North of Ithaka: A Journey Home Through a Family's Extraordinary Past
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North of Ithaka: A Journey Home Through a Family's Extraordinary Past
Eleni N. Gage
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ASIN: 0312340281
Release Date: 2005-04-28

Book Description

'A brilliant story....an interesting saga of immigration, belonging and community.' -The Observer(UK) L eaving behind a sparkling social life and successful career, Eleni Gage moved from New York City to Lia-the remote Greek village where her father was born and her grandmother murdered, and which her father, Nicholas Gage, made famous twenty years ago with his international bestseller Eleni.Although her aunts warned she would invite the curse her grandmother placed on any member of her family who returned to Greece, Eleni was determined to come to terms with her family's tragic history. Along the way, she learned to dodge bad omens, battle scorpions on her pillow, and the shadows in her heart. She also came to understand that Greece and its memories were not only dark and death-filled, and that memories of the dead can bring new life to the present and hope to the future. Part travel memoir and part family saga, North of Ithakais, above all, a journey home.

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5 out of 5 stars A magificent book.......2007-03-19

This book is a rare treat.

I loved reading it - I was mesmerized by it and during this snowed-in weekend when I read it, I was transported to Lia, where I lived under its magnificent sky with the changing sunset colors (enjoyed from the vernada of the Haidis house); observed up close the house reconstruction project; and came to know an entire village, feeling if not a Liotan myslef, at least like a frequent visitor.

What also springs out of the book, perhaps more than Lia and its people, is the author herself: nice, smart, mature, perceptive and talented.

And a note to her father: you're a great author but she is at least as good a writer as you, not to say better. So please give up the comparisons with her at the Thanksgiving table, there are genetics out there and there is also evolution -- and she has both aplenty. I'm sure you glow with justified pride having her as a daughter. Anyone would!

Bottom Line: A SUPERB BOOK - NOT TO BE MISSED!

3 out of 5 stars the granddaughter speaks.......2007-01-18

The star is still her grandmother, Eleni, killed during the Greek Civil War for trying to save her children. In a word, it's the story of Eleni returning to Lia, the family village, to remember her grandmother close up and rebuild the family house. Without the memory of reading ELENI by her father, Nick Gage, I would never have read or understood NORTH OF ITHAKA. So that's the review: first read Nick's book about his mother, most likely the most riveting and compelling of my 55 year reading career. You should read ELENI, and you must have to understand NORTH OF ITHAKA.

5 out of 5 stars a moving follow up in the "Eleni" series.......2006-07-24

As a half-Greek American, I was moved when reading "Eleni" and "A Time For Us," two books by Eleni Gage's Dad (Nicholas Gage) that detail the atrocities committed against her family during the Greek civil war, which was fought immediately post-World-War-2. Eleni's grandmother (also named Eleni) was ultimately murdered by the communists who were trying to take control over Greece during that war (thank God they did not win) -- she was executed for the crime of helping her children to escape war-torn Greece and ultimately to emigrate to America. "North of Ithaka" is a timely follow-up to this family's story.

Eleni recounts leaving her lucrative job in New York City (around the 2001-2002 timeframe) to move to her family's remote village of Lia, in the province of Epiros in northwestern Greece. There, with financial backing from her Dad, she undertakes rebuilding her grandmother (and namesake) Eleni's home, which was used as a prison during the Greek civil war and had fallen into disrepair over the years.

This book illustrates how even small village life can hold love and meaning to modern, cosmopolitan Americans. I do recommend reading her Dad Nicholas's book "Eleni" before reading "North of Ithaka," since many events discussed in "North of Ithaka" relate to the story of her grandmother's murder, to her family's hardships in Greece, and to their eventual emigration to America. However, it is not essential to read "Eleni" prior to reading this book.

As a bonus, there is a collection of traditional Greek recipes at the end of the book. I bought a briki (Greek coffee pot) and now make 1-2 cups of traditional Greek coffee every day! As Eleni mentions, we call this coffee Greek, never Turkish.

4 out of 5 stars Discover a Grecian Villiage.......2006-06-23

Many times you need to read a book for the sole purpose of stepping outside your own life. Eleni Gage's tale of the year she spent rebuilding her ancestral home in Lia, Greece allows you to do just that. I have read plenty of travel narratives but there are very few that describe a place with such clarity that it feels like you are actually there. The author's father previously wrote about the village of Lia in his work about his mother's imprisonment and execution there. Eleni Gage chose to return to the scene of such tragedy to eliminate the ghosts of her past while rebuilding her grandmother's house for future generations. While moving to a different country to build a home or a new life are common concepts for travel memoirs, very few showcase the emotions that Eleni Gage allows to seep onto the page.

4 out of 5 stars fascinating memoir .......2006-05-03

In 2002, Manhattan magazine editor Eleni N. Gage decided to rebuild her paternal family's villa in the Greek village of Lia on the Albanian border. Her four aunts, residents of Massachuestess, were upset and angry as they feared their neice would be murdered by Albanians. In their minds that was the good outcome; the bad outcome would be the return of the curse of their late mom, Eleni's paternal grandmother, who, in 1948, was tortured and executed for enabling her children to escape the Greek civil war (see ELENI by Nicholas Gage). Still the obsessed Eleni believes she must do this to pay homage to her grandmother and to provide solace to those still impacted over five decades since her murder. With the help of the townsfolk and the hindrance of the bureaucracy, Eleni's odyssey begins.

This is a fascinating memoir that is at its best with the reactions by the author's Greek-American relatives and the Greek villagers to the energetic American's objective. Readers will feel the impact of her grandmother's death on those still living in the village and in Massachusetts though over fifty years have passed. Though warm and well written, NORTH OF ITHAKA never leaves the audience with a sense of importance or wonder even when making the case of good omens vs. evil memories. Still this is a fine entry that is best read after obtaining her father's memoir ELENI that hauntingly describes what happened in 1948.

Harriet Klausner
Ithaka
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Ithaka
Adele Geras
Manufacturer: Harcourt Children's Books
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Many years have passed since the end of the Trojan War, and Penelope is still waiting for her husband, Odysseus, to return home. The city of Ithaka is overrun with uncouth suitors from the surrounding islands who are vying to win Penelope's hand in marriage, thereby gaining control of the land. When a naked, half-drowned man washes up on the beach, everything changes. . . .

Told through the eyes of Klymene, a young girl who is like a daughter to Penelope--and who longs for more than friendship from the young prince Telemachus--Ithaka captures the quiet strength and patience of a woman's enduring love for her husband and the ensuing chaos that threatens all as Penelope is pressured to remarry.

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5 out of 5 stars Excellent.......2007-03-02

I loved it. It was a lovely love/adventure story with real characters and a good ending. It's not one of those stereo typical books where the girl OF COURSE gets the guy in the end. LOVE LOVE LOVE.

2 out of 5 stars Ithaka Fails to Deliver.......2006-09-09

Written by Adele Geras, the author of the spellbinding fictionalized account of the Trojan War, Troy, Ithaka chronicles the basic plot of The Odyssey. Using her usual formula of a teenaged girl who can see the gods, Geras crafts the character Klymene, a fictional young woman who is the handmaiden of Queen Penelope. She and her twin brother, Ikarios, have always been best friends with Prince Telemachus, who is the somewhat spoiled but good-natured prince of Ithaka. The entire island awaits the return of Odysseus, who has been delayed for 10 years since the end of the Trojan War and is feared dead. Klymene alternately cares for Penelope, helps her Nana (readers of The Odyssey will recognize Odysseus's old nurse Eurykleia) around the kitchen, and harbours a love for Telemachus.
Meanwhile, Penelope pines, Laertes, Odysseus's father, grumbles, and there's some teenage angst.

But not enough.
And none of it is crafted with any of the charm and skill that Geras pulled off in "Troy".
In "Troy", Geras was able to encompass many different personalities because of the scope of the Trojan war: she was able to include Helen, Paris, Andromache, Priam, and a horde of teenagers who serve them. There, the characters were individually crafted and fascinating. Here, Klymene seems a mix of all the generic female characters in historical fiction: simultaneously caring, in love, and snappy. Ikarios is completely one-dimensional, though Geras adequately translates Homer's Telemachus as an impulsive, spoiled, selfish brat.
Geras attempts to portray Melantho in some sort of insightful light, but such a character is difficultly translated, and Geras doesn't devote enough time to Melantho's development.
Similarly, the effect of the suitors are midly felt.

All in all, the reader soon becomes weary of this book. It fails to deliver. Perhaps I feel this way because I had read The Odyssey before I read this book (whereas, I had not read THe Iliad before I read Troy), so I already knew what was going to happen.
It seems to me that Geras simply wanted to ride on the coattails of the success of Troy, but Ithaka is not shaped around a war (so it lacks that urgency that a book chronicling a war will have.
And the gods....
Marpessa's ability to see the gods in "Troy" was an interesting trait. So were the visitations the gods made on mortals.

But here, it's forced. Klymene sees the gods almost everywhere she looks, and they keep explaining who and what they are. This depletes the whole practice of its necessary mysticism.

Ithaka is not a terrible book, but if you read "Troy", you will be disappointed.

1 out of 5 stars An insult to Homer and his work.......2006-05-27

The greatest problem with this book is that Adele Geras has apparently decided that researching source material is something that other people do. In the author's note at the beginning of the book she writes 'This book is not a version of Homer', which is poor comfort for the axe she proceeds to take to the original text.

The more minor flaws notwithstanding, such as Melantho coming to the palace as a teenager rather than having been brought up by Penelope (as she is in the Odyssey, thus making her betrayal of Penelope much more outrageous) and her being Eurymachus' mistress rather than Antinous' (Eurymachus is left out of the book entirely, giving way to a much more minor suitor, Amphimedon), not to mention Leodes being the first of the suitors to try the bow and begging for mercy while clutching Odysseus' knees rather than being accidentally killed by Telemachus in the dark (as he is in Ithaka), the ending of Homer's version, which I consider to be one of the best revenges in all of literature is mostly ignored, giving way to a drawn-out wander around the palace by both our heroes and the suitors with one side occasionally killing the other. To all intents and purposes, the entire chapter of the Odyssey entitled 'The Battle in the Hall' may as well not have happened, for all Adele Geras takes notice of it. The punishment of the unfaithfulness of the serving girls (including Melantho), which in the Odyssey takes place as their removing the bodies and cleaning the palace before being strung up by the neck in a line and thus dying by strangulation, is mitigated to Melantho receiving a cut across her face, thus marring her beauty and being just punishment, because the scar will make 'men shudder and turn away from her', which is obviously a dreadful thing, but somehow lacks the justice that the true ending gives.

All of these errors can be overcome. They lower the quality of the book greatly, but they can be overcome. Alone, they do not merit a rating of one small star. But the unfaithfulness of Penelope, she who is renowned for being the most loyal and true of women, she who spends almost the entire Odyssey weeping because she misses Odysseus so much, she who would rather have killed herself than marry one of the suitors, is intolerable. It is not to be borne. It takes away the entire point of the story. What use is Odysseus' struggle to reach his homeland if his wife has taken a lover and is happy to leave with him? The excuse given in Ithaka, that Telemachus would have killed him (Leodes, for reference), is pathetic. The tradition of xenos (hospitality) forbids the killing of a guest. Only the suitors, the villains, break that code. The emphasis of Penelope's ability to love two men at the same time merely shows up the gaps in the reworked plot (I do not claim that one can only love one person at a time, but for the purpose of this story it simply will not fly).

In conclusion, the flaws of the story and the blatant disregard for the original text far outweigh any possible positive aspects of the book, of which there are precious few even without the jaw-dropping mistakes that would shock any reader with even a basic knowledge of Homer. My greatest worry about this book is that someone who has not yet read the Odyssey will read Ithaka and take Mrs Geras' improvisations for the true story.

4 out of 5 stars Courtesy of Teens Read Too.......2006-05-26

If you've ever read the epic poem The Odyssey (Penguin Classics) by Homer, you know that the author focuses on the thrilling journey of Odysseus. After the Trojan War has ended, Odysseus must battle witches, supernatural monsters, and even gods to gain back his lands and his faithful wife from the thieves that have kidnapped her. In the story of ITHAKA, the focus isn't on Odysseus, but on those that were left behind--first when he went off to war, and then when he fails to return home after the war ends.

The book is narrated by Klymene, a teenage girl who serves as handmaiden to Penelope, the wife of Odysseus. It's been two years since the Trojan War ended, and still her husband has not returned home to rule their land. There is a steady, never-ending stream of suitors vying for Penelope's hand in marriage, hoping that the (mostly) faithful wife will soon realize that her husband is gone forever. Penelope is not sought after because of love, but because of her wealth and the lands she will soon possess if she gives her husband up for dead.

For Klymene, it's difficult to fathom why Penelope is so determined to stay faithful to a husband who is most likely never to return. She soon learns about love and the matters of the heart, however, when she becomes infatuated with Odysseus's troublesome son, Telemachus. Matters are complicated even further when Klymene realizes that she, a lowly handmaiden, is not the apple of Telemachus's eye. That privilege belongs to another young woman who has come to serve in the household, Melantho.

One of the most interesting parts of ITHAKA is the paranormal aspect of Klymene, who is able to see the gods. She is also a keeper of secrets, and since she deals every day with individuals who would do anything to keep those secrets safe, it's a somewhat demanding job.

This is not a retelling of The Odyssey (Penguin Classics). This is a completely different story, full of magic and heartbreak, joy and sadness, and the trial and error of growing up. There's something for everyone here, with mystery, romance, and action-adventure. If you love historical stories, or those based on myths, you won't go wrong with ITHAKA.

4 out of 5 stars Ithaka book review.......2006-05-07

Ithaka was a book that I took great pride in reading. I found myself enticed by the book and its accurate historic events. Having already read the first book "Troy" also by the author Adele Geras, I found myself hoping that Ithaka would be as good or better as the first. I was proven correct.

The novel starts out with fresh characters in their early years. I have always enjoyed when an author does this because I feel I can get to know the characters better if I start out reading about them when they were younger. I'ts like you kind of watch them "grow up." So i applaud Adele Geras on this. Then as you get farther into the book, events from the greek story begin to take place. Like how Penelope is forever waiting for her husband's return from the war in Troy. I absolutely love how the author invents new characters and intertwines them with the real characters in the old story. It spices up the story even more and keeps you wanting more. These new characters inserted in the story are also developed very well. An example would be how Klymene is portrayed as she grows up. At first she believes she is in love with Telemachus but soon finds her own heart is with a different man. Many love triangles form in this book which just adds to the already ancient story plot of Penelope fighting off the suitors coming to take her hand in marriage.

So in conclusion I rate this book four out of five stars. Why did I not give this book five starts you ask? I did not give it five stars because I found the end to not suit this book. It did not give a very good sense of closure and I was extremly dissapointed to have such an abrupt ending. Althought it can be good to leave a reader hungry for more, this left me almost to hungry. Otherwise this book was great and deserves to be read endless times.
ITHAKA: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found
Average customer rating: 4 out of 5 stars
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ITHAKA: A Daughter's Memoir of Being Found
Sarah Saffian
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Release Date: 1999-10-12

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When 23-year-old Sarah Saffian picked up the phone in January 1993 and heard a woman's voice on the other end say, "I think I'm your birth mother," she embarked on a journey both longed for and feared by almost all adopted children, the parents who raised them, and the ones who gave them up. Saffian's case was unusual: her birth parents eventually married and had three more children, her full-blood siblings. She honestly depicts her feelings of wariness and sometimes annoyance as they gently pressed her for a reunion. It was three years before Saffian felt ready to visit Hannah Morgan and Adam Leyder.

As befits a topic of such intimacy, Saffian sticks closely to specifics. She not only delineates her own shifting emotions with precision, she quotes extensively from her birth parents' letters to vividly reveal their personalities (Hannah understands her caution, Adam is needier and pushier). Saffian does not identify any of the players as villains or victims, despite the tricky emotional space they navigate, but finds human beings doing their best to give and receive love in circumstances for which there are no fixed guidelines.

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The voice on the other end of the line was soft, yet forthright: "Sarah, my name is Hannah Morgan. I think I'm your birth mother."

The phone call, wholly unexpected, instantly turned Sarah Saffian's world upside-down, threatening her sense of family, identity, self. Adopted as an infant twenty-three years before, living happily in New York, Sarah had been "found" by her biological parents despite her reluctance to embrace them.

In this searing, lyrical memoir, Sarah chronicles her painful journey from confusion and anger to acceptance and, finally, reunion--but not until three soul-searching years had passed. In spare, luminous prose, Sarah Saffian crafts a powerful story of self-discovery and belonging--a deeply personal memoir told with grace, eloquence, and compassion. At once heartbreaking and profoundly uplifting, Ithaka is sure to touch anyone who has grappled with who they are.

Customer Reviews:

4 out of 5 stars Adopted daughter knows not what she is doing - forgive her.......2005-12-03

The story of Sarah Saffian (born Sarah Morgan but given up for adoption) is a story of promise but one that quickly drizzles down into one long whine. Imagine the luck of finding that the parents who had to give you up stuck together against all odds (parents' wishes, lack of money), eventually married, and produced three siblings for you! How often does such a thing even happen???? Is our didactic, deliberating, depressed daughter delighted by her parents' phone call at age 23? No, indeed, and the reader must, it seems, be dragged through all her misery, too. Her parents are alive, healthy,in their mid-40's, married, employed, financially stabled, and educated. They adore their children and are totally welcoming to the daughter that they had to give up in 1969, dark pre-legal-abortion days. Does she accept, jump on the bus and go? Oh, no!

Assuming that a reader can stomach a full-novel-length's whining, one has to say, that if it were written in a more engaging style, for example, with more information about her real life, her adopted parents, her schooling, her half-siblings, and general world view, then we could have a better sense of her. WE might even sympathize with her great ambivalence about meeting the real parents, Hannah and Adam. But this reader, for one, cannot get a grip on who Sarah really is. She's a Brown University kid, grew up in a brownstone in NYC, has plenty of money, works in publishing and writes for a living, has had one abortion at age 21, likes to look out at the snow from her apartment window. That's all I could gather. Does she have any real interests, hobbies, all-consuming passions? Does she have problems or conflicts at work? Does she like to cook, or what does she eat, just bagels and coffee? Does she like movies? What kind of books is she reading? Does she hang out somewhere, like bookstores, libraries, cafes, parties? Her birthparents, especially her father Adam, tries to get her to open up and tell about her life, her problems, her views. She is unresponsive to him as she is to the reader.

The abortion, did you say? Oh yes, there's a fellow...her boyfriend Chris seems completely peripheral, likes to go to junkshops with her. Gee whiz! Perhaps he's too poor for her to marry him - just like her mother Hannah's problem back at age 21 when Adam, a non-Jew, a dropout, and unemployed fellow, didn't suit her future plans. Otherwise, what's wrong with him, why she is just drifting along with him, well, readers must guess.

This poor woman wrote a novel of herself, her disaffected, detached, and depressed view of reality. What she really wants or will ever achieve in her life is hard to say. I'll admit it's possible that the knowledge of being adopted sapped her of any life force from a very young age, from having no mother-love, as she says.

This woman needs desperately to open up to others, to see their pain and problems. She's even been to see a psychiatrist already, but it didn't help. The reader feels like bashing the book on the woman's head and shouting, "For God's sakes,woman, wake up! You are alive, young, healthy, rich, and you have two sets of parents! GEt a MOVE on!"

I am not adopted but was well acquainted with a fellow my age (now mid-40's) who tried to find his birth parents in his 30's. He went through heck and high water, only to find that the father was long dead, a disreputable man who'd been married at the time of conceiving my friend, therefore could not marry his mother. The mother was dead only six months, and had died a miserable woman - alcoholic, diabetic and sickly. She'd married later in life, had a couple of kids, and these half-siblings took one look at my friend and essentially said, "Scram, man". She came from Irish immigrants in Oakland, California, and was forced through the Irish Catholic adoption service nuns to give up the baby, although her father had tried to see about keeping the child somehow and even raising it himself. AMongst Catholics in the late 1950's, that was inconceivable, and "it would ruin her chance to marry". Sure enough, she found someone,but was sad her whole life, or so he was told.

He is STILL Raging about her, against her, with no conception what the Catholic Chuch was like in those years, especially in regard to women. I caught the tale end of it myself, having Irish immigrant parents, and tried to tell how his mother must have felt. He could look in the mirror and see how Irish he looked. He did not know his heritage or faith, adopted by agnostics/Anglicans in Walnut Creek, given a priviledged suburban life, but in the end, drank and smoked himself into poverty, ill health and unemployment. I have cut the friendship because of his terrible attitude towards his dead birthmother and towards almost all women as a result. YOu can't talk to him.

I only bring up this side issue of a similar case to show that this woman has nothing to weep about, and indeed, has the insight to realize that the abortion she had at 21 was exactly the same choice,given the circumstances, that her own birthparents made when they were 21: not able to be parents yet.

And will she ever be? I wonder? She would now be in late 30's. Poor little rich girl, I hope she turns out okay and doesn't fall into drink, smoking and drugs....

4 out of 5 stars The "other" Mother's Review.......2005-10-07

Recently, I was reunited with my daughter whom I gave up to adoption 34 years ago. I was unprepared for what this reunion would do to my life and the roller-coaster emotions that came to the forefront of our "relationship". After our "honeymoon" phase ended after much emotional and verbal conflict (and all contact between us ceased), I began to reach out for help. Many of the "other" Mom's suggested this book.
Though my daughter and I have not renewed our relationship, this book, more than any other (so far) has helped me understand somewhat of what she was/is going through emotionally. Factors I had not considered that Saffian points out have helped me cope with this "silence".
It is not a perfect book. There are questions that remain: why did it take Saffian so long to have a face-face meeting; did the reunion last (are they still reunited); etc.
Though I am unlike Sarah's "other" parents, the book is helpful in that it also shows what they are going through (via personal letters and phone calls) and glimpses into her parents' feelings as well.
All in all, a good read that will help all in the adoption triad struggling the initial phases of contact. I wish I had known of the book sooner.

2 out of 5 stars Why not use the truth?.......2004-08-16

What I don't understand about this book is how it and the Amazon reviewers of it can be so brainwashed by the adoption industry that they do not respect Sarah Saffian's natural parents as being such. The demeaning word "birth mother" is used not only throughout Sarah's book but also in reviews of it. In addition, Sarah seems to refuse to acknowledge her parents as what they really are: her parents. Sarah's lack of thinking for herself and her inability to understand and respect natural family relationships is sad indeed. May she one day take a few steps away from denial and from the adoption industry, which she obviously supports, and realize how terrible mother and child separation is. I'd like to read the book that she writes after she wakes up from her adoption fantasy.

1 out of 5 stars a good short story.......2003-12-05

Unlike many of the other reviewers, adoption is not a part of my personal history. I found the author's intense focus on her thought process to be tedious. Perhaps if adoption were something that I have a strong connection to, I would have found her slow (and I mean SLOW) personal growth to be more compelling. I pretty quickly got the point that it took her a long time to feel ready to meet her birth parents, but she kept on saying it over and over and over...While reading some sections, I really wondered why the author ruined a very good short story/magazine article by turing it into a full length book.

5 out of 5 stars If you are a "found" adoptee, you should read this book.......2003-03-28

Also, if you're a birthparent thinking of searching, or an adoptive parent whose (adult) child has been found by a birthparent, you will gain much understanding from the ideas expressed in this book. I am an adoptee who was found by my birthmother, and the author's writing put into words many of the feelings I had been struggling to express.
Aus Der Heimat Des Odysseus: Reisende, Grabungen Und Funde Auf Ithaka Und Kephallenia Bis Zum Ausgehenden 19. Jahrhundert (Kulturgeschichte Der Antiken Welt)
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    Aus Der Heimat Des Odysseus: Reisende, Grabungen Und Funde Auf Ithaka Und Kephallenia Bis Zum Ausgehenden 19. Jahrhundert (Kulturgeschichte Der Antiken Welt)
    Karin Lenhart , and Matthias Steinhart
    Manufacturer: Von Zabern
    ProductGroup: Book
    Binding: Hardcover

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    ASIN: 3805328354
    Bound for the Craigs of Ithaka: A Romance for Men Going Home
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      Bound for the Craigs of Ithaka: A Romance for Men Going Home
      Steven Foster
      Manufacturer: Lost Borders Press
      ProductGroup: Book
      Binding: Perfect Paperback

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      ASIN: 0966765931
      Release Date: 2003-06-10
      DAS GRIECHISCHE INSELBUCH AUFZEICHNUNGEN EINES MALERS Poros - Naxos - Korfu - Ithaka
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        DAS GRIECHISCHE INSELBUCH AUFZEICHNUNGEN EINES MALERS Poros - Naxos - Korfu - Ithaka
        Richard Seewald
        Manufacturer: Dei Jakob Hegner
        ProductGroup: Book
        Binding: Hardcover
        ASIN: B000LL4RFW
        Homeward To Ithaka
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          Homeward To Ithaka
          Leonard Wibberley
          Manufacturer: Morrow
          ProductGroup: Book
          Binding: Hardcover
          ASIN: B000MVTLJ8
          Homeward to Ithaka
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            Homeward to Ithaka
            Leonard Wibberley
            Manufacturer: Morrow
            ProductGroup: Book
            Binding: Unknown Binding
            ASIN: 0688032664
            Ithaka
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              Ithaka

              ProductGroup: Book
              Binding: Paperback

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              ASIN: 0465036198
              Ithaka der Peloponnes und Troja: Archäologische Forschungen
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                Ithaka der Peloponnes und Troja: Archäologische Forschungen
                Heinrich Schliemann
                Manufacturer: Adamant Media Corporation
                ProductGroup: Book
                Binding: Paperback

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                ASIN: 0543838528
                Release Date: 2001-06-09

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                This Elibron Classics book is a facsimile reprint of a 1869 edition by Giesecke & Devrient, Leipzig.

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