expression of love in our daily lives. Whether psychic pain is in the area of relationships, career, or health, she shows us how love is a potent force, the key to inner peace, and how by practicing love we can make our own lives more fulfilling while creating a more peaceful and loving world for our children.
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I did NOT like this book.......2007-09-28
This book was recommended by a friend. He told me he recommends this book to his friends. I ordered the book and read it. The author has written of her own personal lifes experiences: At a young age she was into a wild life-style which is not uncommon for young adults. She stated that because of her life-style, she never felt very happy or fulfilled in many ways. Then...voila! She decided to find god....something 'greater than herself' to help her out. The entire book, in my opinion, is nothing but prosyletizing.... It's certainly not a book I would even suggest to any one I know---believers or not. She wrote of her own, very personal experiences....period. That's fine, I suppose, in and of itself. But... I wouldn't even want to give the book to a stranger.....I put it in with all my paper recycling.
All Time Favorite.......2007-08-31
This book is my all time favorite! I have read it multiple times and often open it and read whatever page I open to. It is always relevant to my life, relationships and spiritual growth. Marianne Williamson is blessed with an insight, personal understanding and awareness that bring the Course in Miracles to our everyday experience.
A must read for "Miracle- Workers".......2007-08-13
"A Return to Love" is a clear and fluent spiritual love story. Marianne Williamson takes the principles from "A Course in Miracles," and makes them accessible through explanations, anecdotes, personal experiences and simple metaphors that reveal the spiritual journey, one which is quite simply a conscious journey to turn from fear and return to love. I found this book life changing. It is inspiring and motivating. I loved it.
a return to love.......2007-08-09
good book. i love the way marianne expresses herself and her experiences which helped me, again, to realize that i'm not alone and that love is all there is.
Another self proclaimed spiritual teacher........2007-08-01
An anecdotal story. When I lived in Michigan Williamson was the spiritual leader of a church I attended. Williamson would speak with insight and wisdom on numerous subjects yet was unable to merge her talk with her action. While she often commented on environmental issues she continued to drive an appalling gas guzzler, while she spoke eloquently about the poor, she also happened to live in a mansion, while she provided social political commentary, she also supported Democrats who were bought and paid for by corporations and refused to give equal time to progressive Green candidates, while she noted the disparity between rich and poor, she nevertheless wore Armani gowns and $300.00 dollar shoes. Williamson talks the talk, the problem was a annoying matter of embodiment.
I often read commentaries by Williamson on other spiritual authors books. She uses words like "awakener" and "enlighten" often to characterize these people; the problem with her characterizations says more about the blind leading the blind than it says about anything else. The word the best fits is PollyAnnish to describe her world view as she disseminates her eco-la-la love conquers all routine to the choir of disciples. Williams level of praxis seeks to insure that her photo is on the cover of most of her books followed by a stage big enough to satisfy her monumental ego.
Personally, I would rather read a spiritual book by someone who walks their talk; Williamson is not anywhere near that category of praxis. And I doubt she ever will be.
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Secrets about Life Every Woman Should Know : Ten Principles for Total Emotional and Spiritual Fulfillment
Barbara De Angelis
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Barbara De Angelis's best-selling books, her frequent appearances on major national talk shows, her phenomenally successful infomercial Making Love Work, and her candid advice on sex and relationships have earned her a devoted following. Now, one of the nation's premier relationships experts turns her attention to the most important relationship a woman could ever have: the one with herself.Secrets about Life Every Woman Should Know is an inspirational guide for creating the true freedom women of all ages are seeking-- the freedom that comes from knowing how to tap into a powerful inner state of confidence, clarity, and peace-- and how to protect it from life's ups and downs. With her trademark blend of gentle wisdom, compassion, and warmth, Ms. De Angelis will show you how to create a life that feels like it is working, like it makes sense, and, most importantly, a life in which you are living and loving as the powerful, fulfilled woman you've always wanted to be.Her Ten Principles for Total Emotional and Spiritual Fulfillment are practical, invaluable tools for building an inner center of emotional and spiritual self-reliance. Secrets about Life Every Woman Should Know invites you to discover a source of real emotional security that nothing and no one can take away, and to experience the kind of lasting happiness you've always believed was possible.
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Had it for 6 years, just read it -.......2007-07-15
You know that saying "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear?" Well, Barbara had been here for some time and whenever I cleared out the old or "never going to read" books, she held on. Now that I needed her, she kind of called out to me from the bookshelf. I read the book in one sitting. I cried, I laughed, I found clarity and I am so thankful. This book can be lifechanging and she'll wait until you're ready.
the only book that can change your life perspective.......2007-06-18
This book came as a life-saver for me during the time when I was under tremendous stress from juggling the problems and obstacles in my life. I was so stressful that time until my health was deterioriating. Thanks to the book, coz without it, I would not have become a happier and freer person which I am now. I can almost instantly feel my perspective towards life change as I was reading this book.
If you are feeling very stressful with the problems/obstacles in your life, please get this book and read it. It will change your life instantly!
Good book........2007-05-15
When I first read this book, I had purchased it by mistake. I thought I was buying "Secrets about Men Every Woman Should Know", which I read many years earlier after seeing Barbara DeAngelis on Oprah. I so enjoyed "Secrets about Men..." that when I saw it in a window, I snagged it quickly. To my surprise, I bought an even better book this time, "Secrets about Life...". I gave that copy to my mother who also thoroughly enjoyed it, and then bought a new copy from Amazon to share with another friend.
The author writes from her own experiences using a very personal perspective that I find easy to relate to.
Best Advice Ever.......2007-05-14
This book has some of the best advice ever in it. Especially if you are at that cross roads in your life. A cross between a kick in the rump and a hug.
Highly recommend this book if you are ready to seriously listen to the possibility of change being real in your life. Don't just talk about it. Do it. And remember everything happens for a reason. 5 stars.
I love this book.......2006-05-27
Excellent reading, highly recommended. Something you can go back to again and again.
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Ten proven principles for choosing the right marriage partner, and seven danger signs to
look for while dating.
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A Good Grounding.......2007-03-12
This book does a good job at making one step back and realize what is and what is not right in a relationship. This book never gets too directional or limiting (i.e. you should never marry someone with green hair, etc.), but guides you through what makes a solid relationship, and what might make for a bumpy road. I had wandered through the dating world always wondering what I was supposed to be looking for, and I believe this book will help me become more focused.
I'm not Christian, and I had worried that this book might be too "preachy," but was pleasantly suprised when religion was mentioned more in a spiritual sense.
This should be mandatory reading........2007-01-15
I got divorced after 19 years of marriage; the last six of which really saw its deterioration.
Chapter One lists Dr. Warren's seven principles. I realized that my ex- and I had violated five of them. Right from the start, we were in trouble.
Let me introduce another aspect to the challenge of choosing the right marriage partner. I'm sure my fellow reviewers have already rained the accolades that this book deserves.
I'm Asian and, while it's not practiced in the Philippines (from where I come from), arranged marriages are the norm for more than 60% of the world's population. Think about it. It's only in the more industrialized societies where women have attained enough social status and independence that women have the freedom to exercise their right of choice. How many are there? There are more than six billion of us now.
Let's say North America has 350 million. Central and South contribute another 500 million. Western Europe another 500 million. Japan another 300 million. Australia and the more industrialized parts of Africa, say 100 million. Those are generous figures that I didn't take the time to verify but I'll bet the sum of 1.75 billion is roughly accurate. Round it up to two billion and that means that only 33% of us practice the right to choose their own marriage partner.
Does anybody know the stats for arranged marriages?
My ex- and I were going to Asia in the early 90s and got stranded in Tokyo with this Indian man, our age (at that time in our early 30s), who was going back to India to marry his chosen bride. I wonder what became of them.
So anyway, that's the blog I didn't mean to start.
A Must Read for Every Man and Woman Looking for Mr./Ms. Right!.......2006-08-25
Oh, brother, was I ever looking for love in all the wrong people! Until I read this book, I didn't realize the meaning of commitment, nor did I have the tools to eliminate emotionally unhealthy individuals from my list of prospective mates. Dr. Warren has written the best book on finding the perfect mate for me, how to eliminate obstacles BEFORE things get too involved and, most importantly, how to recognize deal-breakers right at the beginning. I will read this book again and again in order to reinforce Dr. Warren's principles for finding my perfect partner and best friend!!
Eye opening and wonderful.......2006-03-10
My fiance and I purchased our first copy of this book four years ago; before Dr. Warren was popularized by the TV commercials. We found it to be so helpful in our relatioship, that we recently purchased several more copies as gifts for our grown children (from previous marriages). If you're not currently in a relationship, the book has a great section to help you determine the type of person you would be compatible with. For those already in relationships, it helps you determine how compatible you are. There is a wonderful list of 50 items to discuss with your relationship partner. These items will help determine your compatibility on a wide range of issues, from finances and parenting to the temperature setting of your home. We highly recommend the book to everyone seeking or currently in a relationship.
Helped me to wait for the right man .......2006-02-20
I read this book more than 10 years ago when I was 21 years old and dating my first boyfriend (I was picky). My boyfriend and I read it together and found it very helpful. In fact, we realized that we weren't for each other!
This book has you picture your ideal mate and to list the top essential things that you must have in a spouse and the top things you definately don't want in a spouse. I'm so glad I followed his advice! I had very few things on my "must have" list and a reasonable amount of things on my "must not have". I also had a bunch of things on my "optional" list. I did not date again for 7 years! I just figured that such a man must not exist and told everyone I wouldn't get married. I figured that I'd rather not marry and still retain the choice than to get marry and regret it.
I finally met a wonderful man and because of the work I'd done with this book so long ago I knew he was what I was looking for. In fact, one evening after having a long prayer time with him I realized that he not only had everything on my "essential list" and nothing on my "must not have list", but he had everything on my optional list!!! ...plus some things I hadn't hoped to ask for. I can't say this will happen this way for everyone, but if I hadn't been encouraged by this book to wait I most certainly have married someone who didn't fit me nearly as well.
Now I've been married for 5 1/2 years and am in love with my husband as I was when I first met him. Because I'd learned in this book what to look for and what to becareful of I knew what I was getting into and have not had any dreadful surprises along the way. We are very happily married and celebrated the birth of our first child last fall.
I've read all kinds of books on marriage and most of them say exactly the same things in differnt words, but this one offers things other books don't. This is the one I give to all my friends who are looking for a spouse and feel uncertain. I highly recommend it!
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his voice will go with you.......2003-12-04
I don't believe enough can be said about the high quality of this book. Obviously you have to be already within a certain frame of reference in order to jive with this material, but if you are somebody who practices counceling or therapy and who is interested in the landscape where depth psychology meets the art of brief therapy, I would invite you to go nuts about his materpiece.
Gilligan beautifully weaves his model of Self-Relations into a serious conversation as to the dynamic that exists between and within both the client and the therapist. He points to ways we can embody ourselves as we help our clients reembody their lives, finding the balance that allows them to gently touch their center.
This book can be a meditative read in which you dwell within certain sentences and let your wisdom open up and sneak out in surprising new ways.
It really is a masterpiece. But don't purchase this book if you are looking for a practical self-help book or a precise manual in applying psychotherapy in various clinical contexts...
Useful only to the enlightened.......2003-05-18
This book is very advanced. You have to be very enlightened in order to gain benefits from the book as the book is written in psychology, new age and Buddihist jargons. You will gain virtually nothing if you are not an expert in those fields.
I gave it one start is because I am largely a laymen and found little benefits from the book. However, if you are a guru in psychology, new age and Buddihism, you might rate this book 4 to 5 starts.
Theories to think about, learn, feel, and contemplate.......2000-01-26
Stephen Gilligan is a loving, playful, and sometimes fierce therapist, who is highly skilled in what he does with clients, and in his teaching as well.He is also a tremendously talented hypnotherapist, and a pretty nice guy to boot!
I think that his book offers a great deal of wonderful ideas for people to contemplate and try out. I sometimes suggest it to my clients to read so that they have a clearer idea of how I am hoping to help them.You do not need to be a professional to get a lot out of this book.
A wonderfully insightful book for healing.......1998-08-23
After you think you know what hypnotherapy is all about, this book will give you a larger perspective into ourselves and how the skills and concepts of hypnosis, aikido, and human sponsorship can help us.
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Instead of working on solving problems in your relationship, minister/relationship coach Susan Page teaches “Spiritual Partnership,” allowing you to outgrow these problems. Focus on behaving in a spiritual way yourself, rather than fixing your relationship or your partner, and you and your partner will be happier and your relationship will be stronger.
Communication and negotiation don't solve conflicts in love relationships, Page asserts. Rather, make an inner shift yourself--independent of your partner--and learn to "love openly and freely." Her process involves "the Five Sacred Acts of Love":
- Practice Restraint: refrain from negative, critical, and demanding comments.
- Act As If: act loving, even if you don't feel like it.
- Act on Your Own: take care of your own needs.
- Practice Acceptance: stop trying to change your partner.
- Cultivate Compassion: understand that your partner's attitudes and behavior are the way they are for good reasons.
The book offers compelling arguments for abandoning the "marketplace" communication style in favor of goodwill, self-care, and a spiritual, harmonious, loving response to your partner. Page takes you step by step through the Spiritual Partnership process, interspersing it with anecdotes and exercises.
"Marriage and loving partnerships are ... for learning how to give and receive love. That's all," writes Page. If We're So in Love, Why Aren't We Happy is highly recommended for anyone who wants to improve a love relationship--from the inside out. --Joan Price
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Susan Page, a Protestant minister, popular teacher, and bestselling writer on relationships, now turns her hand to a crucial question so many couples face: If we know we love each other, why do we spend so much of our time together arguing, negotiating, or making up? Why, quite simply, aren’t we happy?
Susan has explored this question while working with and observing countless couples struggling in their relationships. She discovered something revolutionary: even the most troubled couples could be enjoying each other if only they would adopt a few simple yet powerful and deeply spiritual principles. Another revelation: it only takes one member of the couple to make this work. Yet another: by adopting these principles and letting go of the popular myths and assumptions about relationships so many of us have been taught, you can not only vastly improve your relationship but develop your own inner sense of self. Your relationship can become your spiritual path.
Those who have followed Susan’s program report that their relationships have become loving again, and that their sense of self-esteem and spiritual development has been deepened. They no longer call what they have with their mate a marriage or relationship but rather a true spiritual partnership. The process outlined here is simple yet profound and is based on what Susan calls five sacred principles or acts that one member or both members of the couple follow, principles that emerge naturally out of the spiritual traditions of Christianity and Buddhism.
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Relations need work.......2007-01-11
This is the first step towards healing & improvement if you really love each other.
Spirituality and practicality in one volume.......2005-06-12
As a pastor, I have given away many copies of this book to people struggling in intimate relationship--and I've used it in my own marriage.
There are many classics of spiritual wisdom and many nuts-and-bolts self-help books on relationship. Susan Page brilliantly combines the two. Her gift is to translate spiritual ideals into practical, understandable, and eminently achievable goals for everyday living in spiritual partnership--the Buddha channeled by Ann Landers!
Read this book, apply its lessons, and transform yourself and your relationship.
Anyone in a Relationship should get this book.......2004-08-05
I found this book when browsing through the many relationship books and decided to give it a read on a whim. My boyfriend of 2 years and I have been struggling recently and I needed help.
This book is all the help I could want AND MORE. I feel so positive and recharged about our relationship ALREADY and I just finished reading it. I KNOW that what's in this book can help my relationship and I know it could help others. This is a MUST BUY, even if you aren't having PROBLEMS right now... The Sacred Acts will help keep you from having HORRIBLE problems in the future.
HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
This book is a precious gift disguised as a book.......2003-02-27
If you are seeking to feel love in your heart but feel blocked because your partner is clueless, uncooperative, self-centered and blames you -- or for any reason "because of him/her" and you suffer because it feels like no matter how hard you try, the patch doesn't hold -- this is the book that teaches, guides and encourages you how to get back to the love, how to create powerful and healing changes, how to feel safe and connected with yourself, how to look at your partner again with loving and how to work with yourself in your own healing and strengthening. And, your partner is not required to read the book, work the suggestions or be molded by you. You reclaim your power and your energy investing in what can truly make a deeply valuable, loving, rich and life-changing difference--you work with you. I've been working these techniques for over 20 years, in marriage, and have been learning about and thriving far beyond I ever thought possible. It didn't take long for small miracles to begin AND they continue to unfold and to grow for both of us. Susan Page has offered a truly generous gift with this book for all people--currently coupled or not.
Great book, Lousy title.......2002-09-07
I almost didn't read this book because I was so put off by the title. In my opinion a much better title would have been "Spiritual Partnership," since that's what this book is about.
My husband and I never went through a "madly-in-love" stage in our relationship; however, after 20+ years of marriage and four kids, we have forged a bond that somehow transcends the long list of unresolvable problems. We had certainly gotten to the point of realizing that more discussion just doesn't work: Most of our issues have been on the table for years. We've discussed them many times, we understand the other person's point of view, and can even empathize to a certain extent. And yet, when one of these issues would come up (once again), I would often feel hopeless and demoralized.
This book really helped me to change my focus; and to the extent I was able to follow through with the "experiments," I saw improvement--not in getting my husband to finally see things "my way," but in both of us being happier and more comfortable.
This is one of the best books on relationships that I have ever read; and although its focus is on couples, I found the approaches it recommends are helpful in my relationships with my children as well.
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Summer of Love: The Principles of Love
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Book Description
After a rough spring semester at Hadley Hall, Love Bukowski is ready for some sun on Martha's Vineyard. Running her Aunt Mable's cafe might not sound glamorous, but when she's working with her best friend, Arabella, anything can be fun. Plus, Mable's set up a treasure map of clues for her to find-each one bringing Love closer to the truth about her family history.
But now that those pieces of her past are finally fitting together, Love's future isn't clear. College and senior year are ahead, but the boys of summer are more appealing than ever. Surprises, sun, summer love-no matter what happens, the next three months will be ones to write home about.
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Courtesy of Teens Read Too.......2007-03-15
SUMMER OF LOVE occurs right after Love's aunt Mable dies, leaving a huge hole in Love's life. She decides to attend the last big hurrah of the year with Jacob. She arrives late at the Vineyard and needs Arabella to cover for her at the cafe.
The summer, once so full of promise, has a very rocky start.
Love discovers that Mable left her clues around the island, a mini treasure hunt of life that has Love thinking about second chances. With so many ideas and choices floating around in Love's mind, it's a wonder that she gets anything accomplished. What will she do with her life now that college applications are looming before her? Should she track down her mother?
SUMMER OF LOVE continues Love's adventures, leaving the book open-ended for the next chapter in Love's life. Love is a wonderful character that readers will immediately find a connection with. Emily Franklin poses great questions that leave the reader thinking long after finishing the book.
Reviewed by: Jennifer Rummel
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This book is about love as a Cosmic gift given to two people to awaken, strengthen, heal, and nourish their true selves. It is also about the Cosmic principles laid out in the I Ching that govern the love relationship. It shows, in a clear language, that by bringing ourselves into harmony with these principles, we can make our deepest and most meaningful relationships endure.
Customer Reviews:
Better than "The Secret" -- Transforming my life!.......2007-07-12
I recently made my chiropractor sell me this book right out of her waiting room. It is transorming my life -- not only my love life! It essentially shows one, in a very elegant and straightforward way, how to do the inner work of relationship with one's essential self, using the love relationship with "other" as the cauldron of transformation to relate only to the essential self in self and other, and not to wrestle with the ego of either.
As mentioned in a review below, the work involves seeing the partner as whole and perfect, and not being deceived by outer circumstances or actions caused by THEIR fearful ego. It sees the purpose of the love relationship as being drawn to oneself (and the partner) as the means to free each partner's essential self from ego, and beautifully expounds on the nuances involved in this simple, yet most difficult of paths.
There is nothing to "do" except find the trust in the love between you and that the universe is unfolding as it should. Anything else would be the ego's strategic attempt to control the situation, which is always doomed to failure.
I been applying the principles as I read the book (over and over!) and am finding a love being returned that I thought I had lost. This book reminds me that even if the ultimate outcome is not "being together" that by the time this becomes the self-evident next step, there will be no sadness or anger (to say nothing of NOT reinforcement of old negative self-talk about why this happened)but that the self that will have developed in the process will be ready to receive an even grander relationship than the one that got away.
I am online to purchase several copies, so I can give them to all of my girlfriends!
Love ,an Inner Connection.......2001-06-30
The book explores realms that are only seldom considered ,for their peculiar nature,and for not beeing easily"catalogued".. The paramount influence,Carol Anthony explains, it is not so much what we whish or desire..but rather what "we do".. " we cannot want the love from one person.." wanting something is still ego based talk..hence unsuccessful. " the way back.. ,straight into someone'heart is to "change the way we see them" as thoroughly as possible and as honestly..
This IS a formidable lesson! and Lesson # 2:.. "nothing can be hidden from, the loving heart of the person we are connected with.."no lies,regardless of their"size"or Color"(white?".).the two hearts are so intimately connected,and at such profound,non measurable level,that alienation soon ensues "The other" may never know the specifics,but the consequences are nevertless as damaging for the relation,that soon or later,breaks apart If the book would contain only these 2 formidable truth,would already be plenty..but thre are imbedded, in the generous and simple prose,hundreds of pure gems.... Such an exquisite voice. Such an exquisite lesson,for the avid heart,on its path to "redemption" Adolfo de' Martino
Extraordinarily helpful and relevent.......1999-04-23
After working closely with Carol Anthony's "Guide to the I Ching" for a year, I found myself truly transformed in attitude and awareness. That work which continues, was hallmarked by an unexpected relationship and when I felt the powerlessness of loving another, I reached to "Love, an Inner Connection" because it was based in the principles I was familiar with. This book is absolutely necessary to guide you through the challenges of loving another. It requires that we grow up, discard useless attitudes and prejudices, and work from faith and discipline. It seeks to teach those who are willing to learn, that loving requires enormous perseverence and patience, and that relationships that are meant to last, indeed require work.
Mrs.Anthony's understanding of the I Ching and her unique talent of bringing an ancient text to our "current" issues serves as an inexhaustible source of inspiration and strength.
wonderfully well written and helpful book on love.......1998-09-08
This book is a spiritually based and illuminating work on how we connect with the other in a love relationship, based on the author's work with the I Ching. Unique in its approach, it is an in depth and spiritually based work.
Book Description
After an unbelievable semester in London, Love Bukowski is back at Hadley Hall, suffering from major Euro-withdrawal and an acute longing for her Brit boyfriend. But she had to make a sudden departure from London Academy of Drama and Music to be by her Aunt Mable's side while she fights breast cancer.
As far as long-distance romance goes, let's just say London is not calling. But her ex, Jacob, has popped back into her life. Meanwhile, her dad claims she's picked up some pretty obnoxious habits across the pond, and her Aunt Mable is dropping more hints than ever about her mystery mother's identity. Looks like spring semester may still have a few more surprises to spring on her.
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Courtesy of Teens Read Too.......2007-07-06
Love Bukowski is back in the United States after a semester in London at the London Academy of Drama and Music.
She had to leave her Brit boyfriend, who, when she gets home to the US, doesn't want to seem to talk to her, until he announces that he's coming for a visit. She had to leave London to be at her Aunt Mable's side because she is fighting breast cancer. She is suffering from major Europe-withdrawals and it turns out that her dad has a new girlfriend -- and he tells her that she picked up some bad habits while in Europe.
As if that isn't bad enough, Love's ex-boyfriend, Jacob, has become super-popular while she was gone!
This book is slow in many parts but you have to feel kind of sorry for Love, who had to leave everything that she loved in London behind. Plus, when she gets back, her Aunt Mable seems to be doing pretty well at first, but then tragedy strikes. It seems like when Love comes back to the US, everything is different then when she left, so it's kind of like culture shock for her, even though the US is her home. This is a cute but sometimes slow read.
Reviewed by: Taylor Rector
Fresh and realistic dialogue in a fluffy teen read.......2006-09-19
All You Need Is Love is the fourth installment in author Emily Franklin's The Principles of Love series. Our heroine, Love Bukowski, has moved back to her Massachusetts day school after a stint in London. The plot focuses on Love's long distance romance struggles, her relationship with her American ex-boyfriend, and re-adjusting to life with her father, who isn't too thrilled with Love's post-Europe habits and has a girlfriend of his own now. Throw in a sick relative who is full of dirt on the family secrets, and you've got plenty of tension and conflict for a two hundred and fifty-page novel. The narrative is certainly action-packed, but at times, the number of stressors in Love's life detracts from an otherwise cute storyline. The dialogue is fresh and realistic, so as a pure fluff read, this book is enjoyable. Don't pay full retail price, though.
Okay.......2006-09-06
Love Bukowski has had to leave the London Academy of Drama and Music, and boyfriend Asher Piece, to return home to Massachusetts because her beloved Aunt Mable is in the advanced stages of breast cancer. She's returned to Hadley (a prep school where she is a day student) to learn that her time in London will not count toward her graduation credits because, while she's actually doing the work, she is not in attendance. She's required to complete a special project if she wants to graduate on time.
Love misses her life in London, but is drawn to her ex-boyfriend Jacob who's matured since she left town. Her nemesis Lindsay Parrish hints at a relationship with Jacob.
Love's male friend Chris is her support system and introduces her to Haverford and Chilton, the new 'kids' at school. And Aunt Mable provides Love with information about her mysterious mother who left her when she was an infant.
Her father has a new love interest and he struggles with his daughter's 'growing up.' But what Love wants is for school to get out, Mable to get well, and her friend Arabella to arrive from London for a visit--and of course, Asher's trip across the pond is what she lives for. But Asher has other ideas.
All You Need Is Love had the potential of being a wonderful story, but there were just too many characters and storylines that were never fully developed. I didn't feel as if I got to know any of the characters (except for Love) and the conflict and tension that would have added much to the story, fizzled. I was also distracted by the way scenes ran together and changed completely without an obvious break.
There will be another Love Bukowski book released in the near future, but I don't think I'm going to read it.
Armchair Interviews says: A good story that could have been better with fewer characters and more clarity.
Book Description
After leaving boarding school to study at the London Academy of Drama and Music, Love Bukowski is learning a lot, especially about love. Too bad the guy she's falling for is off-limits. But she's got plenty to take her mind (if not her lips) off said British Boy. And it's not like there isn't enough going on back in the States. For starters, Love's dad has a new girlfriend, her Aunt Mable is fighting breast cancer, the guy she left behind hooked up with the biggest you-know-what on campus, and her vocal lessons keep getting harder. Maybe life is trying to tell her something-or maybe she's just distracted by all that London (and love) have to offer.
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After leaving boarding school to study at the London Academy of Drama and Music, Love Bukowski is learning a lot, especially about love. Too bad the guy she's falling for is off-limits. But she's got plenty to take her mind (if not her lips) off said British Boy. And it's not like there isn't enough going on back in the States. For starters, Love's dad has a new girlfriend, her Aunt Mable is fighting breast cancer, the guy she left behind hooked up with the biggest you-know-what on campus, and her vocal lessons keep getting harder. Maybe life is trying to tell her something-or maybe she's just distracted by all that London (and love) have to offer.
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How can one not be charmed by Love?.......2006-04-05
For our third encounter with Love Bukowski, we gladly join her as she travels across the pond to spend a term studying abroad in London. As we were in The Principles of Love and Piece, Love, & Happiness, we are drawn in by her intelligent and insightful writing, her exciting and adventurous experiences, and her intriguing and fascinating acquaintances.
Although it can be an enjoyable and entertaining read on its own, I recommend that Love from London be read in the context of not only books one and two (mentioned above) but of the books to come.
In The Principles of Love series, Emily Franklin has written a story that is never boring, populating it with characters who grab your interest. I can't wait to find out how all the pieces fit together for Love!
best One Yet!.......2006-04-05
This is the best book so far in the Love series! It's fairly obvious from the title, but Love Bukowski heads to London for a semester with her friend Arabella (you meet her in Piece, Love, and Happiness). Love experiences a whole new world, meets new friends, deals with campus life there, and finds out the mystery of Arabella's family. Like the other books, this one made me laugh, think, and really want to know what happens next.
Love goes to London.......2006-04-03
I found myself a little disappointed in this third book in the 'Principles of Love' series. The first two were better than this one.
It just seemed to me that in 'Love From London' not much happens except that she's in a new city and kisses a guy she likes. Hopefully the third book coming out in the fall will pick up a little bit to make up for this one.
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